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Whenever I masturbate, I have an orgasm, but when I have sex with my boyfriend, I don't. It feels good but I never hit that point. I can't tell him because then he would know that I faked it every time but I want to be able to orgasm from him..any suggestions? I tried focusing really hard on how good it felt, but it wasn't much help.

It's estimated that more than 80 percent of women can't orgasm just through vaginal intercourse. The most recommended position, is girl on top, so you have control, and can stimulate yourself.

But the best thing to do, is have him get you off before you have sex.

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OK, all the sudden, I get these urges to have sex, even though I haven't ever had sex.
I need to know to know how to vontrol it and what to do.
Thanks in advance!

Beat your meat. Seriously, not getting rid of sexual desires drives some people crazy.

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I recently read a question that asked which condom was best, pregnancy wise and one of the advicers said Lifestyles were the worst.

...That's the kind my boyfriend and I use.

I kept in mind that the person that said that was a thirteen year old boy that was probably a virgin.. but still, it has me nervous. Is there any proof either way, about them?

Oh god, they're all fine.
Every single condom goes through rigorous testing before they wrap it and box it.
I will say that some condoms tend to break when the female is on top, and if you're going to be sexually active with 1 partner, I'd suggest birth control.
But for the mean time, you're fine. be careful.

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so, um, what part of the penis gives the guy most pleasure when you rub it or just touch it?

the head
or the underside of it

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is masturbating daily a health hazard? i'm 13/male

no.
just make sure you're aware there IS females out there, and instead of being cooped up inside chokin' the chicken, to attempt to get a girl. or guy. whatever floats your boat.

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Ok this might sound like a very ODD question but when me and my boyfriend are like making out or something, not even getting hot and heavy, i tend to get REALLY wet really fast, then by the time we do start getting hot and heavy and he wants to do something, its kinda embarassing because im so wet down there already. I soak through jeans sometimes. And It's highly embarassing. Anything i can do?!

don't be worried, it just means you're ready physically to get physical with him.
& a lot of guys are turned on by how wet you are, their logic is that THEY are the ones doing it to you. it's completley natural.

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Ok here's the thing, I no I'm not a lesbian because I get turned on by guys and I love to "hook up" with them, but I do things with girls and I get just as turned on... I don't like dating girls I just like having sexual incounters with them... I think it is a stupid question but I wanna know.


--Syd

I honestly think you are
or atleast bicurious

that's how I am, i'm fine with hooking up with guys, but not dating them. I like to date girls
I'm bi.
so yeah, yr bi.

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Hey.
Whenever I masterbate it only feels good to rub my clit. This is normal, right? Oh yeah, what exactly is foreplay? & How can I find my G-spot? IS it in my vigina? If i stick my fingure in there I don't feel anything. Im sorry but you seem to knwo these things!

I don't know if that was a compliment or not.
So I'm taking it as one.

How ever you pleasure yourself is normal. Unless you get off on nose-picking or something. Most women don't even really get off on just sex, just clitoral stimulation.
It takes a while to find your g-spot, and for the first minute or so when you're stimulating it--it feels kind of funny. it takes a while for the good feelings to set in. The G-spot is located in different places for different women. But mostly if you pretend to follow in imaginary line from your clit to 'inside of you' it's usually there.

Foreplay is stuff that gets you turned on to have sex. Like some people just concider foreplay going down on eachother, some people get a bit more kinky with food/whips&chains.
Basically BEFORE PLAY, before you have sex.

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19/male
I just had sex with my boyfriend of 5 years and we both loved it.. the thing is.. I don't know if he has HIV or not.. because I asked him.. and he just said, "It doesn't matter honey, let's just do it.." and he kissed me so passionately that i couldn't refuse sex with him.. and he said it kinda in a way that sounded like he did.. but I'm not sure if he has HIV..
should I be worried- because I love him so much!!
Thanks a lot!
♥Jake

without a doubt
GET TESTED.
it doesn't really matter if he does or doesn't, if you have the doubt you need to find out.
& from what he told you, it sounds like he either thinks he might have it, because it sounds like he loves you, and if he was possitive he had it, he'd probably tell you.

and I know how it goes with the passionate kisses and stuff, so don't even worry about that.
=]]

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hey.
iam 17 years old. i had sex with a 22 years old ladie,actually she's a college student.
the sex was so fun and she likes me so much, but i heard thats that against law.
so wat u advise me to do:
to abort this relation or continue in secret
and if we were catch who will get in trouble her or me?
tanx for help.

honestly,
i'd keep with it.
you have 1 more year untill you're legal.

plus, age isn't anything but a number right?
[try telling THAT to the government]

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I had sex with this guy. We used a condom and he didn't come inside me. He also smokes a lot of pot. What are the chances that I am pregnant? I haven't missed my period yet, but I am really scared. I am only sixteen. Please write back ASAP!!

