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the first time was the only time lubrication was involved. and the other nights i wasnt really all that turned on. but i mean i dont know. so i thought it might be soreness but i wanted everyone elses advice. one girl said i was doing it to much considerin i had juss lost it and done it twice the first night and 3 the second. what do u think? and whats some good ways i could reccomend to my boyfriend to get me turned on more do u know? (link)
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Usually the problem with women not having enough lubrication is because the man is so sexually aroused that he finishs before she as even really begun. The trick is to pleasure him first, say oral sex, and then after he is statisfied you have another 20 minutes (approx.) before he has another erection. This should give you plenty of time to before sexually aroused and lubricated. Also, let him know what you like. Vocalize in simple terms, lead him one way or moan when he is on a spot you really enjoy. I don't think that sex 2 and 3 times is too much, but it depends on the person. If you are uncomfortable, don't do it...that is the bottom line. Women in general tend to like kissing, etc. so a trick is to watch tv or some activity and during commercials,or breaks, hard core make-out. Making sure to stop when the show returns. This heightens your sexual arousal and leaves you wanting more. This might also help with your arousal, specifically lubrication. I hope this helps. Let me know, ask away.
Jenn
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hi ummmm i wanted to ask you a question about sex and i need advice as soon as possiable. okay so me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time march the 5th of this year. and we did it twice that night. okay well a day later we did it three times. well its still hurting me. and bad too. is that normal? what could be wrong? (link)
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I am not sure if is normal, but I wouldn't be too worried about it. The first time that you have sex there is some tearing involved and that takes some time to heal. Especially because you had sex two days in a row. I would suggest that you take it easy for a couple days, and if it is not better go to the doctor. Try some ibprofen, should help. When you go to have sex again work your way up to it, so that you do not aggrevate the hymen. Also, make sure there is a lot of lubrication. You can get something like ky jelly at a local drug store. I hope this helps let me know if you want more information.
Jenn
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me and my boyfriend keep trying to have anal sex and we stop because it hurts too bad. it like burns. is it supposed to feel like that? how do i get it to stop and will it always feel like that? barely any of his penis goes in and it hurts really bad, so im scared that if he went deeper it would burn even worse. help please? oh, and does it actually feel good? (link)
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You can build up to inserting the entire penis by first buying some anal beads at your local sex shop. They are inexpensive, and will hopefully ease some of the pain. Also, anal sex involves your muscles and if you are thinking that it is going to hurt, it will. Just relax and it will be a lot easier. I hope that this helps.
Jenn
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when i "pleasure myself", it seems like i pee on myself instead of cuming or whatever happens. so whats the deal, or what am i doing/not doing? (link)
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There is nothing wrong. When you are extremely sexually aroused, you cum...which is similar to urinating. The trick is...you need to look at the odor...if it doesn't smell like pee than it isn't, it is you cuming. I hope that this helps.
Jenn
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What excatly is an orgasm? (link)
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When you are sexually aroused..it is the height before going down. Think of a hill...first, climax, orgasm, and then declimax. You usually cum during an orgasm...but not always. I hope that this helps, and if you have any more questions let me know.
Jenn
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ive been seeing my boyfriend now for about three months and the other night we had sex for the first time. the thing is he made me bleed. im not a virgin and it hasnt been that long since the last time i had sex. what do you think is wrong?
is it normal to randomy bleed? its not a lot but ive been bleeding for two days now, what should i do? (link)
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Is it close to your period? That could be the bleeding that you are experiencing. But I am not sure without getting more information. I hope that this helps, but if it continues I would suggest that you talk to your local docter.
Jenn
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well me and my boyfriend have been together for three months now and we've had sex a few times. the last time we weren't planning on having sex so we didn't have a condom with us but im on the pill so i didn't think it mattered. but i had missed taking it two days before. we've continued to have sex since then but i've missed two periods. do you think im pregnant?
i daren't take a test, i jsut don't know what to tell my boyfriend if i am. (link)
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You might be pregnant. Neither condoms or the pill are 100%, so it is completely possible. I would suggest that you take a pregnancy test or visit your local parenting center that offers free pregnancy tests. This way you will know what to do next. I would not worry about telling your boy-friend. If you are close (which I think that you are) then it might be a shock, but I don't think that he will leave ya. I hope that this helps. Let me know how things turn out.
