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Help I've been disvirgined
I'm 29years oid, my boyfriend just disvirgin me somedays ago and the pains is much and my breast is bigger than each other? Pls help
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I feel you was not ready, becsuse if you was in the mood with him , the sex would not be dry for you to.hurt afterwards, When you lose your virginity to somebody whose suppose to care, its the guy job to ensure you are made to be felt special the first time you have intercourse with him, but i sense he was rough and didnt care, and to me you was raped. If at any point during sex you said you wanted to stop and he refuse to listen, THATS CALLED RAPE. why did you have sex with your boyfriend, I bet you didnt, because women who are virgins passed the age of 29 nowadays, dont have sex at all. They normally stay virgin for the rest of their entire life. Some wait until they are married. Being a virgin is a beautiful thing. Dont never do nothing sexually if you not in the mood or when you feel uncomfortable. Just take your time to heal, and think about what happened. Because in my heart , I feel you was forced and this mean you were raped.
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First thought I have is whether this was something you wanted or not. Did you want and welcome the sex or were you forced. If forced, that is rape and can be reported to the police.
Usually any tenderness after sex doesn't last long so if it lasts more than a few days and the pain is very intense, you may want to go see a Doctor to rule out anything serious wrong.
Breasts do not change size one bigger than the other just from having sex. You would have known if one was larger than the other which is okay...its normal, one of my daughters has that.
so if they were both the same size before but one is a bit larger now,, all I can think of is that perhaps this guy was very rough with you and grabbed and squeezed one breast more than the other quite often which could account for tenderness and some bruising and or swelling which to you makes it seem one is larger than the other. As for the other pains, if he was too large in size and/or was rough acting like a battering ram for a prolonged amount of time, you could be bruised inside too. If this man has been really rough with you, that is not acceptable and you dont have to put up with it. Sex should be an expression of love between two people, or at the very least a mutual agreement to engage in sex to take care of ones sexual urges. In each situation, the best attitude of each partner is to wanting to see their partner totally satisfied. If he was treating you that way and doing what pleases you best while you at the same time are doing the same for him, it will be a pleasant experience.
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Losing your virginity should not be cause for one breast to be bigger than the other. It is normal for one breast to be slightly different in size that the other. Is it possible that you just noticed the difference? If one breast is really different in size and shape this is a form of birth defect that can be corrected through surgery.
If this is what your seeing you should first contact your GYN for consultation. Once you are cleared by your GYN then find a Board Certified Plastic Surgeon for Breast Enhancement Surgery. Your GYN should be able to recommend one.
If both your GYN and the Plastic Surgeon agree this is a form of birth deformity your health insurance should pay for the surgery. Generally speaking Breast enhancement surgery is considered elective and not covered by Insurance. This is not elective in that it is corrective.
As to the pain you feel from losing your virginity. This should pass after a few days. You will probably feel more pain the next time you have intercourse and again the time after that. Each time the pain should diminish as your vagina muscles get us to being stretched.
You might also try Kegel Muscle exercises which some women say Increases pleasure for sexual activity by strengthening the pelvic floor muscles. You can use a search engine to search for Kegel muscle exercises for women.
The more sexual intercourse you have the quicker the pain afterwards should resolve. If it doesn't then you need to see your GYN for something else could be a problem. Given how long you waited to give someone your virginity I would think the pain you are feeling is probably normal.
There is nothing wrong with waiting. I just hope your boyfriend appreciates the gift you have given him.
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