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I am a teen who has been through tough break ups all the way to being threatened about my life. I just love helping erebody else. Its one thing if an adult trys to understand a teen. But it is another thing if a teen trys to understand the Teen.
(us teens lay it down like it is, you feel me?)

You got anything on yo mind let it out, even if its embarassing, cause I have people asking the same type of Whateva, u kno what I'm sayin?

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16/f. okay, so i have a friend 'alexa' and she's liked 'marc' for a long time, but it's one of those guys that she's always kind of liked and wanted, but there's like five of those guys. so i was drunk, and we hooked up at a party. i regret it so much, and if i wasn't i wouldn't have ever done that. i've never done a bitchy thing to a friend. well i didn't tell anybody except for my best friend, so i was like okay nobody will find out, i just want to pretend it didn't happen. i didn't know if should tell alexa or not, so i just waited. i'm not good with confronting people and telling people things when i mess up because i hate getting in fights even though i know i should have, but she somehow found out because someone told someone and you know how that goes. then she flipped out on me. and i didn't even know what to say to her. i told her that i was sorry and i never meant to hurt her and i regret it so much and if i could take it back i could. we talked about it and she was saying how hurt she was and stuff. at the party, it was me, 'cassie', and 'nicole', and alexa was mad because none of us told her. i mean, i know seriously i'd be pissed too if my friend hooked up with a guy i liked for a long time and didn't tell me and i found out from someone else. i just don't even know what to do. we were such good friends, and i dont want to keep bugging her and saying liek i'm sorry, because i know that'll get annoying. i imed her yesterday and she said she's over it but things aren't okay. right now i feel like she hates me. and she probably does, but i really don't want her to. i don't know what to do. i haven't seen her in person since before she found out, and i'm seeing her tonight. what should i do. should i pretend nothing happened or should i appologize or kind of avoid her. or what? i just want things to be normal. it's been like a week since she found out, and i just wanted to give her time. but i don't want to avoid hanging out wtih all of my friends just because of this. i want things to be better. :( what do i do? sorry this is so long.

you need to see her her and ask her are things cool, and ask if you can tell yo part of the story before she budds you out. Tell her how it all went down. it won't get off the chest until you completely fess up. trust me you're not the first one to do so. I've heard so much far worse things, believe me. Don't sway away cause that would give her the excuse to call you a stabbing pussy, u kno since she may think u afraid to talk. speak out.

so like EN Vogue said:

"free your mind and the rest will follow, be color- blind, don't be so shallow"

peace, homegirl

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I been wit mny man fo 4 months, and I know he been cheating, I have my girl check up on him, and she said she saw him wit some b***ch at the D.E.M.O., u kno at the mall I'd ask him and he'd lie, I still did not believe his a**. I waited about 3 days, and I asked him again. I even went on to say My girl, blank, saw yo ass at d.e.m.o don't lie. He said my girl who caught him was the girl he was messing with. I talk to my girl, and other people and it all true. And it ain't onlyy my man she done it with. I feel like a fool?

U weren't a fool, you just put yo trust on the wrong person. You need to be careful, and drop him lose

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Yeah well my absolute best friend since the 1st grade just got a new boyfriend. It has recently come to my attention that he has been talking really bad about me and my boyfriend (my boyfriend and my friend were also really good friends before she met her boyfriend). I told me friend and she didn't care in the least bit and he keeps on doing it. Let me also say that she doesn't even like her boyfriend that much and theyve only been together for like 2 weeks. Should I feel like betrayed or something? If my boyfriend said one bad thing about my friend he'd be gone in a minute.

Well is she over him? If she is, talk to her, aboout you know when she was with him, and how you felt betrayed, and see where it goes from there. She might try to sweet talk since its over and done with, but you have to make peace, and see if you can trust her again. Good luck

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Well, I do have one friend. She's not in my grade so I barely see her besides weekends. & even then, she has other friends to hang out with as I used to...

