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my name is Irene, i am 16 years old and i live in Florida. I am not a conceided person but i am really good in giving people advise to their problems. I have been through a lot of experiences in my life and i understand how it feels like to be in a situation where you dont know or are not sure of what to do and need someones advise. So for all of you that feel like that right now, i just want you to know that i am here for you! Just ask away!
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me and my best friend have been friends for about 3 years. We pretty much do everything together and we normally always have a good time. we never even really fight. lately though she has been getting on my last nerve. she just does stupid annoying things all the time like we were at a sleepover with some people and we were all talking and she just started playing music on her phone and singing and it was really annoying. and she always tries to do things for attention and she is a downer. everytime we hang out with a group of people something is wrong with her, i can't stand it anymore. she like changed over the summer, and is more immature and gosh i don't know what to do. i mean if i lose her as a friend, i really wouldn't have anyone else besides my boyfriend because i don't have any other really close friends. i'm not the best at like getting close with people it takes me awhile [there really is no reason behind that its just the way i am]. i don't want to lose her as friend either though ahh. any advice at all on anything in this really long thing [sorry about that btw] would be great. thank s a ton! (link)
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Hi,
Ok...first off do remember you are not that much older either. Why dont you try and be honest with her. Honesty is key. And maybe your friend is acting the way she is acting because when you are with a group she feels left out, invisible,not wanted???
So if you talk to her about your feelings and have a responsible,MATURE conversation. Then resolve things.
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Kay well theres this girl and I've known her since I moved to my town when i was like 6. and she's always been annoying and really bossy and controling and thought she was always right. she still is that way, 7 years later (we're in 8th grade). it was only once in 2nd grade where she realized to not be so mean and she could actually make friends. well theres this younger girl in our neighborhood.. and she always follows what that annoying girl says or tells her to do. like when we were younger and even now she'd like make her and some other young kids like follow her lead.. like she'd give them spelling homework and stuff.. and im like. your not their teacher. and she'd MAKE them do it. and whenever we played games outside, like her, me, and 3 other girls in our grade, she'd make these gay cames like basketball-baseball that we didnt really wanna play which she'd alter so that all the rules apply to her so she can always win. its so stupid and like i used to get into fights with her a little bit sometimes cause she'd argue with me about stupid stuff. like im one who barely gets into fights with people but shes so friggin annoying but i have to see her every freaking day cause she hangs out with my friends so she's just there. i wish she could move. like my mom says to just ignore her but its not easy all the time. like 2 days ago she went over the edge. like im in this club at school and we're planning a couple of fancy schoold dances and the annoying girl had never been to a dance before. so i told her that there would be other fun things to do besides dancing and stuff and if she may consider it cause we're putting a lot of effort into it. and shes like no. i asked if it was cause of her parents and she says no, cause some of my friends cant go cause they dont want them to dance with guys or something. so i ask then why and she gets all in my face about it and it ends up with yelling and now we're pissed at each other. and sometimes she tries to make me embarassed but i dont get embarrased and not by pathetic people like her who like to put people down. like its a struggle living with her. like me and the 3 other girls along with her walk home from school together cause we all live around the same area so its like the same route. and like once she lost her cellphone and she made a huge deal about it. i mean honestly not everyone cared to look for it and i had other things on my mind but when i talked about something else she yelled at me. i mean im sure if the same thing happened to me she wouldnt be looking everywhere. i even asked her where she last put it and she yelled at me then that was another retarded pointless fight. i was trying to help her goddamit. and the other girls say they dont like her sometimes too but im like wtf.. why dont they do anything about it! i like having friends who i can have a fun time with and that i dont always have to fake it cause sometimes i did just to keep things cool between us (tho we were never friends. ew.) for the sake of my friends who still liked her. but now im just fed up with it and i dont really want to make up with her until she apologizes first. i mean why waste my time to try and apologize with her? when she'll just make things worst, that bitch. like today she said that i didnt care about anybody but myself because i came early on the bus and sat in a seat that this girl wanted to sit in and i'd been sitting there for like a week now so its pretty much my spot. and im like what the fudge? who is she to say that? and right before i was actually thinking of trying to fix things up between us cause drama is dumb but that totally changed my mind again. and im going trick o treating tomorrow with my friend and other people in my hood and that girl said that trick o treating was soo immature but all of a sudden she thinks its okay and is gonna go with us! and im so pissed and i wanted her to not be with us. i want her to stay home or like her parents to freaking move cause i've never thought that way about a person before. its just her whos just so inconsiderate and ignorant. and shes like that everyday. so how can i deal with her? and on halloween my mom said to just ignore her again so should I? like how? make it easier. and what are some things i should say back to her if something happens cause im not good on thinking on the spot and i'd say something stupid. i dont want to go to guidance at school cause its not worth the time so.. yeah. im not saying im picture perfect either and neither is she though she thinks it is, but lots of people at school think shes prissy and bossy and stuff but i dont get why she cant just change her ways and actually be a nice caring person. ughh why did her parents have to move to my neighborhood. cause if she moves out id never hear from her again thank god. like on thursday i have this club in school and im just gonna avoid her cause i can see my other friends in it and not talk to her at all. i hate like being all snippy and mean to people. i dont get why it comes natural for some but not for me. i like hanging with nice fun people unlike this annoying girl. and yeah random but she IS a priss cause like shes always saying things how like we shouldnt shout cause it disrupts the neighborhors, or says that things are really immature (she thinks im immature when she gave my gym bag to this guy in the front so he could see whats inside. she also thought that was embarrasing. it was just retarded and some girl in the front that was my friend gave it back. yeah real mature of her right. but if i talk to her about that she'd just change the subject and act like I was the criminal.) like sometimes i shouldnt forgive when i do but this time i think im gonna put my foot down.
damn sorry this was soo long but well its a long story. any help and i'll be really grateful. like please no like 1 sentence answers please think seriously about this and it'll really affect me. thanks. :) (link)
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Ok....