Jenn
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are glory holes real dont plan on using one just curiouse seems dangerous (link)
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Yeah, they are real. I would never think of using one...not a guy, but still. I just don't think that they are save, and they are reducing sexual things to a bathroom or whatever, when there is more emotion involved. I hope that this answers you question.
Jenn
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I have a problem that doesn't sound like a problem to anyone, which makes it hard to seek advice from anyone I know.
I have really big penis, thickness more than length, and this causes me a lot of problems in my love life. I have hurt some of my partners without meaning to, buying condoms is nigh impossible as they are far too constricting being designed for a slimmer girth, with more 'dainty' partners oral is difficult and other things are simply out of the question.
Some women find it intimidating enough that they won't even sleep with me or we get to that stage and then they back away or don't want to see me any more.
Talking to friends is impossible, most guys think there can't be a problem and talking to female friends about it hasn't gone well with fits of giggles or accusations that I'm boasting somehow.
I've tried lubricant, I've ordered larger size condoms online but they tend to be longer as well as thicker and don't fit right. Is surgery an option?
I'm entering into a much longer term relationship and I want to make sure I'm not imposing on or hurting my partner as much as possible.
Please help, I'm at my wit's end. (link)
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I just want to say that surgery is not a good option. You will lose a lot of sensations, and that would limit the pleasure you experience during sex. I would just suggest taking it slowly. You may also try masterbation before sex so that the erection is not as rigid. Hope this helps.
Jenn
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My "friend" and I were wondering (well, he thinks he knows, but I don't believe him)...
I know a 13f who just had her 5th kid. She wants to keep breast feeding to keep from getting pregnant again. Is this a crock of shit, or does she know something I don't?
Is it valid birth control to prolong lactation? (link)
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It is completely possibile toget pregnant when you are breast feeding. Make sure that she is aware of forms of birth control. Hope this helps.
Jenn
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OK I'm 15/m and I have a bit of a problem. I've asked a similar question to this relating to sexual stamina so here it is: When me and my girlfriend have sex its really good. The only thing is that I dont feel enough. She's really tight and all but it just feels like I'm numb or something, I feel like there should be more. Is there any way I can increase feeling there? Is it normal to be like that? (link)
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Well...my first question to you is, do you feel anything during masterbation? I am taking this from Talk Sex with Sue...but you may be afraid of getting her pregnant, or other scares and that decreased the sensations. Are you using a condom? If you are, and she is on birth control that might help. If not, try masterbation prior to having sex, this causes the penis to be more sensitive. You may also want to consider asking your family docter. I hope this helps.
Jenn
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okay so I love my boyfriend to death and does lots of sexual favors for me and vice versa. we have been together almost 2 years now and we are both 17..well he loves blowjobs and I absolutely cannot stand the taste of semon..I need to know what to do..but don't tell me to tell him know because I want to give them to him I just kinda bear with it and deal with it..and well do the deed. So no guys I do not tell him no, I just do it..but I end up having gag reflexes deep down in my throat..any suggestions how to fix my little dilemna?
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I agree with the condom idea...that way his erection to going to last longer...as well as protection for you and him. But if that doesn't work. Suggest that he start eating healthier. If you eat more fruits and veggies the taste of seman isn't as strong. I hope this helps.
Jenn
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okay so after my boyfriend and I have sex and he pops inside me..he claims that it feels really weird if he continues and sometimes even hurts..and hes fine a few minutes later..why does this happen? and how can we stop it? I mean it would be nice for the 1st round to last longer ;) (link)
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The penis is a very sensitive area, and it is relatively common or there to be a certain amount of discomfort. I would try a cock ring, which you can purchase at your local sex store in order to the the "1st round" last longer. You slip it over the shaft of the penis (under the balls, I believe) and this will cause the erection to last longer. Make sure to read the directions. I hope that this helps.
