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i was recently raped and im scared. the guy who raped me..was my bedt friends boyfriend (shes 14 hes 15 turning 16) and im scared. i have nightmares about it and im afraid to go to sleep..i keep getting calls that have perverted breathing for like 15 seconds then he hangs up i havent told anyone..and im SCARED!! he threatend to kill me and my family..what should i do??
I'm so sorry that happened to you. You need to tell your parents what happened, and I know it will be very hard to do. Please don't keep this a secret, it will eat you up inside if you don't talk about it with someone. If it's too hard to tell your parents, start with your school guidance counselor, but if you do this be aware that they may be required to report it. I really think you should start with your parents, they love you and can help you make some tough decisions about what to do. After you tell your parents, you really should try to get some counseling. Above all else, remember that this was NOT your fault in any way shape or form. You are in no way to blame, no matter what you did or did not do.
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My best friend is over weight. My other freinds and I are all skinny. Well, I found out she is on a diet and trying to loose enough weight to look good in a bathing suit. And I think that's so great and stuff. She sent me this question on Advicenators on what she should do ... I found out it was her and said we should talk. I'm waiting for her to say something to me. i told me two other freinds.. all four of us are BFs. I'm worried she's on a bad diet. She's been overweight her whole life.Should we talk to her about it? I know if we did she would get all offensive. She doesn't dress for her body type and I don't know what to say. Should we talk to her? What should we say? What if she gets mad? What advice could we give her? I WILL RATE 5S!
Why don't you just answer the question she sent you? She probably is uncomfortable talking to you in person, hence the reason she asked you on Advicenators.
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Right, my best friend is usually really nice, but recently she keeps putting me down, mostly about things that arent even true. She keeps pointing out people and saying they're taller than me and teasing me about my 'frizzy' hair. Shes even started being mean about the things i like. Like my big eyes she says are weird and the other day she said "I like my tummy better than yours" and i really like my toned tummy. Even though most of it isnt true, its really getting me down. What should i do? Please do not tell me to talk to her about it because she would just tell me i'm being stressy.
Aside from not being her friend, you have two options:
1. Don't say anything and hope she stops. (not likely)
2. Tell her exactly how you feel when she says those things, if she tells you you're being stressy, tell her she can think what she wants but that's who you are.
My suggestion is the second option, that way you have given her the opportunity to change her behavior. If she continues to belittle you, you need to make some new friends or start spending more time with current friends who aren't little snots. If you put some distance between the two of you, she'll either get mad (because she's not controling you) or she'll recognize the error of her ways and apologize. Most likely, she'll get mad. Trust me, it's easier to deal with this head on, because if you allow her to say those things about you, she'll get worse not better. If you're her doormat, you won't be losing a friend, you'll be losing a kick in the face.
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ive always been the type of out going person that you ever saw frown. i was the type of person that got along with EVERYONE. but that kinda changed when i started hanging out with my new best friend for the past 2 years. she is sorta well emo i guess you can say shes always depress and stuff now depresses me easy i wish i could be like i used to but i feel like im turning more into my friend and i wanna be the old me again. idk if i need to stop talking to her or what. i mean lately i havnt been talking to her as much just because she like always gets on my case about grammer in stuff and im like wow your not my teacher your my friend geese but yah beside the point i was jus wondering what you all would do about this. i want to be the happy person i used to be, instead of the person i am now that snaps at any minute :-( i hate it
Misery loves company, it's a cliche, but it's a cliche for good reason..it's true! I'm not saying you friend is purposely trying to make you feel miserable but people who are down and negative about life tend to want others to feel that way too. They don't want to hear the sunny side of a scenario, they want you to agree that everything sucks. My advice is that you spend less time with her. It's fine to be friends IF you really enjoy her company and she is a good friend to you, but don't let her problems and negativity consume your life too. In other words, branch out. Encourage her to hang out with you in groups of friends. If she doesn't want to then that's her choice.
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how can i tell what people in the world are honest and good?
and why is everything always about sex lately?
its so fckd up.
i rate high. :]
I'm assuming (which is always dangerous) from your question that you seriously misjudged someone in the character department recently. After a lot of personal mistakes in character judgement, I've concluded a few things:
Really good liars are hard to identify without some time to observe their behavior. Really good liars talk a good talk and are extremely convincing when they're engaging in their craft of verbal deception!It's only through observation of their behavior over time ie: their actions, that dishonesty becomes apparent.
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What are some reasons why a man would stay in a bad marriage? A friend of mine is married to an older woman who is mentally and financially abusive to him. She tries to control his friendships and won't let him talk on his phone to some of his friends. She has also isolated him from his family. She is a very bitter, jealous, vindictive woman. She is extremely unnatrractive because she's been smoking since she was 12. Her teeth are stained and her face is all wrinkled. She looks 20 years older than her real age (54). That part shouldnt matter except her personality is just as ugly. They have no children together, but she has two grown kids from her first marriage. They are both heroin addicts, and have stolen in total 6000 dollars from my friends credit card.
They use to run a cafe together and lost customers because they fought like cats and dogs. I heard they would scream at each other. I don't think he loves her, atleast not anymore. He's even admitted to customers that he hated having to put up with working with her everyday. I doupt they even have sex anymore. So my question is why do you think they are still together? Do you think he's afraid of what she might do to him if he left?
It sounds like you have possibly come across a very rare and exotic species that has become almost extinct!!!!!! Your friend may have actually taken his wedding vows seriously!!!
Or, maybe he does love her with all her faults for reasons only his heart can understand. Or,maybe she's blackmailing him! Or, maybe he just hasn't found someone else he wants to leave her for...
The possibilites are truly endless.
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Alright So..
Me and Alexis have been best friends since 5th grade. And all of a sudden this year shes changed.(we're in 8th grade now) . Like she hangs out with Seniors(Um Ew?. Thats like hanging out with my brother) And she has smoked and drank. And it bugs me. Like we still do sleepovers sometimes and talk at school but its all differant. And now Alexis, my friend Karie, and my friend Holi have this thing called "KAH" which stands for their names and they think their the shit. it pisses me off.. and now i feel like i dont have a best friend..
please help
Not all friendships are meant to last forever. Sometimes we grow out of our friends and the things we used to have in common just aren't there anymore. That doesn't mean that you hate eachother or that you no longer care about eachother, it just means that one or both of you have changed. This will happen throughout your life, but probably more so now because you're still becoming the person you're going to be. I really believe that 8th/9th grade is a time where people really start to define what kind of a person they're going to be. Alexis and her little girl squad have decided to do whatever it takes to be considered cool and popular. You sound like a great friend and you deserve to have friends who will treat you like you would want to be treated. I know it hurts right now, I've been there too, but i promise you will find a new best friend. Be true to yourself and never compromise who you are, because who you are is pretty great.
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