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Okay, my best friend was dating my cousin for awhile, but then they broke up, Two weeks ago, they got back togeather, and my cousin came up for a visit. They hung out and everything was okay. Now my best friend (which by the way, there both 13), just broke up with him, cause she's saying "she didn't know how wild he was" because she just found out that he made out with his old girlfriend on her bed! But he wasn't even dating my friend at the time, so it's no big deal. So now she's being all gay, and i dont understand how to deal with this situation. Should i be mad at her, for hurting my cousin, or should i just let it slide? I love my cousin alot, he's like one of my best friends, but she's one of my best friends too! HELP

heyy
I think you should leave the two to work it out on their own. if u get involved it can get complicated. So if your friend tries to drag you into it, just ask her to not involve you because you love them both and dont want to see one of them get hurt.
best wishes!

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okay i really need help..sorry this is long..

16/f

me and my best friend *natalie*..well we have been best friends since 1st grade. we were like inseperable..i love her to death. but ever since spring break, she has changed so much. she started skipping school nonstop. she failed the 10th grade. she started drinking alot but then she stopped. she had sex with a 21 year old that we all knew. she yells at me for the stupidest reasons. she freaks out on her parents and calls her mom a bitch and a whore. she doesnt respect my parents. she didnt even come to school to do her finals on the last day. and now its summer. and we usually have SO much fun. but she met some new guys that she hangs out with everyday and she gets drunk with them and gets high with them everyday. i guess she thinks its cool but i really do miss her. and ive tryed telling her that she is too wild and everything but she doesnt listen. all of our friends dislike her now. and i mean ALL of them. she likes this guy named ray but i dont think he likes her cause she is too loud. he doesnt really act like he likes her. i dont know what to do. no ones parents will let their kids hang out with her. i feel bad and i want to.. its just i dont want to get caught up with her and end up getting in DEEP trouble because of her. i really want her as a friend though. i want things how they used to be. what can i do?!?!?


ILL RATE HIGH!..

heyy
well first things first... the reason she started behaving this way. You're friend probably has problems at home that no one knows about. This stress could have "triggered" her. Maybe drinking and doing drugs is her way to relieve the pain. Either way, its not healthy (as im sure you already know) Do her parents know about your friends behavior? They should and if they dont- maybe you can confront them and say that your friend needs serious help. You could be saving your friends life. It is a very serious matter. Regardless of what your friend wants- do whats right and you would be a great friend (which im sure you are) Don't get involved with her new behavior and hang out with some of your other friends for a while. I'm sure you'll have a great summer and i wish you the best!

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Right, my best friend is usually really nice, but recently she keeps putting me down, mostly about things that arent even true. She keeps pointing out people and saying they're taller than me and teasing me about my 'frizzy' hair. Shes even started being mean about the things i like. Like my big eyes she says are weird and the other day she said "I like my tummy better than yours" and i really like my toned tummy. Even though most of it isnt true, its really getting me down. What should i do? Please do not tell me to talk to her about it because she would just tell me i'm being stressy.

heyyy Maybe yourfriend is insecure or jealos of you? maybe something is wrong at home? see if you can ask a sibling of hers or another close friend? if not, then maybe you can just give her time to chill and go hang with other friends. if she stays the same then maybe its time to get a new bff (if she is- you didnt mention) so i hope all goes well and i hope i can help! xoxo

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One of my best friends likes the same guy as me. Well my and my crush (Ross) have been talking alot latley and he told me he likes me. I don't know how to tell her that he likes me. I don't wanna sound like I'm trying to rub it in her face, but I don't want her to find out from like gossip or something so I want her to know so she doesn't get her heart broken, but what should I say?

heyy well an idea is to have ross tell youur friend, or you can say "Hey (friend) listen, dont be mad but ross told me he liked me. i dont want to sound mean but i dont want you to hear it from the wrong person and be mad"

hope that helps! xoxo

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I really would like to make more guy friends. Guys talk to me and stuff, but how do I develop a friendship with them? I'll give all 5's. Thanks

well what works for me is talking to the guys more (kinda obvious lol) making friendly gestures, going to a sports game they're on (saying congrats after the game) and makings insiderss and jokes. its kinda plain stuff but youll make some more friends (or you should) xoxo hope it works:)

