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Hey im an high school graduate and live in New Jersey where i give advice to all my friends and other people. I give great advice and i wiling to hlp all of you in your time of need. so if you need help remeber: Jazzy Got Da Answer

Jazzy**

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okay soon i will have to go to my moms work for a month to help her from 7am - 8pm.. everyday from monday-saturday .. i dont know what to do cause i dont want to lose any of my friends and no one likes to hang out on a saturday.. and i cant just skip a day cause my mom will FLIP.. you dont understand.. and its like a month not seeing my friends.. what can i do?!

all i can say is sometime you have to make scarfices to prosper in life.
now it's your choice what you do

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Me and this girl have been best friends since the first grade. And we haven't talked to each other in two years. Now we have reunited and started talking on the phone. I sent her an e-mail and asked her if we were still best friends, she said no, maybe, maybe not. Then she said she had 3 best friends. And she is acting so careless about it. Like she doesn't care about how I feel about the situation. What should I do?

with people like her you have to act like you dont care like her. you know what people change and the 1st grade yall was young and now yall older so just live your life for you.

Jazzy**

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i recently (like a week ago)moved from reddeer to calgary i have lived in calgary before i didnt really like it but i moved to reddeer and i loved it i was popular and not afraid to show who i am (and i was afraid in calgary)i found great freinds and a good job so when i moved back it hurt me alot when i told my freind i felt unhappy she told me to get over myself and atleast try i got pissed off and told her she had no clue wat she was talking about but then one day i ran into this kid who used to bully me with my sister it really affected me to see him then my sister got mad and said i should get over myself and try to make freinds.
wat is ur opionion?are they right and wat do u think i should do?

i understand that your feeling some type of way but real talk it's to much going on in the world to be upset(i just gave advice to a young girl who friend lost her parents) basically im sayin live your life. Get over it
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Jazzy**

first of all you the one whose depressed for know damn reaon so i rate u a -0


first of all you just want me to tell you what you want to hear and i wont i dont know about other but i keep it real u crying for no damn
reason when people losing loved ones


honey i not mad because you gave me a bad rating becasue thats your opinion just like what i said to u is mine and plus everyone else gave me a 5 and i know i DAMN GOOD AT WHAT I DO. Now you have a nice day.

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Well i have this friend that i love dearly and would do anything for but she was on vaction with her family and some really good friends of the family that were like my friends second parents to her... well while they were on vaction there friends got into a crash with a drunk driver and that family lost there parents and they a little girl adn now my friend is really hurt cause she is hanging with the little girl who lost her mom and dad...this is really killing her tho cause she lost her second parents and some friends...any ideas to help out her the family and the little girl? And please anyone who reads this please keep them in your prayers thanks!!!

i will keep them in my prayers because i know how it feels to lose someone close to you. all i can say you can do is be there for your freind and the little girl. It isnt much you can do because you cant bring them back.

Sorry for the lost and i hope your friend and the little girl get through this. It will take a while for this wound to heal so be there for her.

I will pray for all of you

Jazzy**

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Two weeks ago I got into a fight with a man that was a close friend of mine. The fight was over msn messanger. I told him I would never have an affair with a married man but that I still wanted to be his friend. Now he wants nothing to do with me and has even blocked me off his contact list. It hurts so bad because he had been a friend of mine for the last 4 years- I was beginning to think that he was hoping I would have an affair with him because he isnt happy in his marriage- I would only ever be intimate with him IF he left his wife. I can't believe what a jerk he is being- It's kind of stupid to end a four year friendship over that. Does anyone have any advice for how I can feel better? And don't you think he is being a jerk?

i know your hurting but i think you should be hapry that your not with him because if he's trying to hyave an affair with you why he's married imagine if yall was together would he do the same thing to you. just fall back he'll be back because he's gonna miss your friendship

Jazzy**

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im almost 16. ITS LONG BUT PLEASE READ IT I NEED HELP! alrighty well me and this girl had NEVER really liked each other. but then this year we became BEST FRIENDS. well she did some really slutty things and talked behind my back and was just very dramatic and i hate drama. so right now shes like trying to appologize to me and stuff. the only thing is i dont want her as a friend AND I LIKE HER EX BOYFRIEND. which she says shes still madly "in love" with. but shes going to a different school next year. and i want to be able to date whoever i want. and she told him he "CANT" talk to her friends anymore. shes like crazy. so is this guys off limits? cause im not firends with her and i want a new start and i feel like this relationship would be good 4 me....sry this was so long.

gurl please he is NOT OFF LIMITS because the rule is your bestfriend or close frriends she isnt either you want a new start go for it.
you will never get anywhere in life if you live according to someone else.

