I am 20 years old girl.2 years ago I met a boy (23 years) on facebook.He was from the another city of my country.I never add unknown people. Actually I was searching someone from his company. And I sent friend request to him. But after chatting I came to know that he was not the one. I decided to remove him. But from his old status I came to know that he lost his mother last year. I really felt bad. And decided not to remove him. We became friends. We used to chat for long time. He shared a lot of things with me so did I. He was a nice boy. He cared for me. I forgot to take my medicine. He asked me everyday that I took my medicine or not. He asked my opinion about his business card. I mean he gave me priorities. But after 2 months don't know what happened he started to change. He didn't reply me back like before. I didn't ask why. And I started to realize that I like him. I felt bad about it that how I fall in love with someone on internet. I decided to move on and not to talk to him anymore. But that time it seemed very difficult to me. I decided to remove him. One night I knocked him and told him something about my family and then told him that I am going to remove him. He said please tell me the reason. I told him and removed him.but still I used to message him and he replaid me. That time I came to know from other source that he hided things from me. He didn't told me that his father got married few days ago. He told me that he had a girlfriend for one year but he never loved her. But I came to know that after that he also had a girlfriend almost for 3 years. But he didn't tell me anything about it. After one months I added him again. He accepted friend request and talked to me like nothing happened. Everything became normal again. I gave him my number. We started to chat on whatsapp. Almost like before. It was my birthday. I asked for gift. He asked what I want. I told as your wish. He told me to ask for something. I told him that you won't be able to give me. He asked me what. I didn't want to tell him. But he forced me and requested me to tell what I want. I told him that I liked him seriously and I really wanted to spent my life with him. He told me that we didn't meet each other ever so we shouldn't think about it. One night I asked him,won't you ever love me?He said "you are a very silly girl,stop this childish,it will be good for you and relationship are really trouble thing for me". On reply I said I will wait for you because I am unable to love anyone else.He didn't say anything.One day I called him and we talked for the first time. That day he told me about his father marriage. We talked for 20 minutes. And he was nice. After that we used to talk. His birthday was coming I decided to send him a gift. I asked for his address but he refused to give it to me. But I knew his addressed already so I sent the gift. And he accepted it(There was his another female friend. She also liked him. She also send him gift but he didn't accept it.I came to know from someone.) And on his birthday he called me and said that I am crazy. But he was happy.Every thing was going well. One day I knocked him on whatsapp and after sometime he replaid. Like he always does. But I felt something is wrong. Don't know why!!! But my mind telling me that something is wrong. I felt that he was not replying me. Someone else was doing it. And the person talked to me little rudely. I knew that he couldn't talk to me like that. I end the conversation. I was so upset that he allowed someone to reply me by his phone. After 7 days I knocked him and asked about the matter. He told that it wasn't he. I asked who it was. He told it was his colleague. But he didn't tell the name. I got very angry. He tried to explain me that it wasn't intentional. But I didn't pay any heed to his talk. I asked him how could he allowed someone to message me. He said that his colleague borrowed his phone for some work and I knocked that time and she replaid. She also deleted the message but told him what she wrote. And she did it for fun. I was so angry. I shouted at him. And told him not to contact me ever. At last he also got angry and told me that I was just a facebook friend to him nothing else and he never thought about me.
After that I found out the girls name. She is 1 year older than him. She also proposed him. But he said no. I contacted him again almost after 3 months. He also did. One day he called me we talked for so long. And the next day the girl tried to commit suicide and admited into hospital but he didn't even go to see her. When I heard about it I really felt bad.I come to know that the girl is back in his life.They talk to each other.But they are just friend. He never tells me anything about it ever. I found it out from another source. I also ask him that if he has any problem to talk to me he can tell me directly I won't contact him again. But he says he has no problem to talk to me.