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ok, im almost in love with this guy. not obsessed, but getting close.
he's gorgeous && incredibly sweet.
but there are problems;;
1)i cannot talk to him
2)he likes someone else
3)he's a druggie
now, i know what you're going to say about him doing drugs.. but hey! sometimes, a bad boy is good for a girl..you know??lmao
so what can i do??
should i just sit around && hope he gets over this other girl??
or should i talk to him??..conversation starters???

will rate high ;D
♥ thank yooou

heyy
i think that you should work up the nerve one day and talk to this cutie (lol) but seriously yea talk to him its win win because even if he ends up not liking you - you still made a new friend! Thats deff. better than an admirer from afar. Trust me xoxo good luck

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I just pretty much broke my guy friend's heart. He has liked me for a really long time, and a couple days ago he just told me. I feel so bad because I feel like I lead him on...because he always comes to my locker every day (which kind of annoys me) and i even gave him a friendly hug one day just as a joke. But now I've realized as I've gotten to know him that he is just not what I'm looking for in a boyfriend. I'm not even sure I WANT a boyfriend. So now he is really different after i told him we should just be friends. he's sad, and talking about how hes never going to like another girl again. He'll probably continue to follow me around at school and I am trying to explain it to him the best i can but I've never really broke someones heart before. Any advice?

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Aw you should feel that bad. its not your fault you lead him on, you were just being friendly (i do that all the time) but anyway you should sit down with your guy friend and explain that you feel real bad about hurting his feelings and say that he will find the perfect girl one day and she will love him- but you two werent made for eachother

hope everything works out!
and i hope i helped

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My Ex boyfriend and I are pretty good friends, and I like being friends with him except it really walks on my last nerve when he flirts with my friend Abby. I don't like him that way; thats not even the point. It's that everytime I look at them their always flirting and poking each other and when he's around me it makes me feel like he uses me to get to her. Because he won't talk to me until he is away from her. That really pisses me off. You can't talk to him, or her because they won't listin. She's nutty and he's a crack. So how can I deal with this?

well i'm not in your situation but if i was i'd find someone else (meaning a friend) to hang around while they're together because if they ignore you is there really a point in being with them. and when the two are apart you can hang out with them individually if you want to. If not, then you get a new friend out of it!
win-win situation right?

good luck
i hope i could helpp!

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Alright. I thought since my best friend is such a good friend id make a list of 100 reasons why your my best friend. Can someone give like 25? (its a girl) Thanks I RATE 5!

heyy!
well here it goes and sorry if they're weird but they are like what i would say to my friend!
p.s. cute idea! mind if i steal it?

1)Your not my friend- your my sister
2)I know your life story
3)I know everything about you
4)Our secrets are safe
5)We are like attached at the hip
6)We are awesome- what else can i say?
7)All those memories- too many to count
8)Remember that time...
9)I'll be with you forever
10) I'd do anything for you
11)If we fight, it brings us closer together
12)We talk ALL the time
13) we can be completely honest with eachother
14)So many jokes!
15)We are like twins
16) Who says we spend too much time together!?
17) We practically live at eachothers houses
18) One day, i'll adopt you
19)We can do the weirdest stuff and we think its awesome
20)We go everywhere with eachother
21) I love you brothers and sisters like they're my own!!
22) We have so many inside jokes people dont understand it at all and it would take forever to explain
23)Here is an acronym for you:
24)F is for the fun we have
25)R is for Really crazy (thats us)
26)I is for how we are inseperable
27)E- we share Everything
28)N is for No one is better than us!
29)D is forr how Dand close we have gotten
30)and S is for our Sisterhood!!!
31)We share our clothes!
32)I couldnt find better friends!!!

hope that helps i tried to do as many as i could just incase some dont pertain to you guys but good luck and may i suggest renting Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants? l i LOVE that movie

xoxo

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