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My best friend and i never told lies to each other when we were younger but now were both 14 things seem like they changed she's constantly lying to my face and i can't figure out if she's telling the truth or not anymore.What should i do i mean we're both going to different high schools next year and i still want us to be friends...???
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no more lies

Hmm * Talk to her about it. That's all you can do. Just tell her it hurts when she lies and sometimes if you look her deep in the eyes you can tell what's the truth and what's not * Good Luck. I wish i could help more =(

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Right now in my life, I cant trust anyone and it feels as if there are so many conspiracies going on behind my back. Like everyone in the world is against me and its just sooo frustrating. I just dont know what to do. Can anyone help?

Yes I can. This could be be jus` a phase. Or you could be suffering from paranoia. Either way, I think you should talk to someone about it! Like someone you can talk to.. Good Luck!

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I think I am loosing my best friend. She has been hanging out alot with someone else, and when she isnt she always has excuses. she isnt the same person, i know she has to change, but i mean- she is obsessed with her weight and eating. Im not really worried about that though, i just miss her. what should i do? just forget about her?

No, do not forget about her. She is your best friend. And if you truly love her, then you would not give up on her that easily would you? Well, hmm* Try talking to her. See what she has to say about it. Find a day when she is not busy & spend a day out together. Then jus` talk about what has been on your mind. Maybe she has been busy or something. I have heard this from my high school friends a lot, they say sometimes people jus` drift apart. Rather it be slowly or rapidly. Maybe it jus` happens. But still, try talking to her. =) I hope I helped!
-Melody

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i know it is long, but i need the help!


i have this friend that i really like that has been my best friend since second grade! his name is Dylan. he is kinda chuby. but that doesn't matter to me! i really think i am starting to develop a thing for him. the only prob is that i live in Kansas, and he lives where i used to live, Arizona. i am in 6 grade now. and he was the first friend i ever made when i moved to AZ. i really really lik him! i got a phone call from him last night and i haven't seen him or talked to him for like 9 months. and out of the blu he jjust called me. i really miss him ! what should i do? plez help if you haven't alresdy fell asleep!

*haha -I didn`t fall asleep. No, ok:.
1.) 6th grade - Im only in 8th but still. You don`t need to worry about this. YOu have a lot to live for and a lot goin for you cept boys.
2.) other guys will step in so no worries
3.) Long distance: never work

So yea.. Jus` be cool. I am sure you can do better anyhow*

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Well!My friend a while ago started cutting herself, but then she stopped. Today I hit her arm and she said ouch. I knew right away what she did because she gave me this look. Then she laughed about it. I honestly don’t think that it is funny. She is one of my best friends and I don’t need her going off and hurting herself. When she laughs about it, it makes me feel like she doesn’t want me to care or anything. She showed me her arm and it looks pretty bad and shes like ooo its not that bad. I don’t want to tell an adult but she has been pretty depressed latly and I don’t kno anymore if I should continue helping her about it or just give her her own space.

I do it.. or did it to. I still do. But it helps now that my friends have told an adult. IT`s best in the long run. Your friend may be mad now, but in the long run she will thank you!*
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k..my friend is out of town right now and i like her boyfriend..the other day we madeout in his truck when he drove me home..and we've been hanging out a lot since she left for thanksgiving..i feel really guilty but i just cant get him off of my mind..i like him way too much..and i dunno what to do!..i swear im gunna end up going crazy..what should i do??

Oh my gawh...* i thinkk u shuldnt date him. he's ur bestfriends BOYFRIEND!!!**

bad idea
i wuldn't do it

gooD lUCk!

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h0wdii mel0dy, hehe i'm guessin` y0u already kn0w wh0 this is...
Well me & my husband have been t0gether f0r a while n0w., and he seems t0 never wanna be ar0und me anym0re.. everytime i ask him 0ut f0r dinner, he changes plans, & even s0me 0f my friends have caught him 0ut with 0ther girls, but i can't talk t0 him ab0ut it because he has a tendacy t0 hit.. hard.. im really scared.. what sh0uld i d0?!

