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my friend keeps criticizing everything about me
13/f
Sorry for the lenth
So I'm friends with this guy (btw we are both freshman) and we are both pretty opinionated. We've known each other for 3 or 4 years, but didn't become friends until this year because he was really annoying. Sometimes we joke around and end up getting into some heated but still friendly arguments. Something that I've started to notice is he's pretty insensitive. For example, I'm in band and one day he was basically calling band stupid. And I'm totally fine with people having their own opinions, he was just belittling everything about it to the point where he was making me feel crappy. Other times, I'll joke around with him. One time, my friends and I were teasing him. I only said one little thing while my friends kept teasing him and he got pissed at me and threatened to destroy one of my school projects that I had spent hours working on.
Earlier today, we were talking about what movies we were going to watch for the remainder of class after we were finished with our standardized state test. He said some movie that my parents had already told me I couldn't watch. So I was just like okay I'll just sleep. Then he told me that I should just watch it and not tell my parents. That really made me mad because I don't like to lie to my parents for a number of reasons, respect for them and my religion being two of the most. When I told him that, he told me that he respects his parents but lies to them to avoid lectures and punishments and then he criticized the way my parents are (which is fairly overprotective but I understand why they are the way they are) and that I should stand up to them. In my culture, something like that is a sign of disrespect. He basically said that was stupid. And then proceeded to continue criticizing me and telling me that I was stupid for having respect for everybody, no matter how badly they treat me. It really hurt me that he was belittling the way I am, the way my parents are, my religion, and my basic morals as a person. And every time I bring up that he makes me feel so bad, he's just tells me that I'm insensitive when I tease him. And I don't even tease him as much as my friends do. I know when to stop and leave him alone, but he doesn't realize that when he's serious about what he says to me, that it really offends me. I'm just getting tired of the way he treats me sometimes. What should I do?
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It seems like it's time to get a new friend. A friend is somebody that respects you, your beliefs and your wishes. So as I said, time to get yourself away from that friendship and not be around him. And good for you that you have that much respect for your parents. I wish that I was that mature and smart when I was 13...at 13 I was listening to my friends and 10 years later I hate myself for it and wish I treated my parents better. You will see how much better life is when you actually do respect your parents! Good luck xO
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You should always stick to what you believe in never let your friend stop you. He's a bully. Bullies like to pick and make fun of people but they hate when people do it to them. Tell him how you really feel and let him know that your serious. And if he continues to be the way he is then you shouldn't call him your friend anymore.
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