its completely normal, how long it takes you to orgasm depends all on the pressure you apply/how sexual you are feeling and how much that affects you. Because you masturbated you should feel a sense of release and not feel as horny, because that is the whole point of masturbation.

hopefully that answers your question for you.
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Brittni

well what your doing sounds fine guys just love head in general. if you're not already swirl your tongue around the penis and you are moving up and down. As the other person said below me the tip of the penis is a good section to focus on because thats where a whole lot of nerve endings are located, swirl your tongue around it in a circle formation and where the hole is gently apply pressure with the tip of your tongue. Also while you are doing this you can take one of your hands and place it to cradle his testicles and with some pressure play with them. Even changing the position you give head in, such as your head facing him, or your butt, he could even pleasure you while you pleasure him by facing head to genitals.

hopefully that gave you some new techniques
anything else i can help you with feel free to send to my inbox
Brittni

I have had a similar experience where i would find myself getting upset over dumb things and getting angry at the slightest thing and end up laughing about it, i just had to do something stress free or go out with friends to help relieve the emotional roller coaster. I eventually adjusted after a week or two, you see the pill is contributing to more estrogen production that your body is not use to which tends to make you more emotional than usual. I would wait it out and if you do not feel like your moods have come back to normal (which they should once your body adjusts) then go to your gyno and see if you can get a lower dosage on your pills or even a different brand that your doctor suggests.


any other questions feel free to ask
Brittni.

1. i prefer it shaved but if you keep it maintained, trimmed or whatever thats fine too. JUST DO NOT let it get crazy down there, its a huge turn off.

2. best way to shave down there is take some shaving cream apply it like you would if you were shaving your face, then shave, go with the hair to avoid razor bumps. its really that simple.


anything else i can help with feel free to send to my inbox.

Brittni.

im going to be completely honest with you, loosing your virginity is something that you dont get over too quickly being a girl, some girls just wont admit it. i understand you said you didnt want to get back with him, but for you to choose him as your first there has to be some history behind you guys. But what does help you is not feeling guilty about sleeping with him, it all starts with you not blaming yourself and stop thinking why does he not care, why did it mean nothing to him? what you have to do is just stop thinking about what happened and do something about the here and now, which is try and move past what happened. You know something guys brains function differently when they have sex its perceived as pleasure, they dont even put it into the same category as love (normally) Its hard still i understand, but just think no one else can ever take that away from you and once you move past this you grow so much stronger, i know i matured so much and realized what a man thinks of me is not important or even if they enjoyed having sex or even if it meant something because if it didn't then im only one step closer to finding that person who it does mean something to.

so to wrap this up, just remember to not blame yourself, dont worry about what he thinks because he is no longer that important aspect in your life (even though thats hard because of what happened.) once you start to realize these things and become okay with it you will truly become a stronger woman.

if there is anything else i can answer for you please ask
Brittni.

sex for your second time no doubtably will feel better than the first time but its not going to feel great, at least for most people. once you start having sex more often it will start to feel real good and progressively feel even better. as for a possibility of getting pregnant, its always a possibility, nothing is 100%,you see a condom is about 90% effective and spermicide is about 71% effective, it is good you are using protection though. but i suggest if you are planning on having sex on a regular basis to go on birth control just to take extra protection, birth control is 99% effective, and remember that birth control does not prevent any stds/aids so be sure to use a condom on top of it.



anything else i can help you with feel free to ask.

Brittni

we all go through hard times, let me start off by saying im sorry to hear you have a bad relationship with your stepmom and its driving you to this point.

as the person said below me, you need to stop cutting. that is the first priority and seeking out someone to talk to, such as a psychiatrist, so maybe talking to your mom about it may help and she can set that up for you. also try talking with your father, tell him why you have been cutting yourself and how bad your stepmother makes you feel, ask him if he will consider going to the psychiatrist with you to show support, if he does not listen to you or finds what you are saying implausible see if there is anyway you can possibly stay with your mother. you should not have to be in a threatening environment such as that, especially if it drives you to feel that way.

also do something you find relaxing, such as writing, painting, sports, everyone needs an outlet otherwise we turn towards destructive behaviors, it just human nature.


if i can help you with anything, or you just need to talk please dont hesitate.

Brittni

okay i am going to be completely honest with you, suicide is not the answer to all your problems, if anything it is a selfish act. Take into consideration the people around you who care, your dad is probably just stressed out and takes it out on you which yes is very very wrong, but would you want him to hurt, to feel like its all his fault? Instead tell your dad how you are feeling talking can help a lot. just think about your future what you will miss and the things you can accomplish with the grades you do have, heck you can prove everyone wrong which i feel is a braver approach, where as suicide is just an easy way out, sure times may be shitty right now, hell who hasnt had shitty times (i got kicked out of my house and my parents want nothing to do with me), but with out the bad how would you know the good? I promise you things will get better, focus on the people who have nothing and look at what you do have, a roof over your head, food to eat, and you actually have a promising future unlike most people in 3rd world countries. Make the best of what you can and show people you are a strong individual, and as for your boyfriend forget him, a guy should never make you feel like you are worthless because you know something, YOU ARE WORTH SOMETHING! Please do not even make an attempt, and if it is a failed attempt of suicide you will end up in a mental ward and your future will be tarnished. If you need to talk to somebody i will certainly talk with you anything that i can do i will, do not hesitate!

please consider what i have said,
my aim is MODERNDURATION and my E-mail is CLASSICXDISASTERR@yahoo.com

