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Q: so i'm a fifteen year old girl.
i've had sex before with my boyfriend with condoms and it's been all good.
until today, we had it with the "mint tingle" from trogen.
we went all the way
and it broke.
we didnt notice it broke until he cumed.

so my questions are
what should i do? i've cleaned my self out a lot. we got it (or most of it) before it got in, i cleaned it with water and i'm about to go shower.
and what are the chances of me getting preg?
and has this happened to some one else, what happened, and what condom did you use?

girlll youz a slut!!!

Q: i hate my brest ... my nipples keep getting bigger and bigger and i feel like they are gonna take over my hole boob! is there any way to make them stop?

Your nipples grow faster then your boob, so your boobs are probably going to grow bigger soon.

-natalie

Q: I know this might sound really weird but I cant find the whole in my vagina to finger myself. I think I'm just really scared to stick a finger in there because it will hurt. Idk can someone please explain where it is?

have you started your period? if not, DONT! if you have go right ahead. Its the whole right after your pee whole.

--natalie

Q: what does having sex feel like,what can i do to make it good for the guy and myself,and how should i start it off?

It HURTS, so bad the first 10 times for girls. But, of course it always feels good for guys.

Q: is it possible to make out w/ out french kissing?

yeah definitley!http://links2love.com/teens_kissing.htm
theres a site that has some tips!
i hope i helped

--natalie

Q: i just had sex with my boyfriend for the first time last night. now im bleeding. is that normal? and how long will it last?

no its usually not bleeding..have you had your period yet? because that might be it. if not go see a doctor.

--natalie

Q: 14/f.

My boyfriend is 16/m.

Ok; my boyfriend and I have talked it over, and we are ready to have sex. I don't want to go into too many details, because that's not what this question is asking. I was wondering what pre-cautions we could take to not get me pregnate.[sp?] Like, if he gets off, should we change the condom? It's both our first time and I am very nervous. He dosen't seem to be, but I was just wondering.

p.s. Birth control isn't an option.

Dont do it. you cant even spell pregnant. your 14 and just no, im pretty sure he is going to use you for sexual needs. please please please please do not do it. and if you go ahead and do it without thinking about the aftermass use a condom, and if its too big wait and get another one that fits. but i suggest for your future to NOT do it. please.

Q: hey i was wondering do you always feel it when a guy gets hard? like at my school dance i was grinding with my bf and i could deff feel it but i cant at other times even when i know for a fact that hes horny. thankss

yeah you can usually feel it. and mostly its pretty noticable. yeah ive grinded someone before and he got hard and i felt it. so yes you MOSTLY always feel it.

Q: ok ill get strait to the point! My boyfriend is big!! He is bigger than the other guys i've seen! he has fingered me and everything but he couldn't get 2 fingers in, just 1. we tried to pull a wuicky (have sex quickly) for the first time for both of us and I am too small. so if we use a lubricated condom will he slide in? or do we have to push and force it?

im sure if you lubricated the condom it would go in. if not, i guess you could push??

hope i helped some what.

--natalie

Q: well okay.. when me and my boyfriend are making out in different positions it really gets me horny. especially stradling. and it seems to get him horny too cuz i mean he breathes really loud and i can just tell. but he doesnt get an erection. should he be?

i know all guys are different but i just dont understand how its making me go crazy and he doesnt even get hard. is there something i could do to increase the chances of him getting an erection? besides a handjob, were not there yet. thanks so much.

You could get more into it or kiss his neck or just run your hands down his arms or back. That might help.

--Natalie

Q: i am female 13, last night me a friend heard about a party. so sneaked out of the house and went to the party. well my friend did not like all the drinking and drugs so she left. i end up staying and guess i got a little to drunk and end up some guys had sex with me. i am not sure if they used protection how can i tell if i am pregnant

13? Its okay just don't panic. Go out and buy a test, EPT. Or anything. If its negative, still take it a few more times, if postitive, DON'T panic. I'm here for you. I will not judge and helpyou through this. Since only 13, go to plan parenthood for some answers. Talk to your friends and find out who was at that party.

--Natalie
E-mail me if you have any more questions: westsweetie93@aim.com

Q: i have an extra flap of skin in my private are and like it swells up sometimes and itches, could that be that i use scented tampons or could it be and infection or is the extra skin normal after having sex?

You should definetly see a doctor. Perhaps even a gynocologist. You might be having an allergic reaction to the scented tampons.

--Natalie

Q: 17/f.
So one of my best best guy friends and I had sex last month, (my first time) and ever since then he and I have been acting the same-platonic. we hang out all the time and I talk to him at least once a day. We're really good friends and I love spending time with him. But ever since we slept together we haven't even mentioned it. We kind of avoid the subject.
Here's my problem; I really want to be friends with benefits with him and have sex again. So how can I kind of hint to him that I'm "in need of attention" or something without seeming like all I want is sex? I'm almost ready to just attack him! lol. Please help. Thanks in advance!

Well you could say something that hints but lets him actually make the first move. You could try saying something about when you did sleep woth him, maybe telling him how much you liked it. Or how hott you are and would like another round.

Sorry this is a hard question!
Hope it works!

