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Q: Ok so on the fourth of July, my cousin annie and i went to the mall early in the morning to catch the early bird sales. we went like really early. then her mom drove us back to our grandpas houses where we had to clean up the house..(windows, etc..they havent been cleaned for years!) anyways, we were sooo TIRED..and then my other cousin julie came over and I didn't want to ignore her..like i said "hi" and stuff and i chatted with her a little but not a lot because we had to clean up and she was just standing there doing nothing! ..ughh so anyways, blah blah blah..she went home crying to her daddy about how i didn't tallk to her and i avoided her the whole time (BS). and usually, she is suppose to call me everyday at 4:15..but she stopped for some reason..i didn't know what was wrong..until i found out she was mad at me a week later..she is still avoiding me now! what do i do!?

well she is being a bit immature. the only thing you can really try to do is call her and just explain as quickly and painlessly as possible. "julie please stop being mad at me because i wasnt trying to ignore you i just wanted to finish cleaning." maybe listen to her side a bit and stay calm. i mean dont lose it on her. if she still deosnt get it then just give her time and try not to worry about it. go on living your life. im sure she will get over it soon enough.

Sarah.*.*.

Q: i recently got kicked out of my house, illegally, by my dad. i had a job before i left, and i was friends with a guy there. i had a cell phone on my dad's plan- but he screwed me over too many times with the bill, and he always questioned me about who's numbers were who's. well, this guy offered to put me on his plan- because he's get the phone for free- and if anything- i'd be helping him out- with the bill and all- cuz weve been splitting in directly in half- no matter who goes over. ive had it for maybe 6 or 7 months. but since ive ben kicked out- i lost my job- and another guy at work has been paying my phone bills for me- (the last 3 months). my gramma- who i live with- has never liked the idea of me having a phone on someone else's plan. well, lastnight- we got into an argument about it- and we fought. like, physically. she told me i could keep the phone until monday- but that i had to give it back to him then. i feel horrible- but i just need to know- does she in fact have the right to do that?- i mean, she's not my legal guardian- and the phone was given to me- it's not like i begged for it.my phone is my only bit of freedom here- and i cant live without it. someone please share what you think.

okay well this sucks but it is her house so try to keep that in mind that its her rules too whether shes your guardian or not. nothing here is illegal and i really dont see that you having the phone given to you is wrong. the only thing i would have left to do is try to explain to my grandmother *without fighting* why the phone is so important and that he is just a friend. you do have a very good argument and maybe another thing that would help is if you were to find another job ASAP. maybe that would help get her on your side. but really i think that it was between you and the guy and should stay between you and the guy but i wouldnt tell her that like that and sound like a smartass.

to answer simply....grandmothers have the right to do almost anything especially when youre living in there house. im sorry i know that is not what you wanna hear. but things will get better.

*Sa*r*ah*

Q: I asked this question about one year ago. I moved in my 8th grade year. I miss my friends terribly and I still see them and talk to them almost on a daily basis. My grandmother who lives in the town I moved from said that if I really wanted I could live with her. Now that sounds so easy but my parents are the problem. I get in fights with my mom about almost anything and she has thrown things at me in the past. And my dad only listens to what my mom says. My dad lies to me so I won't move back to my grandmother`s. When we talk about it he always tells me family is more important then I think. It's just that it is no fun for me were I'm living. But I wonder if I could live without them.A part of me wants to go to my grandmother's with all my friends I think right now I just need to convince the other side. It's the summer now and if I'm going to move back I have to make a desicion soon. Please help me I need it. P.S I am 13,female

well maybe you could compromise. i mean go to your grandmothers to be with your friends and have the time of your life for the rest of the summer. and maybe visit your parents occasionally. dont try to cut them out completely. then if it all works out and your parents are ok with it then you can keep that arrangement for school. that way your family still gets some time together maybe on holidays and every other weekend or so and you get o be with the people you miss the most. family is still family no matter where you all are. good luck.

