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After break that lasted like a year, I'm back. Um yeah, anyways.
My name is Amanda.
I am 16.
I will try to answer your questions to the best of my ability, but be warned, I am brutally honest.
So I might come off as being mean, but sometimes the truth hurts.
I'm not saying that to be mean, because I'm really a nice person.
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I probably will not respond if you type LyKe DiS or IN ALL CAPS or if y00 cnt spl if yur lyfe dpended on it.
Have a nice day! :D
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Im 16 and my dad died when i was 8 and my mom recently got married to a guy who used to be in the army. I have two sister and now i have 3 step brothers. He is like way strict and his kids are like perfect angels but me and my sisters have never really been raised that strict and for lack of better words are pretty wild. my mom never really punished us for things( ive never been grounded and ive never ahd a curfew) and now this guy is trying to control us and take over our lives. What should i do?
Well, there's really two ways to approach this.
If you have a really good relationship with your mom, you should sit down with her and explain to her how you feel about how her new husband is parenting.
If she understands where you're coming from, maybe she could sit down with her husband and like.. talk to him about how strict he is, and maybe ask him to bring it down a level, at least until you get used to the new style of parenting.
If you're not too close with your mom, you might just want to take the problem on head-on. Just talk to her new husband, and explain to him that you aren't used to his style of parenting. Or maybe you and your sisters could talk to your step-brothers to kind of get background on your mom's new husband. Since they've known him longer than you have, they could give you tips on how to act around him, you know?
Good luck, and if you need anything else, just let me know. :]
me and my mom are really close were like best friends. But shes way to protective of me. Like she will let me go anywhere within my town or to a friends house but whenever i wanna go out she says no or she wants to know if parents are gonna be there. And even when i do go places she calls me every night and talks to me forever! Im 16 and almost 17 what can i do to make her let go.
thanks.
What you have to do is sit down with your mom and have a talk with her.
Just explain to her that you are growing up and that you should be able to do more than you were able to do when you were say, 14.
I went through a stage like this with my parents, and at first they had a hard time accepting it. I'm not sure if you're the oldest child in your family, but if you are, that makes it even harder for your parents to "set you free."
Just make your mom understand that you love her and that you love spending time with her, but you just want to get out sometimes.
I hope everything works out
And I hope this helped! :]
okay... so my brother always swears at me and calls me fat and ugly and stuff... and he hits, punches, kicks, etc. me all the time. not enough to leave a bruise or anything (occasionally) but i'm not sure if this is considered abuse? also, my mom (my mom doesn't do it a LOT) and my sister both always tell me i'm stupid, ugly, fat, (same as my brother) but they don't hit me unless they're really mad... do you consider this abuse?
Of course this is abuse...Physical and verbal.
Well here's my advice. If one of them happen to hit you again and it DOES leave a mark, go to the police IMMEDIATELY.
Best of luck!
I hope this helped =]
X_Amanda_X
OK well im a 13/f and when I was little and still now if like i do somthing "bad"..or i get my dad mad...he'll like hit me...and like i dont know if thats really considered abuse..well see this all came up because my friend jessica was tellin us how she stayed out late and her dad got really mad and she called her mom and was like i think dads gunna hit me cuz hes really mad but if he lays a hand on me ill call the cops...so that just got me thinkin to myself...is what my dad does considered abuse or just a way of him "punishing" me. And he doesnt just like "spank" me he usually uses a hard stick and hits me a few times and ive gotten a couple of bruises
plz answer
thanks
Oh my God! This is abuse! Do you have any marks or bruises? If you do, go report it! If you don't have any proof of your dad's abusivness then nothing will be done about it and you will keep getting hurt.
Good Luck! =]
X_Amanda_X
i rate high!!!!!!!
i'm 13 and my mom won't let me get pierced ears. the problem is....earrings are my favorite jewelry & i'm obsessed with looking at them & buying them (except i can't because i can't wear them!!). so i have to wear clip-ons and they don't have a big variety and they come off easily or break easily, etc... i really want pierced ears, i think i'm probably the only 13 year old girl i've ever met who has no pierced ears (except ones that didn't want them, and i've only met one girl like that). i know i shouldn't give in to peer pressure but ever since i was really little, i saw this woman wearing earrings & i wanted to wear those SO badly! my mom says i'm not responsible or w/e. we have a housekeeper & i did chores FOR her and proved i was responsible and i have contacts and hamster and i clean my room a lot and EVERYTHING but she still won't let me have one! sometimes i tend to be somewhat irresponsible like every normal girl but then she points it out AND IGNORES ALL THE RESPONSIBLE THINGS I DO! idk what to do, anyway i could convince my mom about pierced ears or somehow do it at home??? thanks i rate
Perhaps you can work and save up enough money to get your ears pierced. Maybe THAT will show your mom that you want something and you are willing to work for it.
