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she wants to kill her self
my best friend (kristy) called me up on the phone the other day and was complaining about how bad her life was and she says everyone hates her and she wants to kill her self i mean this already happend once with another friend but she was serious is kristy serious about killing herself this is the second time she told me!! and the whole thing with her saying everyone hates her kinda makes me feel bad because what am i chop liver?? well anyways what do i do? is she really gonna kill her self or what
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okay well i think that you should talk to her about it tell her that she does have friends.. try to make her feel better but dont lie to her cause it could possibly make her feel even worse if she does find out. it will make her feel a lot better. and hang out with her a lot so that you know she can not try to kill herself. cause she could possibly mean that and one day she can just really do it. and sometimes you might blame yourself but it wouldnt be your fault at all just try to help her. hope everything works out
Good luck
♥
Lauraa
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I think that you should tell someone what she is thinking of. She needs help to get her life back under control. Also, keep reminding her of how forginate she is to have a loving family and you as a friend. Also, remember that you're being a good friend to her.
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I'm going to be compltely blunt about this. I don't feel bad for those people.. only because I was one when I was younger. She wants attention.. but she's wanting the wrong attention. Suicide is a VERY selfish thing. I have learned that life is what you make it. You make the decision whether to be happy or not. People are never going to enjoy their surroundings. I hate working two jobs. I work 15 hours or more a day. I hate the people I work with. I hate that my boyfriend has a short temper. I hate my fat thighs. I hate my annoying little sister. I hate my car. I hate paying for the car that I hate so much. I hate a lot of things, but I chose to be happy with those things because I only have one life.
Maybe you should explain to her about happiness and be positive. Don't baby her. Be blunt with her, yet not to where she will be offended by what you say.
I try to keep my distance from suicidal people.
It's a confusing thing.
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you need to sit down and talk to her one on one about it. becasuse if shes serious, then she needs some serious help. if shes not serious then tell her she shouldn't act like that or say that. I have a friend who talks like that all the time, but she never tries. so, don't ignore her next time she says it if you doubt it, but just calm her down and talk. remind her of how many people care about her.
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Anytime someone threatens suicide it needs to be taken seriously. You just cannot take the chance that she is kidding. If she isn't then her death would be very hard for you to live with.
Go tell her parents what she has told you. She needs help.
Here is a good article you should read.
The Silence Surrounding Teen Suicide
© 2000 Michele Toomey, PhD
michele@mtoomey.com
May 9, 2000
Statistics tell us that adolescents who commit suicide tend to tell their friends of their intentions. Their friends usually talk among themselves, but generally do not alert their parents or any other adult. When suicides actually occur, even though friends have been warned, there is rarely an intervention. Under the guise of loyalty and confidentiality, the justification for not involving adults is the code of silence. We may be appalled at this closed circle of "protective" silence and distorted sense of loyalty, but I suggest we look at ourselves before we look at our children. They learned this pattern from us. Adults don't tend to talk to each other about their children's problems. They, too, hide behind the code of silence. To avoid being told it's none of their business, parents make it none of their business. To avoid angering their adolescents, who want their privacy and their power, parents keep silent even when they suspect that their children might be engaging in dangerous behavior. Adolescents don't see adults as helpful, but as interfering. They don't see many adults confronting each other directly or successfully when things are out of line. They often see us griping "about" one another, getting angry at or defensive with each other, or just avoiding dealing with difficult or threatening topics. We teach them by example, "Don't get involved. It's none of your business," or "Leave it alone. Don't cause trouble by talking about it." Adolescents take it to the next level, "It's none of the adults' business. I can't tell them. I don't want to get in trouble." Most times in life the stakes aren't so noticeably high when we fail to confront a situation, but when it's knowledge of an intended suicide, our pattern of lack of courage and integrity in communicating with others can cost a life. We need to examine both our code of silence and our courage. We definitely need to change our pattern of avoidance. A life may depend on it.
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Im sorry! Tell your parents,teachers,someone. ANY AUDULT you trust! I mean, you could seriously loose a friend. Please she needs help. For hersake & yours! Tell me how it works out!
♥Sam.
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you need to ask her if shes really serious--and if she is she needs counseling or somthing, but you need to talk to her because if you dont no body can help you or your friend.
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