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Ok a bit about myself! Really don't have a lot to say..I'm 16! I love helping people out and listening to others. I completely love this site. I don't have many experiences when it comes to love life (which is the cat. that i answer the most). And i have nothing else in mind to say...i'll edit it when i come up with more!

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yea i shouldnt think too much butits hard and im pretty much getting worried because we always talk to each other in myspace and all that but Jun.3 was our last convo we had like this "one life's unfair, it's complicated, it works in was we wish it didnt. but don't be sad, i can feel you trying to drift away....makes parting away easier, but then could you really stand the fact of separating knowing htat u guys are distant or parting knowin you guys had last good memories together? but makes going away harder.... " and that was our long convo we had and the rest is all short convo and we dont even really communicate with eachother no more ad she doesnt IM me in AIM like she used to, after that just a short responce and hugs thats all i commented her saying "Jun 13
damn feels like we're distant friends like you said...i'm sorry but too late huh? =/ " but she never commented me back like we always do do you think we really drifting away? i really need vacation too...

Hey there! Sorry but i answered this question yesterday and it was long and perfect but the internet shut down and it was gone =( Anyways ill try again. =)

I know its hard for you, but you should try keeping your mind off things! Like the vacation is already a good start. Kepp yourself busy, that way you wouldn't have to think about it a lot. I'm not saying that it will make you feel better or change your feelings, but it would at least be better than thinking about it all day, and that would ruin your summer.

I think that you guys will eventualy talk again. You might not talk for a while, but you'll start again step by step. So it's definately going to seem that both of you are drifting apart. It hapened to me once, me and my friend didn't talk for almost more than a year. And then one day i talked to her online, and started just saying anything random like what i did on the weekend. And now we talk all the time. So why dont you just enjoy your vacation in maryland. Go out and have fun and then tell her all about it. You know you guys can keep emailing each other. Plus birthdays and holidays are an advantage cuz then you guys can still at least say Happy Birthday or something. =)

I think things will get better in time, hopefully. If they don't then don't put your life at hold. Always look at the bright side of your life. =) Plus then its her loss, you tried and did your best by staying in touch. If she doesn't reply back or make an effort, then move on. There's nothing you can do about it, wou've done your part. (I know it sounds kind of mean =(, but you can't keep sending emails for a while and get nothing back.) If you need anything else leave it in my inbox. Good luck and i'll talk to you later. =D

P.S. i didnt understand the convo. =S who was saying what?

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re:re:rE:do you know why she left me?

thank you again i seriously appreciate it yeah, i gave her a letter the day before last day of school that i regret it and i was sorry but i still mad at myself about it yea and your right, i should take a vacation just to TRY to cheer up myself i remmeber she tried to talk to me but i replied with a short answers and stuff but one time when she tried to talk to me and i talked back saying"hey can you do me a favor?" and she said"sure, what is it?" and i said"can you not leave?" when i said that she kinda laugh but she turned around and said" i cant do that" without looking at me in a eye and after that she stopped trying to talk to me a lot and thats when she slowly avoiding me like i did to her what was happening in that convo? and im really sorry for asking too much question but im thankful that you have great advice and a nice person =] and have a good sleep =]

Hey!! I think the letter is a good move. As for the conversation, who knows? Your friend probably started thinking about the fact of her leaving, so she tried to stay distant because she thought it would make things easier for you and her. That's all i can think of =(. Don't think about it too much, just go with the flow and have a great time during your vacation =).

P.S. You're not asking for too much. Don't mention it ;) Write me anytime. It's no trouble at all. You sound like a really sweet girl. =)

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thanks for answering again i really appreciate it yea thats true i should try to be happy but its too hard because i avoided her and everything i wasted time and now we barely talk and not really close anymore.and i think im going to maryland to take vacation from everything and fly away my sadness does that sound weird? what do you think about this message?
"going to maryland for 3 weeks, i need vacation for myself and try to fly away my sadness"

can you please correct it if i said it wrong?

sorry if i sound dramatic but im not im just too sad = / and get away from everyone thank you so much again =]

Hey, one thing i know is you can't force the pain to go away. You can pretend that none of it happened and then pretend that it's all ok but one day it will come back to you and then the same feelings will come back with it. =(
And about avoiding her, i know there's some regret there, but you can't change it, you can try fixing it by telling her that you're sorry and telling her how much you regret it, and you can try to make up for it by staying touch =), but you can't go back and change it =(.
We all do somethings that we regret, but we have to learn from them so we can try to not let history repeat itself.