This is my advice, from what you have told me,you are both not real friends for each other..If she is not a person you can have fun with then why waste your time? If you actually sit there and wish she moved then why even fuss about her? Yes,indeed your other friends are her friends but that doesnt mean you HAVE to be as well...You need to stick to your own beliefs and not go with what everybody else is doing. If she is bossy then just ignore her, as in dont speak to her.Nobody wants a "friend" that tells them when to breathe and when to speak. But i must say...you as well are not a friend to her,you apparently dont want her to be your friend,she is just an annoyance to you.Another advice,just because a person wouldnt do something for you doesnt mean you couldnt do that something for them.That just makes you as equal to them.
I hope i helped
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I know this is long but please read it and answer honestly. So I rented a car to go somewhere and out of the goodness of her heart my friend agreed to take me to where i wanted to go she even had to miss a day of work and i said i would repay her for missing that day. So i put down the 100 dollar deposit needed to pay for the car and i also paid the 33 dollars to rent it as well as an extra day so her boyfriend could go to court.I owed her 24 dollars anyway for the day of work she missed so i said fine i'l pay the ectra 12 dollars because you are doing me a favor. So i did but then the guy didn't ever think me and although he treats me okay he is not really or was not disrespectful to me he didn't aknowledge me in the friendliest of ways his personality is eccentric he is a grown man 20 years old and has no money, no car he is broke and claims he doesn't work because his mama won't let him. Now i kind of went on a rant today about how he was in so much trtouble because he is doing something wrong in his life and how our frined should not have been the person to bail him out of jail for 300 dollars he should have called his family and that she shouldn't be so stressed out about all of this stuf because she is not his keeper. Was i wrong for saying whta i said and do i really talk to much to have friends not tomind you she is not perfect either she is very sarcastic in the "homney you know what sort of way." (link)
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Hi,
first of all i think you are a very good friend and no matter what he should have aknowledged that. As a friend you are supposed to keep your friends out of harms way, your supposed to warn them and be honest with them. You told her EXACTLY what you believe about him and you shouldnt regret it at all. Some people prefer thinking before they talk so that they wont say anything mean but everything you WANT to say consist of the TRUTH. I just read what you said about him, i dont know him, but my honest opinion about him is that he is a lazy bum and he is taking advantage of your friend. You shouldnt regret a single thing you said because its not like you were lying about him, it was all the TRUTH, and she likes it or not, it was. Even if you might have overreacted,which i think you didnt, you did what was best to try and help your friend realize what situation she was in.
I hope i have helped!
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Well one of my friends who i have been really close to since 5th grade has been having boy trouble but its complicated. She had a thing with one of our friends and then were cute together for awhile but then she broke it off with him and has been accusing him of things that she used to like. Like she is accusing her best friend of being all over him but really tey are just talking or something. And the first time she said it i believed her when she accused them of being all over eachother becuase someone else agree'd who was there, but now its just rediculous.And she is telling us not to talk to him pretty much because if we hang out she gets mad at us. I dont know what to do because i dont want to ruin either friendship but i feel like i might flip out on her at any second because she needs to get over it but i dont know how to tell ehr nicely because she is a very emotional person who lets her angry get the best of her way to fast. (link)
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Hey,
I am so sorry for u. Being in between friends is something really hard to cope with and u have been really patient! I am not patient so i would have freaked out a long time ago.
Here is my advice to you:
If she was a real friend she wouldnt even consider you to choose. She should have left her personal life out of your choice of friends,but she didnt. Dont be afraid to talk to her,start the conversation by telling her that you want to have a talk about something and you hope she doesnt get mad at you but you need to tell her. Tell her its not fair for you to choose because of HER personal experience with that person. And hopefully it will have a happy ending, if it doesnt[knock on wood] then u should tell her that if she was a true friend she shouldnt make YOU choose. People like that are not really good friends, because they dont care about your interests, tey just want you to do what they want you to do.
Hope i helped a little
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I have a best friend, we are always together and on the phone and laughing and even speaking eachothers words.
She went away to visit her other friend and i called her and stuff to see what was going on, and she was being mean to me and like rude and it hurt my feelings so much.
She like acted like she didnt even wanna talk to me or anything.
For like 3 seconds she would act normal and then she would get all nasty and stuff.
And We even promised that while she was gone, we were still gonna be best friends.
Why would you think she was doing this to me?
It makes me so sad, shes my best friend ever. (link)
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My advise to you is this. I believe you should let your friend talk and see that other friend over there and if she is still there and she wants to talk to you then she will call you. Wait until she gets back and then talk to her about it, tell her that you called her to say hi and she shouldnt have been so mean. But maybe she felt like you werent letting her spend time with that other friend of hers.
Dont do anything drastic until she gets back but yeah, you should talk to her.
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ok. if your so called "BEST FRIENDS" never called you, always stood you up with phone calls, and made you feel like you weren't their friend, what would you do? (link)
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And you call them your friends because...
Look, you may not have noticed but i trully believe there is other people that are around you almost everyday and deserve better attention than them.
If they choose 2 leave you out then my advise to you is to find REAL friends that wont.
I am sure you dont deserve to be ignored!
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