My name is Sam. I'm a junior at SHS. I've been through alot and I have friends that have been through alot so I thought I'd make a good advice columnist. I like music.
Bands I suggest you look into are:
Steriogram
Lola Ray
NFG
Graham Colton Band
Transplants
The Von Bondeles
Hole
Auf Der Maur
Trapt
A Perfect Circle
Distillers
Poison the well
My Ruin
The Murder Dolls
and last but not least Full Blown Rose.
Yes. Music. It's a huge part of my life.
Gender: Female
Location: Connecticut
Occupation: Junior in High school
Age: 16
AIM: Demonica068
Member Since: August 23, 2004
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I have this friend and i always tell her who i like and she talks to him about me, like not in a bad way but in a good way, but every person i like they end up likeing her! what do i do!? (link)
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Stop telling her. If you don't want them to like her start talking to them yourself. Small talk is easy when you're complaining about a teacher the two of you share. I know she's like your best friend and all but if you're having problems when you tell her you should stop telling her.
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i have this friend(lets call her mangan)and latly (especial last year) we have gotten into a lot of fights (not physical, but like over stupid thisngs) like 1 time when i didnt get her some shoe! but anyways we have been frineds since second grade and it is now eighth. she is makin new friedns and so am i, and i am afaidi will lose her, and that is the last thing i want to happen :( i just gotn know wut to do cuz i love her to death and always will please help me!
signed,
tryin to hold on!
(dont deleat cuz i really need adviuce!) (link)
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Okay. Have you told her that you don't want to lose her as a friend and how much she means to you? If you haven't then you should. If you've tried and it didn't work then I think you should try telling her again. It's better than losing your best friend.
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my best friend and my best guy friend are going out now which i dont mind but they leave me out of everything we used to do everything toghter but now they are always by themselves or when they invite me i always feel like a 3rd wheel what can i do? (link)
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I was going through the same exact thing till this morning. I talked to my best friend's boyfriend and told him exactly what my problem was. It turns out that's all I had to do. He talked to her about it and she apologized and promised that she'd stop ignoring me and spend more time like we used to.
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My best friend and I have known each other for a few years. Since we started high school, however, she has become really needy. She will "like" a guy but she won't do anything about it..then she'll blame them for not asking her out. It becomes the focus of her life and she gets really depressed if the guy doesn't 'pay her enough attention'. I've tried telling her that guys aren't the only thing in life and that her friends love her, etc..but she wont believe it and just uses it to show how 'unloved' and 'unlistened to' she is. What do I do? I don't want to end the friendship, but I'm tired of feeling used. (link)
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Tell her that if guys are the most important thing to her then she should be able to talk to them and ask one out. If she can't do it obviously they're not what should be focused on the most. It's not her fault that she feels this way though. My friend does it too only she has a boyfriend. She spends all the time in the world with him and neglects her friends. She didn't get it till, actually, this morning when I explained it to her and she burst into tears saying how sorry she was and how she got it now. So just make sure you explain yourself thoroughly.
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I have this friends and I really like her like more than a friend. A couple of months after we became friends I asked her out but she thought that it would be better if we stayed friends. After that was said, we became much closer and im kinda getting signals. what should I do, I really like her? (link)
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Ask her out on a date to the movies or something. Specify that it's a date too, don't just say do you want to go to the movies with me. If she accepts she obviously sees your relationship potentially going somewhere.
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my bestest, bestest, BeStEsT friend in the whole wide world jus did the worst thing a best friend cud eva do. She slept wit my crush. She sed she didnt mean to, and basically CrIeD, BEGGING me to forgive her. But how can i? She smokes, and she said it wuz becuz she wuz high. Yur probably wonderin wats she doin at his house in the first place. She goes there to get cigarettes. Its bad enuff that kidds our age shudnt be smoking, but anyway.... So she slept wit him, while i wuz on vacation. I'm jus glad she told me, but how can i ever forgive her? She PrOMISeD me she wud never do this to me, and she did. But then again, i mean its not like i wuz goin out wit him in the first place, so it isnt really my crush's fault. She said He came on to HER, but of course thats wat she's gonna say. I dunno wat to do. I'm jus so glad she told me, cuz she could've jus lied and sed everything wuz OK. But deep down...i'll let the picture speak for itself >:0. She begged me for forgiveness, and i want to forgive her, but i cant. Wat shud i do? (link)
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I'd have to say that you shouldn't forgive her. I'm sorry it has to be that way but she deserves it. What she doesn't deserve is a great friend like you. It's hard enough to keep friendships together today with sex among young teens on the rise but to give in to it all and have her do that with your crush just isn't right. It's not the friend thing to do and if she was really your friend she wouldn't have done that.
