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OKay, me and my best friend got in this really big fight over the one thing we said we would never fight on, which is BOYS.
Well she has a boyfriend, and I don't and I could careless because this kids a fag. Literally.. he likes it up the poophole! Well when she asks me for ym advice and I tell her yehh he would probably bend over for a man she started telling me how he said he loves her. and how she hasn't said it. And somehow we got in a fight about me being right all the time.
AND I AM!
Is it my fault noo.. and shes telling me to stay out of her relationship hmm well if she didnt place it in my hands I wouldnt have to. but she came to me for help! and I toldher what I thought. and she gets mad at me... well she takes my word as gold. And im the same age as her. Im like her frkn role model!!! I dont wanna be.
So I told her this... she didnt appreciate it.
What do I do?
[[its alot more complicated then this but fuck it.]] (link)
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I pity you LITTLE GIRL.
You have a whole lot to learn.
You are a child and already know it all.
You should be humbly asking advice rather than trying to gather support for your bullying.
Grow up.
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Im in love with my best friend Danny. But the thing is...hes gay and he obviously doesnt like me, but hes so sweet and I really love him with all my heart. And i asked my friend Dylana to talk about it with him. he said he is uncomfortable with the fact that hes gay, and im his best BEST friend and we have known each other for years.But i cant help it. he knows i like him and hes avoiding me latly. Hes home schooled but i will call him and he says hes too busy to talk, but when dylana talks to him, he is never busy. please help me. I want danny to talk to me again! (link)
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You need to watch a whole lot of Will and Grace and learn how to be a good friend without getting emotionally attached. Life goes on, you will find many other guys out there with many of Danny's good qualities, and Danny will be there giving you advice on the guys perspective. Look towards the future rather than being stuck on what is not going to happen in the present.
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16/female.
Let me just start out by saying that I am a STRONG believer of gay marriage, and I have absolutely NO problem with homosexuals in the slightest.
One of my friends is a lesbian, and I love her because she's amazing, she really is. But, lately she's been really touchy feely. She writes me notes saying, "I know you're in denial, I know you're conservative & straight, but you should atleast experiment & give it a try." I AM straight, I was born it, so I can't just change and be a lesbian, that's what I think & feel. I'm not attracted to her at all.
She'll like come up to me in the halls at school, and hug me and kiss my neck and shove me up against a locker, and it seriously is beginning to look like I'm a lesbian.
When she does this, I just say, "Nooo! STOP IT" Like, I don't know if she takes it seriously or not, but when I say stop she does. So, today on AIM, we were talking, and this was our conversation:
Her: I'm going to look hot tomorrow in school.
Me: Ahah, Whyy??
Her: I got new clothes.
Her: Kiss me?
Her: :)
Me: Ahh, that's nice! :)
Me: lol, No thanks.
Her: No thanks, what the fuck?
Her: Why did you say that?
Me: To the whole "kiss me" thing.
Her: Whatever.
Me: HEY! don't!!
Her: Don't what?
Me: Be mean. :(
Her: You did this yourself.
Her: It's your fault.
* BLOCKS ME *
Ahhh, so. I just would like to know if this is any of my fault at all. I'm not LEADING her on, I wouldn't even know how to do that. I'm dating a guy & I'm really attracted to him & she knows that. But she'll always say that I need to experiment with her & stuff, and it's just really weird for me.
Thanks in advance. :]
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Sounds like someone has a crush on you!!
If this was a boy with an aggressive crush on you, a boy that you liked in a friendship-only kind of way, what would you do?
Chances are, if you are like most women, you would say something along the lines of "_____, I don't like you like that. I think you are a great guy and like spending time with you, but I don't have any romantic feelings about you." Most guys then, would get the hint, and if they didn't there are other steps you can take like getting others (school administrators, friends, and/or parents) involved. But the friendship would certainly be lost.
These steps should be no different for this aggressive girl. Are you prepared to lose your friendship with her if she keeps carrying on like this? She has to see how serious this is to you, so tell her.
Now, as to if you are leading her on, only you would know. It sounds like she thinks you are. She may be really young too, and she may be misreading any signals you maybe giving her.
So, my advice to you is to stick to your guns. Just be confident in knowing what you really want from her. If you like her as a friend only make sure you are certain about that and tell her. If she can't accept that, move on. She is not the only dynamic person in this world.