Which brings me to the real topic. I lost all my school friends. They got into drinking & hanging out with people who do that & smoke & everything but.. I don't like doing that. Today I tried telling them that we're not even friends anymore & I feel stupid still acting like we are, when in reality I have none. They told me that they've changed & I haven't. & they wanna like, make the best out of high school. So I'm supposed to do what? One even told me to hang out with these other girls who I'm only sorta close with one of.. & I have social anxiety disorder so it's really hard for me to just ask people to hang out when I barely talk to them. This sucks. They made it worse by saying that I could make friends & stuff.. it just feels awful to know I have no friends at school. Even though a lot of people talk to me at school, they'd never think about asking me to hang out. Which is even worse than not having any friends besides a small clique. Now summer's coming up & I'm going to have no life.. I don't know what to do with myself right now. Should I say anything to my old friends? How do I make new ones without feeling like an idiot? How do I see my old friends & act like nothing happened?

This helps to get it out & I don't really know exactly what I'm asking here but if anyone can relate? shed some light? Please.

same here. That is exactly what happens to me. Now over the summer I'm taking summer school, I'll make some friends there, and I'm going to join clubs and sports to get myself in some clique. you should try asking someone to hangout, and try what I'm about to try. trust measking anyone this same question, you'll get the same answers, because not everyone has been through this without changing themselves some how. you should be more open and invite all those people over for popcorn and a movie, so when those people atre asked what did u do ova the weekend. they can say thjey were with you. to make you a noticeable friend

good luck, and wish me good luck

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ok well im am totally in love! with my bestfriend and i have heard from some of his friends that he likes me and really wants to go out with me! But idk if i should do that because we have about 2 weeks of school left and we rarely see eachother over the summer! which sucks. I have been wanting to kiss him for a very long time. but im scared to do it unles i know its ok. soo do you think it would be ok if i kissed him?.

since ure asking ure already letting me know that you are still in the friend zone. I say sneak up behind him when he's alone cover his eyes and say "guess who", with a sexy voice. when he guesses its you tell him you want to hangout this weekend. That's when you start asking him questions like "would you say we were friends or more than friends, depending on his answer work your way from there. That should lead into a relationship, and a little while longer for the kiss. a kiss is not expected it just sometimes happens. when you get real close. Good luck

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these 2 girls got in a fight..k and e. k is the one that they are mad at for no reason. e got one of her friends and then she got involved. at lunch , and friend that got involved pour a whole container of milk of k 's head and her friends' head. i was friends with all of them. now, the involved friend with e called and asked if i was mad and if i still wanted to be their friends. i said i was mad so now they are mad at me!!! wat do i do.

im friends with k... not e

First getting involved in somethingso serious puts more beef in the situation. Let them all know that you over it, and that its the past be like "you all still mad about that, hey, I got over it a while ago. Don't worry about its the past, and walk to where you need to go slowly". But watch the tone as you say this. I hope this catfight works out. Good Luck :):):):)

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Ok, i have this BEST FRIEND (maybe i should say i USED to have this best friend) that tells me everything, and she is just great. But then all of a sudden she started hanging out with this other girl and now they are like best friends. I dont care if she makes some other friends, but its like i'm being replaced! Her "new" best friend thinks i'm weird, and she thinks that i'm mean to her. Well of COURSE i'm mean to her, shes taking my bff away!! newayz, lateley i've been thinkin about telling my best friend i dont wanna be friends anymore, but i dont know if thats the right thing to do!! HELP ME....should i try to hang on or ditch her?

Hang out to her. Let her know what true friend is like you're not being completely replced, you're just ingnored for a little. Who you need to talk to is the new friend of your best friend explain to her aout your fellings. And let her know that you don't care if she think you weird but make it clear to her that you can't be pushing me out of the picutre with my friend and try calling your friend over the weekend and push your plans in like she has been pushing your plans out. Tellthe new girl by action you know exactly what she is trying to do, but at the same time allow your beast friend to make new friends you will always be her friend she just wants to get to know the other a lot more

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Ok so i was really close with my brothers girlfriend and she was really close with me. I am pretty much the reason why they stayed together for so long. Anyway, so my brother and her went of to collage and they told me they would always keep in touch with me. So one time my friend mentioned that there were no pop rocks by where her collage is (her favorte candy) so i decided to buy so pop rocks and send them to her 2 week ago! She still hasent called me back to say anything. it was 2-3 day delivery. it really hurts me that she nevered called to say anything, even though i called her about a billion times. She never even called back. So today i left her a kinda mean message but i feel bad. She was my best friend and now she dosent even return my calls! Please tell me if i was wrong to leave a nasty message

yea it was wrong to leave a message. It seems like you care about her too much to even play a little game with her emotions. Call her instead on your own. person to person. tell her how you feel. Then tell her that the only reason you had sent the note was because of frustration and the thought of losing her as a best best friend. I ain't tryna get all honeymoon french crap on u but boy u kno what i mean. open up. If it works out. after your done talking just listen to ya favorite jam, and continue on with your life.

