my name is lindsey and i'm 16 years old. my friends are always giving me trouble. so, most likely i'll need advice on that a lot. i like to help people and give advice, so, if anyone needs it, i'm known to give good advice.
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16/f. I've been best friends with Maria for 3 years. We have an amazing bond, and we're so close. This year, however, we don't have any classes together, so naturally we don't talk as much. We are still just as close though. But there is this girl, Tina. She's been okay friends with us in the past, more so with Maria, but this year they have like 4 classes together. and here's how their relationship is. Tina will go and visit Maria at work for hours. She skips basketball games to go hang out at Marias work in hopes that they will get to talk. She leaves these really long comments on Maria's myspace that are talking about how Maria is the only person that makes Tina happy, and that she appreciates her so much. It's really weird. She always gives Maria these long hugs. She recently came out to both of us as Bisexual. Now, honestly, Maria and I both wonder if Tina has a crush on her.
Now, sometimes I think its ridiculous, but I can't help but get a little jealous. And I think Tina tries to push me out. Like, online, she'll talk to me and say "You know, me and maria really have become close this year. We really are best friends now". And Maria has a note box, and she told me look at the note from a boy she likes, while she was in the shower, and I was looking and couldn't find it, and found one from her and Tina, where Maria told her about her mom cheating on her dad. She said "I'm not going to tell *me* because I just don't ever wanna bring it up again" but I can't help but be hurt that she wouldn't tell me. She also tells Tina things before me, like all about boys she likes and stuff. I know they don't have THAT much talking time in class. It just hurts my feelings.
1. Do you think Tina has a Crush on Maria?
2. What should I do about my jealousy?
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if all of a sudden when tina meets maria, she comes out about being bi, then most likely she likes her. plus, spending so much time together and all. i would say that 99.9% sure she likes. her.
about your jealousy, have you tried talking to maria. thats the best way to go about things. almost all the time, it works. just sit her down and talk to her. if your really best friends, then maria will understand and try her hardest to make more time for you or lay off hanging with tina so much.
hope it works out.
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my names sarah 15/f.I just relized that im bisexual and i had a crush on my friend whos a girl but i dont know if i should tell her im bi.Because i don't want to hurt our friendship.So what should I do?Should i tell her?Or should i just keep crushes and friendships seperate(sp?)? (link)
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wow. thats hard. you don't want to lose the friendship over that. i think you should ask her what she would do if another girl liked her and see what her reaction is. then again, she might act like its weird cause she thinks you may think shes a freak, even if she was bi. do you understand that? i wouldn't just come out. test the waters. get it out in the open though about being bi and see how that works.
or you could go for it and easily explain it. if she doesn't feel the same, then explain that you'd like to stay friends and not let it get in the way.
i hope i helped.
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i use to be VERY sarcastic. I lost a few friends cause of it and relized it annoyed people. So i am tryignt o stop and think im doing a good job at it. but people still dont take me seriously. It making me kinda sad becuase i want to be more serious. Like i can be funny, but not funny in a sarcastic way but people think i am. What can i do. Sorry if it was confusing.
thankss. (link)
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yep. i'm like that too. i just want to be funny, not sarcasic. have you explained yourself to your friends?? thats all you can really do and continue to work on it. if friends can't accept you for who you are and even accept your faults, then they're not really friends at all. its not exactly a bad thing though, maybe its just those certain people who don't like that. don't change yourself though because someone wants you to change. you are who you are and if people can't accept you for that, you need to hang with people that will.
good luck.
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this may be long but i need your helpp please!!
my friend of one year, we became really close and we became a group with 3 other girls. so anyway, this year shes starting to be really rude to me, ignoring me, and treating me different than my other friends. i have talked to her about it at least 7 times and she does not listen. if i had the choice, i wouldnt be friends with her.. but we're in a group. AND shes in my lunch, and my only friend there and she totally ignores me. what can i do, or what can i do to not make me so upset?!! (link)
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well, i would just tell you to talk to her, but since you said you have like seven times, then i would just say to drop her. i've been in the same situation.
