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But he does care about me and he isnt forcing me i want to have it with him but i dnt want it to hurt and if i am bad i feel like he will judge me! He says that he can not live without me and that there is never a second that goes by that he isnt thinking about me. And i when im with him i feel like nothing can hurt me i mean nothing. I love him but i just dont want to get pregnant if i do have sex with him! He is very kind sweet and he would never try to hurt me on purpose he does love me and i love him i just really dont want to pussy out if i dont have sex with him!

It's going to hurt you're very first time, unless you have been horseback riding since you were 2.. and still it's going to hurt because the skin is still tight.

Again, if he judges you.. then obviously he is only interest in one thing..and that would be sex.

We all feel "when we are with that person nothing will happen", truth is.. it doesn't always last that way.. there 2 guys who have made me feel that way, and one hurt me more (the ex after 2 years together) than the other one did..

Truth is.. I didn't have sex until I was 19.. I didn't do any of that stuff until I was a month short of 19..and I was ready to do it, on my own..and no one pressured me or even brought up the subject. I with a guy for 7 months, someone I have known 5 year's prior.. and he was amazing..I know he was the one just for the fact that he never pressured or brought it up.

To me.. you seem highly unsure.. and it sounds to me as if you are being pressured to it.. just because you don't want him to judge you.. if a guy loves you.. then he would wait and not ask you about sex.

I know you aren't ready to have sex, because you even said you aren't prepared to get pregnant, which again is smart to admit and you that you realize what could happen. From my experience, I had a pregnancy scare at 19, just 2 months short from when I started to have sex.. and to think if I had been pregnant, now at 21, my life would be totally different..and I would not be living the experiences as an young adult. Going to school, working, and having fun with barely any worries.

If you do go ahead to having sex, I would visit your local planned parenthood.. condoms and possible birth control if you can. Remember that even if you are having protected sex, doesn't mean that it is 100% preventable. If you do happen to get pregnant, and he says he will stay by your side.. it's very rare will a guy will stay near by with a child on the way when he's just 14 years old.

If you need anything else, don't hesitate to ask. :)

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I had oral sex twice, and before you say anything hear me out. I was 16 years old and very naive. During that time I was going through an emotional and mental roller coaster from abuse to suicide. I'll admit at the point in my life I wasn't 100% there. Even when I did oral sex it wasn't sexual for me, i panic and reacted to the situation. I was always panic when I'm around guys because i was abuse sexually. Anyway, I feel in my heart that I am a virgin because what I did honestly wasn't sexual at all. Am I still a virgin?

I classify virginity as actual sex, where the penis goes inside of a vagina.
If you go by what I classify as a person, then yes you are still a virgin.

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How long does it take a man to cum during sex

It depends on the guy, and the woman he is with.. and how he feels about her.. and what position is currently happening, as well as how well the sex is..

These are all factors..and it depends on the guy. I have been in experiences where I could get my ex off in 2 seconds of intercourse..or an hour later.. it all depends.

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my boyfriend fingered me for the first time, and it kind of hurt. he wasn't doing it too hard or anything, he was being gentle and stuff, but is it normal for it to hurt?

It's normal for your first time to hurt, your vagina is tight and hasn't been stretched. The bigger the finger is or amount of fingers there are the wider it will be, (same with size with the penis) the more it will hurt at first until your used to it. After a few times, it will not hurt anymore, so don't worry.

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I got fingered last night. I was with my boyfriend and he took me to his room and started fingering me. I am 14 almost 15 and today I noticed that I was bleeding a little. Is this normal? I am also a little sore. This was my first time ever doing anything like this. I'm really worrird.

Your sore because its the first time something has been injected inside of your vagina.
The bleeding is either from being scratched with his fingernail or your cherry was popped..nothing to be worried about. :)

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is it ok to have sex with more then 3 poeole at the same time?

There can be as many of people if you want, ever heard of a thing called an 'orgy'? Mostly known to having a group of people having sex all together. If your fine with it, it shouldn't be a problem. Perhaps if its one girl and a group of guys.. then perhaps some may put labels there. If your okay with it and what your doing. It shouldn't matter its your life you only live once. ;)

Hope I helped.

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My boyfriend thinks I'm dirty and weird, cos I like porn films and magazines. He thinks it's just for men. Am I dirty and weird, or is he being a prude?

You aren't weird or dirty. There are a lot of woman out there who do those kinda things. Perhaps he just thinks it's more common for men, and don't think woman do it. Being that men get more aroused than woman most of the time. He's being prude you'd be surprised at the amount of woman who do things like that. Perhaps if you try to tell him things like it sometimes gives you new ideas of things to do with him, maybe that could change his mind up a little. ;)
Hoped I helped.

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Me & my boyfriend had sex.
I've been on my Birth Control for about 2 years now. I put a spermicide in me, the contraceptive films, and he got off in me.

I'm having to take antibiotics because I have a really bad infection, and antibiotics, suposidly kills birth control.

I just started taking it, a day after the sex though.

I took my pill to start my period sunday night.


So basically what my questions are...


Where the antibiotics kills birth control, will it also stop me from starting my period?

When your pregnant, will you ALWAYS miss your first period.


Thanks.


By the way..
I'm feeling menstrual symptoms, such as bloating, cramping, and im very emotional.
I just need a straight out answer.
I know this was completely stupid.
& I'm NEVER doing it again..




Okay, so this was my question.
Here's the add on's.
I took the green pill sunday night, to start my period.
I missed my period monday..but this is normal for me, and when i woke up tuesday morning, this morning, i still hadnt started.
Later on in the day today I changed tampons, to find, a FEW droplets of blood.
Whats this mean?
And if your going to suggest to get a pregnancy test, I don't know who would get it, besides me and I really don't want to have to go get one.

