I'm a third year psychology student and i love giving advice to those who are in need of it but if you ask me a stupid question you should expect a stupid answer i love hanging out with friends and socialising i can be really conceited at times and if you get on my bad side you might wanna sleep with an eye open!
Altogether I would say that I am still finding myself and my place in this huge world, searching for the great amor and visiting beautiful places
so guys feel free to ask me anything that's on your mind and I will try to give you the most helpful advice
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Hey, I am a 17 year old female. I have a 17 year old male best friend. We have been best friends since the third day of third grade. I love him like a brother because that is how I see him. Everybody else, however, tells me daily that him and I are going to get married. That "everybody can see that we are in love except for us." I have read numerous places that a boy and a girl can not be best friends because of sexual tension. Either the girl wants to have sex with the boy or the boy wants to have sex with the girl. I completely disagree, my friend and I aren't like that.
What do you guys think? Can a girl and boy be best friends and that's it? (link)
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I am currently experiencing the same thing that you are and its really annoying that people can't mind their own business, but there's nothing wrong with being with friends with somebody of the opposite sex, some people find it more comforting and have a better understanding, there are cases where the friendship leads to abit of romance but there's nothing wrong with that, you're partner would be somebody you trust, but a boy and a girl can certainly stay just friends don't bother about what people say, as long as you know where you two stand
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I hate my best friend, i'm not going to go into detail, it just all sums up into her being a bitch. Anyway, this is what happens when i get mad at her:
I'm nice, explain how i feel about the situation, ask why this happened. she doesn't text back for a few days, then pretends like nothing happened, i, just wanting to move on, pretend to. things go back to normal, another week goes by, she does something wrong again, and the situation repeats.
Because of this, I have a lot of anger towards her. I'm mad at her again, and i know in a few days she will text me.
Should I A. just never respond or B. bitch her out?
I am not being friends with her anymore (link)
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well when you guys had a problem you should have asked her personally instead of texting her, this is more effective and in that way she can't ignore you. For now if you do want to be friends with her you should explain the situation to her and tell her that if she is gonna continue acting the way she is then you're not gonna be friends with her and besides she doesn't seem like a true friend but that's up to you to decide and there are billions of people in the world that you can be friends with you don't really need this particular one
best of luck
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I am a 14 year old girl. I have so many problems in life! Soooo many. Ive been to defax twice and therapy for trauma and my friends and I get into drama and my lifes falling apart. I need help. I lost the person today that i always talk to. And i made the STUPIDEST mistake to tell my moms best friend that i dont like her! I have GOT to start making better choices. God is for sure in my life. I am going to heaven and everything and I pray about it every night. I need someone to talk to. Someone I can see and hear clearly back. A human. But i am definantly not shutting God out. I am so worried and scared all the time and I want to change my life around but I dont know how. I need help. (link)
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well you can always tell your moms friend that you were being silly and that you didn't mean it remember sweety that everything can be fixed and it will just take time so it sounds like you want to turn over a new leaf and that's really good everybody makes mistakes and goes through challenges it's just a part of life don't worry your life is not falling apart you can always pick up the pieces and get back on track. you said you and your friends got into drama, you should explain what you're explaining on this site and they're your friends and i'm sure that they'll understand after you've done that, why not start a new hobbie something you enjoy that will get your mind off things for a while this should help and you would have something to focus on remember it's not the end of the world you sound like a good person and good things happen to good people so just be strong.
feel free to ask me anything you're having a problem with. best of luck
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Alright, so i'm having a sweet sixteen coming up in 4 days. I invited about thirty people. People that i use to be friends with, lets say about three of them i did not invite. It all started where they all turned on me and stopped talking to me because they had a party where they drank alchohol, didn't invite me and i got angry and i told my parents. First off, i tell my parents everything and my parents could give two craps about any of these friends. I turnto them for everything and i made the mistake of telling them in front of a fake friend. So they all started ignoring me, made me cry, and actually had the nerve to post a status on facebook about how immature someone is to not invite someone to their birthday party because there mad. I usually don't confront people, i just like it to slip by but i'm starting to realize i need to stand up for myself. So what do you think, confront or ignore? (link)
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i think that you should definately confront them about this if you ignore them it's noot going to stop and they will keep making these nasty comments, don't be rude about it because this could make things worse simply speak to them and make them understand that you confide in your parents and tell them why you didn't invite them but be stern and show them that you're no longer gonna take their shit.
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My friend's DISTANT relative died...and she's been throwing a pity party for weeks.
At first I was okay with it because I know how people react when others die, but it's been about a month and she's still at it.