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Lately i have been feeling left out from my best friend, she hangs out with all these other girls and i am really glad she has lots of other friends but she dosent even talk to me anymore. I feel like she is to Big for me. You know what i mean? She brought me to a school basketball game with her and she didnt even sit by me or talk to me. She always has to be in the middle of the cirlce. It just makes me feel small and unprepared for something. I dont know what though. Again, i am glad she has friends but i just feel this way. I know i can hang out with my other friends but they are all are her really good friend now. They get sad when they cant sit by her at lunch and i havent sit by her in a long time. Any suggestions besisdes talking to her (tried that in the past, to long of a story).
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Wow. well, I was going to tell you to just talk to her and if you have then I would just tell you to continue to talk to her. But if she doesn't listen to you and this carries on much longer than I would suggest maybe you go and talk to your other friends and make new friends and I can almost promise you that she'll notice it and come back trying to talk to you. I've been put in the same situations millon times with my best friend. So, keep trying and don't give up, but at the same time try to make her realize what she's got.
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ok long story short; ive been skipping school this whole week, so me and my friend havn't been able to do this group project that's due tomorrow, yeah i know.. not good. now im really not in the mood to see her, and she's calling me everywhere and calling all my friends,, because she's probably freaking out cause we need to do the project. well im not going anyways tomorrow, and i know this i wrong, and i know im a bad friend.. bad student and everything.. but there's just so much going on you know? ugh, she'll probably badmouth me and make me look bad infront of our teachers and cassmates and stuff since i kinda stood her up.. or left her hanging or whatever.. SOOO, i need a GREAT excuse. What's the reason for not being in school (ive been saying sick to my teachers) and not answering her phonecalls, hanging up.. so on,
IS THERE even any good excuse? thanks. (link)
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Alright, I can tell you that you will only make your case worse if you lie about it. I would meet with your friend, and explain it to her that you've just got some stuff going on. Apoligize to her and just whatever you do, don't lie to her. Try to meet up if you have time and do the project.
Good luck.
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My best friend of 9 years is trying to hook up with my ex-boyfriend, who is my best friend, WHO i had sex with. She acts like theres nothing wrong with it, but it bothers me. When i tell her, she just calls me drama and starts cussing me out. Do I have a reason to be upset? I feel awful! (link)
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you do have a reason to be upset. this is a very common problem with friends. if you have already talked to her and nothing works and she doesn't listen to you then try to just get away for a while. create space. hang out with some other people. if she isn't gonna be conciderate of your feelings, then shes not a good friend. i understand you've been friends for so long and if you've made it this far, then she'll come back in the end.
hope it works out for you.
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okay well i have this 'friend' who was always nice to me to my face but always said stuff about me behind my back . we got into a fight that lasted about 2 months then she said she wants to be friends agian . my mom told me not to be friends with her becaause of waht she does because shes a back stabber! anways.. im sick of her doing that because she is only mean to me when shes with her friend and she will start fights with me . today [ like 10 minutes ago ] i gave her a piece of my mind and told her that she hurt me and what she does . ik what i did was right. idk what im relaly asking just i needed to tell that to someone . sorry♥ (link)
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i believe its always good to speak your mind. it was good to let her know how you feel. now, you'll feel better and she'll be concoius of it. try calmly talking to her and if all else fails, you need to drop the friendship-however hard it seems.
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my best friend (kristy) called me up on the phone the other day and was complaining about how bad her life was and she says everyone hates her and she wants to kill her self i mean this already happend once with another friend but she was serious is kristy serious about killing herself this is the second time she told me!! and the whole thing with her saying everyone hates her kinda makes me feel bad because what am i chop liver?? well anyways what do i do? is she really gonna kill her self or what (link)
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you need to sit down and talk to her one on one about it. becasuse if shes serious, then she needs some serious help. if shes not serious then tell her she shouldn't act like that or say that. I have a friend who talks like that all the time, but she never tries. so, don't ignore her next time she says it if you doubt it, but just calm her down and talk. remind her of how many people care about her.
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