ive been friends with this girl since 1st grade, on and off (little elementry school fites seperated us`during elem. school) and 5th grade everyone hated her, even my new best friend hated her too, and i almost went against her but didnt. Ive stuck by her side for the longest time, but then 6th grade came and she became freinds with everyone, and she hung out with everyone else more and more, and me less and less.
I felt betrayed, like 'what am i not good enough'. we still hung out but not alot. Then 7th grade came, and we were in differant clusters (other schools mite use teams, groups,...) and she made friends with so many differant types of people, most hated eachother. from the preppiest happiest girls, to the bitchiest wanna bees, to the 'punks' of 7th grade. and so she hung out with me even more less than last year.
We went on a summer vaca together and i thought things would be differant, or well thats what she said.
Then 8th grade came and she narrowed down her friends, and i was 'one of them' but i didnt really consider myself it. We attempted to become best freinds again like 7 times, I would send her random long notes throughout the year saying, things have gone bad again, we'd hang out, then i wouldnt speak to her for like 3-5 weeks...then id send a new note.
now 9th grade has come,in the begin, of the year, we didnt talk much but she would atleast say Hi. and talk to me alittle. then she asked me if i wanted to come over and we went through our busy sceduales (she always says shes busy) and i stayed after school with her, and she hung out with like other people and basically ignored her, then at her house we watched some boring movie, and i fell asleep. then i havent talked to her for like.....4 months. then i found out 3 weeks ago that she is always high and smokes pot, and that she isnt usually really busy, but is hanging out with potheads. geting high.
i dont know what i should. she hasnt been a good frend since elementry school, but when i needed her desperatly, she was usually there....idk.
its long but you can just skim it if you want.
Well hunn, people change over the year. You can still be friend with her but that doesn't mean you two can be the best of friend. She can be one of your good friend. Since she's always there for you when you're in desperate need. But I don't think she can be your bestfriend. Because a bestfriend is someone you can trust, someone you can talk to, share everything to and no secrets. Someone you can depend your life upon. Someone who gets you or can predict you're emotion without you telling them. I think she has none of those.
So I say you can keep her as a friend but not a close friend. It doesn't seem like you trust her enough to be close to her anyways.
hope I helped. good luck with your decision.
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Alright so like me and my best friend used to be really close, but then i met this guy that i like and my best friend and him don't get along at all. Ill admit he is an ass to her but thats only because she's annoying when he is around. So when i go to hang out with the guy i like and his friends (my other friend and i leave school for lunch or whatever) she gets soooo mad. I hang out with her a lot on the days that i leave to hang out with the guy i like because we have the same off hour and other stuff.
She'll like get super mad and cry and all this ridiculous stuff just because the guy i like and her dont like each other. I want to keep going to lunch with the guys and my friend because we have a lot of fun, but i dont want her to be mad at me!!! WE arent as close anymore like we used to be because she keeps getting mad at me! I donno what to do. :[
if it helps im 15/f
Your friend need to learn something called "sharing". There's nothing you can much if she's that way. You can tell her, she needs to share. Its not your fault if she doesn't get along with the guy you like and his friends. She's not your only friend. She needs to accept that. its not like you're abandonded her. You still hang out with her and so on. You just like hanging with other people too. She should find new friends too. umm also tell her you're trying to balancing out your time with her and the guy. She should stop worrying and overreacting. She's only making a fool out of herself. Let her know that its not that you don't want to hang out wit her. You want to spend some of your time with your other friends too. [sorry if its harsh]. But truth hurts.
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14/f. My friend's birthday was the other week and me and my other friends are planning a surprise party for her. Does anybody have any ideas? We want to do something creative, not just at one of our houses. She doesn't like the mall or movies or bowling, but she likes baking cookies and watching old movies :). Theres about 6 girls to invite including her, and also about 5 boys. Thanks in advance ^^.
You can have a "dare night"/.. think of something creative and have an outin dare night. That should be funn. Like hide it at stores and you have clues and each person have a dare and they go to which every clue leads them to. That should take all night. Its also funn!. Then you guys can order pizza after, ice cream or cake [you guys can bake her one and surprise her.] and rent an old movie [that everyone like] to watch.
OR you can give have a scavanger hunt. Create clues and have her go find each clues which led to her surprise party. .. you can throw her party at a restaurant.. and when she gets there.. have everyone sing her happy bday song and jump out to surprise her. Have dinner,hang out then you guys can go back to one of you girl's house and watch a movie , eat, and play games?/.. twister, monopoly, DDR?, video games, truth or dare, etc.
hope I helped =]. good luck
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Thursday i told my friends i was going out with my crush in my gym class. when i told them one of my friends ask me praivtely if me and him are going to kiss. i look at her and said "ummm yeah why?" she respond "well you know i dont like when people kiss"
(because she told me she hated when she see people kiss in movies or in person she thinks its gross)its odd cause we are all teens but why would she seem gross out when people kiss?
anyways i couldnt belive she said that and that made me think 'is she jealous of me or him? or does she want a realtionship too with soemone?' she never met the guy before and he is new to the school. so what do you think?
well I think she is not used to people kissing because she never been through a relationship or dealt with that kind of situation before. So she mights be a little uncomfortable. But jealousy can be possibility. She mights be interested in him too. You should just confront her about the situation. Then why would she care?? is she going to be there when you and your guy kiss?? plus if she doesn't like it or think its gross when people kiss then tell her not to look. It might be harsh but its logic.
