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Heyyy!!!! What's up everyone. I'M BACK!!! my name is Catherine. I am 15 years old. I may be a minor you will be surprised of what I know, especially things I haven't been trough. Just leave anything you want to talk about in my inbox.advice
My birthday was June 30th. It was my 16th birthday. I don't know why they forgot my birthday.. they've never forgotten anything of mine before. There wasn't anything going on around that time.. I don't know what the problem is! I am not a bad girl.. my GPA is a 3.85 and I'm always doing chores. Why did they forget? Should I say something? Because every time I tell them they did something wrong, even if it was that they didn't put on their seatbelt, I'm grounded for 2 weeks, and I'm not even exaggerating.
Its been almost 3 weeks since my birthday..
Well I have to agree with everyone that has given you advice. I have been through what you have. Last year EVERYONE forgot about my birthday, I felt bad about it, worse because I didn't have the voice to speak up and say anything ABOUT IT. Just talk to them, they might tell you what's going on in their heads, because at age 15-16 that's the most important year. Anyways just tell me how it turns out. I hope they listen to you. You deserve to speak out and be heard.
okay well my mom saw my myspace pictures of me drinking and smoking and shes mad and she said im grounded for a month but thats like all summer and were going to have a talk when i get home and i dont no what i say do lie or what can i say"?
Well sweety, don't lie. It will make things work. Tell her your totally sorry, and you know what you did was wrong. In a matter of time she'll trust you again knowing that you know what you did was completely wrong. Hope this helps.
My dad died when i was 8 and my mom recently got married to a guy who used to be in the army. I have two sister and now i have 3 step brothers. He is like way strict and his kids are like perfect angels but me and my sisters have never really been raised that strict and for lack of better words are pretty wild. my mom never really punished us for things and now this guy is trying to control us and take over our lives. What should i do?
Try to get him to lighten up. Not everyone is perfect. You need him to know that you and our family are just not used to the rules he gives. And try and spend mroe time with him, he may be strict. But think about it, he was in the army. Just give him time.
hi im a 15 year old girl and my mom hits me a lot. i was wondering what you think i should do to get her to stop?
Tell her it's hurting you. Tell her if she keeps doing this you will end up in a death bed. And slapping you isn't going to help anyone. it just hurts...If it doesn't work call for help, she may be in trouble. But if you don't get help she'll be the reason of why you died in such an early age. Go be with your brother for awhile til she cools down for now. I honestly don't know what to say. Cause I'm abit bi polar myselff. But I controlled my issues...And I want to help...
15/f + boyfriend 17/m -
okay well him and his parents (mom and dad) are going to ocean city the 15th-22nd and they invited me. they're paying for everything. the thing is my dad said it was okay, but mom didn't. i need sooo much help to convince her it's okay. i wrote her a letter stating we wouldn't be sleeping together/all the requirements! i need so much help please. i want to go so unbeliveably badly.
any advice?!
Well, first keep trying to convince your mom. Show her how much it really means to you. If that doesn't work, then since your dad approves, ask HIM to help convince your mom. Hope it works out!
I want to do something special for each of my parents. They do so much for me so I want to show them how much I care. So what should I do? Nothing that costs a lot...Like Breakfast in bed is a good idea, but 1. I have school and 2. They wake up before me...any ideas???
How about a special dinner. A family dinner. Make something that they like alot and after that sing for them. Like something that says I love you(in a parent way of course)!! It worked for me. She actually cried of joy.
Last night I had just witnessed a death. it made me real sad. It was my grannie. she has played a HUGE role in my life. I stood there and watched her die. I All I do is cry now. What can i do to stop
I think it is better you let your feelings out. You should cry to take your emotions out of your system. So cry all you want. And if you need to talk to anybody just leave it in my inbox. Okay, don't worry everything will be okay. I'm here for you I PROMISE!
sorry this is so long but... is it wrong not to love your father, now hold on don't blow a gasket i'll explain everything. ya see my dad went to jail when i was really young and and i never got to know him. and my grandperents keep wanting me to go clear across the state to visit him. and i don't wanna spend 5 days in a hot car just to see someone i dont even know for 2 hours. but i feel so ashamed, i feel so self centered, i feel so selfish. i feel like i owe it to him to go. please i want your oupion am i the scum of the earth, or am i ok
please, dont yell at me. i already feel bad enough as it it.
Listen I know how you feel. I've been trough worse. My dad he goes to jail to for a couple of hours for fighting with people. He ALWAYS makes an excuse to not come to my b-day. He told me I had a brother and a sister in P.R when I was 8. And SO MUCH MORE. But if you haven't met him B4 then I think you should take a chance. I gave my dad a chance, so I think you should too. GOOD LUCK!!
My little brother can be extremely annoying. I dont want to tell him to go away, but somtimes i lose my temper. I hate yelling but he just deserves it so much!!!! How do i get my mom to relize that he's the monstor not me and to start dishing out the punishment to the right person????
He has chased me around with knives, hit me, refused to let me eat, and done countless other things! He really hurts my feelings.
What do i do?
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~Melissa~
You should mostly talk to your brother. I know how it feels to be tortured by a brother. So tell him how he is hurting you. And if that doesn't work, when your parents leave try to get revenge.