I'm not being cold, but when someone keeps bringing down the mood randomly (for something not that serious since everyone has to die sometime) it really bugs everyone. I felt like I shouldn't say anything at the beginning because everyone grieves (although they were definitely not close) but now I'm pretty sure I should say something. It makes her look like she wants attention (and this is probably the reason) but what can i say that doesn't sound too harsh to let her know how it's affecting all her friends? (link)
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well it's prettey obvious that she just likes the attention that you all are giving her it's understandable if it was a close relative but i guess thats kinda over doing it so you guys should just change the topic everytime she brings down the mood or take her out somewhere fun and show her a good time if this doesn't help then you should really sit her down and talk about it tell her that she can't keep leading her life this way and her relative that passed away would'nt want to see her this way so she should smile because her relative would want to see her happy
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image you trust your friends to let the know about your boyfriend but all you girl freind is going to look to do is to be with your bf (link)
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well if you're absolutely certain that she's out to get your boyfriend then this girl is obviously not your friend at the end of the day you can't trust anybody but yourself so you should either speak to her her about it if it's worth solving or just simply stay away from her
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Okay well. I recently made up with a guy friend of mine and it's been great :) but when one of my friends, lets call her "Lisa", talks to him I get jealous. (We used to like eachother).
"Lisa" always starts the conversations and today it seemed like she purposefully went and stood next to him.
I don't know why I feel like this, and I really wanna stop!
What can I do?
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He said he liked me a few weeks ago, but he says he doesnt THINK he likes me anymore. What does he man by "think"?
THANKYOU! (link)
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well you say that you two USED to like each other so whats the need to feel jealous? maybe your friend lisa likes him, if he says he doesn't "think" he likes you anymore then it shows that this guy is really confused and can't make up his mind he's toying with you and probably wants to keep you waiting, so my advice to you is to just tell him that you prefer being friends since he can't make up his mind just move on honey he clearly isn't the one for you
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Hello,
I very rarely contribute to this site, although find it to be very beneficial and I'm glad it's around. I've had some questions answered through other posters, so I often lurk, I just very rarely contribute.
That being said, I'm seeking some advice.. I'm good friends this this girl from a town nearby. She attends public school, while I'm homeschooled. This limits us from seeing one another very often, although we talk very often online and fairly often on the telephone. Currently, we're not seeing each other in person, but every few months. This will change if this relationship ever develops into something more.
The girl is currently dating a guy and their relationship appears to be fairly decent. I've gotten some vibes from her that seem to imply she has an interest in me. She tells me she loves me (which is something I am hesitant in saying in return, as the young age of 15, I feel love is a hard thing to understand) and she's also sent me some photos of herself that her boyfriend would probably not appreciate. Now why that generally would indicate she's a wee bit on the skanky side, that's not the case, she's just a girl that trusts me, as we've been real close friends for a long time.
That said, I really want to see our relationship move on, but is it worth it? I suppose my real question is, what to do? Part of me wants to pursue this further, since she's implied she likes me, but another part of me makes me hesitant, as if she is in a relationship now and liking another guy, I could very well end up being cheated one if I were to pursue this.
I'm a real selective guy (I know that sounds contradictory, a hormonal teenager being selective), but I have standards and she is really a wonderful girl. I just think she's maybe a little confused, I certainly don't want to think that she is interested in me and wants to have me around on the side, along with her boyfriend.
Thanks in Advance,
Chase, 15/M (link)
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well have you ever asked her why she is sending you these signals and why she tells you that she loves you if she has a boyfriend? you should ask her that and if she really wanted to be with you she would have left her boyfriend she's just toying with you, because you're homeschooled she has an advantage and thinks that she can play with you and other boys at her school because you wont be there to watch her constantly this girl sounds like trouble and she obviously has no respect for herself so forget her sweety or remain friends with her but don't take it any further than that because you'll just end up getting hurt
best of luck
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How can I tell when a guy really likes me? (link)
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well you'd find him staring at you at times, he would look into your eyes when talking to you, find ways to touch you and get really close when speaking to you but all guys are different, why not just hint him? and find out for yourself
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my friends have been really annoying like one of my friends is really needy and she is bisexual and she is always holding my hand like we are dating(i am not bisexual but i don't care if people are)and we are not and my other friends are just like getting into all this shit and they don't get how much pressure that causes me i had a melt down about a week ago because of all my pressure and half of it came from them and the only person i trust is my bestest friend but i only see her about 1 every 2 months because she doesnt live near me anymore and i can't talk to her a lot because lately she has been busy and i really don't want to be friends with my friends anymore beside my bestest friend. i don't know what to do help!!!!!!
