Ever since I was little, I always loved talking to my family about their problems. I love being able to help people. I maybe young but I am very good at giving advice on Love life. I am very mature for my 14 years of age and I want to help people with their questions and problems. SO if you have a question, don't hesitate to ask because of my age
I am also a huge Band Geek/Color Guard person, and I love music and writing. So if you also have questions on those I could help you out!
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So I had this "best friend" for 11 years. All in all I don't think she's a bad person but over the years it seemed to me like she was just using me, only talking to me when she needed help or advice. I had/have an eating disorder and when she found out, she ignored me because she thought I was being complicated. I then lied to her that I'm good again,basically hiding my problems. The thing is that her boyfriend asked me if she was cheating on him and I told him yes (because she was). It just felt like the right thing to do because she was being horrible to him most of the time, not allowing him to do anything, basically putting him on a leash. When she found out I told him she said that our friendship is over. I don't know how I should feel, I mean she never really felt like a true friend anyways. Otherwise I'm still kind of sad about this because she was the only person I knew for this long and grew up with. I know that telling her boyfriend maybe wasn't quite the right thing but I just felt sorry for him and I didn't want him living a lie. How can I get over this? I'm pretty sure our friendship is over. Should I be sad about it? My boyfriend keeps telling me that I didn't really lose much because she was never acting like a good friend anyways. I'm also really hurt because in the end she made it seem like I'm the horrible person, even though I was always there for her, even though she only talked to me when she needed me. I helped her through so many bad things in her life, I used to talk to her for hours on the phone, just to make her feel better. And now she's the one saying that she can't be friends with someone like me. I'm just so angry right now.. (link)
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What you did was EXACTLY the right thing to do. He had a right to know. I would've done the same thing.
If you have to hide something completely serious from her, she is not a true friend. Saying you're being complicated and ignoring you win you're time of need was a horrible thing to do!
Then you being a supportive friend for her for so long then saying she can't be friends with someone like you....
You need to be happy, and drop her as a friend, or a person in your life. She does not deserve you.
I wouldn't be sad about it. You have a right to be angry about it
You aren't the horrible person dear, she is.You'll be fine :) you are better off without her.
- Hardcore=Band-Geek
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My best friend used to do everything together. I loved hanging out with her. When a girl on her basketball team moved into the neighborhood, whenever I came over, she'd greet me with," don't bother. I'm inviting my NEW bestie over." after a while, i stopped going over. After a while, she apologized. Then she gave me the book we wrote together. She said, "write a new entry, then give it back. Then I'll write one.". But when I tried to give it back, she smirked and told me it was mine now. She had passed off her junk onto me. It has been half a year now, but I can't get over it. I've thought about burning the book. Can someone please give me some advice, because even though she is a jerk, I still cry myself to sleep at night thinking about it. Thanks, ~M&M (link)
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Ok, so I'm going to guess you early teens. Now sweetheart, really all i have to say is that she isn't worth it. I know it's hard but you will have to give her up. She doesn't deserve you. Make new friends, it will make it easier to move on. I speak from personal experience :)
Good luck!
-Hardcore-Band-Geek
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So this is my first year doing color guard for marching band and I'm really excited. I love to spin, but sometimes I really don't understand the new work we are learning. All of us incoming freshmen feel the same way. So we are all partnered up with a senior guard partner and they help us. So mine is really, really, really good at spinning and she is so friendly and funny. We practice and meet up more than other color guard partners do on our team. We also always make funny memories during our private practices. Like 4 weeks ago when she told me all these stories about her first year spinning. Or like last week when my mom called me in the middle of our practice to tell me my grandpa died of cancer, and she asked if I was alright and I told her what happened and she hugged me while I was crying and she told me about her grandma who died of cancer only a couple months ago. And my favorite which was 2 days ago, after practice, we walked down to the village which is near our high school and we got ice cream at Ferches. We talked about band camp and color guard on the way there. But on the way back, we talked about personal things. She makes me laugh so much and I love to hang with her. But, are we really friends? I never had a real friend before because everyone just likes to be around me to see me do something stupid because I'm a klutz. I am really smart, but I am not common sense smart. I'm not sure if she truly is my friend and I don't want to ask her because that would be rude. I need help!!! (link)
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HI! I'm in color guard too!! And i don't see any reason you should doubt a friendship between you and this girl. I wouldn't over think it :)
I'm a sophomore on my 3rd year, of guard. I love spinning with the marching band too :)
