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I'm 18 and about to enter my sophomore year of college. Feel free to ask me questions about anything- I'll try to help in the best way possible! :)

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Okay so I had sex with my boyfriend over the weekend and he was pretty rough and what not which is usually fine but the next morning when i tried to pee it really hurt. Since then, my pee has been a slightly weirdish color and slightly smelly and it hurts even when i'm not doing anything. I also have an opaque discharge. The discharge happens on occasion, I'm pretty sure i'm just prone to yeast infections. But it usually just itches, never burns. Help? It's kind of embarrassing so I dont want to see a doc unless I have to

It sounds like you could have a Urinary Tract Infection. The burning sensation is a very big indicator, along with the weird smell and the discharge.
Don't worry, UTI's are extremely common, and there's nothing to be embarrassed about! If you go to the doctor, she will prescribe you antibiotics. You should go to the doctor just in case if it's not a UTI, too. Until then, drinking a ton of cranberry juice will help.

http://www.medicinenet.com/urine_infection/page6.htm#9whatis

You have to remember to pee after sex. This will help to prevent getting UTI's.

PS- When you go the doctor, don't be embarrassed at all. I had a problem "down there" that I was very concerned about and honestly, I was just concerned with my health. I put my pride aside and told the doctor everything. It was slightly awkward, but in the end, my health is much more important. They've seen it all, and dealt with it all. They won't judge you or think you're gross for having this problem. Just be relaxed!

17/f

i just wanted to know if this would be considered rape. so heres the story.

i was at a new year's party last year. i was with my best guy friend. i drank and smoked a blunt with him. i got drunk and high but he didn't. we went to the beach to go swimming, i took off my clothes except for bra and undies, he took off everything but his boxers. i don't know how ALL of my clothes came off or telling him it was okay for him to take my virginity. it was almost as if i blacked out for a little while, when i opened my eyes i felt the worst pain i've ever felt although i wasn't sure what was going on. he asked if i wanted him to stop, i still didn't know what was happening and i replied no. very shortly after i realized what was happening and i told him to stop and he did. i was a virgin and he wasn't. i wonder if this is rape because i never gave him permission from the beginning. i know he definately took advantage of me after being drunk and high and nowhere near my right mind.

thank you

I'm sorry, but this is absolutely rape.

You put the alcohol and drugs into your body, but that does NOT give ANYBODY, under ANY CIRCUMSTANCES to take advantage of you. Don't think at all that it is your fault, because it's not. Do NOT listen to anyone that said it's your fault because you were drunk/high.

I'm a sophomore in college, and during the summer before my freshman year, everybody had to complete this program on the computer called "AlcoholEdu." I remember them repeatedly trying to get the point across that if a girl is drunk, she in unable to give consent. It is RAPE if you have sex with someone that is under the influence. You're not in the right state of mind to give consent. You're vulnerable after drinking.

You said "I never gave him permission from the beginning." -- if you never gave him permission, it's rape. There's a very fine line, if there even is one, between being taken advantage of and rape.

http://teenadvice.about.com/od/daterape/a/daterapeguysfyi_2.htm

I'm sorry that this happened to you..

what do you do to not be a vigin

Some people have different opinions of when someone actually "loses their virginity". Some people consider oral sex, penis entering the vagina, or intercourse until one or both partner climaxes to be losing your virginity.

I consider it when the penis enters the vagina.

i've just one question?
does masturbate harmful 4 a female or male?

no, masturbation is healthy.

18F.
I just lost my virginity last night. I wasn't bleeding after he pulled it out, but then after I went to the bathroom and wiped there was some blood. Now today, it is still a little bloody when I go to the bathroom. I'm hoping this is normal, can someone please reassure me?

It sounds like you're just bleeding pretty light. That's completely normal after you lose your virginity, so don't worry! It'll go away after a day or two, if that.

can you get pregnant if yu swallow sperm from giving a guy a blow job?

No.

how can i mastrabate ? i finger and it dont work besides an el. toothbr. how can i get off?
oh and im A 17 yr girl

If you want to check out www.solotouch.com, there's tons of different techniques on how to masturbate.

20F. I'm going to come out and say this, if you're just going to criticize me for wanting to have fun with a guy, don't even bother I just need advice on how to make this situation happen!

So a few weekends ago I hooked up with this guy Nick, we didn't have sex he basically only fingered me and we made out ..for a long time. Anyways the time we were texting he forgot to save my number because he had been drinking but I still have his.

I had a good time last time we hooked up, pleased me like no other haha but thats not the point. My parents are leaving this coming week, and I'm going to have some people over and I definitely want him to come. I never usually text guys first, I'm too scared of rejection, who isn't? But would it be weird to say something like: Hey Nick it's Linds i'm having people over you should come!