Hope it works out for the best
Jazzy**

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ok so there is this really really nice guy who goes to my church he is a good friend and stuff and i kind of like a little is that a bad thing or if i tell him do you think our relationship will change i am not sure!

is not a bad thing but is your realtionship going to change is a chance that you have to see if your willing to take. honestly it do change when people found out that people like them more than friends.

Jazzy** i would take the chance whats the worst that can happen

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I have these two friends and they both lie at times. To me at times...and well one day they were asking weight. And I said I'm 160 and she said 120. now she's pretty fat and she can't in no way be 120. I was really stunned at her effort to lie. I don't want to confront her but she makes me feel like i can't trust her again.

What do I do? help me please cause it relly hurts me she lied.

maybe you should be her friend to a limit because it may not happened yet but her lies may get you in some troulbe that you cant get out of. and believe people lie about their weight 24 hrs a day

Jazzy**

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Okay so my best friend (of 10 years) was going out with 2 guys (wesley and rafi) and rafi had a feeling my friend liked someone else..so i told rafi that my friend was cheating on him with wesley...am i wrong for doing that? i dont think i am because it's not like she was going to marry wesley or rafi so i dont know why she is getting all worked up over it...but what do yall think? did i do the wrong thing?

you may have thought that, that was the right thing to do but there are rules to have a bestfriend and you broke it. as a friend you was supposed to keep her secert event though she was wrong.

i know your not liking what im say but im just keepin it real.

Jazzy***

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Okay, so theres this girl. Lets call her "M" And personally, I don't like her.

M is claiming to be my friend sean's "favorite" according to his profile. And seriously, I'm thinking to myself, "he's YOUR favorite?" and he's been my friend for a while now. that girl is just mezmorising the boy. She can't really like him, he's my friend.

So, the thing is that I get mad&jealous everytime a girl calls him her "favorite" it's not like a like him or anything, because i have a boyfriend and stuff. But these girls need to leave him alone. Maybe I should get over my jealousy. Please help?

why do they need to leave him alone and why are ou getting jealous. you sure you dont like him maybe you need to rethink that whole idea because it might be some type of feeling there

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she's such a bitch! ever since like 8th grade, she's been the worst friend ever!
she leaves every summer on vacation and she actually planned a suprise party for herself.. but she didn't want anybody to know that she planned a suprise party for herself so she got my cell phone and started text messaging everyone telling them that I planned the suprise party.. and i was fine w/ that because i could understand that she doesn't want to tell anyone she planned it for herself. it wasnt actually a party party but it was like going to dinner and movies with a whole bunch of people. but, i got bitten by a red ant and i'm SUPER allergic so my foot looks like a big red balloon and i couldn't go because i had to go to the doctor and i was under heavy medication because the swelling was so bad. so she goes and has her stupid little party putting on her stupid fake smile and actually goes out with everybody having a good time while i'm at the hospital! and calls me to brag about it after... i'm sorry but that is SUPER bitchy of her to do. they almost had to hospitalize me! i'm so mad at her and i don't want to take her to a party tonight! what can i tell her not to take her... and how could i stop being friends with her because i don't want to be friends someone like her anymore! this isnt the first time and her mother always talks bad about people and started talking bad about me when i was just dancing with some guy and didn't say anything about her stupid daughter that was making out on the floor!

