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how do i cope with this?
my best friend, who i've known since i was 5 years old, is pretty much ditching me because it's her last year of highschool. i'm 16.i mean,i know shes having fun with all her senior friends,but i feel like she likes her new friends better and doesn't care for me anymore. i'm always the one calling her, always the one there for her. every time we hangout, its ALWAYS her friends hanging out with us! its NEVER just me and her, and if by some chance it is, its just different. I feel like i've lost a part of me, but i don't know what to do! She got mad at me because i didn't hangout with her one time,when she's always the one blowing me off. she makes me feel like its my fault. I'm like the friend she hangs out with when she has no one else, and i'm sick of it. but theres also that fact that I've known her for 11 years. I honestly think we're taking different paths in our lives. I'm so sad and confused, and angry all at the same time =[. My question is what should i do about this whole mess? last time we talked we were mad at eachother.I've felt this way for so long.she makes me feel like crapp. Should i confrount her about all of this or just leave it like i have? ANY help on thiss would be grand,and thanks
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I'm going to give you the BEST advice I can:
From my perspective it seems as if she's treating you like SLOPPY SECONDS.. You know, like only hanging out with you when it fits HER TIME. And this is not acceptable. Trust me, if you don't want it to get too much worse, you need to confront her about the situation. I didn't say via e-mail, text message, or any other technological fashion. Face to face confront her and tell her what's on your mind and why you feel that way. If she's the REAL friend as you describe than she will feel for you and actually listen and learn from what you say. But, if she's just treating you like SLOPPY SECONDS like I see it, than she'll listen but not understand, and continue to do what she's doing. And from there, it's up to you on whether to DUMP her or to KEEP her.
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You and your friend are both going to be taking seprate paths. I am going to explain my situation to you so you understand a little bit better. its a little different but, my best friend and I have known each other for ever. and i had got pregnant at 15 (17 now) she moved to the city where i orginally was from her parents moved there so her and i could live closer she started a new school made new friends i went to another school had other friends i didnt like her friends she didnt like mine we are always there for each other and we still talk about things ecspecially major things in life. i moved to missouri and shes in ohio and we will still always be friends. let her now you will always be there for her. you just arnt going to be hanging uot 24.7 but your not losing a friend you two are just growing up.
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Your friend is moving on.
It's her last year of highschool. Everyone starts to move on and seperate from old friends. It's to protect themselves from the eventual loss anyways.
You ARE going to take different paths. That is just going to happen. She is about to graduate, and you aren't. Even if you were, you'd still probably be 'seperating' to protect yourself from the major changes inyour life. That WILL change the friendship. It's about letting it change in a respectful and decent way and not poisioning the friendship with anger and dissapointment about things you can barely help.
If you are feeling neglected, you should tell her so, but in a calm and kind way. Don't 'confront' her. Be honest with her: Share your pain. Don't be a bitch. Don't whine. That isn't helpful, or friendly.
If she can't handle the fact that your feelings are hurt, then yes, you should probably just leave this alone for a while and see if you two can reconnect a bit later on.
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