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my friends grandfather died this morning. hes really hurt. but i dont know what to say to him. im scared ill say something wrong. what should i tell him? (link)
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My brother died at the age of 24 and then 3 months later my grandpa died at 75. Here is what I would have wanted someone to say to me at the time:
"I'm sorry for your loss. It must be really hard and I want you to know that I will always be there for you so you can call me or come over anytime to talk or just to hang out. Also, I'm sure your grandpa wouldn't like to see you like this but it's okay to cry for someone you loved. Hang in there and things will get better it's just going to take a long time."
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well today my bff called me a pendeja(its a bad word in spanish)when i walked away she told me that she was just joking around and that i take everything to personnal she said that i was like her mom then she said that she was just getting revenge for freshmen year when i got mad at her for wat other people said(we are in 10 grade now)then 2day after school she waited for me but i was so mad at her that i walked ahead of her she then her friend asked why i was doing that she said that i was mad at her i just left and she just stayed wit her other friend.Wat should i do? (link)
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Well I looked up pendeja and ya it is bad word and no one should be called that for no reason. If nothing happened before that she probably was joking around, but if something did happen then she wasn't joking around. So say something didn't happen before she called you a bad word...she probably was joking, but she should also appoligize because that could hurt someone joking or not. I see why you are mad at her even if something didn't happen before. Then think about what you could have done to make it stop there. Maybe you couldn't do anything and that's fine. From what I've heard I'm on your side. Then she said she was getting revenge...revenge is a preschool thing when it comes to a year or more dating back. That is very stupid and it is no excuse for calling you an asshole. You were right to just walk away. You needed time to cool off and maybe now you are ready to talk to her about. It is a good thing you walked off and didn't start a confrontation. So say something did happen to make her call you a pendeja...you should think about what it was that set her off and ask if maybe you were the one who really started this whole thing. If it was you apologize and expect one from her too. The revenge thing once again is immature. Tell her if she is still whining about that one thing one year ago she isn't a really true friend. True friends forgive and forget. And once again you were totaly right to just walk away. So what do you do...tell her how you feel about the situtation. Tell her that you were offended by it joking or not. Tell her that is not acceptable behavior. You be the bigger person and maybe next she will have more respect for you. Respect=Love=Relationships=Communication. Get her to respect you she will love more. Build a better relationship of love and respect. And then the last part. Communication is what keeps us on our toes. So talk to her if you are having a problem with her. Don't start the conversation out with yelling. Just tell her everything (from the first time you saw her to now) of how you are feeling about your relationship. Open up to her it will make it better I promise!
Hope I helped
Kelse Kaye
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