well to start, i've had this best friend since 2nd grade or so and we would always talk to each other everyday and go everywhere with each other. since i'm now in high school, i never get to see her anymore because she's still in middle school (she's only a year younger). the part of this that kills me is that she lives four houses down from me and we don't even see a glimpse of each other. she never evens calls me either. we're too busy with homework and what not.
and believe it or not, when we do see each other every once in a while, it feels awkward to be around her. we just don't know what to say to each other anymore.
because i've been away from her for so long, my life just seems so empty. and i can't trust anybody but her, so it has been really hard to keep my feelings in, but i've managed.
Next school year, we'll be spending all the time in the world together because we're both in band and band is together a lot. it takes up so much time, there doesn't seem to be time for yourself (that's not a bad thing in this case) so we'll be around each other a lot.
my question is--is how can i keep myself from feeling so empty until the summer vacation?
(and just to let you know i'm straight. me and her are really, really close friends)
much thanx in advance. ^_^
well your both getting to the age where you are kinda going your own ways. And since you really haven't talked much, she may have interest in other things now. But who knowa, you maybe nice friends again once you are back in that same class.
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Ugh okay well see I was friends with this girl last year and like we kind of drifted apart this year because we don't have any classes together (I'm a freshman btw.) and so I was like hey Jennifer, want to hang out on friday because I haven't seen you in awhile! And she was like sure! I was thinking you me jessica ashley and some sophmore boys could go to glory days. and I'm like ..wtf? does she think she's cool now because she hangs out with sophomress?
anyways.. so I was like uhh okay well who are the other people and she was like well fredrick, lindseys boyfriend and I was like uhm okay well I don't think fredrick or lindsey like me very much (becaues i did hang out with fredrick one time and like we don't talk anymore at all so I thought he just like doesn't like me) and so she was like no he doesn't remember you trust me but it's okay because he forgets names a lot don't worry about it. and like WTF that makes me feel like shit!! wouldn't taht make you feel like shit if someone doesn't remember you? I really want to hang out with jennifer but I don't want to be with fredrick or lindsey or anyone else.
Like I'm not really a let's go out and party with older guys kind of person.. I'm really more like a let's get together and have a sleepover and spend the whole night watching movies and gossiping and crap. But a lot of my friends have turned into those party people and I have now like maybe a few friends who I have sleepovers with all the time because there not like those party people. and I really don't know what to do.
anyways, I was thinking of canceling my plans with jennifer but I mean I don't want her to think that I canceled just because i don't think that fredrick likes me. I mean I really want to hang out with her, but I don't want to go like woohoo party yeah! and that's starting to be the problem with all of my friends.. and if I talk to her and be like hey I really don't want to hang out with them...she's either to go A) Think I'm a loser and get mad at me or B) be like okay that's fine but then tell everyone else why she's not coming and they are going to think I'm a wussy loser.
I really don't know what I'm asking her but PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!
thank you for reading htis
The only thing I could suggest to you is to tell her how you feel about this type of situation and what you wouldn't like about it. She maybe hurt, but that's the best advice I can give to you.
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she gets really hyper and spazzy all the time, but ussually its not serious and we make a joke out of it. ive tried gettin her to tell someone she just wont. and i just cant betray her trust and tell someone. shes alrede tried professional help and it only made her feel worse cuz it made her feel insane
I think the problem with why she hasn't told anyone about her problems is that she is really scared of what might happen to you. All I could really tell you is make the best decision that you can for your friend. If you have IM's
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i love my best friend to death and I REALLY dont want to disobey her trust. see a while ago she told me all this stuff about how she has another world she can escape 2 and sometimes she feels like she doesnt know who she is. she sometimes even, she says, forgets her name. shes already tried talking to her parents and a therapist, and her parents have tried giving her pills. all of it, she says, just make her feel worse, like shes insane. she has a lot of friends, gets good grades, in whole leads a very normal life and acts perfectly normal. we didn't mention this for a while, but over the weekend i went down with her family to the beach. saturday night she started randomly dancing in the sand, running and spazzing randomly all over the place, inchined way to close to the firework display just so, as she put it, she could be close to the sea, and wrote the name's of random people we no in the sand. all of this is very unlike her, and i at the time half-jokingly asked her "if she was here as herself" she wudnt answer me for a while and then very quietly said "who else would i be" and then wouldnt answer any more questions. later that night i asked what was going on and she wouldnt tell me. one of our other friends was there, who doesnt no everything i no and said shes fine stop overreacting. iasked her if she "promised" she was fine (promise is our trust word) and she wouldnt promise. i tried talking her into talking to me cuz i just wanted to help, I didnt want her to go through whatever it was alone. she wouldnt say anything. the next morning everything was back to normal. i dont know what to do and i cant tell anyone because i REALLY REALLY REALLY cant betray her trust like that. please help.
This isn't looking good for her. I think it's time to get her into a doctor, and maybe seek some other professional help as well. How often is this happening to her?
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