Hey, I'm Kelli, better known as fabulous ;)
after a very long break from this site, I'm back and ready to help out anyone who needs it.
A little bit about me:
I'm fourteen and in eighth grade.
I'm a crazy girl, and I always have a smile on my face.
I love to sing and dance, I spend most of my time doing one or the other.
I am nice to everyone, until they give me a reason not to be.
I have the best friends in the world, and without their love and support, I wouldn't be who I am today.
Ask me anything, I'm told I'm good at advice so don't be afraid to ask my opinion. I'll do the best I can to help you out! ♥
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What would you do iuf you hurt someone's feelings (someone in your family) and you apologize but they don't want to forgive you? (link)
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Hey. It's very easy to hurt someones feelings but a lot harder to earn their forgiveness. A lot of times, people will be quick to forgive depending on what was said. However, there are certain things that can hurt people so bad, that in all honesty, they may never forgive you. I hurt a friend of mine a couple years ago when we had a particularly bad fight and it took her almost a year to forgive me and even still, that friendship has cooled off a lot. All you can do is apoligize and do your best to earn this persons trust and forgiveness back. If you can prove you mean it, they'll probably be more quick to forgive you. Good luck ♥ fabulous
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soo lastnight there was a party. and it was awesomee.i had so much fun.everyone was dancing/grindingg..and i was partying with my bf.we didn't make out or anything b/c theere were some parents tthere.but w/e. ANYWAYSS my x boyfriends mother[ who im friends with..b/c my x and i are still friends] she called my parents and told them there was dirty dancing going on! my dad came at like 10. [when everything was dying down] but im soo embaressed. that mother told my parents i was one of themm.and i think my parents are like dissapointed in me.is there anyway i cann earn their trust backk??? (link)
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Hey. I know this is a tough situation but believe me, it could have been a lot worse (i.e if you were making out with your boyfriend!). Anyway, explain to your parents what was going on and that although it may not be appropriate, you didn't really realize it at the time because it was all in good fun. Tell them that you feel really bad about losing there trust and that you want to know how to make it up to them. The most important thing to do, is remain confident and don't get argumental. If you remain mature, your parents will be more likely to let it go. Hope this helps, good luck with your parents! ♥ fabulous
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okay so im annoyed. my parents dont let me hang out with guys. and it sucks because im friends with A LOT of guys in my school. and so sometimes (like today) my friend asked to come over my house friday and swim (a girl) and i said id ask my mom cause i wanted her to come and swim at my house, and then later on my friend asks if her AND this guy can come over and i told her i was busy but im really not, but i dunno what to do cause im just so mad my parents wont let me hang with guys. please dont say 'talk to ur parents' cause ive tried. but i can only hang with guys if its at someone elses house and my parents dont even know. i dont wanna say "i cant hang with guys' because ppl have seen me hang with guyys. (im SO sorry if this is confusing) i just dont know how to tell my friends, and a lot of them are guys and i just hate when people wanna hang out, i feel so excluded. (link)
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Hey.I`m pretty much in the same boat as you with guys. I hate to break it to you, but there really isn't anything you can do but talk to your parents. If you go behind their back and they find out, that pretty much kills any amount of trust they had in you and what privliges you had. Just tell them that not every guy out there is going to cause trouble with you. You just get along with a lot of the guys at school and have fun with them. Ask them to at least let you have a mixed group of your girl and guy friends over as sort of a trial run and they can see that you aren't trying to do anything you shouldn't be doing. I'm sorry if this really doesn't answer your initial question but there really aren't many options in a case like this. Good luck, hope I helped even a little. ♥ fabulous
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Well when my mom and dad were married, they adopted 4 kids, myself, my younger brother, my older brother, and my older sister.
We arent blood related, all different, but from the same country.
Anyways, they were married for like 22 years and then they got divorced, I'm 16 now.
They got divorced when I was too little to understand, but as I got older I did go through the 'every other weekend' at my dads house, and on 'wednesdays' where i would visit with my younger brother.
Well my dad got married again,
then he got divorced,
and then he got married again to a women named *jane
And currently he's married to her right now.