Anyways i think the message makes sense! Maybe maryland is something good for you to try and cheer up. But im sorry to say that i dont think your sadness will fly away as easily as you expect. Try to make some good times and memories there, and share them with your friend then ask her about the place she movied in to ;)

P.S. you dont sound dramatic at all...im totally used to it ;) feel free to write more, ill stay in touch =) but ill write to you tomorrow, cuz i gotta go to bed now. Take care of yourself, i'll talk to you later. Keep smiling =)

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yea i guess and and i cried for like 3 hours after school when i was hanging out with my other friends and yea and i didnt eat anything execept for starbucks and thats all no rice or anything for that day and is that bad? thank you so much =]

awww! it's ok, its completely understandable to cry for 3 hours. We all go through good and bad times like these...in the end we're thankful for having the strength to get through them =) But honey eat, don't put your life on hold for this. Eat, go through life as normal as you can. There's always a part of you that is missing and it will hurt but always know that it isn't the end of the world and count your blessings. I'm sure there are lots of other people around you who care about you. Friends and family ;) Take care, if you need anything else, leave it in in my inbox ;)

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Today was last day of school and the last time im gonna see my close friend cause she is moving to korea tommorow. But ive been avoiding her for a while because i was upset that she was moving and now shes doing the same too so we dont really talk anymore.And then when the class ended i tried to hold my tears but i burst up crying but she didnt see it yet so she asked me to take a picture with her and she saw me crying and she was trying to cheer me up by saying "its okay" and "dont cry" but i told her "its not okay your leaving" and she got quite and keep *sigh* or saying UGH and she stayed there for like 5 minutes try to cheer me up because i was still crying but next thing you know she said 'im going now dont cry okay?" and she turned back and turned around and looked at me last time and went somewhere. and i stopped crying for a while and i couldnt find her after school and i cried for like 3hours after why did she leave when i was crying? and what do u think about this situation?

Aww..Hey! I think she might've needed to do something before leaving the school. Or she probably couldn't stand seeing you cry because she might end up crying too. =( You know..? Maybe she doesn't want to show it because it's too much for her. Don't worry.
I went through it once, my close friend left to Paris last year =( it was hard for me, but we still keep in touch and we text each other all the time. I miss her but i also know that we'll get together again someday. Don't worry it'll turn out ok. As long as you guys stay in touch then its fine. If you need anything else, leave a question in my inbox =)

Take care and good luck! =D

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So i have 2 friends who were dating. one was my best friend since like 4th grade and the other i have become really good friends with and have had feelings for since i met him

so these two met and started dating about half way through the school year and then broke up recently (as he said).

well they didn't date that long and it wasn't too serious or anything.

so one night me and the boy hung out and we cuddled and did stuff but nothing major at all.

well i felt bad so i had to tell my best friend and she was like omg f you we were still dating when you did stuff and broke up the day after

and now she won't speak to me and kicked me out of her prom group what do i do?

Hey there! Tough situation =(

Explain to your bestfriend that you thought they broke up, and you only told her because you felt bad about it since they used to date. If she refuses to listen to you then talk to the guy and let him explain it to her. Unless she doesn't talk to him either. Let your bestfriend know that you never meant to hurt her.

And you need to ask the guy how come he told you they broke up? He might have feelings for you :S ...anyways good luck with this! Update me soon ok!

Hope i helped. Take care!

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Before I go on, I have to say this is nothing bout me liking the guy and all that.

I have a good guy friend, we can really talk a lot and all. Just recently, we started talking more. It seems like we have endless things to talk bout, but today, we went out (it was the first time we went out) and I felt it was so... wierd...I don't know..it was awkward at times. It was like as if we were out on a date but we're not. It's actually just normal going out like friends going out but it didnt felt like it. It felt like a whole stupid first date thing. I hated it. Whenever I go out with a guy, just a guy alone, I'd get really wierd. Like I'd try to minimise any actions or whatsover. If I were to accidentally hit someone, I won't dare to say sorry because I'm afraid of him looking at me, or him having his attention on me. I become very self conscious. Like when we were ordering food, I don't dare to order the food. I leave it to him to do it. I don't know. And I DON"T EVEN like the guy! I really really don't. Everything just goes wrong. I become like some wierd, nerdy, stupid uncool asshole. How can I stop that? I would very much like to be his good friend, and I don't want to like him and I don't want him to like me either. Do you people know what I'm talking about? I don't even know what I'm asking. BAH. Whatever.

Hey there! Calm down, what happened to you does happen to others alot.

It was your first time going out with the guy. You guys will get used to each other and then get comfortable to talk about anything. Just give it some time. Spend more time going out.

If you want to make it more comfortable, then go out in like a big group so it won't feel like a date. And both of you hang out. Plus to have more things to talk about, anything random will be ok. For example if you go to a movie, talk about the movie and what you like or hate about it. Anything would be fine. What people are wearing in the mall. He'll eventually respond and you guys will make conversation ;)

Hope that helped. Tell me how it goes, take care and if you need anything else ask! =)

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Wrong cat. Whatever.

Is anyone here from the Middle East?

I'm just curious...

