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14/f

ok my parents are way too over protective!!

but anyway, they put parental controls on the tv and blocked MTV and VH1, even though im going in to highschool now!!

is this unreasonable? and does anyone else's parents do this??

i really wanna know so i can stop being so mad about it and stop feeling so annoyed about my parents cause its really getting on my last nerve lol.

thanks!!

When I was litte, I was not allowed to watch MTV. Even some the celebs that are in hollywood today said their parents wouldn't let them watch MTV as a kid because they simply thought that some of the behavior on MTV was crude and inappropiate for their kids to watch.

So just take a minute look at it from your parents perspective. On MTV or VH1 there is cussing, nudity, sexual content (that is blocked out for tv) but your parents are probably afraid that you'll pick up any of that behavior, so they block that. Most parents who do this block anything that has cussing even though it is bleated out, you can still read lips.

My parents put a block on any of the shows or movies on tv that have a rating MA or Rated R.
But I ask, and they unblocked it. So try reasoning with them and tell them you won't pick any of that behavior from the t.v.

Your parents will lose their trust in you if they figure you do pick of that behavior such as (cussing ) they would then blame themselves and the t.v. for letting you watch that. They DON'T want to blame themselves for your bad behavior. (Even though I'm sure you haven't had any) So thats the reason why the block it out.

Take it maturely when you talk to him, DON'T yell or show that you'r angry, if you do, you're just letting your parents know how immature you are, and they won't take you seriously. So try reasoning with them, see if that helps, hope I helped, and sorry so long!

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14/f

Lately I've been stressing over everything in my life and its getting to the point where I'm starting to get depressed more often and moody. I'm stressing over trying to get into a top highschool where only a few get chosen......stressing over this boy who has a girlfriend but I just can't seem to get him out of my head no matter I do he's all I think about....stressing over issues in my home I feel like I can't go to anyone for help because I feel like they get bothered with my problems. I don't know what to do how do I handle my issues normally without depression or mood swings or stress?

Don't be stressed you're still young, you can add years to life.

1. Focus on the postitive things, not the negative, don't dwell on all the things you do have to do all at once, you seem to be focusing on it all and it causes stress on you. Take a look at things step-by-step.

2. Don't focus on that boy who has a girlfriend, hes a waste of time, and a loser and hes obviously too dumb to see you as a great person.
Focusing on one person gets boring, your 14 and still learning you have the rest of your life to fall in love. Theres other boys out there who like you, you just haven't paid attention to it. Put yourself first, only you can really make the depression go away.

3. Open up your feelings or talk about it with a close friend or a family member, but don't over dwell in your problems so much thats what can drive people away from you because they don't wanna be dwelled in your own sadness, people like to be around happy people. You can be happy.

4. Stay active, it'll be hard to do but once you get yourself motivated you'll be happy. Try to keep the stress out by creating routines day by day, try something new and diffrent, take a walk in the evening that can refresh you and if you have it take a cd player, or ipod with you to listen to, listen to upbeat music that can get you moving this can help you get motivated. Call your friends up to go out to movies or the mall.
Surround yourself with happy outgoing people , and happiness and laughter is the best medicine.
:)

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ok i have a realllly close friend, but the prob is that she lies a lot and i just dont like that. i dont want to like turn in to her by hanging out with her a lot you know?? but she lies to her parents a lot and friends too. i dont know why. please help... What should I D O !!!???? thanks you1

She's what you can call a compulsive liar. That means that, that person just lies because she is probably, more likely, just simply bored with herself and has to lie to make her life seem exciting. She has low-self esteem,& you only can get influenced to her is if YOU choose to. Just avoid her,don't surround yourself around those kinds of people, you need to hang around with people who can support you when you need help.
If she's like that, more than likely she won't be there for you. Try avoiding her, and if that don't work just simply try talking to her less, cut her off short,(it's kinda rude though) or best just keep by it, going in the halls and just saying hey, and that's it. Keep your convos short with her, you don't have to tell her much. You deserve a better friend than that. Hope this helps, sorry so long.

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