Q: does it hurt when first having sex,and does everyone bleed for the first time ..plz help i really love my bf xx

um usually it does. just because its you first time and nothing like that has ever gone in there. yes usually everyone bleeds the first time if the guy does it too hard. but make sure you where a condom. it may be less pleasurable but just think before you have sex.

Q: I was feeling really horny and so i called up my boyfriend to come over.(my parents were out for the night and im an only child) he came over and we talked and watched a movie but i could barely control myself. we made out on the couch and then he felt me up. He asked if we wanted to have sex and i couldnt resist. we went into my bedroom and he put his thing in and it hurt really bad, but when he cummed it felt soo good. we had sex for about an hour. after we were done i gave him a blow job because he asked for one. i had sex the day after my period and five days ago i was supposed to have it but i didnt. im SO scared because im only 13. i threw up all day today and i never want to eat. im SOO scared. please please please help me. i need it badly.

oh and we also did it up the butt. could i still get pregnant from that? we did it both way.

your 13?? wow hunny you have to get tested no matter what. no comdom either i bet? and you missed your period and threw up all day.im 98% sure you are pregnant. go to plan parenthood, they can help.

Q: 15/m

ok so my girlfriend and and i are really really in love, and i know that sounds cheesy but its true.

we've never exactly "made out" . . . we kiss each otehr all the time but yea. . .

anyway, i don't want to sound sleazy or anything, but i've thought about possibly fingering her. . . i keep getting this vibe from her that she wants to go further.

anyway, i guess my question is, is it appropriate for people our age to do so? i mean i've read alot of people who are our age's questions about the topic. . .and i don't know. . .

thanks in advance

You need to talk to your girlfriend. You might be getting the wrong "vibe" from her. You need to know how comfortable she feels. It wouldnt be good if you did something she wasnt ready for.

Natalie

Q: My fiancee and I started having sex a few months ago, sometimes with a condom. (yeah I know i am asking for it when you don't use protection..) Well, In November I had my period for not even a day, it started in the morning and ended by afternoon. In December it lasted 1 day, seemed to stop and then I had 1 more day and then completely stopped. I am still waiting on my period for this month. My question is, could I possibly be pregnant? I've read that you could have light bleeding for the first 3 months (My mother did with my sister). I will probably take a pregnancy test this weekend. I am due for my period Thursday.

and for the record, if by any chance I am pregnant, its not a bad thing. I'm not worried or anything like that, I would LOVE a baby despite my age (19, engaged to be married in a year).. I was just wondering if an abnormal period could be a sign of pregnancy. Thanks!

oh, and since I started my period when i was 13 I have had a pretty regular period, lasting 5 days every time, so its kinda unusual at 19 for it to change.

There is always a chance of pregnancy with your symtoms. If you're not worried, then see a doctor and get a professional test done, it could never hurt.

Good Luck!

Q: I'm not a novice when it comes to the topic of suicide, but I am now facing a situation and I have no idea what to do. Over the past year, my friend(Hannah), and I have been writing letters to each other, even though we see each other every day. Well, I've found out things about her, and she about me, through these letters. She's really depressed and wants to kill herself. I've told her that if she wants to find someone who can help, I'll help her find someone. But, a few days ago, she told me that she didn't care whether or not she lived or died, so she wouldn't be helping me find someone to help her. So now, I feel as if her life is in my hands. My problem is, I don't know who to talk to. Hannah swears that she won't be mad at me if I tell someone, I just don't know who to tell. HELP ME, PLEASE!

okay this is what i would do. i would tell her about all the people who care about her. her friends, you, her parents, school mates. all those people would be hurt by her actions. she needs to work through this stage. tell her you will be by her side the whole way and that you will comfort her through this. make her feel that she is worth living for, because everyone has a point in life, and obviously she hasnt found hers yet.

Q: haha alright so, i have never had sex. and i was just wondering...

1) does it hurt?
2) do you bleed?
3) are u supposed to shave down there? like everywhere down there, before you have sex?
4) if so..how? what do you use? because waxing must KILL.
5) is the guy supposed to shave down there?
6) how does he know where to put ...*it*?

thats all for now. thanks a lottttttt.

1- the first couple times it does.
2-the first time yes, your cherry pops. and if he goes in too deep.
3-um boys usually like it shaved but you dont have to.
4-you can shave with shaving cream. every 3 days if you are sexually active.
5-he can. but they usually dont, they leave that to the girls.
6-instinct mostly. it will go in there pretty much automatically.

Q: i have a little bit of hair growing like, around my nipple area. is that really weird? i have hair on my stomach too. should i shave it off or leave it? is it really weird or do other people have it too?

No! Every girl has hair on her stomach and nippiliar area. You can shave it but forever you will have too. Black, thick hair will grow. This is a choice you will have to make. Most hair though it light or blonde.

bio

hi. my name is natalie, im 17 and im really good advice giver, all my friends say so. I've been through a lot so i can probably relate to you. Ask me anything, i wont judge or laugh just be honest.

I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure--which is:
Try to please everybody.

really just express yourself and dont care about what others think, its a waste of time and they're opinion is not as important as yours.

i truly hope i can help.

_natalie_