Good luck
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Here's the sitch. We went on a date 2 weeks ago with this guy I met online. We went to the park talked a little, mostly my fault because I was so shy, and then went to Starbucks. We had frappucinos and become more lively. Then we went back to the park, hung out talked some more and we laid on the bench looking into each other's eyes. He asked me what I was thinking... and me being really shy, I was like uhmm nothing hehe. He said, well to be honest, I'm thinking about sex. And don't get me wrong, it was coursing through my head as well. Then we kissed he initiated, and then we just made out for a while. After like 30 minutes of making out, we decide to go to my car and well mess around. So we're messing around and blah blah, we end early because well i was feeling uncomfortable not because of him but because well the car was small, so we decide to just call it a night. I take him home we talk a little and he says, "I don't want to leave because the second I get out of this car, the rest of my night is going to be boring..." So I was like awhh then don't haha, but then you know he had to leave so then he left his shirt in my car and I was like wait, you left your shirt. He was like well... maybe I should leave it in there just so that I know that we can go on a 2nd date I was like awwhhh okay. So then I drive home and call him and tell him that I made it home safe and yadada. Then I ask him how he thought the date went, because truth be told it was his first date with another guy. Yes, i'm gay. Anyway, He was like it was really fun and blah blah, I really think he was lying. Well anyway, it got all serious and he was like, what are you looking for? I said, well i'm looking for a relationship to be honest.. and it doesn't have to be a strict relationship, like it can be open (I was lying because I didn't want to like freak him out). So then he said, yeah I'm looking for an open relationship as well because you know, i'm 18 and my sex/social life has only just begun, he's a senior in high school and i'm a junior. So anyway I was like yeah... coool.... Well a couple days later, we're talking on the phone, the reason why is because he lives 45 minutes away. Anyway I call him sometime later and ask him to go to homecoming with me, and he was really excited and was like "yes!@!@" So i'm all happy floating on clouds and what not. Then I call him the Friday after our first date, and wanted to see what's up? Well, some other guy picked up and said, "Michael's busy right now, he'll call you later *hangup*" Now, haha this transitions to any type of relationship... but I thought he was cheating on me and I know that we're not official and that we're not going out, but a couple days before he said that he "liked me." So I felt like shit and that I was being cheated on... I'm with my friends and decide well hmmm let's see if he's just trying to ignore me. So I use their phones and call him, no response so i'm like okay well maybe he really is busy... well for the rest of the night i'm with my friends... and it happens. He calls all of their cell phones back, except for mine. This seems to be a BIG indicator that something is wrong... So a day goes by and i'm pissed at him... I call him and ask him what he was doing on that Friday and he told me that he was at a birthday party and that everyone was getting drunk and blah blah so I buy the story and am like okay fine i'll take that... I ask him if he wants to hang out the next weekend and he's like sure. So then the week goes by, he doesn't talk to me or call me like he used to he rarely text messages me and never responds when I respond so then i'm thinking... well you know what I'm going to ignore him and see if you know he ends up calling me and all that stuff. So then the weekend comes by and I call him to see if I can come and pick him up, well on the day that I called him he's like Oh yeah sure it'll be lots of fun. Then I call him the day we planned to go out and he was like, "I REALLLY want to hang out with you.... but can I take a raincheck?" So then I ask, "well why?" And he goes, " well I just don't really want to leave town right now... so i'm like well that's fine i'll just come over and hang out in your town then... he's like naw... I don't want you to drive all the way out here..." I'm like hmm... then he asks, "are you mad at me?" I go, "no, i'm just really disappointed because you seemed enthusiastic about it yesterday." He goes, "well I promise i'll make it up to you!" I was like... "fine... talk to you later." then a couple days go by and I really decide to just not call him or text him or anything just to see if he you know longs for me or something. So after two days, he texts me saying "good morning, how are you?" I text him back and of course he never texts me back until the later afternoon saying, "What's up?" so I mean I'm really confused... I don't know what is his problem I mean he has a myspace, and i'm his number one, but when I look at his gay friends myspaces, I see that he comments them all the time saying things like, "Why haven't you called me?? Are you ignorning my calls???" and these are guys that live far far away but he sees them once a year and all. So I mean I know i'm probably over reacting and am acting REALLY Clingy, but I just think he's avoiding me and doesn't really see me as anything else but maybe a simple booty call... and I know I haven't asked him directly what is going on between us, but I figure... If you like someone, wouldn't you call them all the time, or at least get on AIM and have an IM conversation as much as you could?? I just need some help as to what I should do... I mean my birthday is this Friday, and I figure if he doesn't at least call me on my birthday, then it's a big indicator that he doesn't like me as much as he said he does. and I have told him it's my birthday. I know this is a REALLLLLY long question but the background info really helps when trying to help me out... and Please give good thorough advice. (link)
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You will find, from time to time, people with issues much more deeper than yours. People not as secure as you. People who play mind games with secure people like you.
