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How do I make a move?
17/f.
So one of my best best guy friends and I had sex last month, (my first time) and ever since then he and I have been acting the same-platonic. we hang out all the time and I talk to him at least once a day. We're really good friends and I love spending time with him. But ever since we slept together we haven't even mentioned it. We kind of avoid the subject.
Here's my problem; I really want to be friends with benefits with him and have sex again. So how can I kind of hint to him that I'm "in need of attention" or something without seeming like all I want is sex? I'm almost ready to just attack him! lol. Please help. Thanks in advance!
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You need to stop avoiding the subject, for one thing. It's important that you talk about your feelings, and how they may have changed. If you've had a platonic friendship up until now, I expect that what's happened between you has messed with his head some; he might have discovered new feelings about you. He might be worried that you will feel that all HE wants is sex.
What you shouldn't do is just launch into sex again without having talked about your feelings, together. It's not something to just sweep under the rug like no big deal; it IS a big deal.
You may view him as a friend, but did it occur to you that he may have always wanted something more - and now that he's had it in a physical way, he may not know how to approach you and seek emotional intimacy as well?
The two of you need a quiet couple of hours alone - with clothes on - to figure out how your relationship has changed. Maybe you're "Best Friends with Benefits". Maybe it was a one-time thing. Maybe he's fallen in love. You'll never know until you have an honest, open conversation.
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Well you could say something that hints but lets him actually make the first move. You could try saying something about when you did sleep woth him, maybe telling him how much you liked it. Or how hott you are and would like another round.
Sorry this is a hard question!
Hope it works!
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ahah alright well, kind of start the conversation about it somehow without making it totally obvious. like . . bring up "sex" in a conversation (not necessarily about how you guys did the dirty) but about anyone, and then kind of push the conversation toward you too... and then talk about how much fun it was and stuff and kind of lead into it you know what i mean? if you guys are such good friends it'll be really easy for you guys to talk about it.
hope you get laid. haha =P
shorty =) <3
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