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My best friend and I have been friends since third grade. I am a girl and he is a boy, we are both 16. I feel like I have a fairy tale friendship with this boy. We had our own little posse in third grade, it was him, me and two gay boys. We were always together in school. Then they two boys moved away leaving just me and this boy who has now grown to be one of my best guy friends. I can trust him with anything. I like him always being there because girls are catty and start drama all the time, being friends with this boy assures me that my secrets are actually safe with him. Every time I'm down, I text him and he would make me feel so much better, all the time. When I got into a fight with an ex friend of mine over her calling me fake, he said I wasn't at all and he hadn't a clue as to where she got that idea. My friend isn't the most confident person you'd meet so I always try to help him feel better whenever he's down and give him little ego boosts. He knows everything about me, bands I like, my favorite color, how I like to do my hair, my best friends name that goes to another school. We talk allll the time, whether it's in school or out of school, texting. We text all the time as well about nonsense. I would always text him with the intention of finding something out but then we would talk for four more hours after that about God knows what. Whenever I have trouble on homework or I need him to help me study for a test, I'll text him and he'll ask what question I'm on and he'll help me out so much that I understand everything for the rest of the chapter. My friend sings, he writes songs and plays them on his guitar.. he can't sing for me, though ): he sang in front of a crowd at a party, he wrote a song and sang it to the last girl he liked, yet he can't sing for me. Why is that? Every time I make a plan for him to come over and have a jam sesh, he bails.. reschedules.. then bails again. He also wears one of my silly bandz and I bring him in his favorite pack of crackers, and he eats them everyday at lunch. He goes to parties quite frequently, but when I go, he asks whose it is. A few days ago, I texted my friend that his buddy was complaining about how hungry he was and my friend texted me back asking "texting or in person?" Was he trying to subtly ask if I was hanging out with this boy?
Both of our moms think we are going to get married one day.
Everyone thinks we like each other because we're so close and can tell each other everything. I tell them that we are just best friends.
What do you think? And don't answer that I should talk to him about this because when I bring up that everyone thinks we like eachother, he just says "wow.."
Thanks!

Its kinda hard to understand what your asking here. If you need additional advice let me know. But from what im reading it looks like you both have a best friend and emotional connectivity. When I say emotional I mean as more than friends. The way how you give him expectations of singing songs to you like he did his ex, or the way you feel for this guy so strongly seems to go over the limit of best friend and more into an "emotional" state. The way I see it, you need to think to yourself what is it that you REALLY want from your BFF. Do you just wanna be friends all your life. Or do you think that you want a little more possibly someday. What is it that you really want, once you answer that, you know what to do.

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17/F

I have known "Ashley" as an acquaintance for a couple of years. Last semester, we had an art class together, and we gossiped and talked a lot because we didn't know anyone else. I was never really close to her at all. However, at the beginning of the semester, I was very kind to her and invited her to hang out once in a while. I don't know how it happened, but now she won't leave me alone!

For instance, I invited her to my friend's swim meet, and she keeps calling it 'our thing' and she acts as if it had always been our thing (even though i used to go alone). She's constantly inviting herself to places with me. Like, today I had a movie date with my best guy friends, and she tagged along without bothering to ask any of us. I don't mind, but sometimes I'd like to bond with my best friends and when she feels left out, she mopes and tries to drag me around and play the pity card when she shouldn't have invited herself in the first place. My guy friends are getting annoyed with her too, because she's constantly trying to be their friend and tries too hard. One of them said, "It's actually creepy how much she tries/wants to be like you." She also has crazy mood swings and when she feels left out, she thinks everyone's out to get her and that everyone's being bitchy towards her (when in actuality it's more of a "don't tell everyone someone's private business" sort of thing)

I'm getting SO annoyed, but i don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt her feelings, but she is not giving me enough space and I feel suffocated, and I'd hardly consider her a close friend.

I will give u the best advice that i can

Don't let her run your social life seriosuly
This is the est advice I believe anyone can give you
I'm sure that talking to her won't help at all because of the way you describe her to be

The best to do is to take ACTION

Tell her that she's been pushing a bit too far and you need your space and that its not that you dont like her, jus that you need time to yourself when you feel like it and thats not what she's giving you

If all else fails just ignore her, any time she comes to you in person, just do your best to shrug her off, she may think your mean and she may be right, but at least she'll pick up the hint and leave you alone for good

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17/f

So a few months ago me and my no ex had broke up. It hurt a lot and it still does but im better at dealing with it now... The weird thing is though I feel as if I have no feelings for anyone... Like friendship or anything. I sometimes find myself dreading to hang out with people... Normally Im a very affectionate person and love to get out with people. Im a very social person. All this started happening after the break up. It's weird because Im trying to get out there and im trying to like new people and stuff but it's not working I just feel like no one matters anymore. I tried detaching myself from my ex but I feel like I did with everyone around me too. It's weird....Any ideas about whats up with me?