You'll be fine.

By the way after all she is your brother's girl so try not to be too invading. If you have a majort crush on her you kno what to do.. don't sya you don't. Be confident you kno

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A year ago I moved to a condo and i met this girl, for now i will call her C. And C was a nice girl, she was like my best friend for a while and then i met her friend, K. Shit happened, and then I got into a fight with K and then i got intoa fight with C. But then, i made up with C and K. Then C moved and it was just me and K. Me and K have become the best of friends, we're blood sisters, but K is a total slut, and C has changed into a little ho. She dresses like a slut and calls herself 'the playboy master' cause she loves playboy to death. Now me and C always get into fights and then im always the one that goes back to her and wants to become her friend again. Me and K get into fights too and stop talking, but we end up being friends again after a day. Now K is telling me to be the bigger person and be friends with C again cause shes 'so much fun'and shit. I really dont want to be C's friend again cause we're just gonna end up fighting again. So, should i listen to K and make up with C or should I just forget about C? I really need some advice on this.

Obviously u know what is right for you. Listen to your heart. I know it is hard wlaking around with people who like to be prettier than everybody else. They'd say stuff to me like: "Guys always want me" or " you know I'm gonna be prettier than you when we grow up, right) So I have kicked them to the curve after school changes they thought they had to change and become so damn arrogant so I'm like you treat like back up instead of a friend. Find somebody else. Sluts never go to far
Trust me on this one

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I am a 21 woman (living at college) and my neighbor at home is a 15 yr old boy and he got to talking to me about stuff, he calls quite a bit and that's fine, he doesn't really have people to talk to a lot because he's very popular in the high school so he has to maintain an image or whatever, you know how high school is, so he can't really open up to anybody. Anyway he calls me about stuff and I give advice whatever, he treats me like I'm his mom or something (his own mom was never in the picture really) so anyway his dad got re-married last spring and he was fine with the stepmom at first but after a while he started changing and he was calling late at night really upset. Finally he told me why, he said his stepmom's been coming in his room at night and doing stuff with him, I won't be graphic but you can probably figure it out. So I called CPS and they ended up dropping the case, and his dad thinks he was lying, but I know he's not. He's been able to keep his stepmom out of his room and is staying weekends with his aunt and uncle, but it just sucks that he has to go thru this and he's got a lot of trust issues now. Sorry to be so long but you kinda had to know the backstory in order to answer my question, which is how can I help him thru this, what do I say to him? All I've told him so far is that I believe him and I don't think it was his fault.

You are a very confident 21 year old woman holidng on to a young boy's life. Let him know you are there for him, and try to get him to try speaking up about it, without telling his father. I know it may seem to nosiy, but it is the right thing to do. He has not opened up to anybody but you. Your trust counts. Followyour heart on this one by calling the CPS you're smart. That means you know exactly what to do. I have also been molested as a child but had never told a person to this day this boy was a church member, and a very close family friend. He had grown up to become a gangster, hustlin' drugs, and such. Of course I will never forget what he did, and I also will never forget the people who were there for me to help me through it.

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Me and my best guy friend talk all the time on AIM. Mainly every night before school. But I have 2 classes with him, and he RARELY talks to me in class. Is there a reason for this? It kind of makes me upset.

This is a guy friend, right, then maybe there is another girl in his life that knows about your firendship with him, you is trying to worsen it. Or maybe he thinks that you spend to much time on him, or that you are obsessed with him. So try trying to talk to him after school when you are both alone, and try to get to the bottom of things. I have also had a guy frined that have stopped talkin to me over his girlfriend. It happens ya know. Girls always want control over their man. You'll just have to accept his ways.

PS I am an excellent columnist, that has been through it all. Frm wanting to kill myself, been threatened to be killed boy drama, girl drama, and life drama spreaad the word. I've goteen all these crazy things in my life. Now I'm just a teen helping everybody else

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