-Hey world I've been on here awhile now i just wanna say being on here has been great! im not a specailist but im here for anyone that needs someone to talk to. :) feel free to ask me anything and don't feel ashamed, im not here to judge.we all have daily battles,but it doesn't mean we have to face them alone.with that being said I look forward to meeting you ;)
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Weve been best friends for 3 years now and im glad i have her. But she never seems to be happy for me. No matter what i do, to her she can do it better. She always has to one up me. And copy me. Anytime i say i want a new piercing she says eww and sometimes like that wont look good on you. But then a couple days later she will tell me that she wants that piercing that she said eww to. She has to steal all of the attention. No matter where we go she always puts herself first it seems. When me and my bf broke up she didnt help me at all. I would try talking to her about it and she would ignore me like i wasnt even talking and start talking about her an her bf. Then when they broke up and i would try talking to her about me and my bf she would always change it on her and say that her bf did all the same thing and i dont know what it feels like to have that happen. She pretty much said im not hurt and if i was it wasnt even close to how bad she was. Which really pissed me off. Obviously she had no idea how hurt i was because she wouldnt take the time to listen to anything i had to say. I just got my cosmetology license and am now working at a salon. You know what she said when i: graduated from beauty school; passed my stateboard; got my license..? "Good". Then started talking about herself. I showed her my business cards i got and she ignored it. I showed her all my stuff that i bought for the salon. She ignored that too. My license just came in the mail and i showed her that. She ignored that. Like excuse me for being excited and wanting to tell my best friend about it. And im saying i think she is jealous because she copies me. Now all she has talked about is now shes going to beauty school and that she payed way more than i did for school stuff. She said it costed her 2000 dollars which i know is a lie. How do i know? because i went to beauty school too!! she doesnt like to see me making something of myself. There are people i dont even know all excited for me saying congratulations and theyre happy for me! But all my best friend says is good?? Honestly ive been telling her stuff about me working now just to see what her response will be. Its always just oh or she doesnt even respond. I mean if she was doing something like this id definitely be all excited for her!! its a big deal! but nope she acts like im not doing anyhthing. I went through hell to get where i am now. Beauty school was not all that. I was depressed,thought about killing myself, didnt talk to anybody because what i was going through at the time and having to go to school 8:30-5 monday through friday. Did she know anything about that? No because she wouldnt listen. It was always about her. And i have already tried talking to her about her not caring about anything i have to say but nothing changes. I just dont know why she would be like this. (link)
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Something has happened in her life to always want that attention. Most likely she is jealous. I have a friend exactly like that.whenever i wanna talk about anything she puts it down or ignores me. It does make you feel crappy. But a friend like that doesn't deserve you. If the only thing she brings to your friendship is negativity then she shouldn't be your friend. If you told her about what she does and how she makes you feel.And doesn't care to change move on.it hurts but you deserve a friend to be as awesome as you are. Focus on your goals. If you still can't believe that she's jealous think about is she an only child? Or her family isn't always there. There's.something in your life she wants and because you have whatever it may be she always tries to brag or put you down because that makes her feel better about whatever it is that she doesn't have. I hope this helped
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Hi,
I'm usually pretty good at giving advice, but this I can't help myself with. I'm 13 and I just got transferred to a new place. I've been here for two months now. As many people here are teens they love to act all grown up and I'm not comfortable with the kind of things they do and the language they use, so I'm not friends with anyone, I tried to adjust and get used to them but without a friend I just can't manage. I'm kind of shy but I can make friends easily, but no one is like me (a little kiddish and crazy) everyone loves to act all grown up. I'm having a tough time making friends, please give me some advice on how I can adjust or I'll end up a lonely girl who talks to herself (link)
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It's not easy to adjust to new places. But it my not sound like much advice ,but be yourself. A lot of kids feel the pressure to grow up because they think its "cool" be yourself and watch your friends start to come around. There's nothing better than having friends that are there because they like you for you. Do they Have any clubs to join at your school? Maybe you can start there. I hope this helps. Be yourself friends will come
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To make a long story very short, I was in a relationship with this guy and we broke up about a month ago. The breakup was bad, because he broke up with me for another girl that he unintentionally got pregnant. He apologized later and I have since forgiven him. We started to become friends again, and it was good. A week or two goes by and he starts talking to me about liking this other girl. That would be fine in most circumstances, but he also said he still had feelings for me. That confused me for a while, but then I figured out how much of a liar he was in the relationship. The next week I told him that I still loved him and how I felt about his lying behavior. I told him because I couldn't get the thoughts out of my head and it was driving me crazy. After we talked about it, now he acts like we aren't friends. He says "we're cool" and there are no grudges or anything, but he won't hang out with me outside of the events I have to see him at. Those events are weekly, by the way, and now I'm left feeling like I have to pretend everything is fine in front of all of our mutual friends. Its not fine, and if those people knew what he did they may not want to be his friends. I know this sounds really messed up, but I still want to be his friend in spite of all the things we've been through. My real question is how do I go about rebuilding this friendship if I can? Should I apologize for telling him how I felt, and making him feel weird? I mean whatever I do, I know this guy will lie to my face, because I've caught him so many other times. However I don't want to loose a great friend I used to have, I've already lost him as a lover, I can't stand to loose him as a friend too. Is it hopeless, or is it fixable? (link)
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Well situations like this are hard to tell to me you should tell him how you feel about everything. Sometimes it can work out .if he really cares it will things like this take time. I think since he lies alot you should brace yourself, he might say things that could be hurtful and not mean them.. I do believe it could work out. I hope everything gets better!