she is a bitch bad enough you didnt go but did she really have to brag. if i was you u have to be a bitch to treat a bitch .
so i would either hang out with people she dont like. or hang out with ohter friends but dont invite her but if you really wanted to be bitchy tell her straight out. i know these things are mean but she's mean so what the hell

hope i helped
Jazzy**

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hey! i went to this party last night with my best friend :] it was a party from her old school so she knew some people except it got busted by the cops because it was a hotel party and so these guys she knew picked us up (there was like 4 of them) and they were pretty cute but they ALL flirted with her and i was just sittin there like ahh? and she was drunk so she was like huh whats goin on..stop. because she has a boyfriend and this kid madeout with her and this other one wanted to too but she was like nooo! i cant. i just feel so ugly when i am around her. i mean it doesnt help that im like the most shy person ever! and that i didnt know any of them so it was kinda weird but this ALWAYS happens..they always go for my friend..even if she has a boyfriend. i just feel so ugly around her but she thinks she is ugly (yeah whatever) i just dont know what to do!! i know they didnt know me either but it was soo weird and i kinda talked to her about it was she was like ohh well and didnt really say anything! what do i do? i feel so insecure around her but its not her fault she is gorgeous! brown hair blue blue eyes and i have brown hair brown eyes..BORINGGGG! i dont know?!

what should i doo! she is my bestfriend

i will rate 5 for anyone who can try and help

first of all stop putting yourself down because i bet your not ugly. You may not want to hear this but im going to tell you anyway theres somebody for everybody and i preety sure that it wouldcome a day were they like you and not your friend that just the way life goes everyone has their own taste so dont sweat it


Jazzy**

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Ok so I have this friend, let's call her Sammy ok? So Sammy recently has started like leaving me and kinda ignoring me. Today she even started hanging out with my enemy! Like 2 weeks ago we started hanging out with a girl named Natasha and ever since she has been doing all these things. Oh and I already talked to her a billion times. It's like she doesn't want to be my friend anymore. Should I just start hanging out with different people?

Never stay some where you not wanted. i would have told you to talk to her but since you tried that. just hang out with different people she'll realize she miss being your friend and shell come back

Jazzy**

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Okay. So I have this friend, well we're not really friends anymore, but I guess you could still say we are civil. We used to be best friends until we got in this big fight. Her birthday is coming up...Do I get her a present or no?

yeah get her a present be the bigger a person remember god dosent like a ugly get a gift you'll feel better about yourself

Jazzy**

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See, I'm falling for my best guy friend. And I don't know what to do. Seriously. I know it's so cliche but stfu. If you don't like it, don't read it. I've known him since the 5th grade, we've gone to school together ever since then and we're still at the same school. Things have always been great between him and I, but lately I've been having these feelings towards him that I shouldn't be feeling. Usually among my friends I'm always the one to give advice, but now it's the other way around. Let's say his name is Bret, okay? okay. Brett and I have even been compared to as an old married couple. Because we argue and argue for about an hour, and then five minutes later everything is back to the way it was before. I just don't know what to think, a couple of my friends think he cares about me more than I know. I sort of agree but he cares about me in the way a best friend should, not something more. My friends say maybe he does like you but he's too scared because it might ruin our friendship. But the thing is I can never be mad at him, it's not possible. I try my hardest but it never works. He always wins me back with his stupid boy charms. But I'm just the friend right? And is that all I'll ever be?

Sincerely,
A Girl With A Confused Heart.

hey a girl with a confused heart first you never know what you'll be if you dont give it a try. It may work out for the best sonce you known each other for so long so talk to him private and tell him that if dont feel the same way nothing going to change but you need to let him know how you feel about him

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ok welll i really need some help. ok well i did something really bad and its not like me to do it.. ok i stole my friends cell.. at school.. and i lied and told them i didnt steal it.. and then i got caught bc my bff called her mom on it and i didnt think theyd track the number.. but yeah i got caught and now im suspended.. and the girl told everybody about what i did.. and now the whole school knows aboout it, and like everybody is mad at me..and i have like not many friends.. blahhh i just need some tips on what to do.. please help me =( thanks..

just apologize to the friend and want she start to be your friend again then everyone will follow. (hope it works) it should

