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It's embarrassing to admit and I feel like a complete moron but I just learned that you're supposed to wear a condom while preforming oral sex on a guy. I've just started having sex and have gone down on the guy three times without protection and am freaking out. I never knew you were supposed wear a condom and somewhat assumed that it was only necessary during vaginal or anal sex. I never thought of oral and now, the more that I think about it, the more I feel like a complete idiot for not thinking of it earlier. I plan to use a condom from now on but am worried that I could have caught something? Also, would it be strange for me, now even after I've gone down on him three times without, to from now on ask him to put on a condom? And I know I probably sound completely naive but do most people use condoms while preforming oral because out of all the people I know who are sexually active, they've never said anything about it.
thanks.

i've never used a condom during oral sex.. i don't know anyone who has either.. i don't think it's as uncommon or taboo as you think it is..

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I've had sex before.. and I guess I wasn't so nervous about this issue because I was with my boyfriend for two years.. and comfortable around him...

but anyways, I'm single now.. and I'm about to hook up with a friend this weekend. I don't want to completely shave and seem like I haven't been through puberty because I hear shaving all the way freaks some guys out... but at the same time I don't want a lot of pubic hair..

I shaved a couple days ago, and I'm seeing him Thursday night, I mean.. I wanna make sure I have no stubble . . but I don't know how to exactly groom myself to make it look nice.. should I just let it grow in, shave my bikini line?

That way it's not too hairy.. but there's no stubble.

I don't know.. any advice would be appreciated.



i'm telling you shave all of it 97% of guys i'd say don't like hair down there.

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i have like bigger than normal vaginal lips.
personally, i think they are ugly.
opinions?

mines that way too, and truthfully any guy will just be happy that he's coming into contact with a vagina. don't worry about it at all and if a guy is really judging you over your vagina then you shouldn't be wasting your time with him. basically everyone has insecurites and everyone's different- i mean some guys like it.. TRUST me

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what would give and average 16 year old guy a boner?

thanks :)

average is 5 or 6 inches, i've seen bigger though and i've certainly seen smaller too

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Hello everyone:

I was recently told by a girl who I really do not like that most every girl before the age of like 18-20 has had sex. Now I know that it really isn't true and that there's girls out there who are still virgins. I'm a virgin myself and am 22. Do you think that this statement is true that almost any girl good or bad has had sex before marriage? Why or why not?

i know that most of the people in my highschool would agree to have sex when they met the right person-age wouldn't be much of a problem. i'm fifteen, and i lost my virginity when i was fifteen, i don't think this is too uncommon... i'm sure there are girls your age who are virgins too however i think it's somewhat rare.. i'd say about half of my friends, and they're 15-16 have lost their virginity already, hope i helped.

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do u have to use lube when giving a handjob?
if so,what should i use?
but is there anyway to do it without it?

i've never used lube when giving a handjob, it is deffinately not like a must have, but i mean i guess it's all up to what the guy likes soo ask him?

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hi this questions is for the girls, i would just like to know how old you were when you first gave oral sex

i was fourteen, and i lost my virginity at 15.

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f/15
does it really hurt for a girl for the first time cause if it hurt so bad then why do people do it again>>>

it didn't hurt for me when i lost mine, it was just uncomfortable but trust me it feels gooood :)

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ok..so i'm planning on having sex with my bf for the first time soon
i want to know if there is anything i should do before i go over and do it.
i have no idea weather to shave a certain way?
what guys like down there?

or anything like that
my biggest fear is that we will finally have sex
and he will be disappointed in me

and if i do shave what happens if i cut myself or have razor burn
will he think thats gross?

i would deffinately shave, buy a new razor that you haven't used yet and lather up your pubic area or whatever and shave in a downwards motion, the same way your hair grows. and then after your done if you put vaseline or any antibiotic ointmint kindof stuff like neosporin on the area that you shaved and this will generall prevent razor burn.
he won't be disappointed in you, trust me it's your first time he won't be expecting you to be amazing at having sex so don't worry i was the same way and now it's not awkward or anything to have sex. and if you think he would be disappointed is you after you have sex then that's just lame... good luck, hope i helped!