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I raped someone I want to turn myself in immediately. Tell me what I need to do. I need to be punished. I will not say how it happen and why. I can't make up any excuses. I was drunk but it doesn't change anything. The person who was hurt doesn't want to do anything and prefers to just forget and move on, but I can't . I need to be punished and I want to turn myself in. The person wouldn't have to worry about trial or publicity. I just need to know what I have to prepare for. (link)
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I feel that you should apologize to the person you harmed. I believe you probably Have and I feel you should forgive yourself. Turning yourself in I feel is the right thing as what to face it could vary. if you mean legally that can range like I said before. The biggest thing is trying to move on and vowing never to allow yourself to get to that point. I hope the you can find peace. I wish you well.
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I have known this boy since elementary school and we are seniors in high school now. I never really liked him in this way until this year.. I sit at the same table with him And 3 other classmates with whom we share a friendship with that's hard to explain. One of my girlfriends at the table knows how I feel towards him And she notices how we fight like a married couple. I really like him And he talks to me like I'm his wife or something. We argue all the time but I think it's just a part of our chemistry. My question is how do I know if he really likes me the way I like him or if he's just joking all the time. By the way he's only dated white And Hispanic girls in the past And I'm African American And so is he. (link)
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You guys are friends and the best thing is to think if you're really interested in the relationship. If so you guys are friends so tell him how you feel. Explain what you're feeling. Hopefully everything will work out for the best. If things don't it'll be his loss.
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13/f
Sorry for the lenth
So I'm friends with this guy (btw we are both freshman) and we are both pretty opinionated. We've known each other for 3 or 4 years, but didn't become friends until this year because he was really annoying. Sometimes we joke around and end up getting into some heated but still friendly arguments. Something that I've started to notice is he's pretty insensitive. For example, I'm in band and one day he was basically calling band stupid. And I'm totally fine with people having their own opinions, he was just belittling everything about it to the point where he was making me feel crappy. Other times, I'll joke around with him. One time, my friends and I were teasing him. I only said one little thing while my friends kept teasing him and he got pissed at me and threatened to destroy one of my school projects that I had spent hours working on.
Earlier today, we were talking about what movies we were going to watch for the remainder of class after we were finished with our standardized state test. He said some movie that my parents had already told me I couldn't watch. So I was just like okay I'll just sleep. Then he told me that I should just watch it and not tell my parents. That really made me mad because I don't like to lie to my parents for a number of reasons, respect for them and my religion being two of the most. When I told him that, he told me that he respects his parents but lies to them to avoid lectures and punishments and then he criticized the way my parents are (which is fairly overprotective but I understand why they are the way they are) and that I should stand up to them. In my culture, something like that is a sign of disrespect. He basically said that was stupid. And then proceeded to continue criticizing me and telling me that I was stupid for having respect for everybody, no matter how badly they treat me. It really hurt me that he was belittling the way I am, the way my parents are, my religion, and my basic morals as a person. And every time I bring up that he makes me feel so bad, he's just tells me that I'm insensitive when I tease him. And I don't even tease him as much as my friends do. I know when to stop and leave him alone, but he doesn't realize that when he's serious about what he says to me, that it really offends me. I'm just getting tired of the way he treats me sometimes. What should I do? (link)
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You should always stick to what you believe in never let your friend stop you. He's a bully. Bullies like to pick and make fun of people but they hate when people do it to them. Tell him how you really feel and let him know that your serious. And if he continues to be the way he is then you shouldn't call him your friend anymore.
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19/f
Hey. I'm just an ordinary girl at college, and well I have a lot on my mind. My roommate is never around and we don't get along really well. I have a lot on my mind regarding life, love, and struggles that I'm going through. The one thing I really want is just someone to really talk to about these things. I do consider myself social :) but none of my friends really help me out, or I just kinda feel like a burden to them and guilty for always coming to them for help. I guess I'm just asking for advice on how to find someone that I can talk to about personal things and not feel ashamed? Oh and I don't have a lot of money so I can't get a counselor or anything. Plus I think that would be awkward. (link)
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im free and im here if you need me =)
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OK.... three months ago my bestie snapped and threw me against a wall in a park bathroom.... I havnt talked to her since then and mom thinks ive punished her enough.... I still dnt want to talk to her.... But i feel really bad..... What do i do? btw im 12 nd female.
LJB (link)
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well friendships have problems but being made was natural its been a few days you should talk to her to see what was wrong maybe you can help her try to work it out thats your bestfriend! Goodluck
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ohkaay, so my friend (lets cal her Erika) is coming to my house saturday at 5pm. then we're tellig my mom and her mom that we're going to my other friends house(lets call her marie). she's telling her mom she's coming to my house. then we're gonna meet up at a local park (walking) and then we're going to the store to get monster's to stay up all night, walking around my safe neighborhood. then we might sneak in at my house at like 3 to sleep a little.any advice for anything ? (link)
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well always be safe and always have a plan b any thing can go wrong also be careful trying energy drinks not all of them are healthy and some of them arent as effective as they may seem. well thats all i have for now good luck
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I used to be really close with a group of friends and then I became best friends with someone else and I made her a part of the group but now I can't go anywhere without her being there and I feel like i've drifted from my other friends because she's taking over so much of my time and is really clingy and invites herself everywhere because she assumes she's always invited and i'm too polite to un invite her.I still want to be close with her but I haven't found a way to balance my friendship with her and not loose all my other friends I used to have and not loose the closeness of our friendship by blowing her off and i'm leaving for college soon. So how do I salvage all of my other friendships. (link)
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i think that u should just talk to her about it let her know how you fell if she is your real friend she'll understand hope i've helped good luck
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