i am 14 and a girl (link)
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well i think you should start hanging out with the guys abit more you know "flirt" and make it clear to them that you're straight and if this doesn't work then the only way is to sit them down and talk to them about this tell them that you're not comfortable with this and if they still don't understand then they're not really your friends
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My bestfriends and I have always been really really close. And I was just wondering if you have any ideas about nicknames for each of them. Her name is Tia (in spanish)and some 4 Renee (in french). Thx! plz get back to me ASAP. (link)
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thats a tough one because i dont know you guys personally but try taking quizzes online depends on your personality and they will send you a nickname
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on the inside, i am an insecure person. people who really truly know me know that, many do not. i am constantly saying negative things about myself. people think that im doing it to get positive feedback and responses. to me, ive always put myself down since i can remember. the only reason i do it is because it makes me feel comfortable to point out my flaws before someone else has time to criticize them. how can i try to control myself from saying these things. its basically a reflex at this point. and i have been working on my insecurities over the years, and although they have dwindled, when it comes down to it, i am just a self conscious person at my core. basically, i just need some advice. how do i stop myself from criticizing myself openly? how can i ever really like myself? thanks (link)
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personally i think that this is just a phase that you are going through and with time it will pass but lets try and speed up the process start by getting a new haircut or try buying some new clothes put a little make up on this will help boost your confidence you know "look good feel good" or maybe you can tell your friends to help give you a mini make over just so that you can feel good about yourself trust me by looking good on the outside you will feel great on the inside and you will feel really confident
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19/f. i can't believe im sitting here complaining about this. but anyways i was friends with a girl. let's call her Jane. Jane and i worked together, and we had a math class semester. we hung out for a while and i told her a few embarrassing secrets about me. Well anyways she was rude to me sometimes and i was too and it kind of hurt so i told her and she said she was joking and she didn't mean to hurt me. well anyways Jane and i spent two weekends in a row. then she had to go to San Antonio so we didn't hangout that weekend. the next weekend i asked her if she wanted to hangout but she said her mom took her phone, so i said okay. Then i got a text from her phone saying why don't you go to Dairy Queen and buy a hamburger. And i had told her about this boy i met there and went on a date with and we hooked up, and then she started talking to him on facebook because she wanted to see who he was, so i was like fine, and she became friends with him. and that text was a reference to me being skinny obviously. I asked her about that text and she told me that Fred did it. She said he took her phone and was texting people. I was mad but then i got over it. I felt stupid though for telling her my secrets. then i asked her like maybe a few weeks later if she wanted to hangout and she said she doesn't know what she's doing. but then i saw her facebook status and some girl asked her if she wanted to hangout on Friday and she said yes. now i had a problem with this for a while but then i said whatever they're other people out there and we hung out a lot anyways. so Jane has this gay friend she hung out with a lot. At school he saw me and said oh hey your Jane's friend and i was like yeah and felt awkward, because i hadn't talked to them in so long, and i was mad because i remembered that text he sent. I wasn't sure if it was him, but anyways today Fred saw me again and Jane was with him and he said really loudly hey Jane look it's your best friend and she turned around and i was like hey and i felt weird and Jane just started laughing in my face. and i was so embarrassed i walked away and she was like um okay? and i heard her saying something but fred was like shh. so i don't know what her problem is. i mean i hadn't seen her in so long and when she saw me she was so rude. i mean she had no reason to be. so why would she do that? i mean she had no reason what so ever. (link)
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well its obvious that jane is telling all your secrets to her other friends and quite frankly i hate to say it but she takes you for a joke because if she laughs with fred in your face i wouldn't really call that a friend try to stay away from her just ignore her and if doesn't help then its best that you give her a piece of your mind some people are as cruel as her but don't worry every dog has it's day
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This girl I'm friends with started calling me her "bestie" today at lunch. She said something like "You know what, Bestie? You're the greatest." I don't really know what that means? What does it mean when somebody calls you their bestie? Or besty, maybe? I don't know? (link)
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bestie means best friends oh and by the way do you think that maybe theres a possibility that this chick likes you as in more than friends?
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So at my new job I became friends with this lady. She's about 40, and I'm 18. Anyways, she invited me to her birthday party along with several of my supervisors and bosses. She really wants me to go, but I think it would be inappropriate for me to go because all the people that are going are much older, not to mention, my bosses. Especially since they would all be drinking and I wouldn't be. I know she would be disappointed if I didn't go.
So what should I do? Do I go to make her happy or do I not go? (link)
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go to the party it would be rude not to and if you don't pitch up when you see each other at work it would be awkward so go and make the best of it it would give you a chance to interact with your co-workers which would be good for your job
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About a month ago I went to this concert with my friend. It was an amazing concert and we met a huge group of boys there (like 10 of them). We found out they live in a town about thirty minutes away from where we live and we exchanged phone numbers. So I was texting a few of them but one guy and I really understood eachother and got a long great. We had deep conversations about drugs, religion, and we both thought it was awesome with could be so open with eachother. His name is Alec. About a week or two after the concert we hung out with one of the guys named Zac and only him. That was the only time we seen any other them since the concert. We have talked about hanging out again. I still have contact with all them but not daily, every once in a while. We are supposed to meet up with them at another concert in October. Anyways, lately Alec hasn't been texting me back. Like we had a great thing going and then BAM! it stopped. I will text him and no response at all. A week ago or so I had my friend text him and he texted her back but not me. So the other day, I found out he got a girlfriend. So I thought hey maybe the reason he hasn't been texting me back is because he has a girlfriend. And I'll be the first to admit we did flirt a bit. So maybe since he has a girlfriend he doesn't want that and I don't know. I know if I had gotten a boyfriend I'd still talk to him. So why do you think he hasn't texted me back? (link)
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to tell you the truth this guy alec was just going out with friends looking for a good time and he probably thought that he would get it from you its clear he had a girlfriend this whole time and just wanted something on the side hes the type of guy that moves from one chick to another so screw him honey! delete his number off your cell and avoid all contact with him its for the best
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