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Hey everybody. I've love giving advice so I'll answer every question I can. If you need any advice on anything, just ask me! A little about me- I play tennis and I love to shop and hang out at my pool with friends. I'll be a sophomore in high school this year so I've had plenty of experience on friendship and relationships. I always try to take my time and answer every question thoughtfully. I don't care about ratings or any of that, I just want to help people out. :-)

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My best friends parents just told her that they are getting a divorce. I don't know what to say to her. I basically said "I am soooo sorry" and "this should be happening to you" I also toldh er tha ti am always there for her she can call me anytime, it doesn't matter if its 12 midnight, and she can come over whenever, she doesn't hav eto call or nothin' i don't know what else to say. HELP!!!!

I think you are doing a pretty good job. All you can do is let her know you are there for her. It's not like you can fix her parents' marriage so you have to comfort her and try to make her feel a little better about the situation. This is a really hard time for her so just letting her know that she has a good friend will probably help her out a lot.

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Okay, my friend (we'll call her mary) and I are about the same size, except i'm a bit leaner because i'm tall and stuff. But she ALWAYS wants to borrow my clothes. I didn't mind at first but now it's coming to every day -- she sees what i'm wearing and says "I'm borrowing that." Also, our other friend is like 2 sizes smaller than us but "mary" has even borrowed clothes from her. "Mary" has worn my petite friend's favorite hoodie more times than she has!
Its really starting to get on both of our nerves. During the summer I let her borrow one of my coolest skirts and she got a stain on it. Yeah, it's tiny. But I mean, come on. Also, she always says I can borrow any of her clothes whenever I want when she borrows mine. But the truth is, her fashion sense sucks. All she does is buy brand names and the clothes are usually the wrong size for her because shes in denial about being a size xlarge. So, she gives the clothes to our small friend who could practically wear them as nightshirts their so big on her. Anyway, so should I just keep kinda ignoring her requests to borrow my clothes or just let her borrow them once in awhile to keep her sated? Or just outright tell her that she stretches out my clothes? WHAT?

Yeah that would be really annoying. Next time she asks to borrow something of yours just be like, "My mom doesn't want me to lend out any of my clothes anymore because she's worried they'll get stained and stuff." Then your friend won't be mad at you. She probably wants to borrow all your stuff because she realizes that you have cuter clothes. Maybe you guys could go shopping sometime and you could help her pick a bunch of cute things. If she knows you think they are cute then she'll be more likely to want to wear them and stop borrowing your clothes. Good luck!

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dOes anyone have any gOod laguna beach or OC quotes that deal with relationship && also ones that deal with friendship? .. i rate high =) .. thankss!

Here's a few from Laguna!

"Keep your friends close, your boys even closer, and your enemies as far away as possible."
-2 Promo

"I don't love you...I l-u-v you"
-Talan

"You are the best thing and the worst thing that ever happened to me, all rolled up into one."
-Five Years by Jaime Paxton, featured on Season 1

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I am really upset right now. Let me flashback:
"Kaley" and I went to the same school two years ago, and I was there since I was in first grade. She just started school there that year, so I wanted to be nice and talk to her. It turned out, we had a lot in common and by the end of the year, we were bestfriends. I went over her house a few times and we always had a blast. Then at when school ended for the summer, she was going to a different school and I was also going to a different one.
Last year, we promised eachother we would still keep in touch, which I TRIED to do but she obviously wasn't interested anymore in being there for me. Now a new year is starting again with school and everything, and she sent me an email with her AIM. She told me NOT to ever call her though because she's always "busy". Now, she was online a few seconds ago and her away message said "hey, I'm around the house. Lindsey, call me!" And then when I was on for only a few seconds, she signed off. well, my name isn't lindsey and that made me upset. I'm so upset now... how can I deal with this?

It sucks when someone you care about isn't interested in being your friend anymore. She may have been a great friend before, but she's obviously moved on. If she said to never call her, that's definite sign that she doesn't really want much of a friendship, even if you talk to her on AIM. So if she want's to forget about you, you should forget about her too. A new school year is the perfect opportunity to make new friends, and that's what you need to do. If you are a shy person, try joining a club or getting involved in a sport. That's a definite way to make friends. Just be sure to be friendly and smile whenever you meet new people. You'll make new friends in no time! I hope this helps, just ask if you need anymore advice. :-)

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my friends mother is an alchoholic .. she tells me everything ! she asks me what she should do when her mom is drunk i dont know what to say to her though nd i tell her i dont know. she always says shes sick of her mom. i dont know what advice to give her. i need some advice to give her.

I really don't have much experience with alcoholics, but I know it's a serious problem. I definitely think you should tell your friend to find an AA program for her mom. She should try to talking to other adults in her family (grandma's, aunts, etc.) All you can do is offer her support and hope her mom gets help.

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high school starts soon whats the best way to get a good reputation with people? im really nervous please help me out!!!

