I am a Christian, and I love giving advice, so you can be anonymous or not, I would just love to hear from you! My friends tell me that I am a great person to come to for advice. I seem to know just what to say. I don't know. =) I love listening to people and problems. I just don't like being in the middle of them; I do choose sides if I absolutely have to. I want to be a Social worker or a counseling Psychologist someday. I am a senior in high school, and I start college in August of '06. I'm in band, and choir. I play French horn and sing alto. I have been through a lot with friends/family and even though I haven't, I feel like I've seen it all, so I hope I can help!
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omggg okay so my best friend has been ignoring me like the past 2 days or so. so i asked her what was wrong and she wouldnt tell me. then she randomly ims me today and says this..
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HERSCREENNAME: w.e im not up for aguring bc were not bestfriends any more
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OH MY GOD - please help mee. shes been my best friend for 5 years+ and i dont knwo what to do if i loose her. WHAT CAN I DO! (link)
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I would ask around to other friends of hers and see if there is something you did/said that makes her feel this way. If it is something you did or said (even if it wasn't meant to be against her or something and she took it the wrong way)apologize. If not, keep your distance and show her that you can be okay w/ out her...i know you probably aren't, but you'll learn more about yourself and find new friends who won't ditch you out of the blue like that. Good luck, that's a tough one to be in, keep your head up.
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I have this friend. I wanted to be more than friends at one point, but I am pretty sure he doesn't know that. However, like before Christmas we were so close. We were with each other constantly. He was like the only person I have ever felt like I could bear my soul to, but I didn't because I didn't want him to think I was wierd.
On New Years, we went to the beach with like 30 of our friends. We hugged and mess like we always did, but then when we came back to school after New Years, half the time he acts like I am not even there. I just want ot be friends with him, and I don't even know why he's mad.
If you have any advice on how to talk to him please, please help me. Thank you in advance. (link)
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He's a boy...he probably doesn't even realize he's doing it. Do you think he might have realized you like/liked him? That could be a reason for backing away if he didn't feel the same, but I don't know. It's understandable for you to not understand...I'm going through the same thing. You wish they knew you existed even if they want to be your friend, they just don't act like it. It's frustrating. Maybe you should just go up to him randomly one day...don't act like anything is wrong, and just strike up a conversation. Tell him you hope his life is going great, and to have a good day. Maybe it could be small talk, but hey...it'd be something!
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I have a friend, and whenever I go online, she almost always Instant Messages me. I was cool with it for a while, but no it's just irritating. I've put an away message up, but I always eventually come back. What can I do (It has to be nice)? (link)
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I say be completely honest w/ her. That's what I would want. I am generally the one to start convos w/ ppl and I don't know if I get annoying. So, if it were me, I'd say tell her cause she may not know it bothers you. I'd want to know the truth anyway. Just don't lie to her about it. That wouldn't be pretty, especially if she is your friend. Then once she starts backing down, show her that you still want to talk and don't completely avoid her by actually starting a conversation eventually and not just saying that you will and never do. And I don't mean in a few months eventually. Good luck and I hope I helped!
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Hi :) you said to write you for extra ideas?
Well she isnt very girly.. so I guess the nailpolish and girly goodies wouldnt be her thing. We've done pictures and picture frames before.
Problem is gifts are a big deal to her so I want to do something really special. :( But I have no idea what. (link)
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Well, if she is one of your best friends, maybe you can make her a frame or something with inside jokes, or quotes that explain your friendship. Maybe you can plan a special day for her if you can't come up with anything tangible. I hope I helped...:-D
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Is finding the right gift! What can I get/make for my friend for Christmas? I have no cash but I want to make something really nice. She's getting me something great for christmas so I want to get her something equally great. No scrapbooking.. she's already done that.. What can I make that's personal? Please help! I rate! (link)
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Something cheap and cute...depends on the kind of girl she is...umm...cute socks from target are pretty cheap...$3ish...You can get her a cute little book from a bookstore explaining friendship, or hugs or something, a picture frame w/ a pic of the two of you in it, or cheaper a plastic one that you can decorate w/ metallic markers. Spray stuff, nail polish, lipgloss stuff...if this doesn't describe her personality, write me a personal message, and maybe I can come up w/ better ideas! Good luck and I hope I helped!
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alright, every one knows that christmas is coming up, and i am known for getting my friends awesome gifts, because my parents always pay for all of it.
but this year they said they will pay 5 dollars for every one, and i have to pay the rest. i have saved up 200 dollars so far, and i will be getting more from babysitting.
i have 15 people, as of now, that i need to give gifts to.
does anyone have suggestions.
i was thinking i could get them all a different piece of jewlrey from like Clairs or something.
i need ideas, please. and quick. becaues i like to start shopping soon before i spend it all.
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Hmm, what I love to get my girlfriends, they love p.j. pants, the AWESOME socks from target or walmart or where ever, maybe some cheap plastic frames from walmart and you can decorate them for them w/ stuff like metallic sharpies and find a picture of you w/ them or have one taken later...umm...candy! And of course, claire's is awesome too! Good luck and I hope this helped! (oh yeah, and lip gloss, nail polish, body spray...stuff like that is awesome too) I didn't think about guys, so if there are guys in the mix, lemme know!
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ok there is 6 of us(13 13 13 11 12 11) we cant drive there is no one to drive us. can anyone give us ideas on what to do? WE ARE SO BORED!!!
