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wut should i do if i was molested bye a family member more then once but cant tell ne one cuz they wont belive me and i dont want to brake p the family?

O my gosh sweetie! You NEED to tell someone.. and i mean you NEED too !!!NO one EVER should have to go through that.. and the fact that its reoccuring makes it worse! did you already start school? If so then the counsler at your school would be the best thing to go to if you don't feel comfortable telling a trusted guardian etc. .. About splitting up your family.. if its your father then they might take you away from your home until you able to go back to a safe enviorment where hes not around.. if its an uncle brother maybe even an aunt sister.. then im pretty sure you would be able to stay at your house. They would only be protecting you from harm... Don't worry about splitting up your family.. you safetly comes first.. and you don't want to be in a family where you can't even feel safe.. If your other family members love you then they'll understand and everything will work out... i promise...

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-I hope EVERYTHING works out for you.. and im sorry you have to go through this.. if you need anything.. im here-


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I had it good for a while. I guess most of us dont realize when to appreciate what you have. I had it so good id do just anything to back on the past. But lets forget me... my sister used to be average wieght.. NOT fat at all just not as skinny as everyone else. I used to call her fat tho just in spite of her when i wanted something and she wouldnt give me something or if we were fighting. I regret that in every way shape or form. PLEASE if you've been calling some1 fat dont do it, you will hospitilize some1 no joke it gets to people. So anyway shes been away at camp for 5 weeks.. and shes not the same. She wont let herself touch a hamburger, or anything besides salad and yogurts and rice cakes and such. She wont let herself have even a rootbeer float.. its so wierd. But worst of all shes not anything like she used to be. She used to be happy. Shes really homesick right now and she admits when she comes back shes going to need therapy because she even KNOWS that her lifestyles are messed up. Its not that she doesnt want to eat all those foods she CANT. She always feels so compared her whole life she has and now im fearing for her and wishing things were back to normal. Nothing has ever been this screwed up in my life i have never been asked to handle this 1nce before in my life and now its my own sister... and i just dont know what to do. Its like no1 cares... my aunt only has mean things to say like shes starving herself and she yells at my sister. Yelling wont help her any! My mom understands and so does my dad and they care but it hurts to see them so worried. I cant take it! This could all be my fault.. i should have never called her names.... what do i do to keep myself from getting overly sick at myself. Im not about to go anerexic or cut myself or anything lame like that im too full of life and i could never stoop down to that level but i always feel like i just want to stay in bed all day. I want my life to be normal, but i cant have that...


for a person thats going to be sensitive to my feelings... *PLEASE* answer asap

and 2 the rest of u.. never say anything you could regret


XoxOO-

Well.. I don't think whats happening to your sister is your fault. Everyone calls there siblings fat at one point or another. I know I have done it.. and my brother and sister have done it to me. Maybe something happened at camp to your sister to make her feel this way. Another thing could be that she likes a boy and maybe hes dating only the super-thin girls. She has an eating disorder and she needs to get help... its not your fault .. you shouldnt be beating yourself up about it...I do have some suggestions though for when she returns home. You could go through family albums and show her pictures of herself happy and healthy. You could compliment her on how she looks... You could comment on how a boy was checking her out while your in public etc. Just make her feel good about herself.. You keeping yourself in bed all day won't do any good.. I say just live your life and enjoy the summer.. Once your sister gets back.. do lots of stuff with her..((mall trips, movies , getting your nails done .. etc.)) and try to keep her mind off of how she looks.. remember it wasn't your fault..

also if your feeling down.. lift your mood by doing something.. don't give yourself time to think... otherwise you will become more down..

Go swimming with friends
go to the movies with friends
Shop... with your friends
Go to an amusement park etc..

But make sure there are people with you .. that won't talk about your sister.. so you can keep your mind off of things and remain happy..

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Good Luck!!!

-Hope I helped-

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wut do i do?!?!?! i have a huge pimple!! how can i get rid of it soon!?!?! ah!! help!!

Don't sweat it.. its just a pimple.. everyone gets them.. but if you want a quick fix put some make up on it..or use clearasil or oxy.. toothpaste will only take away the redness and you need the white kind. Good Luck.. and remember no one will get grossed out by a pimple.. everyones got 'em

hope i helped


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if a guys asks me out that i really dont like or even know i find it really hard to say no. if i just plainout say no i feel really realyl mean. but if u say yes, i know i will be miserable. if i say we can just be freinds the guy will just follow me around for a while even though i dont even want ot be freinds

Well theres a difference between you not liking him and not knowing him.. if you don't like him. then just say "look.. i know you like me but its never going to work out between us.. were just not meant for eachother and we have nothing in common" If you don't know him then say " Your a really sweet guy but we don't know eachother well enough to date and i would just like to stay friends"

That way if you don't know him then you can get to know him and maybe you would like who he is!:)

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I MAJORLY NEED HELP! Ok heres the story: Some of my friends (4) are going to Crazy Donkey (a dance club) 2nite and they invited me to go!! The one problem is I don't know how to ask my mom if i could go b/c it would be my first time going to a club. When I asked her previous times she was unsure and said she would think about it but those times I never made a plan to go but now I did. So what should I say to her? I never did anything to make my parents not trust me or anything like that i mean jeez im a high honor student lol I just don't know how to approach her with this info... She gets home from work later 2nite but I also wanna know is it okay to call her at work?

Don't call her at work. The worst thing is when you disrupt a parent at work. And besides you have no idea if its a crummy day at the office. Wait until she gets home. And i suggest choosing the right moment. Maybe while shes cooking dinner you could help and then bring it up and have a mother-daughter talk. Don't get snotty about it if she says no. That will just show immaturaity. But instead hear her reasons why and then try to explain your reasons more thoroughly. Also tell her you will not be alone and your going with 4 other girls. That none of you will be under the influence. you are a honors student. And that you have never given her any reasons not to trust you. If she still says no then respect it and try again on a different night when your a little older and after you've talked to her about it a little more and gave her time to think. Also, maybe next time you should ask her to go to a clb a few days in advance so she has time to think about it and shes not pressured to make a choice and then wonder if she made the wrong descion when she only had 3 hours to think about it.


Hope I helped...

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