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Q: okay me and my boyfriend was messing around on teh 16th and we kinda was like naked.. on out lower have.. and he was fingering me and i was touching his penis..and
when i loooked down my shirt was wet.
he says it was mine.. because i was really wet
and im like no i wrapped you penis in my shirt
and hes like well you can get pregnate frmo PRECUM or somthing is that true?
and my period doesnt come until next month
i dont feel sick or anything.
im just worried
i dont want to be pregnate
and we broke up because we thought our relationship was going too fast.

im scared
yea i know SPREM DOESNT DIE WHEN IT HITS THE AIR!
and.. i dont know
we didnt have sex. we were kinda dry humping naked on the lower half

You can get pregnant from precum. I would get a test and maybe even go and talk to a gynocolegist if you think you may be pregnant.

Q: im 15 almost 16 and i am still in a AA-cup bra.

mom is a A-cup, but my sister is a C-cup.

This is completely destroying my life! I have not had a boyfriend cuz' my breasts are tiny now I am old and nobody will want me.

what about breast enlargement?

are there any other wayz i can get someone to love me?

is surgery for enlarging my breasts my best way to get my life back?

i want to have a boyfriend before i get old! am i already too old? none of the boys will want me soon. i am almost 16!

Please HELP ME!

Okay well you are 15. That is what you need to realize here. You are still growing and will be until you hit around 20. That's 5 more years of growing and chances are, you're not staying AA forever.

PLENTY of people haven't had boyfriends until they are older than you so don't even think that that is the problem. Why would you want a guy that only dates you for the size of your boobs? That is one of the most shallow things a guy can do and I have a strong dislike to all men like that.

Again, you're 15. You're not old and you probably have like another 70 years to live. All that time you have to find a boyfrined. Why rush into it with someone who only cares about your boobs. Don't date a shallow man.

Q: How old is way too young to have sex? my bf wants to with me but were only 15!! is that too young please help... if that is too young what should i say to him..

There really isn't a right age for sex. If you feel that you love the guy you are with and he loves you back and you guys both feel like you have something with each other then I would say go for it. Just make sure, a lot of things can happen. STDs, Pregnancy etc. Like the person before me said, getting pregant young can ruin your life. Use protection always.

Q: ok is it ok to have sex when your on your period?

Well, it would get really messy but yeah you couldn't hurt anything.

Q: ok so i asked a question a long time ago about my boyfriends best friend kinda took advantage of me well to day i was talking to my boyfriend on the phone and he said that we needed to talk so i called him and he said i've been acting kinda shy and he said whats wrong?
and then it was quiet and he said again Your mostly shy when my buddy comes around Did he do something to you? Luckly my mom called and i had to go so i told him i'd talk to him about it later. What should i tell him or What should i do Please help me ASAP!

You need to tell your boyfriend what happened. It wasn't right for his friend to take advantage of you and your bf needs to know exactly what happened. The key point in a relationship is communication and you should be able to tell him anything.

Q: well i am 13 and having my second child. that pretty much says it all. help?

Well from all that you've given, all I can say is 1)stop having sex 2)use a condom or 3) get birth control. I could help you more if you want to email me whatever else you specificlly need help on at xoleah12ox@yahoo.com.

Q: I missed my period last month i usually have it between 12th and 15th of every month but last month i didnt. I have been sexually active in 7 months so i know im not pregnant. And i have had my period since the 6th grade and im in the 11th now. Should i Be worried or just wait.?

Don't worry about it. It is normal for an occasional period to be missed for anyone of all ages. If it is missed this coming month then you might want to go see a doctor and tell her your problem. I'm sure it's nothing serious just give it time and it should come around.

Q: How do I tell my mom I don't want her in the Gyno exam with me? Actually, I want her there, but I don't want her to know I have had sex. So I can't have her there. So how do I tell her I don't want her there without sounding suspicious or mean?

Just calmly tell her that you don't feel very comfortable with her in there. Tell her it's your body and you'd prefere if you could keep it private to yourself and you doctor. She should completely understand.

Q: 15/f

I just had sex for my first time 2 nights ago. I'd like to get checked by the doctor for any diseases. Is it possible for me to ask a doctor and get a test done without my parents knowing anything? Including the results. Even if the results came out positive, I want it to be kept secret. Do you know if doctors tell parents this kind of information?

I asked my doctor this question and she said that if I never needed anything like that done, she wouldn't be allowed to tell my parents without first asking me unless it was lifethreatening. It's a doctor/patient confidentiality. So, unless your doctor is for some reason different, no they can't tell your parents so they can never know.

Q: okay im a f/16 and i shave down there. is that weird if im not having sex at all and dont plan on it any time soon? does anyone else?

That's not weird at all. Not everyone does anyways. I do and I'm only 15 and I most definately don't play on having sex anytime soon. Whatever you're happy with is all that really matters.

Q: oh and to all those people with the ? when is the right time to have sex? its when you are ready.
no body can tell you when to have sex.

and ways my ? is..
how long into the relationship do you have sex.
i rate high for nice people

well id go with what you said. wait until the time is right and you both are ready to take your relationship to that level.
hope i helped! :)

Q: What is an approiate age to have sex? I'm 15/F but I want to wait until I'm married. Is that the best time?

People do it at all differant ages and there's no "right" time to do it. A lot people wait until there married that way they know that they are really in love when they first do it and it's not with some guy that they could break up with the next day. When ever you do decide to, make sure you feel completely comfortable with the guy your with. And always use protection.

Q: Ok, so i was masturbating w/ a perfume bottle and the cap came off while it was " up there" i`ve tried to get it out but it wont work.& i can also feel it. Please dont freak out on me because i`m already scared enough. Please tell me things that will help me get it out. If nothing works , I`m going to tell my mom and get the doctor to take it out. I WILL RATE HIGH. thanks.

ok dont be scared. try taking tweezers and clipping on to one of the ends of it. if that doesnt work you should talk to your mom and see if she knows anything and if not go see a doctor. the longer its in the more problems that can happen.

Q: um, i am a virgin and all. and thats kinda the problem. most of my freinds arent virgins, and i get made fun of. even my father had sex when he was like 12. and its driving me practilly INSANE! im sixteen years old, and i "enjoy" myself almost daily. i am speaking the embarassing truth. one of the minor reasong why i bought a computer was so i could look up porn. and i tell myself all the time ill stop "enjoying" myself once i actually have sex. and thats put me at ease for awhile. i mean, other that that i ok, besides sucking my thumb.one time, a prostistute was asking if i wanted a good time, and as sad as it may sound, i was saeiously considering it. and thats when i knew i had issues. so the actual question would be: do i have problems? is this humane? shold i go out and see a shrink? please, this took alot of courage to admit this, so, please,dont judge me.

its perfectly normal and no, you dont need to go see a shrink. like someone else said, porn was here for a reason... a lot of people feel the way you do. but you cant forget that there are a TON of stds out now a days so whenever you do decide to do it, use protection. and while everyone else is making fun of you, put it aside. at least you havent put yourself up for major risks in life yet.

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Hey guys! My name is Leah and I am 15 years old. I'm from Maine where it's always beautiful but for some reason, everyone here wants to leave it. I love playing basketball and just hangin out with my friends whenever I can. I am the advice giver in my group of friends and I always help them out with whatever it is they may need. When I get older I want to be a phyciatrist and have a huskey named Isabella. I don't know why but I do. If you have a problem, I am here for you and wont judge you at all. I never pass up on a question passed to me so don't be shy. I've been through a lot in the past 15 years and I'm sure I will be able to answer a majority of you guys' questions. Hit me up and don't forget to live for the moment. It's the most important thing you can do.