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17/f. My best friends know a guy (James) who is really cool, a nice guy, and a lot like me. They keep telling me that we will probably end up getting married or something (despite the fact that I have NEVER met him in my entire life... haha). Apparently the other day, James mentioned to one of my guy friends that he hadn't dated anyone in a while... and my friend flat out suggested me. Because of that, my friends arranged a get-together for like six of us on Friday- making dinner at someone's house. The sole purpose of this dinner is for James and I to meet and hit it off... seriously, that is the only reason this is taking place. My friends don't really beat around the bush much... James definitely knows that we are basically being set up (because we're both single and our mutual friends want to see us date each other). I'm definitely not opposed to a date or two in the future, but right now I just want to get to know James. I'm hoping that it will be a funny situation, but I'm worried that it will be really awkward. Like, "Hi, how are you? So, we're being set up." I really would like to become friends with James, and I want it to be fun... how do I break the ice? If you were in this situation, what would you do? Any help is appreciated!

if you feel awkward it'll be awkward.
be yourself. i mean this isnt your wedding or anything. its okay if you guys dont hit it off.
just saying. (:

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I have this "friend" and she is totally annoying. She calls me, talks to me all the time, and is really obsessed with this fugly guy Tyler. Well I think she knows we (me and my bff) don't like her, but i also feel bad because NOBODY DOES!!! What can i do without hurting her feelings? %(

theres people like this at any school. they just attach to someone to look like they have a best friend. if i were you id talk to someone else who would want to be her friend and help them become friends. if you cant think of anything to "get rid of her" then id just talk to her. and say that things areent really working out being friends like we had wanted. i dont think that would hurt her feelings - she's probably already noticed that you arent really FRiENDS. maybe she just wants someone to fall back on. tell her the truth. id talk to her about what she does that scares people away. ♥ i hope everything turns out okay with your "friend" because its a hard situation. =]
♥ good luckk! =] -- ♥ CAREE

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if i live in illinois
and i text someone in texas
is it long distance??
i really need to know!!!!

i have sprint service and i know that texting long distnace is the same as texting someone sitting right next to youu. it probably depends on the service but i dont think so. ♥ CAREEE.

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16/F

I used to be friends with this girl (ill call her T) Well T and I became best friends in like 8th grade and we were inseperable. We used to do everything together (movies, mall, sleepovers, parties) we could even finish eachothers sentences. When me and T hangout we have a really good time, but she has stabbed me in the back more then once. T was texting/calling my boyfriend when we were going out and then when we broke up she went out with him like 2 months later another time there was this guy i really liked and he liked me and she was jealous so she would tell him that i dont really like him and was telling him things to make him like her..he ended up going out with some other girl. She has also tried to get people who are my friends against me too and she loves to copy me like my clothes, hair, guys i like, etc.. Now were both in 11th grade and since school started we havent been talking about 5 or 6 months and truthfully i miss hanging out with her and being friends but i dont know how to even start up a conversation and tell her how i feel because i dont want her to think im crawling back or not want to be friends, i know she has not been a good friend in the past but idk what to do can anyone help?

i can see how you dont wanna lose a friend & all but shes been really mean to youu. "T" has backstabbed you aton. i dont like being friends with people like that but maybe its just me. anywayss ;; if you wanna be friends with her again than just start talking to her.. lik normally first just like whats up.. stuff lik that. dont start with the whole friendship thing. & also ;; did you guys just stop talking randomly? im confused. hope that helped. ♥CAROLiNEE

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i have a friend and shes 16 and shes 5 6 1/2 and she thinks that shes to tall for her age i was just wondering is that a tall height for her age or is it normal?

its tall but normal ♥

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i love you
youre so damn hott

=]tAkEn. ♥ carre

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thanks for coming back ♥. don't you DARE listen to that loser whos said you only did because other people. and you're a coppycatter cause you're not. yu came back cause i wanted yu too. thanks. thanks 4 not listening to them! ♥ yoo.

aww thhanks. im not listening to that loserr. ;) AT ALLLL. i did come back cause yuu wanted me too. :) love yahh ♥--care bearr

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KACEY ♥ KACEY ♥ KACEEEEY ♥ !! i love youu sooo muchh cuttiee. THiS iS FOR ADViCE / GOOD COMMENTS OnLy. kacey is absolutley posotiveley RiGHHTTt. thannkss giirrl. bff! :p -- ♥-- cares bearrs

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I've known my bestfriend since 7th grade (we're now both juniors) and we're the closest two friends can get and I love her to death.