While I understand how it hurts to invest in someone who does not invest in you, I also understand how your "friend" can feel nourished by all this attention he receives from others. I could tell by all the player lines he gave you while on your date that you are not the first and not the last to feel used but still addicted to him.
You must fully believe that you deserve better. You showed glimpses of that when you decided to stop calling/texting him and wait for him to make the next move. He depends on guys like you to build his own self esteem. And I am sure he is a very good looking guy.
Please, avoid the manipulators of the world. A manipulator is often superficial, insecure, and fake, and as they get older they get better at hiding their insecurities with extreme confidence. But no matter how sexy they appear to you, they WILL hurt you. It always appears that there are many manipulators in the world, but this is not so. Manipulators are often just the most blatant, most vocal, and most beautiful. But in actuality they are often the most insecure.
My advice is to rid this guy from all your lines of communication. Take his name off your phone and computer pages. He sounds like trouble.
Its ok to be cautious, but in the future don't fear trusting someone just because this guy manipulated you into obsessing over him.
If you are looking for a relationship start interviewing guys for the job. You will get better at spotting the bullshiting manipulator. Don't judge someone based on looks, financial situations, or by their personal interests. Good people come in many shapes.
I hope you have an amazing birthday Friday. Spend it with the friends that really like you.
Good luck.
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Okay, I'm 14 years old, a male, and I am a homosexual FYI. I lived with my mom until her drug problems escaladed and I had to move with my grandparents. During that time, I became friends with this guy who I am friends with but am totally not attracted to whatsoever. I stayed there for a few months and we signed up for summer P.E. together and everything was going good. Then, I moved with my mom again and I became friends with this other guy who I am totally attracted to and I guess that kinda boosts his personality. I ended up blowing my other friend off and dropped out of summer P.E. to be with the guy I like/love or whatever. Is it bad I kinda ditched my best friend even though its my life and I should be able to do what I want and if this other guy makes me happy that should be the only thing that matters right? Anyways, my summer P.E. friend calls and says I blew him off to be with Ronnie and smoke drugs which isn't entirely false and he hangs up on me. Is it bad that I did this and what should I do now. Also, remember its too late to sign back up for summer P.E. and its also nice to know my summer P.E. friend is a republican and doesn't know I'm gay or anything like that. Please help me out of this bind. (link)
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So much going on here:::
No, no, yes, and alright. Those are my answers to all of your questions.
Let me get this right... You took the time to ask this website these questions because your conscious is telling you that it is wrong to treat your summer P.E. friend the way you did. This friend told you this is wrong, and now you want either an affirmation that this friend is right for feeling "blown off" or you are right for doing what you want to do because it is your life and your are free to make your own decisions. Right?
Yes, it is bad that you did this to this guy but only because it appears that you never gave him a real explanation. He feels rejected. Republicans have feelings too. (Please don't judge him because his family is republican. You are apart of a minority group that gets judged all the time, so stop the hypocrisy now when you are young enough to be impressionable).
Don't lose any sleep over this. Just tell him that when you are spending time with this other guy alot. If he wants to hang out with you guys, let him. But be honest. If he doesn't want to hang out with a homosexual, your problem is solved and he becomes the biggot, not you.
Also, it is unclear how close of "friends" you are with this newer guy and what does it mean that you "kinda boosts his personality"? Please answer my feedback anytime.
I'd love to help you out more. I think we have alot in common.
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The thing is, im a guy 15 and i really have a nak for getting gay guys to like me and having girls think im gay. im not gay and i dont come off as gay..i think, but i try to be a generaly nice guy is there any reason why a person would think another person is gay. (link)
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There is only one person that you have to prove this to. Yourself. If you do not get sexually/emotionally aroused by thoughts of other men, what does it matter. If you walk around thinking others just might think you are gay, then others just might think you are gay. If you walk around secure in yourself thinking of whatever else, others will get over the rumors and move on. They truly have better things to do.
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