We don't talk like before.He never knocks me. I don't knock him much. I still have that feelings for him. I still like him. But it doesn't hurt me anymore. I am doing okay in my life. I call him sometimes(like once in a month/months) . And he talk to me nicely like before we used to talk. I wonder he still remembers little things about me. I talk to him like a friend. I never talk about my feelings and all this. But last time when we talked he asked me,do I have a boyfriend now? I said,no. He asked,why? On my mind I was telling,because I told you that I will wait for you. But i didn't tell him that. I told him that you know the answer but may be you don't remember it.I was a little angry.
Should I move on?Should I cut contact with him?
And yes I always feel that he has some feelings for me. May be its not love,but its special.Did/does he have?I accept the fact that he would never love me. But I still love him. And I am okay with that.
Tell me what to do now?
Move on , because you can do better. Sound like he is playing you for an internet fool, and I know in my heart that is something you are not, Men nowadays be on some shady stuff , you have to be careful what kind of company you entertain on Facebook or anywhere on the net. There is some cool guys out there in real life you can meet, but keep your guard up until you feel that guy is the right guy for you to date. Listen to your heart and mind they both work together, in many ways.
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Hey my parents are emotionally abusing me but i doubt they know it. I feel like i am slowly suffocating to death. I don't like feeling like this and I just want to be normal rather than be depressed. They won't understand even if i talk to them because although they think they are modern, they really are not. My father always thinks that he is right and all my life choices have been made for me already. Do you think i should commit suicide?I don't want to live like this anymore and I can't live with my pride stripped away. I don't want to be so selfish and just die but its not like I am ever going to be happy in the shade of my parents so what's the point?My religion is against suicide too but am at the point of no return.So many things have happened and I can't forget all those bitter memories and its close to killing me dad by day.I used to have endless dreams but they all hold no meaning anymore.What do i do?I can't even take it one day at a time, should i just die?I feel so pathetic please help me please i don't know what to do
I am from singapore
If you have time go to http://www.meetup.com they have support groups in Singapore on that website. You need somebody to talk to. http://www.wellsphere.com is another website that have support groups on there too. I am sorry you are going through this, and I bet you feel alone, but you not lots of people , children, and teens alike go through series of abuse inside their home. Don't focus your energies with suicide, You need an outlet. Coming to advicenators is the best place in the world to vent, We as columnists are here to help you when you have nobody to talk to. Look me up Ask Bianca555 I'm here and willing to read your thoughts. OK never hesitate to write to me.
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I'm 29years oid, my boyfriend just disvirgin me somedays ago and the pains is much and my breast is bigger than each other? Pls help
I feel you was not ready, becsuse if you was in the mood with him , the sex would not be dry for you to.hurt afterwards, When you lose your virginity to somebody whose suppose to care, its the guy job to ensure you are made to be felt special the first time you have intercourse with him, but i sense he was rough and didnt care, and to me you was raped. If at any point during sex you said you wanted to stop and he refuse to listen, THATS CALLED RAPE. why did you have sex with your boyfriend, I bet you didnt, because women who are virgins passed the age of 29 nowadays, dont have sex at all. They normally stay virgin for the rest of their entire life. Some wait until they are married. Being a virgin is a beautiful thing. Dont never do nothing sexually if you not in the mood or when you feel uncomfortable. Just take your time to heal, and think about what happened. Because in my heart , I feel you was forced and this mean you were raped.
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hey everyone!
so i have a 21 year old boyfriend & im 19. but it seems like no matter how much i wash my vagina it still seems to smell!! any suggestions?? also my butt seems to smell as well. i know this sounds weird & awkward. im sorry guys haha. & yes i take showers & wash as many times as i can. with a bar of soap (wash it 3 times in the shower) and then sometimes body wash after. thinking maybe it might make it smell better.
please help! ahhhh!
thanks!