I'm unsure about the first question. I'm tad confused.

But for the second question, you don't get your period when your pregnant at all.

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14/f
ive never been fingered before, but i was just wondering if most guys are expecting your vagina to be completely shaved or what..? thanks for youre help!

Most guys perfer completely shaved. But it's your body, you can do what you want with it. You don't have to shave it if you don't want to.

Hope I helped.

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first; what are the symptoms of a yeast infection? second; if you have a yeast infection, and you get fingered, will the boy get some sort of infection also?

1- Symptoms of Vaginal Yeast Infection

* vaginal itching
* vaginal burning
* vaginal irritation
* painful urination
* painful sexual intercourse
* odorless vaginal discharge (may be thick whitish-gray and cottage-cheese-like or may be watery in consistency)

2- I never heard of the boy getting an infection too, it's highly impossible..

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months,and he has never asked me for sex, until now. I want to have sex with him too, but I'm nervous. Anyways, he's not putting a lot of pressure on me, he said its perfectly fine if I don't do it, so I don't really feel that obligated to do it if I don't want to. I just...don't know. I do want to. I'd feel comfortable doing it with him. Idk maybe i'm crazy, but he's had A LOT of girlfriends and he didn't have sex with any of them except one girl who he might not even have been dating and it was just a big mistake, so maybe he thinks it would really mean something with me. Eeep, what to do? Should I tell him that I want to, and that maybe later on in our relationship i'll feel more comfortable? Idk what to tell him?

I don't see how, in a way it would really mean something. If you aren't his first. Discuss this with him, you can say no. There is no law saying you must have sex with him. Tell him the honest truth. The key to every relationship communication.

Hoped I helped.

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I think this is a sex question. 13/f (haven't started period yet)

Lately i have been having a really heavy discharge, and i t is slightly orangey, rather than tan. I am currently using Carefree With Cotton Extract Breathable Pantyliners. They aren't extremely thick, but they aren't ultra thin. They are fairly comfortable, and i quite like them, but just recently my discharge is going right through them, and stainging my briefs too. I know that mostly discharge washes out, but that's not really the point. I was just wondering if any one knew of a really good pad? Bearing in mind i wear women's boxers, and they are fairly thin widthed. But i do have a couple pairs of propper pants if need be. Thanks in advance for your help =P

Try Stayfree. =]

Hoped I helped.

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I was just wondering if you are supposed to shave your pubic hair?
Like do you only shave it before sex, or do you just shave it all the time!
I need help, haha.

Public hair? as in legs? Shave them when you get stubs, and its noticable.
As in binki down below..everyone is different..some like having the hair there, others not so much. It's all in what you perfer. It's your hair, your body. No one can tell you how and what to shave below in that certain area.

Hoped I helped!

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If you have your period is it possible to still be pregnant afterwards. I know i got my period because it came when predicted as usual and was a period lol. I am on the pill but i was just wondering if theres anyway possible. Ive never missed a pill and take it accurately so dont go there. So my specific question is .....you have ur period is there anyway to be preganant even after having your period? Thanks in advance for the advice

Um..no there is no way you can be..if you had sex then had your period.
If you miss your period after sex..then yes.
But if you had sex then had your period..then no..most girls know that already.

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hello im 15 and i was wondernig if you have to call the doctors to make an std opointment or you can turn up, i dont want to tell my parents about this and im lost n do not know what to do

Most doctors you have to call and show your insurance card. The best idea I can give you, is you can go to your local health clinic if you can. Because your 15, I'm sure your parents would most likely find out from your doctor.

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Is it possible for your cherry to be popped while a guy is fingering you?...thx

yes, it'sm possiable..same with a tampon.

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when does the guy put on the condom? does the girl do it or does the guy?

Ok Wow..I agree with the person a few below me..if you don't know where it goes..or who puts it on, you shouldn't even be thinking about it.

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So it seems no one cares that its right to wait untill marrage to have sex (in the chrsitian religon) and now to me it seems seroiusly wrong, but later on it probubaly wont. I just wanted to know at what age do most people lose it? Since im in 7th now, and next year is supposibly the year everyone starts. Most likly the guy I marry wont be a virgin, right? 5's for anyone who is reasonable.

I know some loose it between 12-up years of year mostly. I agree with you, someone asked me how far I ever went with a guy. He said they this something wrong me because I won't loose my virginity till marriage. It's something I choice to keep, till the time is right and not screw my life up at the age of 15...or 16..17 and possiable not till im 20 or 21.

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me and my guy friend had sex, ive never had before.. and i really didnt want to but i did it anyways.. he first was going in pretty fast.. and would go in n` out fast too.. ive been like super sore.. down ya.. and this morning i had blood on my panties.. does that mean he popped my cherry, and im pretty sure didnt go alll the way in & he used a condom, do you think im safe from being pregnant? and is it normal to still be sore the day afterwards ?

thanks to whoever replys to this!

Yeah he popped it, inless its your time of month. Wait a month see if you get your period. If he used a condom your most likely safe.

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One of my friends has tried to comitte suicide twice before and i am afraid she will do it again it terifies me what should i do.

Talk to her, convince her that she needs help like is said below.. I was in this sorta situation before as well just my friend was cutting not trying to comit sucide. Talk to her...tell her much she means to you and that she will kill a lot of people emotionally and possiably physically as well if she does kill herself. List manyt reasons why she is such a great friends and all the great things that can happen in her life if she got help.

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