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Q: Hi, I'm 16/f. My 16/m best friend is going through some really hard times. His life used to be awesome, and all of a sudden his parents separated (a few months ago). He hasn't really been open about it with me or anybody else, and he hasn't really changed much, but I can tell that it's wearing on him. Now it's like he has to be the glue to keep his family together- he recently moved to a smaller house with just his mom and younger siblings. And his girlfriend told me that the other night, his father very forcefully took the keys to his car away for no reason. Apparently the cops were involved. Besides that stress, he's a really good student and school has been hard on him this year. I just want to know what I can do as a friend. He went from having a very normal family to having a crazy life in a matter of weeks. I've never had anything like that happen in my life, and I can't imagine what he's going through... and I don't want to say the wrong thing if he does decide to be open with me about things. Can you guys give me some insight, if you've gone through this?
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Your story is very similar to mine. My friend's parents are separated, but have been for a while. His dad took away his privilege to drive for no reason a few weeks ago. He sometimes gets depressed, and he lives with his dad, who can be somewhat abusive. Really the only thing you can do is let him know that you are there for him, and when he talks to you, not only listen, but let him know that you are listening. Just be a good friend and be there for him. Message me if you want to talk more.
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Q: Basically I was sent a text saying that My best friend didn't want to talk anymore. I was saddened its been about 4-5 months that we have not talked. Funny though because he still wears a shirt i bought him and he is always staring at me. No matter what he looks at me and last semester asked someone how i was doing. Another he told that i did a great job on my project and funny thing i was in his class. i don't know what to do.. he held the door today for me but i used the other door. im confused as to what to do...i wrote him a note but im not sure if i should even bother giving it to him somehow...or sending it via email. whats a girl to do? I miss him and I have frequent panic attacks.
-Lost Apart of My Heart
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Tell him how much he means to you and that you miss him. I think he misses you too. Try to talk in person and if that doesn't work, use email, but remember, people can't see the look on your face or hear the tone of your voice over email. :)
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Q: 14.Female.
My like best guy friends name is Cole, and he is awesome. He always makes me happy and unlike other guys I don't act diffrently around him --at all--. Id eat like a pig infront of him and not care, laugh my normal laugh. It doesn't madder he's just like my BFF Becky. I know she's not gudmental so and he's the sameway. Well the Christmas dance was coming up and he asked if I wanted to go. It was a hardcore What?? Completely unexpected and I said no. And explained to him that I don't like him like that and he was like Ohh. And thank god it didn't effect our relationship.
Well he flirts with me all the time and sadly I do to...[[sucha bitch I KNOW]] But I can't help it I Do Like Him. But the reason is so stupid I wont even explain it.
Well his sisters in another state right now checking out colleges with her boyfriend and a Sunday I was talking to Rhiannon about Cole. He's so sweet, and soo hot and funny and everything I lovee. Like one time he was making fun of himself and I was like Cole! Your adorible, whatever people say they can go to hell because I love you exactly the way your are.
Then it kinda clicked Oh Shit did I just say? Im soo dumb. He said something else thougha dn i was like Why do you only make fun of yourself infront of me?? and he was like Because I know you'll say otherwise. I was like awwwww
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The only thing I know to say is, just tell him, and show him you mean it from your heart. He needs you. I have a guy friend that I love a lot and his dad is abusive also. Just tell Cole that you really truly care about him and that you do like him, but you were just scared. Maybe you can let him stay at your house when his dad is being an ass.
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Q: so i have a very close friend who has made it almost completely clear that he likes me. i don't like him in a potential relationship kind of way, but i wouldn't mind being able to flirt a little to get his best friend a little jealous, who was at one point my "almost lover." but i don't know exactly how to. every time he has the chance to, he'll try and touch my hair, face or hands. are there any subtle ways of responding to it that would lead him to carry it further?
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For one, I don't think it would nice of you at all to lead this guy on, knowing that he likes you, just to make his friend jealous. My advice is tell him you're not interested and quit.
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Q: female. age 13.
one of my best friends ever is getting really depressed. and he wont tell me why. all i know is that it's about a person and a place. i really wanna know what's wrong. but he wont tell me.
and i respect his privacy. but everytime i talk to him he sounds all depressed. and it kills me inside to see him hurt. and i have alot of my other friends going through depression. it doesnt help that im getting a razor tomorrow. so i can cut.. again, the bottom line is. i need to know how to figure out how to find out what's wrong, i wanna be there for him. but i cant help him if i dont know what's the matter. i need help on how to find out how to figure out what's wrong. and i really wanna know if i like him as more than a friend. even though we're friends with benefits. i mean. please. tell me how to find out. PLEASE.
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I understand what you're going through. My best guy friend is depressed. We talk about it and sometimes it is hard. He doesn't always want to talk, and that is what you're friend does. Maybe he isn't ready yet. You just need to be there for him. Let him know that you care a lot and when he's ready you'll listen, but don't push him to tell you anything if he's not ready. Just make sure that when he does talk, you're listening. Now, about yourself. Don't cut my dear. The last thing your friend needs right now is you losing your mind. Be stable for him. You have to try to be positive around him and when he's depressed, try talking about fun things, or things he is interested in. Do fun things with him. I like to have my friend come over a lot and we'll watch movies and take funny pictures... just stuff to take his mind off of his problems and show him that you can have fun and not everything in life is bad. Hope I helped. I can tell you anything else you want to know if you message me. :)
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Q: ok, well i'm REALLY bad at showing my personality at first,i'm mostly shy until you gett to know me. soo, my semi-friend is asking me to hangout with her on saturday(sleepover) but idon't know,because i'm scared its not going to be fun and i'll bore her! i'm not good with just hanging out with one other person, how do i get out of my shell? should i go? any tips on this?
ps-i've known her for awhile only from school. i don't know if i should go for it? thanks!
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I can sometimes be shy too. Just stay calm and warm up to her. Try to get to know her and have fun. If she's inviting you, then she obviously wants to get to know you.
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Q: My family doesn't like my BEST friend, and I have no idea what to do.. I mean I love this girl with all my heart and soul.. and my parent's don't approve simply because her taste in music and guys.. and her style in general. What do I do? DO I stop being friend's with her like my parent's want, or should I just go with my own inxtinct and stay friend's with her and try to sort something out with all of them?
PLEASE HELP :[ I REALLY NEED IT.
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It would help if I knew what she was like. My best friend is an idiot, and very different from me, but I still hang out with her. My parents sometimes think she's to "ditsy", but they still let me choose my own friends, and my own mistakes.
Update: Since I now know more, I will tell you that I rather like emo. I find them to usually be great friends, and hot guys. lol. I have emo friends. If you are becoming emo because of your friend, then I would agree with your parents, but if you are staying yourself, while being her friend, then stay with her.
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I like to give relationship advice. I also like to receive it. It's funny how that works. I was in a relationship when I started using Advicenators and we are now good friends. I like someone now who is in a relationship. Stuff is very confusing, but I handle it well.
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Gender: Female Member Since: July 22, 2007 Answers: 46 Last Update: February 23, 2008 Visitors: 5223
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