First you should drink more water, Also try bathing with baking soda , when you bathe in baking soda, it removes all types of smell, you should also try bathing with a feminine body wash by Summers Eve. These are things you would need after sex. they have feminine wipes you can carry with you, Playtex the makers of Playtex Tampons have wipes to.keep.your private areas fresh in between periods, after sex or on days you just wanna feel.clean
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Why do guys think it's attractive to gag/choke on their penis?
Its not attractive at all. Besides if you meet a guy who rather recieve than to give, move on. Make him gag on a dildo while he is handcuffed, I bet than he wont ever ask you to perform oral sex on him again. Because thats wrong and he have no right to force you to gag on his penis for his on gratification. Im sorry, but thats not the way it suppose to be, sex is suppose to be fun and excited. If you are ever in a situation with a person and you dont feel comfortable about doing it with that person , you have the right to say no,No means No. Thats all im saying.
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Am I sick if I like to sniff my dirty underpants when they're hot and sweaty
Nope you not sick at all, lots of peeople have strange fetishes. You just get off on smelling your own scent.
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Hi, I have a gross question. Your partner have a fetish for feces or craping on the penis. Then when sex is thought about, you don't want to have sex cause you have to poop. When your partner then enters slightly and you give up and continuously saying no, but he continues to keep going and pin you down. Is that called date rape or sex? Also if you having to poop and it's right there and he eject or (cum) inside of you and you don't know do he have anything. Afterwards you rush to have a BM (Bowel Movement), does that mean your feces caught the cum? cause he was literally pumping into feces. When you go and have a (BM), did you poop the sperm out? And if partner (positive) , cause of (BM) you don't have it cause it didn't get anywhere?
You need to find another partner,because what you doing is playing Russian Roulette with your life. AIDS is out there and there are other types of STD's out there as well, sex is suppose to.be fun, not nasty or harmful, if you feel uncomfortable and violated, please I do wanna add that you been raped, you need to file a police report on him. How dare him doing that with you, he did that against your will, he violated you. Please know you a beautiful queen and no queen should bow down to no loser of a man like him.
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I'm 11 year old female my sister is 4 year old female
OK, my dad verbally abuses me, my mom, my (autistic) brother, my sister especially, and my grandma. He even did it to her when SHE HAD FUCKING CANCER!!!! HE DIDN'T SHED A TEAR HE ONLY BITCHED ABOUT HOW SHE WAS SLEEPING SO MUCH AND HOW SHE IS BEING OVER DRAMATIC ABOUT HER PAIN SHE HAD FUCKING CANCER! CANCER! And even though she's been cured she's still tired from it and he says she doesn't want us. My mom knows but she just says that we have to deal with it. One day he took us to breakfast down the street and we were walking home my sister was running in flip flops so she fell and scrapped her leg, so he called her a fucking bastard so I told my grandma and I was crying and she helped me, but I still think about suicide a lot. My dad says he's nice because he takes us places and buys us stuff and he doesn't insult anybody. But he promised to be nicer and he did improve. But I still don't like or trust him. So one night my mom had to practice court reporting and my sister wanted to be with her but she couldn't. So my dad brought her in his bed and she started screaming. I was trying to go to sleep so I came in there to complain (I know,I know) anyway so he was kind of holding her down and I was gonna go get my phone and take pictures to see if he's doing anything bad, but I was already talking by the time so he stopped. A women accused false rape on him when I was 3, and even planted that thought in my head but we did a test on my private and she even admitted to lying. My grandad asked me if it was true and I told him no. I've been really stressed about this I don't know what to do
First of all you need to find someone to talk to, it dont hurt to have your mom to record him talking to you all with him knowing it, because the police needs to know this, talk to your guidance counselor tell her about your problem, tell her her everything, She can help you. Sometome talikng to a police officer about your problem , and tell him how you need protection , even ask if he would sit and observe your property listen with window down this way he can call back up and get.your father out of the home, will even get him jail time. Because your father needs to be exposed for the things he is doing, message me in my inbox, and you tell me where you live, i can help ypu,because sound like you need tobe rescued from the monster you call Dad.
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