You can have a one on one talk with her and ask her what her deal is. You can confront her in a nice way. If she only say she isn't comfortable when two people are "interacting", then tell her to not look. If she sees anything, just turn away. its not a hard thing to do. You just gave her a solution to solve her problem.
hope I helped. good luck =].
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okay, well, i have a boyfriend and my best friend (or was... i dont know) is a bisexual and she says she is in love with me. i have been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months and it hurts to not have my best friend and my boyfriend @ the same time. she says she cant be my friend or talk to me because shes too much in love with me. does this make sense to anyone? what do you all think i should do? im very stubborn towards letting her back in as my friend but only because this isn't the first time she's decided not to talk because shes too much in love with me. (like..4 times) i dont know. how do i know if the next time she wont have that excuse not to talk to me? can you please help, anyone? i rate high! =]
thnx.
If she's really your friend and deeply in love you then she wouldn't stop talking to you. When you love someone, it makes you happy just to see them smile and being happy. She seems you chose the "love" or your friendship. You can try yo tell her that you're not into her like that and if she's really your friend... she wouldn't stop talking to you just because she's too much in love with you. [her perspective... I know how hard it to talk to someone you love so much and they don't love you back. Its not an easy thing]. But if she loves you like she said she does .. then wouldn't she rather have your friendship than act like she doesn't know you at all?.. ask her that. if she chose not talkin to you then you should know what to do. If a person doesn't want to be your friend .. its hard to be friend with them. Friends are like relationships. It takes two to make it work. Also she doesn't deserve to be your friend .. there are many other friends out there. you can find loyal ones.
well good luck. hope everything will works out for the best. [don't rate unless I help].
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okay, well one of my best friends whom i love a lot!!! ,is really TOO into her boyfriend, like i love her to death but i want to find a way to let her know that she is way to clingy. because, well im really close with her boyfriend to, and ive known him longer and hes also one of my best friends and hes told me that he is gonna break up with her over this clingy issue, and i dont want them to break up because they are a really cute couple and i know that they live each other.. and well, is there a way to tell her to stop without having to tell her what HE said, because since im also friends with him i cant go tell her because that would make him mad at me.. etc, so im in a tough situation.. HELP!!!
Well you can go by telling her that you want an one on one with her. Then you can say you don't want her to take it the wrong way or anything. But from your opinion, you feel she's a bit clingy to her bf. Guys like it better when girls are less clingy. Also you can give her girls advices so that it wouldn't make you look like you're concern instead of have her think you're jealous or think a wrong way about you. Either way you help her out and didn't tell her wut her bf (your bestfriend) told you. Good luCk!.. Hope I helped. =]
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Alright, so I have this friend, she is a girl, she's 16 (im 15). Everytime i hang out with my boyfriend, her and my boyfriend's friends (who are all 16 as well), all the attention seems to go to her whenever she is around. I dont mean to be mean or anything, but it just seems like no one pays any attention to me. Im not tryin to be a bitch or anything, its just im jealous, because even sometimes my boyfriend talks to her more than me some days, but then walks over to say hi to me and hug me because he sees me not talking to anyone or i just look upset. The reason im not talking to anyone is because i cant relate to anything they talk about and the things i like to talk about dont interest them. Also, my friend is a tomboy, as am i (sort've), but she is built better than me, like she has bigger boobs..blah blah.. so i think thats the reason behind everything...so, ya. I dont want to mean mad at everyone because they are focusing on her and not me. Could someone give me advice to do something before something bad happens?
well jealousy is something you can't help. You can't help it to be mad at her for getting all the attentions.. you want some to especially from your boyfriend.
Since you said you're kinda like a tomboy, why don't you talk to the guys about what they like to do or video games, things that guys like to do and you also comfortable talking about it to them.
The thing with your boyfriend is that he mights talk to her more sometimes, maybe is because they're same age. But you're the one that's with him not her. He likes you apparently not because of your big boobs and facial things. He likes you because of your inner beauty and realistic.
So you can try to relate to them. Talk about things that you and them both like. I have a friend, he's a junior and he's going out wit a freshman. She gets along with his friends pretty well. She's just being herself. She's somewhat a tomboy too. Guys don't necessary likes girly girl. They're being shallow when they talk to those girls. So yeah, try talking to them with both of yours interest and talk to your boyfriend about how you feel about that girl getting all the attention. Afterward, you can get more attention.
hope everything will works out for you. good luck
-vyvy =']
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okay, well, im just gonna say it: im really popular at my school. i think im pretty, and so does everybody else. im not gonna go into detail. cuz you know how popular kids are. well, this girl at school thinks that shes better than us!! WE dont even have that attitude!! we dont talk about how rich we are, or whatever, we just like to have fun and hang out!! she is always like screaming through the hallways, "omg jenny, do you have my ipod and louis vuitton bag??!!" and everybody else can see that shes trying to impress us. but we dont know why. shes really slutty and only has a few friends. she moved into my neighborhood a few years ago, and i asked her to hang out with me and my friends. after she did and we went back to school in the fall, she felt like she had to impress us. why is this??!! because she always copying our websites and stuff and badmouths us!! she is soo annoying!!
how about you should let her know how you feel about her. Being straight up with her is one way to solve this problem. You can tell her you don't mean anything offensive so don't take it the wrong way. Then you can go on tell her how she should be herself instead of trying to impress others because you and your friends are not impressed.
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I was wondering if anyone knew a site where i can meet guy penpals from the ages of 14-16 .. I dont want preppy penpals though I want the "emo" penpals. So if anyone can give me a site that would be great
go here .. www.imbee.com .. it's like myspace but it's for kids from 14 up .
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