Well, i live in the middle east. Do you? =)

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Okay, I have no idea what to do. I found out yesterday that my bff is cutting and doing drugs. She has cuts ALL OVER her arms and stuff and it's really scary. And she told me that she's been doing drugs but didn't tell me what. I talked to her and shes acts like it's no big deal. I mean, her brother recently was diagonosed (sp?) with cancer and her parents are getting divorced so that may have something to do with it. But I really don't want to find her dead one day. I need help. What should I do?

Wow, hey there!
This is a really tough situation! You need to tell her that its hurting you and you need to talk to an adult if it continues.

First talk to your friend, let her know that she isn't alone, and let her know that you're going to stay by her side and that she can depend on you and can trust you.

About the drugs, tell her it won't help in any way. It's just going to get things worse. If she feels like doing drugs is a way to forget about what's happening, let her know that it won't change anything. It's going to hit her at some point.

About the cutting, my friend used to cut her arms last year, she said she did it because it felt good and it helped her relieve some stress. If thats your friend, help her find new ways to relieve stress, and if it's for attention for her parents then she needs to sit down and talk to them.

She NEEDS to let everything out that's locked up inside. It'll help really. She doesn't have to talk to anyone if she doesn't want to, but let her at least write it all down.

Try to help her out, if it doesn't change, you need to talk to an adult or someone that can help her. I think you might have to, if she doesn't listen to you and there are no changes...then you need to get her some help =( please please keep me updated! I hope i helped! Anyways tell me what happens...Best of luck! Take care!

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ok. during spring break me, and my friends (c,t, j, and d) hung out. well t and j were together, and c and d were. well c and d arent together anymore, and this happened like, about a week or 2 ago. well me and d were good friends. last night i get a text from him and hes like:
d:lets hook up
me:you dont mean that
d:i really do i wanted to hook up i just didnt know how to tell you i promise you
me:well, we'll see
d:let's hang out tonight
me:maybe..
d:whats wrong
me:nothing
d:what you dont want me
me:i never said that, im just thinking about c
d:well she wont find out and i promise youll like it

i really want to but i dont think it would be good. like c liked him and now he wants to hook up with me? i dont know though. i think it would just be a one time thing. likes hes using me. but i dont know... help?

Hey there! My advice to you is no matter what..do not go behind c's back! Because it's not loyal and when she finds out she'll be heartbroken!

Anyways you have to think about d...seriously think about it because he just broke up with c...is he a good guy? Is he worth it..because there might be a slight chance that things will go wrong with c?? how much do you like this guy?

You have to make the decision by yourself, no one else can make it for you! It's your choice! But if you decide to hook up with d...then you have to talk to c and tell her! Tell her how you feel about d and that d wants to hook up with you. See how c feels about this..but i think it's a bit too soon to bring up the subject since they brok up recently! Because it shows that d can move on pretty quickly and wasn't serious about c the whole time! But if c looks alright and isn't thinking about it too much then talk to her and start opening up! I don't know if i helped! But good luck with everything! Tell me what you're going to do! tc

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my friend is so annoying and is always bossing me around. Also he thinks he's better than me, but i think we are equal. what should i do?

Either tell him to piss off! =P that's a bit mean...or the nice way is just talk to him about it and tell him that he's being bossy!! or you could just ignore it and go with the flow when you hang out...my advice to you is tell him and you might want to find a better friend...(thats just a suggestion) try it and see how it goes! Dunno if i helped hope i did!! tell me how it goes with u!! tc

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Okay well, I have This friend named Heather. And me, her and My cousin Jill are Very Close with Eachother we always hang out. But Latley they have been hanging out with eachother ALL the time and Ditching me. And Me and My cousin are Best friends. She says we are bestfriends to my mom but Then to my Face she says Heather is Her Best friend. And I cant talk to my cousin about it because knowing her she would be like. Um wow never talk to me again like she always does when i try to talk to her. And like every week i talk to heather. At First she Is Very mean to me about it and we get in fights but then at the End of the fight she Becomes so nice and says she wont do it again an and Stuff Like that.. But then she goes on and DOES IT and then i talk to her bout it agian and it keeps happening and happening and then when I tell her shes doing it she gets SOO mad at me and Says she doesnt do it. And Every night I find myself histerically crying. and I dont know what to do. I Get Very jelous when they hang out and i dont want to be but i cant help it. And my cousin ever sence we were little she LOVED to get me jelous cause she knows it works.. I just need help. I dont want to Cry anymore.

P.S When I tell Heather i dont want to be friends with her. I always miss her and in a month we are best friends again because i cant stand not being her friend.

Aww...that happened to me when i was a kid! first we wanna be friends then i get jealous and they ditch me and we have fights and i end up crying (i was sooooooo sensitive like too extreme)then we're friends again and it happens all over again! but in the end...we grew up and we're still friends now and we haven't faught after that year! We never fight...so i'm telling you this will go away by itself trust me....and if doesn't my advice to you is get better friends! Show them that you're strong and ignore them.... I'm sure they'll miss you and you guys will work things out ;) Hope i helped....good luck...tell me how it goes =D tc

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