>Sare

Q: my dad i really care for him but he dosnt no my b-day or anything about me he left when i was i was three have not seen in a year or two i relly care for and i still love even tho he has a alcolo probmelm and drugs and many more my mom has a oder of precettion and i can only see him when someone else is there what should i do i relly miss him and i dont no if him loves me please help me
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girlygirl4real

he is your dad therefore he loves you even if he deosnt show it.just keep showing that you care. that is so important. tell him you love him every chance you get even if its hard or if he deosnt say it back. he may not know how. nobody might have taught him how to show love when he was growing up so maybe you should try to teach him. but believe me he loves you and one day you'll know

Sarah*Elizabeth

Q: Basically I'm sick to death of my family. I really need to get away from them for just a little while. I love them, but for the moment, we aren't getting along too well. None of my friends are around and I'm not allowed to go anywhere without my parents.
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I have 2 younger brothers that constantly fight, and an older brother. My dad is in another state for the next few days, but my mom is here.

help me please!

yea my family gets on my last nerves sometimes too. i have a younger sister and brother. anyway yea to get away i go for walks or shut my self in my room and read or turn the music up loud and jam. do anything that will distract you from the fighting and your family. the worst part for me is the lonliness from friends not being aroud. i just try to talk to them as often as i can since i live in the middle of nowhere. there hope i gave you some ideas. sorry if it didnt help.

SARAHBARAH

Q: What do i do when i have an abuse of mother, who has mode swings, and is VERY abuse of somtime, its starting to be more abuseive than not, i am scared to tell anyone cause i know that it will come back to her and she will hurt me, like last week i didnt do my chores and she twisted my wrist, and now i have a sprained wrist.

please help!

umm hey your gonna be okay. until your dad can get you think of your closest friend or most trusted adult. call them. maybe you culd stay wiht them for a bit. or at least tell them whats going on. they shouldnt tell your mother they know. but if you dont do anything your mother could go too far and kill you. child abuse isnt taken lightly. report her if you can find the strength. you would be taken from her and she wouldnt be able to touch you again. you can try these numbers

National Child Abuse Hotline: 800 422 4453
National Center for Victims of Crime, Abuse and Domestic Violence, Rape: 800 394 2255

People there would know what to do.just trust them. if for some reason those numbers dont work you should be able to find some local ones in your phone book in the front somewhere.

i wish you luck. you can always email me for more help.

*Sare*Bear*

Q: ok so today my dad invoted me and my bro to go the the batting cages. I went for fun and plus i love baseball. SO i was doing awesome on hitting the baseball and everything but my dad never even payed attention to me. Then he was like why dont you try the softball. and i didnt want to but he made me anyways. But it serioucly screwed up my baseball hitting and i sucked at softball and he was encouraging me there. But like i said he never watched my hitting the baseballs... he was totally ignoreing it. Is he one of those dads that thinks girls cant do sertain sports? i mean i hate softball... but its like he doesnt give me a chance and theres no way im a girly girl... plz help!! sorry that its so long..

if you love baseball then certainly play baseball. its illegal to keep you off a baseball team. tell youre father hes being sexist and that girls showed a long time ago that they could and should be allowed to participate in those kinds of sports. i know a couple girls that choose baseball over softball and they're really good. and next time youre at the batting cages yell at him to get his attention. tell him to watch you and see how good you are. just prove to him you can do it. if you ultimatley cant get his support then pursue it yourself.do it for you. dont let him stop you.

*SaRaH*

Q: my dad broke my coller bone da ova day but he says it was an accident which it was. but now when we have an argument he will say he break something else of mine but i dont know if hes joking cause he looks seriouse ive told my mom and she says hes just joking but she ent der when he says it because he dont say it round her. what should i do is he joking or what can any one help.

if telling your mom deosnt work which it hasnt and probably wont unfortunaltely. whether he's joking or not it could happen agian. to prevent him from losing control and actually doing it you need to find someone maybe at school you will take you seriously and speak with your father and try to convince him to get help on controling his anger. whether he wants it or not he sounds like he needs it. a dad in his right mind deosnt threaten to break his daughters bones. ya see what im saying. hes not allowed to do that. it is against the law to hurt you like that. you need to stop it before it happens and the threat becomes real. at least tyr to make him see that saying that isnt funny and that it scares you. its okay to be afraid. i would be. well good luck. things will work out.

~*~SaRiE~*~

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alrite if ya wanna know anything then simply ask and i will gladly tell.

i definately like to assist people. i have for a very long time. some say im good some say i suck. but whatever you can decide for yourself.

Sarah Elizabeth......