See my dads like 52, and his wife is in her mid fortys I guess. I'm not sure.
But recently we found out that they are expecting a baby. My mom said it didnt really bug her anymore, but today during church, she just started balling and left the service, it was about mothers day.
She said it was because she doesnt think its fair we didnt have a dad growing up really, and now he's going to devote so much time a new baby. I understand that, and I feel really bad for her. But I really dont think I need a father, my dad and I never really had a relationhip, a good one, and he has been verbally abusive and sometimes physically but not horribly, and I think that is the cause why I have such resentment towards "men" I dont like my friends dads, because they make me uncomfortable.. but thats not the point, I cant deal with that problem right now.
What am I supposed to do about this,
I mean how am I supposed to feel?
I honestly dont care, my dad hasnt fully come out to me and told me that they are having a baby, but he already told my older sibblings,
and they told me.
He wont flat out tell me and my younger brother yet, he said that he has good news to tell us but wants to tell us with *jane. I already know what it will be. His whole spiel that he told my older sibblings.. "i love you, and even if i hav e ababy it wont change anything... i wont love it more than i love you... ' blah blah, frankly I dont care if he did.
Its not a big deal to me.
I dont know, if I'm asking for a specific question, its just my whole life has been "this" kind of complicated. Having divorced parents, and just the little things that happened, the things that you cant just explain to people on the internet, you know, I'm jsut confused, and I dont know what at all to think.
But PLEASE dont tell me I shoudl accept the baby and everything, I dont want to be part of its life. (link)
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Hey. Boy you are one tough kid you have been tnrough so much and its really cool that you and your mom are so close. I can easily see how it bothers your mom and could make you mad about the baby. But in reality, the baby is only going to be your half brother or sister and if you want to get real technical, not even related at all since you were adopted. Your 16 which isn't necessarily an adult but close enough. You are old enough to make your own decisions and your parents should respect whether you choose to become a part of the babies life or not. Although I know it isn't so much the baby as the idea of him having a baby, but I don't think you should decide to not be around the baby. The innocent child has no idea what he or she is being born into and it would be pretty cool for him or her to have an older sibling they could trust and come to (even though they will have others) but to answer your initial question, its ok that it doesn't bother you so much. Maybe eventually it will or maybe it won't. Everyone handles things differently and this is just your way of dealing. Good luck and if you need anything else please feel free to leave one in my inbox. Good luck ♥ fabulous
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I saw a question about how to get guys to notice a girl at lets say a mall(asked by a girl), and i was wondering how to get girls to notice me in a public place. say like a mall for instance. and if i feel that i should approach a girl, what is a good way to get into a conversation and not make a fool of myself ?
im 16/m by the way(17 in june) (link)
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Hey. This made me smile cause I`m a girl and it seems that girls are always asking the same questions about guys!Anyway if you want to talk to a girl, just be yourself and talk to her! I`m sure she'd be flattered that you worked up the nerve to talk to her! I know I would. You seem sweet so just be yourself. That will be enough for the right girl. Good luck ♥ fabulous
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I`m only 13 and my parents treat me like I`m 18 and they won't buy me ANYTHING! They make me pay for my clothes, my food when I go out to eat, staying at hotels for a family vacation, and basically everything. They won't even buy me a pack of gum! I'm only 13 and I can't really have a well-paying job and I already walk dogs but that can't pay for everything.. I can't even shop anymore because I don't have enough money for more then 2 shirts and as soon as I buy 2 shirts I have to save up for another 3 months until I have any money again.
It really annoys me because my friends always brag about how their mom took them to the mall and bought them 9 bags of clothes and they didn't have to pay. My parents haven't bought me any clothes since I was 11. My mom never takes me to the mall because she says "I don't like to drive and it's too far away." Yeah, the mall is literally 10 minutes away. I still have all winter clothes to survive in this summer because I have NO money to buy anything and my birthday has already passed.