Your moving too fast, you just broke up and your trying to move on to keep up with your social life when you know your not ready for that yet. I can tell you this, because just today I had my heart broken, and it wasn't pretty. I will tell you though that I got over it in like 3 hours however because I sat in my room for 3 hours just thinking. Thinking until I fell asleep about how I need to get over this person and how I need to find someone more appreciative of me. And I encouraged myself that I was right. So, encourage yourself that your ready to move on, and MOVE ON... but don't move on until your ready to, I know I wasn't ready to move on and when I tried to, it bothered me so much that I cursed my friends out because I was so upset, so don't let that happen to you, make sure that you think before you go out again and straighten out your brain cells, lol... That's what I did and I'm over it. I know that I have someone to fall back on that I know I can love. So please take this advice. I hope I helped

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19 year old female. my best friend is 18. we've been friends for years now, i trust him with everything i have but i'm one of the most sarcastic people you will ever meet, he knows that. well tonight he was texting me and somehow got confused on what i was trying to say and i was like you are so slow and he was like no i'm not i'm just confused, what were you trying to say? well then i got confused and i was like, now i dont remember, because you confused ME now. i was just like, your always confused, everytime i say something i have to explain it to you! and he was like because you say weird stuff. then i was like well then maybe you shouldn't talk to me anymore if i say weird stuff, keep in mind i was being SARCASTIC, and i didn't know what to say back to him. and well after he didn't text me back. now i don't know what to think, i don't think he would of taken it seriously he knows i'm always like that but it did kind of hurt when he was like "you say weird stuff". what do you think is running through his mind?

He knows that your SARCASTIC, but he just is taking the situation very strongly and immaturely and to the heart, when he shouldn't be. Right now, if he was really mature, he would simply handle the situation by laughing about it, and if he knows your SARCASTIC, than he shouldn't act like such a wimp when you say "we shouldn't talk anymore". He's not handling the situation maturely, so you should make the first move. Confront him the next time you see him and see what's up... As far as what's going through his mind right now, I can simply tell you that he's most likely trying to hate you or something like that for what you said. But, he can't because he knows that your the "right" one and he's the "wrong" one.

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okay. so I have this abnormally large unhealthy obsession with the jonas brothers. like massive! like every other word in my vocabulary is jonas related. and well I have a couple of friends that like them, then a couple that don't. well I talk a lot about the jonas brothers I can't help it. and my friends are telling me to shutup cause im annoying and stuff lately I've just been feeling like an outkast like I don't fit in anywhere. can someone please help me! thanks in advance

Trust me, I know people just like you.
Now I'm not going to tell you to try and go into Jonas rehabilitation or anything lol. But all I can tell you is to "love" the Jonas brothers on your OWN time. But when you get around your friends, be yourself but not so much a Jonas fanatic. Meaning, when your around your friends talk like a decent person, and when your by yourself than express yourself. And if you can't do this than be yourself regardless of what your friends say, and if they cant accept you than there not your real friends, find someone who will like you regardless of what you like. And if they want to talk to you, than they'll come to you, like I expect. Because deep down they'll wonder, "whatever happened to her?" and that shows that they do want to hang around with you when they see you hanging with new people. and not them

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my best friend, who i've known since i was 5 years old, is pretty much ditching me because it's her last year of highschool. i'm 16.i mean,i know shes having fun with all her senior friends,but i feel like she likes her new friends better and doesn't care for me anymore. i'm always the one calling her, always the one there for her. every time we hangout, its ALWAYS her friends hanging out with us! its NEVER just me and her, and if by some chance it is, its just different. I feel like i've lost a part of me, but i don't know what to do! She got mad at me because i didn't hangout with her one time,when she's always the one blowing me off. she makes me feel like its my fault. I'm like the friend she hangs out with when she has no one else, and i'm sick of it. but theres also that fact that I've known her for 11 years. I honestly think we're taking different paths in our lives. I'm so sad and confused, and angry all at the same time =[. My question is what should i do about this whole mess? last time we talked we were mad at eachother.I've felt this way for so long.she makes me feel like crapp. Should i confrount her about all of this or just leave it like i have? ANY help on thiss would be grand,and thanks

I'm going to give you the BEST advice I can:

From my perspective it seems as if she's treating you like SLOPPY SECONDS.. You know, like only hanging out with you when it fits HER TIME. And this is not acceptable. Trust me, if you don't want it to get too much worse, you need to confront her about the situation. I didn't say via e-mail, text message, or any other technological fashion. Face to face confront her and tell her what's on your mind and why you feel that way. If she's the REAL friend as you describe than she will feel for you and actually listen and learn from what you say. But, if she's just treating you like SLOPPY SECONDS like I see it, than she'll listen but not understand, and continue to do what she's doing. And from there, it's up to you on whether to DUMP her or to KEEP her.

