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well ive been friends with this girl for already a long time! its just that lately i just find her very annoying for no reason! i feel wierd around her and i dont talk to her anymore! what should i do??
like any toy we use to have to last years lipgloss and purse we also outgrow people. although you can't shove her in a closet or sell her at next summers yardsale you can talk with her. you simply just have to sit her down and tell her you think it's time that you both need your space. try and become friends with new people find out new talents figure out who you both are. because telling her "well you make me feel weird and you are starting to really annoy me" may be honest but is probably not going to go over so well..right? if you two do agree on getting space you may miss her but sometimes it's not always the person we miss usually it's the memories from the past. all the great times you two use to have but simply outgrew. try and talk to her because avoiding her will case a fight and end a friendship with hurtful comments. so you can try and do like the little conversation i wrote at the top.. you can let me know how it goes. i know what it's like outgrowing a friend..the other person does get to be annoying at times huh;)
if you best friend of 3 years made ur boyfriend breakup w/ you for her what would you do?
well..think of it his way..if the boyfriend breaks up with the girlfriend for the best friend he didn't really care after all.. i mean if someone loves someone no one should beable to tear that love apart no matter how bad the other person is inlove with the guy.
17/f my friend went on a diet and at first I didn't think anything of it, I mean it never hurts to lose a couple pounds. But my friend didn't lose a couple pounds. She probably lost like 30 pounds in like 2 months. She looks really bad. She iS not only a toothpick, but her eyes are so dark underneath and whenever she talks or smiles it looks like it hurts her face. I know most teenage girls go through the anorexic phase, but I think my friend took it too far. She promised she would stop a long time ago. Every time I see her she looks skinnier. She gets mad whenever I mention it, she looks like one of those mal nutritioned African kid. I don't know what to do. She's not even the same person anymore. She's always tired and in a bad mood. I think her mom is trying to help her but she told me she isn't doing what the doctor says. What should I do?
You can't help those that do not want to help themselves. By you trying to help her is probably going to be hard because if she doesn't follow a doctor she wont follow her family and friends. I think the reason why she gets mad is because truth hurts. she knows how she looks and how she is not only hurting her but everyone else around her. physically she can admit it but not mentally.. a lot of people do this for attention and sometimes diets do get out of hand and there is not way to stop it unless the one on the diet agrees to go along with the help that he/she is getting. anorexia leads to other disorders and sometimes it is too late. i hope your friend soon comes to realize how this is affecting everyone and i can tell that it is hurting you. you lost a friend to a disease that may or may not be controlled. i wish you all the luck because i know what you are going through.. i had a friend that was anorexic and she started to cut herself nad get into heavy drugs..it was awful.. she lost all communication with everyone around her.
Ok, so I'm a 19/f, and I' currently a sophomore in college. I met this one girl in college freshman year, and we have been best friends ever since. But I've noticed that this past year, she has maken it sort of her hobby to put me down. She'll constantly say negative comments about my body, my hair, my clothes and how I look. She even manages to take blows at my personality. We'll be in casual conversation on a completely unrelated topic, and she manages she find some way to insult me.
I do consider her one of my really close friends. I tell her everything and we do a lot together and always have a lot of fun. I just don't know why she insists on always putting me down. It really hurts, and I'm always so insecure on how I look, which involved having a minor eating disorder for about a year. I always feel horrible about myself, and I try to always change things so she'll stop saying stuff. I know changing for someone else is the wrong thing to do, but I will literally do anything to make the comments stop.
I've tried talking to her about it which resulted in even more comments, and I've also just tried completely ignoring them. I don't want too just stop being her friend because we are really close, and I don't have many other friends at my school. Plus were in college, and I feel like I'm dealing with the mean girl from high school all over again. Anyway, any advice would be appreciated.
She isn't a friend. A friend doesn't do that. You have to find new friends because you don't deserve to be treated like this and it is hurting you. You got an eating disorder from this chick putting you down all the time. It's tearing you apart and you don't need that it's very, very unhealthy. This is very immature of her to do this and she is obviously not happy with herself. She is self-conscious and the only way to make herself feel better if to put you down. And knowing that you still want to be her friend is giving her more power to hurt you. Don't change for her or anyone else. Just because she says these things doesn't mean the whole campus does and there are so many people out there that would be happy to be your friend and i mean a true friend. It's never too late to find a group of people that will understand you and give you some good compliments. this just makes me so mad because there are so many others ways that she can deal with how she feels about herself. she is the one that needs to change not you!
This is what I would say!! You can say the same thing or.. something like it ..
"Okay so what's the deal here? Lately all that you have been doing is putting me down and why? Is there something about me that bothers you? I thought were friends? A friend doesn't put another friend down. just because you are insecure about who you are doesn't mean i have to be. if you don't like my hair..fine, if you don't like my clothes fine.. but that's not going to stop me from wearing the styles i like.. you don't wear these clothes you dont have this hair so why do you even worry about what i look like or what i am. worry about who you are and do me a favor next time you want to insult me.. take a look at yourself..fix your problems figure who you are and then come to tell me whats wrong with me. Until then leave me alone and let me be who I am! don't put me down because i'm not like YOU! You're not miss perfect you have some downfalls just like every other girl on this campus.!" and well if you want to add a little more you cann!! just something i say. I speak my mind and do the same to her.. I hope i helped! people like that need a good talking to ! and its up to you to do it before she goes and half ruins another life! ohh that makes me so mad! good luck sweetie :)
at my new school i know absolutely no one!! and out side of school i have no life because i just moved and no absolutely nobody here. How do i make friends fast so i can get out??
Next time you are sitting beside someone in class or you see the person that has the locker next to you strike up a conversation. Walk up to a table at lunch and ask "is this seat taken" or "is it okay if I eat lunch with you today?". It's never easy being the new kid. I hope I helped a little anyways.. :) good luck
How could you be nice to people without them taking advantage of you?
the nice people always get taken advantage of..usually..i understand how you feel..once you say no the first time you will feel bad and probably change your mind and say yes but once you start to do it more often people will see that you are standing your ground and you wont take them taking advantage of you anymore!
17/f.
to make this very short, my best friend is really jealous of me & gets jealous of anything i say & do, she makes up lies and always tries to one up me. its getting on my nerves so much. its getting worse & worse. i tried to confront her about it, and she gets better for a few weeks, and then its back to her old ways. i just don't know what to do.
'best friends' as a matter of fact DO get jealous of each other.
Okay, so this is going to sound mean but it worked for me. i had friends that didnt want me hanging out with other ppl and so on and so fourth at first i wouldnt do it to keep peace but then after.. i did everything that bugged them because in the end they started to realize that i am my own person and i am going to have a life! try it and see if it works because if you dont you wont be get anywhere in life without having a jealous person bring youdown! let me see how it works there's probably more things you can do . ;) let me know hehe..