Ok, do as the dixie chicks on there song Good Bye Earl. Since i know u cant go to the police. Lol* hope i helped and dont worry ill help ya!=)
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*MElody

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Me, and my friend have been fighting alot. Lets just say her name is ellie, well ellie and me have been best friends since the 3rd grade, so now thats about 4 years of being best friends. but now shes starting to get a little bossy, saying stuff like im getting to comfertable with her family like i dont say thank you enough. that kind of stuff tho i am fine with. but this morning she started to say that i was getting to comfertable again, and saying was acting really bitchy and all i did was i was hangin out with her brother, and her neighbor, but i was leaving her out. But besides this morning shes been fighti with me over a lotta little thing, and im starting to get really stressed out. i dont kno wut to do anymore. PLZ PLZ PLZ HELP ME. should i break the friendship, or try to work with it. im starting to feel like i cant breathe.

well i think what you need to work it out. Uve been friends to long to ruin a great friendship. SO i think wat you need to do is talk to her. Maybe there is supthin goin on that you dont understand. Just dont jump to conclutions. u never know whats happinin in her life. I think maybe u need to have a conversation and straighten everything out with her. Good Luck
*MelodY

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i have these 2 friends one of them (we'll call her trina) is VERRRRRRRY BOSSY the other (we'll call her haley) does every thing trina says it started bugging me so i told haley why do you let trina boss you around. she said i don't let her boss me around. so finally she told trina about what i had said so then trina was mad at me so i said (she started it cuz she was being mean to me) what happened to your lackey and she started saying stuff like she's not my lackey etc. the next day i won highest GPA in 5th grade (im only 11) and they got even more jealous so now i haven't called them and they haven't talked to me. but haley sent me an e-mail saying YOU ARE WEIRD(about seven times) and the bottom line said YOU ARE REALLY WEIRD. so i forwarded back to her. what do i do. and is you took the time to read this THANKS if you will please rate me too my name is coolgirl57 (you don't have to rate me)

listen sweetie. sum ppl are just like that. U know braty and immature. id say find new friends that wont treat u like crap. Its not ur fault ur smart! them bn jealous over supthin like that is just stupid! congrads on ur gpa by the way. Ne way, if u still want to be there friends then id say talk to them and tell them that ur sorry but u thik that trina is to bossy and that haley needs to kinda stop followin orders from her. I know how u feel but just kinda work through this together. Good Luck
*Melody

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i have a best friend and i love her so much as a friend that i call her my sis and i always have to talk to her like every hour and always be around her! i think im obsessed about our friendship and ive tried everything to stop being so obsessed over a friendship by trying to call her less and stop having her spend the night all the time and trying to not be around her everywhere she walks but its really really hard and it doesnt work! WHAt CaN i dO? Please help me asAp!... and thanks you!!

well i have a bestfriend that i feel the exact same way about her but you can kill her with too much kindness so try to give her some room but you can still be super tight like you always are
maybe you should try a couple days away and see how you feel.
goodluck!
melody's lil cuz'
lori

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me and my brother are always arguing and i hate it. he always calls me names and im older wot can i do

talk to ur parents about it. See if that helps. IF not talk to him. If that doesnt help than just steer clear.
Good Luck
*Melody

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i have a best friend that told me she moving in 3-4weeks. i wish she wasnt moving, but i dont know what to do. if she moves i'll never get to see her agian or hang out with her. we hang out every day and when she leaves i want get to any more. im really sad. i want to tell her how i feel and i have been but it wont make a diffrence if she moves or not. i cant not make her move, she has all ready bought a house, and selling the one she leaves in now. she my best friend in the whole world. when she leaves i dont know what to do, i'm going to be sad. help me!!!!!!!!!!!!

everyone goes through something dramatic like this i went through something very similar to that. just keep in touch and dont forget all the good times you had together. maybe on the weekends you can get together and call eachother on the weekdays.
hope everything works out!
*cow gurl's cuzinn.,
Lorin*

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hi my friend has been really mean to me, they are starting to beat me up when there in a mood help xx

ok if your friends are beating you up wen they feel like it they are not your friends. THey are nuthing but bone headed bullies! Talk to your principal or parents about it and then see how things go from there. Till then just steer clear and find sum true friends that arent such bone heads!
GOod Luck!
*MElody

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hey..i got a problem with friends.they used to be my good friends..but now they hate me..i dun really know why, i just heard they hate me because they are jealous about me getting good results in examination last month and they say i'm proud. i want all of us to be friends as me used to.help me can my atitude

well first of all, do you think you have an attidude? if so then talk to your 'so called friends' if they mean that much to you. SOunds to me like they are just jealous.(like you've already said)i know wat its like to lose a friend. Maybe its time to get new 1's that accept ur good results. Cuz thats wat a true friend would do. My advice is to just talk to them. Good Luck,
*Melody

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