I know how you feel on the 'smokes a lot of pot' thing.
my boyfriend does that
[if he didn't we might have sex more often]

If you haven't missed your period
and you used a condom
and his spermcount is lowered as it is

chances are like.. 1/100th of 1 percent.
you're fine!

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Well I know i'm ready to have sex for the first time. A few people i have talked to say it hurts very bad and they have even cried others say it doesn't. I was just wondering what your guys opinion is on this.

Yes, it hurt.
But not enough to make me cry.

My best advice is to get a little liqoured up before you decide to, and if you want it to be all romantic and emotional, your first time is very awkward.

The pain stays with you for a while, like when it first goes in, but then it fades.
But yes, first time = pain

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Hey,
My sister is 12 years old & i just found out something that disturbs me a bit. She kinda has sex with a bunny.. but not really.. she leaves her pants and underwear on and everything and she puts the bunny against her genital organs and kinda like humps it.. she moves up and down and she says its pleasurful and she likes the feeling of it. Is this normal for a 12 year old to havce urges for this kind of stuff? & can this be harmful..?? Please help me.. I dont know if she young to have a vibrator.. so what should i do?

Is this a stuffed rabit? A vibrator? Or an animal?
If it's a rabbit, that's kind of disturbing.

But, yes, it's completley normal for children in general to want to expierment with their bodies, from day one we start to feel our bodies and explore them, learning what feels good and what doesn't.

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Dude, alright i live in missouri and I went to a walgreens to purchase some condoms and i am 15. so i was at the check out and the lady said "i'm not going to sell these to you" and i said "uhm lady why not?" and she said "you are too young to be having sex and im not gunna sell these to you" then she put it in the bag to be put back on the shelf...so yah is that legal? (she lectured me for about a 1/2 hr on the subject so please dont lecture me as well

p.s. i rate for good answers

Actually I think there is no age limit on purchasing condoms.
By not selling them to you she promotes the anti-safesex.

And 15-17 are the average ages of losing your virginity/having sex in general.

so, just try a different store or a gas station.

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I was hanging out with my boyfriend last night and one thing lead to another and he fingered me.. to make the story short, afterwards my clitoris felt like it was throbbing and now it hurts very bad, even to the touch or my underwear rubbing against it. Why is this? thank you =]

you were probably all too dry
& he probably did it to hard.

nxt time make sure he lubricates his finger either with your wetness or his saliva or an actual lubricant and tell him to go a bit softer.
Because, girl, it CAN feel good.

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I know this is kind of discusting, but my breats kind of sag. Im 36D.


http://ruggerjay.typepad.com/photos/uncategorized/cleavage.jpg


Don't worry. That is not porn. It's a picture of a bra.

That is how I want my boobs. I have the Victoria's secert.. "body" bra. It still doesnt work.

What are some secerts to get them like this?
Thank you SO MUCH

pushup bras could work wonders.
I also would suggest talking to the ladies at your nearest bra boutique.
Wether it be Victoria Secret or anywhere else
they probably know a lot more about boobs than most people on here.

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I am 15 year old femail...Am i supposed to shave "down there". I obviously shave my bikini line...but thats it.

What am i supposed to do?

I think that that just needs to be shaved.
I'm not for the "all natural look"
and most guys aren't either.

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i am from india.i have been masterbating for a long time im 22yrs 5feet 5inches high 64kilos.what my problem is that i can hav an orgasm as many times i want in a day by rubbing myself on a pillow in the sitting position.but during sex thats not possible.i just dont come during sex.after my partner finishes then i sit on a pillow and come.so please tell me what i should do about this and is it possible for me to come during sex.i feel depressed sometimes because of this.

many girls don't orgasm during sex.
That's why they have foreplay, so you get off and almost there again
and he hits your g-spot when you're having sex.
And don't be afraid to tell him to rub your clit or do it yourself.

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Ive been told that you can still be preg. even if you get your period.. Im kinda scared because ive been feelin sick for a week now and i get dizzy and the only think i can think of is that i may be prego because on the 1st i had unprotected sex. but i got my period so is it possible to get your period n still be pregnant

my best friend's sister had her period
2ce before she found out she was pregnant
...with twins.

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i took a ept pregnancy test and it came out positve could the test be wrong

it's very possible.
You should take another to be sure.

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