PLEASE HELP! (link)
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I don't know if this is like a party, or get together or not, but have you ever heard of a game called hot-seat? It's a lot of fun! I don't know how well you really know each other, or if you are all best friends or what...but it's fun anyway...Someone is in the "hot-seat" for 2, 3, 5 minutes...(however long you want to) and you can ask that person ANYTHING and they HAVE to answer honestly, and it's a good way to get to know your friend better. Then there's like a "lightening round" where you have however many minutes you want to ask a question that you thought of that you didn't get a chance to ask before. I hope this is the type of idea you were looking for! Have fun!
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My best friend and i got into a fight. a really bad fight. one when we don't talk to each other for a month. my mom knos about the problem. now my x best calls and apologizes. we have gotten into so many fights i can't even count. so i told her we would talk a bout it in the morning. i don't want my mom to think we are friends because she don't like her. i don't like her. but i don't want to be mean or be enemies wat should i do????????? (link)
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You don't have to LIKE someone to be nice to them. Believe me, I know and it's hard. You should be nice to anyone though. As hard as it is. I know you've probably heard "you have to give respect to gain it". I don't know if you respect her, but just show it. You don't have to like her, like you don't have to like your teachers at school, but just be nice. (And of course, avoid fights if you can cause that'd be good) Good luck and I hope I helped!
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I have this friend. She has been my friend all of my life literally but lately we've been drawing apart. :( what do i do to get this relationship back togeter? (link)
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I know you feel. It's hard b/c your life seems like it's different. But as you get older, things change and you just have to expect that. It doesn't mean that you won't be friends anymore, but you still have two different lives. Just as long as you both come to an understanding that you still want to hang out and do things that close friends do when you can. It may not be intentional on either of you, things just happen. Boys, classes, churches or community stuff, family. Talk to her and just let her know that even though may not be as close, you still care about her. That's pretty much all that matters. Good luck and I hope I helped.
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My best friends parents just told her that they are getting a divorce. I don't know what to say to her. I basically said "I am soooo sorry" and "this should be happening to you" I also toldh er tha ti am always there for her she can call me anytime, it doesn't matter if its 12 midnight, and she can come over whenever, she doesn't hav eto call or nothin' i don't know what else to say. HELP!!!! (link)
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Sometimes there is really nothing you can say except that you are always there to listen. That you'll be your friend's shoulder to cry on, and that you'll even be there in the silence. Divorce is rough. Just be a comfort as best as you know how to be. Good luck. I hope I helped.
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One of my best guy friend wants to go out with me. But I'm scared it my ruin our friendship after we might break up. Should I risk my friendship and go out with him or don't take the risk and save our friendship? (link)
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Well, the good thing about going out w/ a guy that is your best friend is the fact that you already know a lot about him and know him really well, so there are no secrets. I've gone out w/ 3 guys and i've been able to keep a friendship w/ each of them. If the feeling isn't mutual, don't be afraid to let him down...easy! Good luck w/ that one.
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Alright, there's this kid that I've known for like more than a year. I met him when I went over one of my best friends house. He lives like next to her. So we would always go over and chill with him and his sister. We have sooo much fun. But the other night I decided to sleep over his house. So we stayed up all night and we kinda cuddled and he knows I like him a lot, but he won't tell me how he feels. Like from the other night I have a feeling he likes me, but I wanna know for sure. What should I do? I like really like him and I see him and talk to him a lot. Also I can be myself around him.
Please help, I rate high for good answers. (link)
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It sounds to me like he does like you, w/ out the words. I mean, if you have cuddled w/ him, then more than likely he has the feelings in return. Good luck ! Keep doing what you are doing, and you'll probably end up being official. Good luck!
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basically i feel like im losing my friends and lately i have been really depressed. Nobody would really know because well i put up a front and i feel like im losing all the friends i had. I dont wanna hear advice like "try to get together with them" or "sorry" i just wanna know what to do to feel better and be more social. (link)
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I am kinda seeing this in a friendship between a couple of ppl I know. If you maybe have a bad attitude around your friends, or seem to down things, no one will want to be around you. If you really do think you are depressed. I say get help...professionally. If you want to be more social, school is starting...or if you aren't a teen, get involved in the community somehow, get a job, join a church group, or group of some kind. I hope I helped. Oh yeah, and everyone likes a smile, even if you are having it rough for some reason. Good luck.
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im going into my freshman yr & ive known this girl for about 7 yrs..shes changed alot and shes going thru so much...she trys to get noticed by doing stuff with guys..it disgusts me but i still want to know im always here for her & at the same time tell that whats shes doing isnt ne good
please help my friend and i stay close! (link)
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I have gone through the same thing. Basically, you just need to write her a long letter, or sit her down, tell her you love her and care about her, and that she may not see it now, but, she's hurting herself. One day in the future, she will probably regret the things she did w/ those boys. I hope this works, but it depends on the person. I hope she will be willing to listen to you because no matter what happens, you can keep caring about her, and if you are religious, pray for her. It may not work at first, but it will somehow. Good luck w/ your friend, you are a good one to notice that kind of problem.
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wat do you do, wen a friend tells you she cant talk 2 you about certain things anymore, and rather call someone else? we are like sisters, tell each other everything, and i mean everything, and the reason i smile is b/c she makes it happen b/c she helps me so much. please help!
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I have like 6 best friends, and they are all wonderful. But, I don't tell all of them everything. Not because I don't want to, but because I feel like someone else understand where I'm coming from better and can help me more. She probably thinks of you as a sister too, but doesnt' think you are the right person for the problem and that's okay. Talk to her about. That's good that she helps you. Don't take it offensively, she will probably tell you what's up eventually. But, if it bothers you that she isnt' talking to you about stuff, talk to her about it. Good luck and I hope I helped.
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