Our freshman year, we'd always hear about this girl Meagan and how slutty and bitchy she is. Meagan is a grade ahead of us. Well, 2nd semester of freshman year my bestfriend had a class with her but only for about a week because she got switched out.


Last year, my sophomore year, I was in a class with her for the whole year and at fisrt I didn't like her because of the things I've heard but we started talking and she wasn't that bad. Yeah, some of the rumors were true but she was still a good, fun friend. Now we're really good friends. Not as good as my bestfriend and I, but nevertheless, friends.


So whenever I'm with my bestfriend, and I talk about Meagan, she gives me this disgusted look and talks smack about her. I tell her to shut up and not talk about people she doesn't know and then that's the end of it.


Meagan and I are going to a concert in July and I asked my bestfriend if she wanted to come with us because I know she likes that band. Well, she told me that if Meagan is going, she isn't.


How can I get her to stop being so judgmental and at least try to actually meet her?

tell her to give Meagan a chance. if people would stop listening to every freaking rumor that goes aroundd! tell her some stuff that made you and Meagan friends, and tell her that she'll NEvER be replaced cause you love your best friend to death! sounds like you gave meagan a chance, and you became friends. your best friend hmmm.. do the stuff she's doing. but not in a mean way. she'll notice it. if she asks you to stop judging people than say well _____, its sort of what you're doing w/ Meagan! good luuckk.
ask your bff why she's judgemeantal. there may be a reason behind it all. and just ask meagan totally be nice to ____

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wow care! i l--ohh-vee-eee ur advice!! its so awesome! ilu too gIrll!!
call me!!

♥

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wow care! i l--ohh-vee-eee ur advice!! its so awesome! ilu too gIrll!!
call me!!

laurens awesome ♥ herr.
♥ CARE

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i have a friend. we will call her s. S has been my friendd for as long as i can rememberr! we have shared soo many awesome times togetherr. over this past year we haven't seen eachother for a long time and she stopped talking to me on the phone whenever i would call her-i would end up leaving messages and she would never call me back. i tried talking to her on aim but she would never answer. how can i get her to talk to me so that we can work things out??
thanks for AALL ur help!!

i know who this is & i ♥ you. i'm here for youuuu throuugh everythiin'. about "S". you

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HOLY CRAP GiRL i LOVE YOUR ADViCE! iTS SO AWESOME! BFF!

thhhhhhaaankkss ! =]love yahhhh. ♥ -- care

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ok well a couple weeks ago my best friend and i got into this huge fight .. she was mad at me for almost a week and i dont think she knows but i cried a lot and i am 100% sorry and would never do anything like that agen.

as far as i can tell things are back to normal now but how do i know for sure whether our friendship is really mended? i know it will take a while but how doi show her that she can trust me and i would never do anyhting like that again?

please help me ill rate 5s!

Well if it was that big of a fight that she didnt talk to you for a week, than it might take a while for.. things to " mend back together ". me and my friend fought for a really long time **it was huge** and well we've got to be better friends because i apologized. if you're like best friends i think it might be hard for her to totally forgive you but if youre 100% sorry, and you tell her (( you should ! )) than she should understand. i dont know what the fight was over.. so i dont know how big it was. how do you know if its mended? well, you can just see if she talks to you and invites you places, and tells you secrets and all that normal stuff than yeah it is mended. if not, than maybe you guys need to talk or something to get it straitened out.
XO care

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