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Earlier this year one of my guy friends had a bad breakup with his girlfriend and she started dating one of his friends. He turned emo and started cutting himself. He became atheist and more reserved. He had so much hatred to his ex-girlfriend(my friend)and his friend(also my friend)I helped him through it and got him to stop cutting, become Christian, and become more comfortable with people and also to forgive them both and he is now friends with both of them again. He is a completely changed person now. But he seems to have a bit of an obsession with me.He asked me out but I sadly rejected him because I felt nothing for him. I only did the things I did because he was my friend and I hated seeing him that way. He now has a new girlfriend but he acts like he doesn't like her. He says things about her that he think is weird and awkward. He flirts ALOT when we talk over facebook but the thing is I feel extremely guilty. I feel like im making him cheat. Ruining his relationship. Ive told him countless times that I only want us to be friends but he acts like he forgets that. He says im flirting with him when im just joking around with him. He says "I love you" but I try to take it in a friendly way because he says it to all of his lady friends in a brother-siter kind of way. He says things like im his "future wife" but adds "lol" just to seem like he's joking. He constantly reminds me of the things ive done for him when he was at his lowest point. Thanking me millions of times.He calls me beautiful. He gets jealous easily but he tells me things about his girlfriend and other girls to make me jealous. He has done many attempts to get me to fall for him. Extreme attempts that it almost ruined our friendship. Besides the flirting he is a very nice person(obnoxious at times)but very sweet. He has given me many gifts such as food he has cooked (he cooks a lot)and flowers and teddy bears (before he started dating) He told me he was giving me these things for "appreciation for what I have done" and if I didnt accept them, he made me. He is my best friend. He is very protective and defends me if someone is bullying me. He is very caring. He asks how my day was and sometimes good morning messages. He makes it his job to message me everyday and is always the first to start a convo. We will talk for hours on end just about silly things and joke around a lot. He comes to me when he needs someone to talk to and is going trough something and I do the same for him. He says that he will always be there for me if i need anything. He just the bestest friend you could ever ask for. I just feel like im taking advantage of him. Im trying hard to make our friendship work because I don't want to lose him. But he is constantly testing it. He tells me he's not over me even if he has a girlfriend. He treats me like I am his which I have told him to stop but he wont. Nearly everyone in the school knows of his crush on me. He tags me in posts on Facebook that say things like "Tag the most beautiful girl you know" or "tag a girl that you think is adorable" I just don't know what to do anymore! How can I save our friendship?! He was not always like this. Thank you for reading! I know it was long! :(
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You both want different things; You want a friendship and he wants a relationship with you. It's not going to work.
He is not respecting your wishes. You've made it obvious you want him to stop. he hasn't. It's all really disrespectful to his girlfriend. She doesn't deserve that.
It's obvious what he has been doing is making you uncomfortable. He. Needs To. Stop.
You might need to sit him down and say "Hey what you are doing is incredibly disrespectful I'm done. Either you stop,m or we can't be friends anymore"
With whatever you choose, I wish the best of luck to you.
-Hardcore-Band-Geek
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do you think its alright to date someone your best friend used to? they did about 2years ago and i thought he was cute but nothing more than that because that was who my friend talked to. by the way thats how him and i met when they dated, but 2 years later. we hung out this past saturday with our frat brothers and sorors and he kept putting his hands on my waist and when we went inside he sat next to me and was talking to me the whole time. he got nervous and went outside for a while when our frat brother put him on he spot and told him to ask me out and told him why are you being shy when i haven't seen you take your eyes off her and you have been telling me how beautiful she is the whole time since she got here. i think he is sweet and i am attracted to him but is it wrong. i do no't know how to tell my best friend even though she is getting married the 1st of august this year to someone else of course laugh out loud (link)
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My first boyfriend (currently dating) used to date my best friend. I met them a few months after they broke up. So that was before my time. I just made sure it was okay with my best-friend and she totally approved :) I would just make sure she's cool with it. TO be honest though, If she's getting married it shouldn't even matter. Good luck :)
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a couple months ago I stopped talking to my best guy friend.it's because two girls I used to be friends with hate me, and he has a huge crush on the one of them so she was able to turn him against me. My friends say what he did was wrong, just believing her over me. His birthday is the day after mine andI wanted to send him a text at midnight just let him know that I didn't forget. I don't know if I should apologize or just keep quiet until something happens. But it's already been a while and I really miss him. My friend say no and I kind of think that I should have but then I want to. And if we do become friends again that I'm going to have to worry about them still talking to him. What if it doesn't go right because they are still friends with him. I really don't know what to do and I really miss him and none of us like each other. Help? (link)
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I would text him at midnight on his birthday, it will show him you care, I would talk to him, be honest with how you miss him and apologize. Honesty doesn't hurt. Good luck and I hope you get your best friend back.