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Life sucks! Serioulsy sucks! There is not one good thing in my life right now! I have lost two of my best friends these past two weeks and it's all because they are extreme liars and and loosing another best friend right now..it's in motion! :'(
Then all of my friends are fighting with eachother and I am torn in the middle! I don't know what to do!!
Then my family are like omg!! I hate to be at home! My sister just moved in with her boyfriend and so them and my parents are always talking about "couple-stuff" and Couple trips and couple couple couple!! AHH! I can't take it anymore! I'm the fith wheel!!They are always like, "Oh yeah, you are coming to..But can't you stay home with the dog. This is more of a couple/grown up thing. (IT WAS THE CINEMA FOR CRYING OUT LOUD!)
I'm teeling you, I don't like being at home, I'm like fighting with all of my friends! And those I'm not fighting with are like having so many problems right now they don't have time to hang out =/
I'm the fith wheel, I don't like being at home, I'm loosing my best friends, my other friends don't have time for me, I'm failing in school! I don't know where to go or do!! I am totaly lost!!

Is there No hope in the world?!?!?

:'(
thanks for taking your time to read this...

first calm down everyone goes through a lilttle agavation in their life thats only to make things better dont stress sit back and everthing will work itself out

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I know its LONG! but im serious..im panicing..

i did something bad..really bad :[ i do regret it but i tried to stop it! you see my friend and i went out to eat..at this restauraunt where all the kids go! im 16 and my friend is 15! my mom dropped us off there since i cant drive YET. soo we ate and everything and my friend is like ..lets walk out without paying! and im like nooo nooo noo! im not gonna do that i just cant im not like that. and shes like come on i have a plan we go to the bathroom and then just walk out! and you see like EVERYONE from our school was there that night. so we go into the bathroom and im like we cant do it ..its not right! we are gonna be caught lets just pay whats the big deal? and my friend is like if we see our waitress then we will go back to our table and pay but if we dont lets just leave. soo we didnt see her but i tried goin back but my friend grabbed my hand and like dragged me outta there. we started running away..and then the waitress and the manager came out and was like you ladies walked out without paying and then we made up some story..but we eneded up paying in the end anyways! i didnt tell my mom or anything but then today (4 days later) this girl is like what did you do this weekend and im like hungout with people and she is like what did you do on friday? and im like went out to eat and shes like oh yeah i heard you tried to eat and run but you got caught and im like WHO DID YOU HEAR THAT FROM? and she is like matt..the kid right next to her some really popular kid! and then im like well how does he know so now i guess its getting around the school and im not like that at all! i feel so stupid and embarassed i know it was totally wrong but it wasnt my idea! im so ashamed..what should i do? is there anything i can do?! im scared my mom or brother or dad is gonna find out since my bro goes there all the time! and now we cant go back there and it was our favorite place because we are scared they will recognize us! i just dont know! i know its wrong so please dont say anything i just dont know what to do. and the people that worked there are only a grade older then me and my friend-11th grade and they were working! they were the ones who probably told! just any advice?


i'll rate 5! thanks

hey im not going to tell you it was wrong b/c you know that im just going to say everyone once in a while friends do something that they know is dumb but you do it anyway right now it's embarrsing but you look back on this laugh these are the things that make being s a teenager fun so dont sweat it and your ma dad and bro wont find out


Jazzy**

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my best friend in the whole wide world hates me now just because i'm too moody i really dont notice when i'm moody but now she wont talk to me she changed her answering machine and this is what she says "if this is (my name) dont call here ever again" that really hurt my feelings and i'm still crying right now! what do i do to get her to be my best friend again?

Im going to tell you how to get her to be your freind again but first what kind of friend would put that on their answer machine anywayleav her a nice message letting her know that you dont mean to be moody it just happen and you dont want to lose her over it so you can yall talk

Jazzy**

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my bestfriends parents are mean to her..they dont hit her but they call her names and stuff..she called me crying hard and i know she cant take it! and i need to know how to help her..any ideas??


5S FOR ANYTHING SINCE THIS IS URGENT!!

their mentally abusing her. you be their to talk to her but trying asking her do she want to go talk to some kind if counselor or something.


Jazzy**

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