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okay well i've knownone of my friends sence the 6th grade and she was so sweet before and in the 7th she beganacting a little kinda slutty but now in the 8th she doesn't even much talk to me when she's around her group of friends that don't like me y don't they like me i dunno i never did anything to them but thats a PI (personal issue)so i wont get into that but ya she doesnt even talk to me no more and meand her were so close but now its like she will let boiz touch up on her and she just turned 13 and her bf is 22 or 21 i think.I don't like that at all i told her and she is like okay wutever and im trying to watch her back but she's just a LITTLE gurl and that guy is in his 20's he expects things and im trying to get her to understand but apperntly im the only one that cares cause her friends that don't like me agree with the relationship and i dunno wut do 4get about our friendship or keep on nagging her about it cause i do get tired trying to watch her back but i dont wannasee her suffer .so i dunno wut i can do and i wish that the old her came out but everytime i bring that up she gets offended and assumes that im just JELOUS (im not i dunno where she gets that idea from?!?!?!)plz help me!!! (link)
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You can get her boyfriend in trouble. Since he's over 18 and she's under 18 it's illegal.
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(14/f) i have a hard time getting along with girls. i only have 3 really close friends that are girls and 2 of them are changing alot and i'm begining not to like how they are acting lately. the majority of my friends are boys. i really can't stand being friends with girls! they always find a way to piss me off and with my guy friends... they are so much more easy going! my friend amanda she's been my best friend for about 3 years and she's the same way as me so i guess that's why we get along. but is there something wrong with me that i don't like being around girls and i just like being around guys?? (link)
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No there's nothing wrong with you. It's perfectly normal to not want to hang out with your own sex. I have alot more guy friends now than I did when I was younger because I've realized how gossipy and occasionally annoying girls can be alot of the time. But I still have a few close, really trust worthy girlfriends. Atleast one good girlfriend that sticks around is better than no girl friends at all because you can discuss girl stuff with her. Wouldn't you feel wierd trying to tell a funny girl's room story to, even if you were really close, one of your guy friends? I know I do. So just make sure that you have a good girlfriend around just for girl stuff.
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my best friend changed so much in the past year. when i first met her she was almost prude and she was such a lil goody goody. she said she would never let a guy go up her shirt and how she would be afraid to jerk off a guy because she would think she'd hurt him lol. well she has been with this guy for about a lil bit over a year now. she has changed so much. she's drinking now, she has sex.. like too much sex (she does it with him every night like 3x) i really dont know what to do. i hate the fact that she has changed so much. all of our friends say the same thing and talk behind her back. they say stuff about how shes changed so much and how gross her and her boyfriend are when they are out in public with us. a little while ago her and her boyfriend were on me and my boyfriend's asses about how we hang out too much.. well now they are being hypocrits bc ever since they started having sex, they have been hanging out like everyday. i wonder if its because they wanna have sex? idk but i really need to say something but i dont know how.. what do you think? (link)
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My friend has been going out with a guy for almost three years now and they did everything backwards. They had sex before she did anything else to him. That was at 4 months. Now they get in atleast one fight every day and she's afraid they'll break up and she'll feel strange because she lost her virginity to him. So she trys to make it work by being with him all the time. This actually doesn't help anything. It just makes them more prone to fight. So I think your friend is trying to stay around him because she thinks if she leaves for a while he'll find something better and leave her. The drinking and everything else is probably just her way of dealing with the stress. Giving in to sex in a young relationship is a stressful thing and it can have a lot of different effects on the mind. She needs to wake up. Tell her, while you two are alone, that the way she's acting and what she's doing is hurting you and it's hurting herself. Ask her if you can go back to the old days of hanging out like normal people and if you can start it off with something like a girls night in, like watching movies or something, or a girls night out, like going to a new movie with an actor in it you both think is really hot. (Lol.) If this doesn't work then tell her you don't want to lose her as a friend over a guy, and remind her of how stupid it is to give it all up over a guy
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I use to hate this girl at my school, i never said anything to her hurtful its just that she acts stuck-up but the problem is that my friend is friends with her and i cant stand being around her, I dont wanna tell my friend because i am scared she will stand up for the girl and stop talking to me. (link)
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Just tell your friend that you'd rather not hang out with that girl because she's not your type of person. If your friend insists that you're wrong then give the girl a chance. Talk to her in class once or twice and see what she's really like. If you still don't like her, tell your friend and she should understand. If she doesn't then just give her some time to cool down. And then tell her that it's okay for her to hang out with the girl but you'd rather not be included with her when you do hang out.
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