-Hardcore-Band-Geek
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I am 12 almost 13 in a few months. I'm in 7th grade and I have brown hair and glasses. My crush has blonde hair and blue eyes. He's in my gym class. When I see him even the tiniest glimpse my whole day is complete. I just feel happy around him. Even though I've never talked to him before I am really shy. I'm from the U.S. He friended me on instagram but I was too shy to accept or decline and 3 days later he took the request back. I am really sad about that. Then weeks later I send him a request he accepts but doesn't follow back. A day later I send his friend a request too and he follows back the next day... He only follows some people why me? I'm crushing hard and don't know what to do. He is so nice and super athletic and cute. Also always has a smile on his face. He stares at me sometimes. When we have to run in gym class he slows down when I'm behind him. He speeds up when I'm in front of him. Not sure why but I think it's a good thing. He's always with his friends. He is popular and I'm not I'm afraid he likes a popular person or someone else. I'm falling hard for someone I've never spoken to. He passes by my locker in the hallways but I never know what to say. When we were doing curl up test he watched me the whole time. I'm crushing hard but what do I do? I really like him when he's not there my heart hurts. I don't know what to do I'm so shy. Any advice? (link)
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I've been there :)
My advice to you would be to be friendly and talk to him! Try getting to know him better. About the whole instagram thing. He might think you're not interested when you didn't accept the request he sent, so when you sent a request he just accepted and maybe didn't want to seem to eager.
I would just tlak to him and see where it goes :)
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So my bestfriend and i were so close we did like everything together..then she met her boyfriend and ever since then we never hangout..we didnt really before but now..we dont even see each other outside of school..shes always with her boyfriend if they arent hanging out..theyre texting each other none stop. She takes him everywhere ( skiing, niagra falls, resturants, etc)..theyve had more sleepovers than her and i and when i ask if she can hangout all she replies with is " idk"..we were suppose to hang this march break..bascially 2 weeks off and shes always made up an excuse to not hangout.. and then she says she cant hangout this march break..like she cant do anything for me..she never tells me anything and im really sick of it. She treats me like shit. The rest of my close friends all agree with me that its not right that she hasent fixed anything..because i tell her. all the time about how i feel and she just makes it about her ..she doesnt listen to what im saying. I just really dont know what to do anymore (link)
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Sounds like she's not being a good friend at all. I always make sure i balance my friends and my boyfriend. Sit her down and Tell her how you and your friends feel, that you do not appreciate her actions at all and want it to stop. Just be straight forward and honest.. I hope things work out. Good luck
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Lately I have noticed that of my really good friends has gotten quite skinny. Yesterday really threw me off though because she was in the bathroom and I heard her coughing- a LOT. To me, I could never think of her being a bulimic, and if she was I would be really shocked. I mean, maybe she has some other health problem but I'm not sure. I'm concerned for her well being lately and while she was in the bathroom I yelled "are you okay?" When she came out she said "yeah I'm fine" but the tone of her voice or something told me that there was something wrong. Lately she has seemed and acted so down. I'm not sure what's wrong, can someone help me out? Should I sit her down and talk to her? (link)
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Yes, I would talk to her. Something serious (like an eating disorder)maybe be going on. Sit her down and express how you are concerned about her. I wish you the best of luck
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I have a neighbor the same age as me, 13, and he used to be my best friend when we were three. I am a girl and when I was little I never minded the gender difference. We always used to be together since we are neighbors. Flash forward about two years. We were in kindergarden together, but then he switched schools. Over the years we talked less and less and around seven or eight stopped completely. Flash forward again to sixth grade. I met my best friend. Seventh grade she met my old best friend, and became best friends with him and started crushing on him. I tried to become friends with him again, but it never worked. I didn't have any classes with him so I never talked to him. I hope to have some with him next year, but I'm curious because according to my friend he said he wants to be friends with me again too. I'm just scared and puzzled because the weird thing is I feel I have to protect him because he was like my brother. Should I let it go or try to befriend him again? And if it helps with a solution, I'm pretty good friends with a lot of his friends. Thanks! (link)
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I would try and befriend him. It's summer! A lot of time to think about it. I can tell you really want this friendship to rekindle. If so, Then Make it happen! I wish the best for you, I know what it's like to have friendship problems. If you think he might want to be friends again then act on it. If you're shy take it slow. It would be good to do just that, so you can get back into the grooves of being friends. If you have a lot of mutual friends, you could find out what he likes and try to use that to your advantage. I hop I helped, Good Luck! :)
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