Don't you think it's harsh to make a 13 year old pay for EVERYTHING including like gum and stuff?! The most I can do is walk dogs and it's not like they are punishing me for being a bad kid because I get straight A's and I'm never in trouble so it's not a punishment.. I think they are so harsh because clothes are a necessity and all of my friends sit on their butts and get everything handed to them and I`m trying to pay for everything and it's not going to work out.. I've already tried telling them that it's impossible to pay for my own wardrobe and food and stuff when my only way of getting money is walking dogs because my parents don't pay me for helping out around the house and stuff.. so how can I get them to lighten up and at least pay for SOME of my clothes and other stuff? because it would be helpful if they pitched in a little bit.
P.S if you think I should start babysitting to make money how do I bring this up with my parents?? and I ONLY want to babysit for my neighbors so should I tell them straight out I want to babysit or should my mom tell them? (link)
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Hey sweetie. It is absolutely rediculous for a 13 year old to pay for everything herself. I am 13 as well and I know for a fact that I wouldn't be able to do it so before I answer your question, let me just say kuddos to you, your a smart kid and you are going to be just fine. I would sit your mom and dad down and explain to them that you don't mind paying for some of the things that you want and don't necessarily need but that between school and your age, there really is no possible way for you to support yourself. And I hate to say it honey but if they don't listen to you, I would tell someone at school or another trusted adult whats going on. Maybe they could explain to your parents that part of the responsibility of having a child, is supporting them. Tell them you parents or at least your dad have good paying jobs and you are really not in bad shape money wise. If that doesn't work, Iw ould just put off buying clothes or food until your parents have no choice but to pay for you. As for the babysitting, let your neighbors know your available, dont have your mom do it, and maybe make up some flyers or put an add in the paper. Good luck, let me know if you need anything else. ♥ fabulouss
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i'm 15/f, and opinions are very much apprectiated on this even though it's long. here's the sitch:
i'm going into the 10th grade in a month. my mom lives in one town, and my dad in another, about 10 minutes apart.
so i live with my mom now, but i'm thinking of maybe moving to my dad's house, but i need your help in making the decision. all of my friends are near my mom's house, that go to the high school in her town, but if i were to move with my dad, he would take me to see them and let me have them over and everything that i would normally do with them--but i don't know anyone that would go to the high school in my dad's town. my mom is supposed to give me allowance for the chores i do, but she never does, and i can't get a job yet, so i have no money. if i were to move with my dad, i have 4 cousins that live near him that i could babysit and make some money and then later get a job, and he also said that he would give me allowance. i sometimes get along with my mom, but she puts her boyfriend before me and is always asking me to do stuff for her and she's always on my case. i get along with my dad most of the time, and his girlfriend is like a mom to me. my room at my mom's house is small and cramped, i have no closet doors, a broken fan, no bed frame and my mom says she can't make renovations bc she doesnt have the money, but she spends her money(including the child support money from my dad) on my little sister(has a diff. dad), tanning, and diet everything. i'm so frustrated, and i'm so nervous about making this decision and i've no clue what to do. so a huge thank you goes out to anyone who answers this.
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It sounds like you really want to live with your dad. And I know the choice is tough but you have to do what makes you most comfortable. It seems like your dad would do anything to have you live with him so I'd do what feels right. Your mom sounds preoccupied with her boyfriend so I'd talk to her and let her know what's going on. Maybe she'll agree that you'd be better off living with your dad for a while even if its a trial thing for only a year or 6 months. As for not knowing anyone at your highschool, you'll make friends. I can pretty much promise you that you will make friends and adjust. I'm sorry you have to go through this. I know a lot of people with divorced parents so I know its really tough. Good luck. ♥ Kelli
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My brothers gay..
Its not that bad.. i mean.. hes not really girlie.. hes 18 and still lives with us tho (he graduated).. his boyfriends come over all the time.. and im ok with that.. its not too weird.. but when i talk about it with people.. its hard.. and almost like.. embaressing to say hes GAY.. but i know that there is nothing ot really be embarresed about? help?! (link)
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Hey. I know it may seem tough to talk about with people but first of all if you are proud of your brother and except it make sure people know this! And second of all, this is nobodys business except for you, your brother, and your family. If your brother isn't worried about coming out I don't think you have any reason to not feel the same way. If it makes you uncomfortable though don't feel you have to talk about it because you 100% do not have to! Hope I helped!
♥ Kelli
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