Jenn
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I really don't know what to do. A lot of guys have tried to finger me and I just can't have an orgasm, ever. I masturabte a lot and always have an orgasm by myself. I try to help the guys and show them what to do, but it doesnt even feel good at all. Do u think maybe me masturabting a lot has affected this? am i ever going to be able to have an orgasm with someone else? please help, im really worried. (link)
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First, I just want to start off with this...87% of women are unable to orgasm through vaginal intercourse. So, you are not alone. But I would make sure that you are communicating with your partner. When he finds a spot that you enjoy let him know, ie: moaning, yes, etc. When he is pleasuring a spot that isn't working for you, gently suggest a different spot. Don't tell him that he was wrong, just point him in the right direction. I hope that this helps.
Jenn
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me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over a year and sex is starting to get old. we dont really have any fore play at all anymore. just a few kisses and then straight to sex and then like 5 minutes later he ejaculates and goodnight. are there any new things we could try to spice things up or just to get his attention. btw, i already talked to him about it and he agreed that we need to figure out new stuff. 23/f. thanks (link)
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Well, I have some questions for you. After he ejeculates does he get another erection quickly? If that is the case I would suggest pleasuring him first and during that 20? minute break between erections he will be pleasuring you. That way when he is erect you both will be ready to orgasm together. This is also great for making foreplay last longer, because that is generally what women get turned on by. I would also suggest some sex toys. Example, a cock ring keeps an erection longer and prolongs the time before ejaculation. This way sex will last longer. I hope that this help.
Jenn
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i don't want to gross anyone out, but this has been bothering me.
every once in a while i get a thick, almost mucus like discharge from my...let's say "nether-region" (im a female). it's an almost clear, but kind of white color.
does anyone know what this is? (link)
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It is completely normal if it does not smell. It should be a clear odor-less muscus discharge. This usually occurs about two weeks before the start of your period, each person is different but just watch it and take note. That way you are more prepared for your period. Don't worry about. But just be careful and aware of your body...because if the mucus changes you may have a yeast infection of some other medical issue.
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two questions:
how big are vibrators? my bf and i can both only get 1 finger in me, so would a vibrator hurt alot? also where could i get one? i cant get order one and i have no siblings or older friends that could get it, and if my mom ever saw it she'd FREAK.
and also whenever my bf fingers me with his one finger lol it usually feels pretty good like it hurts a little but its like a good feelin pain yanno but when i do it it does nothing for me so ill usually jus rub my clit or whatever. why is this? i do the same thing he does but it seems like it hurts a little more and just doesnt feel good.
by the way im 16. (link)
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The reason that it doesn't feel the same when you are "fingering yourself", or masterbation is because of the emotional connection. Try thinking more of your guy in more romantic situations. Such as, a date or candles, not necessarily in the sexual way. This way you are thinking of him and just enjoying him being him. Just a suggestion. Also, I would suggest a clitoral vibrator for yourself, and maybe a small dildo or vibrator for your guy to use on you. But take it slow. You vagina is a muscle, but you don't want to tear or do any harm. I hope that this helps, and have fun.
Jenn
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well i have this boyfriend, and he is older and more experienced then i am. He says that he loves me and he wants to be with me I love him soo much. He says that he wants to take it to the next level. Where im from alot of the girls my age arent virgins and dont care bout sex or nethin. Im young but veryy mature for my age, i dont know what to do, I feel that im ready but i dont know. (link)
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Well, it is a little difficult to know exactly how to answer this question without your age..but just ask yourself this "Will I be with this person for the rest of my life?" If not, is this person even worth dating, let alone giving something that is truly special and unique to you. I know that it might seem like the right thing to do at the time, but I don't want you to even regret it. So make sure that you think it through, and look at the question of whether you can be with this person forever or not. I hope this helps.
Jenn
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