But what if he can't? I want him to know that I wanna have fun with him again, if you know what I mean. I just feel stupid texting him first, and he doesn't have my number since he forgot to save it which is even worse. Last night he texted my friend telling her to come to a party and to bring me but we couldn't! :( so I'm sure he would wanna see me but whats a good way to go about this situation??

Definitely text him. He's obviously interested in you, and if you don't get ahold of him he won't be able to contact you because he doesn't have your number!
Just text him! Say something like "Hey Nike.. I'm planning on having a few people over on Saturday. You should definitely come! :)" Just be friendly. Obviously you guys have hooked up, and you're both interested in hanging out again, I think you both know that something is bound to happen again physically.

What are some things to do to a guy while you're making out/being fingered? I feel like its harder to to something when i'm laying on top of him because when he's on top of me i'll run my hands through his hair or touch is body but thats all i can think of. Its hard when hes kissing my all over and fingering me I feel like I can't really move.

Can someone please give me some advice? :)

Go with whatever feels natural, try not to think about what you should do as much as how you REALLY feel at that moment. Enjoy what's going on and go with the flow. Let loose.

You could try touching him down there, breathing heavy/moaning can sometimes just feel natural, and just touching him all over.. If he's on top you could always grab onto his back and kiss his neck as he's fingering you. You just have to go with the flow :)

18/f

Okay, Sometimes when I go to the bathroom and I wipe myself after going pee I have this clear white sticky gooish stuff on the toilet paper I don't know what it is? It doesn't smell, burn and it's not painful at all. I have no idea what it is?! Could anyone give me any suggestions?

Thanks so much!

BahaiMa22

Discharge, and it's completely healthy. Unless there were weird colors, burning, or a strong odor, you're fine.

ia it normal for your cherry to pop while getting fingered? are there any diseases you could get? is it safe? thanks

Yes, it's normal. There aren't any STD type of diseases that you can get, but if your partners hands are dirty/they have dirty finger nails you might get some kind of infection. Make sure that their hands are clean.

How old should i be to have it

Whenever you're ready. Not just phyiscally, but mentally and emotionally. Don't do it until you know that you're 100% ready. You might make a mistake that you'll regret later on.

If someone fingers you are you still a virgin?

Yeah.

i dont want to have sex with my boyfriend we are way to young. but i masturbate alot and i want to do more with him, but i dont want to give him head or anything that would consider me a really big slut, we makeout all of the time and i really like him, weve been going out for like 2 years. what can i do what wouldnt b going "to far"
thanks alot :D
- carlie

Do whatever you feel comfortable with. If you want to move onto oral sex, go ahead. It doesn't make you a slut. You've been going out with him for two years. I'm not too sure how old you are though? But if you don't feel comfortable with doing it, then don't. If you want to do more, then simply talk to him. Just ask him to take it slowly.

13/f

do girls still have sex even if they have their period?

Yea, some girls do.. if they're both comfortable enough to do it.

so this summer i had 3 random hook ups and i cant't get over them. i guess i fell for the guys a little but i just cant stop thinking about the stories over and over.. is this completely weird or normal?

Yes, it's completely normal. I know how you feel right now, actually. You get over it after awhile. But it's fine that you keep thinking of it over and over again.

okay first off, if you have sex, do you have to have your period during it to get pregnent?
AND...
do guys like it ALL shaved down there? if so, like how do you shave it all? i get like shave bumps.

I think you mean your first period? Yup, if you never got your period before in your life, you can still get pregnant. Always use protection.

Every guy has different preferences. Just do what you want, or ask your partner what he prefers. To make sure you don't get shave bumps, use a brand new razor, and shaving cream or gel. Soap is kind of tough on the skin.

I've been going out with my girlfriend for 4 months and i'm wondering when i can finger her

You'll have to ask her to make sure. There's not really a set time for when she's ready to move it to the next level, every girl is different. If you don't want to ask her, maybe kind of going for it and if she stops you, then stop.

i think there's something wrong with my vagina. I see other girls in porn videos or on the computer, and their's is like, way prettier. when it comes down to foreplay with my boyfrined, i only want to please him because im too embarassed to get undressed....is it me, or is mine just not normal??

All girls vaginas really do look different. Don't worry if yours doesn't look like a pornstars, they strive to make their vaginas look gorgeous. It's alright if you think yours looks a little funny, cuz really, they all do.

i'm 17/f. so lately i've been have a discharge down there.. it's like white and cottage cheesy i guess, but in like a clear liquid.. it doesn't smell or itch. i had my period 2 weeks ago, and i went to the gyno a week ago. i haven't had sex since then. what could it be? it doesn't hurt or anything.. i'm just wondering what it is.

Since it doesn't itch or smell it doesn't sound like an infection. It sounds pretty normal and healthy to me, so don't worry.

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