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15/f

me and my best friend have been friends for about 3 years. We pretty much do everything together and we normally always have a good time. we never even really fight. lately though she has been getting on my last nerve. she just does stupid annoying things all the time like we were at a sleepover with some people and we were all talking and she just started playing music on her phone and singing and it was really annoying. and she always tries to do things for attention and she is a downer. everytime we hang out with a group of people something is wrong with her, i can't stand it anymore. she like changed over the summer, and is more immature and gosh i don't know what to do. i mean if i lose her as a friend, i really wouldn't have anyone else besides my boyfriend because i don't have any other really close friends. i'm not the best at like getting close with people it takes me awhile [there really is no reason behind that its just the way i am]. i don't want to lose her as friend either though ahh. any advice at all on anything in this really long thing [sorry about that btw] would be great. thank s a ton!

You know what you need to do, you need to talk to her. Do not do this via e-mail, text message, phone, or any sorts of technological fashion. Confront her face to face and sit down with her where you two can be comfortable and have a nice long talk with her about how your feeling of how she's changed. I mean she is your best friend and all right? So there should be no problem of you holding anything back from her that your feeling. Simply ask her and explain to her how it's making you feel and how it's not only affecting her but also your social life.

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okay october 31 was my friend's birthday, and i told her im gonna send a myspace comment saying happy birthday so i did and it was long message and a birthday funny picture and i send it at 12AM sharp but the thing is she didnt even apporve my comment and didnt even say thank you until now yet she approved her other friends birthday wishes and said thank you to them is this messed up or what?

The question shouldn't be , "Is this messed up?" but more of "Why didn't she approve my comment?" And that's all I can give you advice on right now. I believe that your friend maybe didn't recieve your comment, and if she did she probably read it and ignored it most likely for a reason that I do not know. But, the first priority would be for you not to get worked up over anything so silly as a Myspace comment. You should confront your friend via e-mail, phone, text, or face to face. Whichever works best for you (I would go with face to face) and discuss why she didn't approve your comment. And she should give you a pretty reasonable explanation unless she's like mad at you or something. Simply go to her in school or at her house and see what's up.

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im an 18 year old female. i have a best friend, whose a guy. we've been best friends for years now until he got a girlfriend. now i only talk to him maybe once a month texting, barely get to see him and it really does upset me ALOT. last weekend he texted me and we talked for two days straight about so much stuff and last saturday he texted me at like 11:00 and wanted me to come over because his parents were gone but i couldn't. well i guess you could he wants to mess around. don't judge me. anyways he was like lets do something next weekend (meaning this weekend) and i was like okay well you can see me but not DO something with me (meaning sexually) and he was like ok how bout both. and i told him i was going to have my period haha. and he was like ohhhhhh okay yeah haha. so i thought we were going to still hang out this weekend and he didn't text me all week, so i thought he would at least text me yesterday or today and NOTHING. i found out he is in a different state playing hockey for this team he is on this weekend. i don't know if he forgot about it or what? but now im really sad because i had my hopes up of seeing him this weekend and it was the only thing i was looking forward to and now he didn't even talk to me or anything, i dont know if having my period freaked him out or something? i don't know what to do, i don't text people first and everyone including him knows that. i just wish he would of at least texted me or something because now i'm mad... maybe im over-reacting but what do you guys think?

I'm going to give you REAL advice, okay, now you say that he didn't text you back or didn't communicate with you at all right. Trust me, the whole having your period thing didn't freak him out, because if he's ready to get sexual with you than trust me, he knows the female anatomy by now. The reason most likely why he hasnt gotten back to you is because he simply understands that you don't want to mess around with him. And thats understandable seeing as how he already has a GF and all. But, with him knowing that your not willing to do anything with him, he doesn't want anything to do with you. And take my advice when I say, you do like him, because obviously you wouldn't care if you two hung out or not. But, your too good for him if he's not going to keep in contact with you on a daily basis to keep updated with your life. This means he doesn't care, he just wants to love you and leave you, and make you another "girl" that he messed around with and tell to his buddies. So when he's ready to talk to you, than you just sit around and don't even worry about it. Make him make the first move, not you.

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I have a really good friend, a best friend you could say, who is really troubled at the moment. It has to do with a guy she really cares about who moved out of state and who will probably not stay in touch because it's super long distance and because he said he doesn't want to talk to people because it'll make him miss being here. It's hard to know what to do or say to her because she just seems so hurt and affected by it. It seems like I can't say or do anything to possibly make her feel any better. /i hate seeing her like this. Does anyone have any ideas of what I can do or say? Has anyone else ever been in this situation? Thank you.

There is nothing you can do for her except be a friend and support her the way you already are. Your presence in her time of need is all you need to do for her. A few words here or there, like "I understand" and "It's okay" will comfort her just enough until she is ready to move on from the subject. The more you try and do it for her, the more she will resist from what you are saying, because you would be making the choice for her, not her making the choice for herself to move on. So all you need to do is, show your support and just be the friend that you are right now until this whole thing passes over. She can't keep in sorrow for the rest of her life. I'll give your friend 2 weeks at the most and guarantee you that she will be over this almost completely and want to live her life normally again. And when it all passes over, words cannot express how good of a friend you have been to her, just for supporting her emotionally and showing empathy, and giving her the choice to move on, and not you trying to convince her to move on. Trust me, it is the way to handle things.

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