My older sister is 17 (Im about to turn 14 in a few days) and today I was hanging out with her in her room while she was looking through her drawers for a pair of shorts. I saw something that looked like a condom wrapper but she covered it up so quickly, i thought i must have seen it wrong because my sister told me shes a virgin. Well, when she left the house, I snooped & turns out .. it was condoms, a few of them. And about 3 were un opened. Im MAD. She lied to me. And shes told me repeatedly how she wants to save herself until marriage. I dont know what to do, do i tell anyone? Im afraid she'll get an STD, or pregnant. But I cant talk to HER. Or she'll freak out at me and deny it - i know.
Ok first of all she can't get pregnant if she uses a condem. Now what you need to do is tell somebody like a parent and if she denys it show proof(the condems of course). This affects not only her but her own family.
16/f... Lately I've been so pissed at my mom. She works from 9-5 but when she gets home, she's on the computer doing e-mails, ebay, or going to all these different meetings she chooses to be apart of. She wasn't always like this... where she's always gone, or on the computer. And now our house is so messy... and I clean it up. But we have so much junk lying around and a lot of it is hers and she's always saying "Get things cleaned up" well, I do the best I can and she thanks me for it... but everyday its "Get things cleaned up, blah blah blah". And I do what I can but its never clean enough and she never has time to help me because she's always on the stupid computer doing her "little business" on ebay and its stupid! She doesn't have time to cook anymore either. And I have a life too, I have to clean up, plus do stuff on my own whether its taking my cousins somewhere, school, or being a regular teenager. The problem with me is, that I tend to hold emotions in, and then I'll just attack you... and so today I did that with my mom. I attacked her with how I was feeling, but this hasn't been the first time... I've attacked her about this situation before. I'm tired of all this. Same thing with the plumbing back in February (which, btw is still not fixed, but I've given up on that and that was all because of the same thing... she doesn't have time for anything else or she "foregets" to call). Well, she's tired of me always doing this and being sarcastic. I'll start telling her how we're tired of her not having time for anything else. Our house is still messy (a lot of things I can't do... like where am I supposed to put all of the statements she keeps, papers, etc? we have ALOT of that kind of stuff), we have fast food all the time... I go and get my own food, otherwise I won't eat until like 9pm and I'm too tired to cook, and things like the plumbing, etc. So today as I was cleaning out the linen closet I told her how I was tired of this, how she can't do anything anymore and she kept saying "Oh knock it off!, I don't want to hear it, Stop being sarcastic, I'm tired of it" blah blah blah. So I left the room with tears running down my face. The main reason was because she wasn't listening to anything I had to say. She thinks I'm being sarcastic when I'm telling how I really feel. She left for a meeting and the entire time, I kept thinking about cutting. I have no other reason to get anything else out. She won't listen to me. I never tell her anything, I'm not close to her at all. Sure we have a good relationship... she's always been here. She's not the type that goes out drinking or whatever. But deep down, I'm not close to her. I don't "tell her everything" as most daughters and mothers are. Its too late for that, and I've excepted it. And my dad's here, but he doesn't do anything. When he gets off work, he goes downstairs and falls asleep or goes on the computer, then sleeps again. On weekends he'll mow the lawn sometimes, and he used to the the fixer guy... he would have fixed the plumbing, but its not the same anymore. He's just the regular couch potatoe and I'm sick of cleaning up after him and my mom. Yea, they pay me and while most kids think that thats awesome... to me its not all about the money. My parents won't let me have friends over when the house is messy and its ALWAYS messy. The majority of the time, I'd much rather have some friends over than 40 bucks. Money really can't buy happiness. I've only had people over about a total of 10 times in the 16 years I've lived. It sucks and I feel so alone. My mom would be pissed at me if I just came home from school and said "oh hey mom! so-and-so's here!". And those 10 times someone came over, the day before I spent cleaning the entire house. It sucks. I guess what I'm trying to say is, it scares me that I've been having thoughts about cutting. But I feel like theres no other way to get my feelings out. I told my mom before I left the room, that she won't listen to me so I'll just take my anger out in a different way. She just barely looks at me and screamed "Well, you need help then, like a councelor or something" so I finally said "Yea, get me a councelor". But she didn't seem too serious about that... she just said it to make me shut up. I guess my question is, do you have ANY advice? Is there any way you can help me? Give me some advice. I'm so sick of this. I'm sick of how my parents live, its not the way I want to live. And, it makes me mad that my mom won't even listen to how I feel. Just because I raise my voice when I'm mad, or I keep bringing up the same subject over and over again. She won't answer my questions like "When are we getting the plumbing fixed?" "Oh I don't know" "Thats what you said yesterday" "Well, I DON'T KNOW, stop asking..." I HATE IT SO MUCH. She won't talk about anything, make plans to get something fixed. What am I supposed to do? Sorry this is so long.
Listen if you need to talk to anybody is your own friends. There are so many ways of letting it out. You should really go to somebody who will listen to you. Have you tried talking to your father? Listen I know how you feel, how you feel like you don't have a mom or even a dad. I know cause I don't have a dad. Now I know I'm not the right person to help you deal with unfit parents but at least I'm trying. Ya see I haven't talked to my father because he was hardly ever there for I was mad, and sad and I don't want that to happen to you and both your parents so you you should talk to somebody who can talk to your parents.