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wat does it mean to pop a girls cherry?

it means that when a guy has sex with a virgin he pops or tears the girls hymen

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i just want o know how does sex feel and how does it feels when you first try it.And when you get finger does it hurt, and wat does it mean when they say a boy eat you up.And one more thing is it possible to give yourself an organsim and wat it feels like. thanks.

well you get an orgasm and it feels really good and when you first do it it does hurt cause uour vagina is getting stretched.

depending on how hard the guy is fingering you it might hurt if hes doing it wrong so you have to tell them when they are cause it can sometimes bleed.

when a guy eats you out it means they like are licking and kissing your vagina and stuff.

and yea it is possible to give yourself an orgasm guy do it by jacking off and girls finger themselves or use a dlido or vibrator
-katie

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For women what are the differences between the virgin women’s V TO a woman who had sex V?
And with men even if they get a blow job or hand job are they still a virgin?
And if you are gay or lesbian are you still a virgin? What is the differences? that if you had a orgasm you’re not a virgin no more or what??(when you play with yoursefl)

yeah i know i lost........

im assuming V=vagina so the difference between a virgins and a woman who has sex befores vaginas is that the woman who has has sex before,her hymen is like popped(if a guy popped a girls cherry it means that they had sex and he broke her hymen with his penis).also it might be alittle more stretched out. also some people arent even born with hymens and some girls pop theirs with tampons or with fingering themselves or whatever.

and yes if a guy has not has sexual vaginal intercourse hes still a virgin.

and if you are gay or a lesbian and you have not had sex with someone of the opposite sex then yes technically they are still a virgin but they have most likely lost their lesbian or gay virginity like im sure the lesbians hymen has been popped with a dlido or something.

every person has their own opinion about what losing their virginity means to them. everyone has their own definition technically however its when a person has ha vaginal intercourse with someone of the opposite sex
-katie

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when does the average female lose her virginity?

probably between the ages of 14-20 the average is 16 though.

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ok well i'm young and i'm not planning on having sex anytime soon. but i was just wondering like what you do with your hips. because i've read questions from people that say they move their hips good and what not and i wasn't even aware like how you move your hips. so if anyone could explain or give me a site i would greatly appreciate it

well i dont know if your a boy or a girl so...
if your a boy: if your on top then you have to hump the girl and that does require your hips to move... if your on bottom and the girl is um riding you lol then u just lay there basically... but it all depends on the position.

if your a girl... usually for a girls first time the guy is on top and the girl just spreads her legs and depending on how tight she is she might have to lift her hips up alittle so the guy can get in

hope i helped
-katie

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ok this is not a joke.
i went on my dads computer to do research for a paper we have to write for my science class, and when i went to history he had all this stuff like " hotel sex, gaymen's club" and gross stuff like that and his yahoo email was logged in so i went to it and he had all these messages like "where do you live do you want me to f*ck you or you to f*ck me" and he answered w/ "i live ______ do u have lube and a condom?" (the ____ is where we live" and i like am really scared that he is gay!

and i take after him and i think i might be a lesbian! i really doNOT want 2 be one but i think i am kinda aliitle bit.


so what im asking is how do i no if hes gay or not and how do i make sure i dont become a lsbian?



thanx in advance i will rate high ANY advice.

if i were you i would just treat your dad how you are now.. until he mentions something about it....respect his privacy for now and just consider that he may not feel comfortable coming out right now... the part about you being a lesbian im sure everyone goes through a phase with that.. give it time it might wear off.. just give it time and see how you feel later on

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sorry i know this was in the wrong category..
but whats on 4.20.? details please. thanks.

4/20 is national pot smoking day!! hahah

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I am17 years old and 7 months ago my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time. I got pregnant and he left me, now I am pregnant with triplets. My mom says that I shouldnt give them away. I'm not sure what to do.

if i were you i would maybe have an open adoption so that you could still be able to see your kids but they would have a better life... they would get the care they deserve that you might not be able to give them also they might be able to have a somewhat normal life...if u keep these kids you will be exhausted and might not even be able to achieve what you want out of life...yea they are your kids and you probably want to keep them but think of them...would you be able to provide them with both a mother and father figure? would you have enough money to live off of?..children are not cheep ...give them the life they deserve and give them up... one day they will thank you for it

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can you please help me? im afraid that if i tell my girlfriend that i have H.I.V she might dump me what should i do???

well if your gf dumps you because you have HIV then she must not like you too much ...if she really loves you or really likes you or w/e then she will probably need 2 think for alittle while but in the end you 2 will work it out....if my boyfriend had HIV i would want to know about it though so i would tell your girlfriend... if you don't you might infect her too

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okey here's the deal. 15/f and i have never made out. i really really REALLY want to, but i'm afraid what the boy's reaction will be. example: what if i'm a bad kisser? what will he think? is that going to affect the way he thinks of me? i'm just really afraid of what he will say. I could either be a good kisser or a bad kisser and i just don't know. people are starting to call me prude now and i obviously am but i want to change that. help me?

i used to have the same problem and if you find the right guy that you want to makeout with just go for it, if you dont you will spend alot more time wondering what if im bad or what if he doesnt like me anymore and stuff like that. if he really likes you then he wouldnt care and youre never going to know if your good or bad until you do it so stop worrying about it the more you worry about it and think about it the more your going to suck at makeing out...as long as you doint bite or drool on the guy then your fine. i used to be known as the prude girl to so just dont even listen to them when you find the right time then go ahead

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