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me n my best friend
Alright so like me and my best friend used to be really close, but then i met this guy that i like and my best friend and him don't get along at all. Ill admit he is an ass to her but thats only because she's annoying when he is around. So when i go to hang out with the guy i like and his friends (my other friend and i leave school for lunch or whatever) she gets soooo mad. I hang out with her a lot on the days that i leave to hang out with the guy i like because we have the same off hour and other stuff.
She'll like get super mad and cry and all this ridiculous stuff just because the guy i like and her dont like each other. I want to keep going to lunch with the guys and my friend because we have a lot of fun, but i dont want her to be mad at me!!! WE arent as close anymore like we used to be because she keeps getting mad at me! I donno what to do. :[
if it helps im 15/f
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Two things need to happen here for this to work.
The first thing is you need to decide if you're willing to risk your friendship over a guy. If not, then tell the guy you like that it wouldn't kill him to be a little nicer to your friend. If he's an ass to her, stop him. If you defend your friend, he should stop and then they can get along. If he doesn't stop, it's time to choose: him or your friend.
The second thing is your friend needs to realize that you are allowed to hang out with whoever you want to. I can understand she's mad that he is a jerk to her, but other than that she needs to get over the fact that you want to hang out with someone other than her. Try to include her a lot more. Once you can get the guy you like to stop being an ass to her, they will hopefully get along and your friend won't mind hanging out with them so much.
Sit down with your friend and have a long talk with her. Tell her you don't want to lose her friendship over a boy, but there's no reason why she has to get so pissed off at you just because you want to hang out with him sometimes. If she's a good friend, things will smooth over. If he's a good guy, he'll stop being a jerk to her. If he doesn't, you probably don't want to have anything to do with anyway.
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Your friend need to learn something called "sharing". There's nothing you can much if she's that way. You can tell her, she needs to share. Its not your fault if she doesn't get along with the guy you like and his friends. She's not your only friend. She needs to accept that. its not like you're abandonded her. You still hang out with her and so on. You just like hanging with other people too. She should find new friends too. umm also tell her you're trying to balancing out your time with her and the guy. She should stop worrying and overreacting. She's only making a fool out of herself. Let her know that its not that you don't want to hang out wit her. You want to spend some of your time with your other friends too. [sorry if its harsh]. But truth hurts.
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