The most important thing is that you make sure to be really friendly. Smile a lot and just make casual conversation with whoever. Nobody likes someone who seems stuck up. That's the best advice I can give ya :-)

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Ok so on Friday i am going to my freinds house for a "movie night" we're going to paly volleyball outside earlier and then later we're going to watch hide and seek. well no big deal. she invited 4 guys and 3 girls (shes the 4th girl). well its kinda like a paired off thing. she invited couples. except for me. she invited this guy. i kind of like him i guess. same with him. he told my freind he kind of likes me. well i dont know i thnk it's goign to br really weird. because all the other people are goign ot be with their girl/boyfreind and then there will be me and this guy. i like him and all but i dont know i think it will be weird.and im kind of worried that he's gonna like try something, because thats just the the kind of guy he is...so i guess i dont know what to do.
((14/f))

Don't worry about it too much. Just hang out with him as if you guys were friends. If you need to, say "I know this is kind of a couple thing, but we're just friends right?" Or something like that. If you really feel weird about it, maybe you should tell your friend to invite someone else because you don't feel comfortable with him. But who knows, it might be really fun. Get to know the guy, but don't feel pressured to jump into anything.

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my friend is giving me a really hard time, because i didn't go somewhere with her, she makes fun of me and my myspace http://www.myspace.com/x333333

and she makes fun of me because she really doesn't know me... like she makes fun of that i don't have a bf at the moment, she acts like my time keeper, she schedules things for me, she hurts me, and she gets me in trouble, ALOT.. so how can i make her calm down and stay the way we were or not? help mee!!

o and yeah, she really REALLY needs some help, i didnt go somewhere with her and she is like "you know what? im never talking to you, dont call me, dont im me anymore, and dont even think about me, or visit my myspace, or even look at my things, i sware to god, if you do, you won't be alive by the next day" so she really needs help, badlyy, MENTLE PROBLEMS? maybey?

x0o PLEASE HELP MEEE PLEASE!!!


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OMG! She seems really mean!! Why do you want to be friends with her? She has some major insecurity issues. If I were you I would find some better friends, fast. She makes you feel bad, hurts you, gets you in trouble, and threatened to kill you!?!? I don't know about you, but these are not the qualities I look for in a friend. Let her know that if she wants to be friends with you she's gonna have to change her attitude. If she has a problem with that (which she probably will) focus on other friends, like I said. Hope you get this worked out!

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Well, my bestfriend and i have been best friends for 8 years *I'm going to be a junior* and we've been tennis doubles partners since 8th grade. This summer she's been slacking off and I've been working out everyday. I play tennis atleast 3x a week but i'm starting to play more, and the days i'm not playing i'm reading a book on it or running! I really want to get better and I'm working really hard. But she really isn't. She's played tennis 3x this entire summer! Sometimes she skips tennis practice for work *understandable but she's just afraid to ask to get off an hour early even though she's done it once before and they were fine with it*, but tomorrow she's missing it for a party for some girl she just met! And practice are over at 7- and i doubt the party is even started by then. My friend, who's a year younger then me but also is working hard this year has asked me to be her doubles partner for a tournament coming up. I was like heck yes! I really would rather play with her because I know we'd do really well and my other friend isn't even trying! What to do?

It's really cool that you're so into tennis! (like me!) As a tennis player, I know how you feel. It helps A LOT to have a partner who is on the same level as you. Not only in ability, but in focus and love for the game. Your friend doesn't seem to care too much about tennis. If I were you I would definitely start playing with the younger girl. Start practicing together so you can get used to playing with her (get a feel for her game.) If your other friend gets mad, tell her that you have nothing against her and you still want to be friends, but you'd rather play tennis with someone who's really into it. Hope this helps and good luck with tennis!

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I'm a female

You see, I started going to a new school this year, and everyone was mean except this one girl, who was really nice to me. But then once I started to think we could be bestfriend, she told me off and said she didn't want a bestfriend. It really hurt my feelings...but now that it's summer and she got my phone number, she's been stalking me, wanting to be bestfriends again. She's always calling me, and now she is coming over tomorrow, on Friday. She's really picky about things, and I have no clue what to do when she comes over. We don't like the same movies. She likes romantic comedies...does anyone know of any movies like that (PG rated please)? And what are some nice things to do when she is here?


Thanks! I'll rate high!

Why do you want to be friends with this girl? She seems really obsessive and you say she's picky. Plus, she told you off. Are these the qualities you want in a friend? I don't think so. Have her over tomorrow since you already have it set up, but after that, consider making some new friends. As for the time you are spending with her, just ask her what she wants to do but don't spend your time worring about pleasing her.

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Well I'm not really getting invited to too many parties. A girl named Katee had a huge party and I wasnt invited...I feel like a loser and left out....any ways on how to have more friends or something like that?

See if your parents will let you have your own party! Invite all your friends, and people you would like to get to know better. People love parties so you're sure to get a lot of people to show up. Recruit a friend to help you plan it if you want, it'll be more fun that way.

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OK. I have this guy friend I like. Let's name him David. And I have this friend. Let's name her Nina. OK. So I like David a lot. But he's 17 and I'm 13 (turning 14 really really soon), and Nina is 13 too (she turns 14 in July, a little bit before me). So today David told me to give Nina his phone number b/c he is too shy to go up to her himself, but I don't want to b/c I'm a little bit jealous. Does that make me a bad friend? What should I do?

Honestly I think this guy is too old for either of you to be messing with. I know he may seem like a great guy and all right now, but having a relationship with an 18 year old (he'll be 18 soon) is not only inappropriate but it is also illegal! You should both try focusing on guys who are closer to your age.

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