Brittni.

i would suggest shaving, waxing works good but you have to wait till you're hair grows in more till you can wax again.

how you shave down there is basically the same way you would your leg BUT, you go in the direction the hair down there is growing to avoid razor bump and discomfort. also a good shave gel to use is called bikinizone anti bump shave gel, its not that expensive and believe me its worth it. now where you want to shave down there is all up to you, i personally think the best way to go is no hair at all, and if he likes it smooth then i suggest that.



anything else i can help with just ask.
Brittni

the answer for your first question is a no. as for what you have to do to have sex, get a hard on then once you accomplish that put your penis into the girls vagina its that simple. as for eating a girl out and receiving a blow job, its considered oral sex which is one step away from sex, although with this you can still get possible stds/aids if not protected just something for you to think about.


if you have any other question feel free to ask me

Brittni

as the others have said below me its not about age, it about how you feel about the other individual you are going to have intercourse with and if you think your ready, also you have to take into account the responsibility of the outcome after sex. so i suggest your first time having sex make sure it is someone who you are in love with and care about madly. there are a lot of emotions tied in your first time having sex especially when you dont know what to expect, it's a beautiful thing really because you grow even closer to the person that you gave yourself too, its something that you cant even put into words if it is with someone you truly have strong feelings for.


just take those thoughts into account

Brittni

in this case i would recommend a lubricated condom and even a bottle of ky warming jelly. as for a good condom trojan ive come to find is one of the best condoms you can use lubrication wise and durability wise, just remember to get the lubricated ones and that ky will really come in handy as well.


any other questions please ask
Brittni.

when it comes to hickeys it depends on the guy, some guys like it others dont. i would just with kissing the guy and start the process of giving a hickey if he doesnt object continue, a guy will tell you straight up when he doesnt like something. once you do that to him he most likely will give you one back, or you could say it really turns me on when a guy kisses/sucks my neck.

for oral you could go down on someone in a variety of different places, for a girl and it being your first time i would say a bed is your best bet. now while you are receiving oral you can rub the guys back, stroke his arms. or even in some cases you can do a postion called 69 if you dont know what that is its when you lay on top or bottom of the other person and he gives you oral pleasure while you give him oral pleasure, or if you're more comfortable you both can lay on your sides heads at opposite ends which makes it look like a 69.


good luck.
brittni

your first time it is always nerve racking but dont worry about it. your vagina should not smell if you are taking care of yourself down there. make sure you clean up down there, your pubic hair and all because that tends to be one of the biggest turn offs to most guys, so shave or wax if you already dont. if you are really worried about smelling bad down there, then wash yourself with a sensitive soap on a wash cloth. AND still if you do not feel confident enough you can always buy some type of good tasting lotion to put on yourself. DONT WORRY, you'll learn to love it haha.

if you need any more solutions or have any other questions please ask me.

Brittni.

yes flavored lube does exist.
its edible and safe.


any other questions about it feel free to ask.
Brittni

How your cold sore originated was from the herpes simplix virus, so you do contain the virus, you could of contracted it from another person or you could of just been born with it. To answer the question of will it return, it is a possibility it may. The likely hood that it will come back for you seems rare due to the fact you have yet to have another outbreak from 5th grade until now. Normally what triggers the recurrence of a cold sore is due to flus, colds, fevers, stress, sun exposure, hormone changes (time of the month), weak immune system. The site below will give you more information about cold sores and how to treat one if you do happen to have an outbreak.
http://www.emedicinehealth.com/cold_sores/article_em.htm



hope that helps you out.

BRITTNI

milk isnt harmful, if thats what you like go for it.

you could purchase a dildo or a vibrator.
if you're okay with touching yourself you could massage your clit or even use a showerhead of some sort.

its not a stupid question, but the answer is yes sex does hurt your first time. The reason being is because your vagina is expanding. The first time i had sex it was worse than i could imagine, but once it was in it was better. The first few times of having sex it will not feel good, but it will not hurt as bad as your first time. To make it easier, use some lubrication. Dont forget to use a condom. Also make sure you are ready for this, its a big step in a relationship, and puts alot of emotions on the line.

No its not a bad thing at all, sex is acually healthy. Its just the fact that people are looking out for you, they dont what to see you get hurt emotionally, or possibly become pregnant,even become diagnosed with an std. Some relationships are all physical, i mean if thats the way you guys like to have your relationship that is fine as long as your content. Just take to heart that love has to do with more than just the physical elements such as sex. But if you continue to have sex with various individuals i would just advise you to get yourself checked for any stds/aids(even check now just to be safe, you could pass it on to the guy you love.)

Hello there the names Brittni, I decided to make a site on advicenators because i wanted to help others with their struggles, its a passion of mine, i hope one day to achieve my dream of opening a center for teens. Let it be known that i will never judge you based on a question you ask, i will simply give you an answer i find fitting, but dont expect me to candy coat my answer, im going to be honest. In the past i have been faced with many difficult things and looking back i am confident i made the right decisions. I've been through a lot personally, i've heard a lot, I've seen a lot, I've grown a lot. Heck, i know im not perfect but im the best version of myself i can be which is perfection in my eyes. I know sometimes speaking to someone you know about your issue is hard, trust me i've been there. Just like i have helped others i am here to help you with the best intentions. So i am here for you if you need me.

never feel hesitant when asking me a question, leave me one in my inbox and i will get back to you as soon as possible.

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