X_Amanda_X
i have to pick between two things i reslly love a dog or a laptop what should i choose?
I would get a dog. I mean you can get a laptop another time but if you wait for a dog, the breed you want may not be available.
X_Amanda_X
my mom is really overprotective. she doesnt like to let me go hang out with my friends. i guess she doesnt trust me, but i just dont know why. she seems to thimk that i will get kidnapped or something. but whenever i go out its always with a lot of people, but she still doesnt trust me. none of my friends parents are like that. how can i earn her respect and trust? oh yah im 13 and a girl
My really good friend was in a situation like this. She is an only child so her parents worry about her very much. After she turned 13 her parents still were overprotective, like your mom. What you need to do is sit down with your mom and say "Mom, I'm 13 now and I am mature and responsible enough to take care of myself without your supervision. And since I've become more mature and responsible, I think I deserve more rights as a teenager"
I hope this helped =D
X_Amanda_X
Well my family is a family with 5 kids. We are running sort of low on money. How couild I help them out. I mean my mom could nopt even buy shampoo the other day!
Do whatever you can to make money. For example, mow lawns, babysit, etc. Hopefully that will help with your family. Also try to talk your mom or dad into getting a job (if they don't already have one)
I hope this helped! XD
X_Amanda_X
My mother has been getting on my nerves since i was 7 years old. She judges me, yells at me, swears at me, makes fun of me, and flat out makes me sick. I even started to cut myself because of her, but i eventually stopped after 1 year because my friends helped me out. But i cannot take it anymore. My dad & I are bestfriends, i tell him everything, but i dont tell him about my mother. Just because i dont want them to split up or anything. What can i do to make my mom shutup? Plus, i have many brothers, she loves them, talks to them, hugs them, and compliments them. Its just plain sick. Im sick of her act shes pulling agaisnt her ONLY DAUGHTER. Sometimes i do NOTHING and she says, oh god i wish i had another son. I havent told anyone about this, but all my friends know how she is, and i have always hated her. I see all my close friends spending time with thier moms and having close relationships. I run to my friends house to get away sometimes or just sit outside. Even this past mother's day i bought her a card & flowers, she threw the flowers away. What should i do?
Sincerely, Tired Of This. 13/F
-Dear Tired of This-
In my opinion, you should talk to your dad about it. I'm not saying it's a good thing that they may split up. But you should talk to him and just tell him that you feel disrespected by your mom. Or you can do what I do when my mom and I aren't getting along too well. Sit down with her, just you and her, and talk to her about your problem. I got great advice from my uncle one day when I was mad at my mom. He said "When you are mad at someone, sit them down and talk to them about it. That way they know what they know what they are doing makes you mad or upset, that way they know not to do it anymore." I have lived by his advice since he said that to me.
I hope this helped!
X_Amanda_X
my mom and dad jsut spilt up and my bro lives wit my dad and i live wit my mom iu didnt realy get a chance to pick who i want to go with and i want to go with my dad but then my mom wil be alone and the readon i want to go to live with my dad is caus emy mom has a b/f and we go out and they alwayz kissin and hguing and caling each other baby its so anoying and i dont like going out wit them but its ether that or my granma house and omg its so boring there and nuting to do so i want to move in wit my dad but i feel bad for my mom watshould i do?
You just have to be honest with your mom. Tell her that you don't like it when you see her and her boyfriend acting affectionate towards each other. Also that you want to live with your dad instead. Of course she will be upset but hopefully she will understand where you are coming from. Good luck!
I hope this helped!
X_Amanda_X
ok my sister is 7 years old and she always bugs the crap out of me !! i'll try to do something by myself and she always has to do it with me. I hate it and my mom doesnt get it. she always gets her way. im 13 and i need my own space. my mom and sister dont get it. what should i do?¿
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Wow. You are in almost the same exact position I am in! I'm 13 too and my little sister is 6. It would help if you gave me examples of activities that she bugs you with. Since the activities you wanna do are by yourself, go into your room and close the door. And if it has a lock, just lock it. If you get in trouble for it, talk to your mom about it.
I hope this helped =D
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ok well my parents have been divoced for 2 years and i live with my dad and see my mom on the weekends. well my dad wants to move out of the city,far away from all of my friends and family, and i have never moved before.i dont want to go to a new high school and i dont want to move away from my family and friends so my mom offered for me to come live with her, but if i do my dad will keep my sister and we will be split up and i will never see her. and if i go with my dad i will never see my mom and i will be stuck with my stupid step mom who is a bitch, who should i go with?
Wow. This is one sticky situation. Maybe negotiate options,that way you won't get separated from your friends or your sister? Or try talking to your dad about moving. Just tell him that you don't feel comfortable moving and you don't want to be separated from all your family and friends. If that doesn't work, think through who you would rather live with. If you end up with your mom, maybe you can call your sister everyday to see how everything is for her. If you end up with your dad, talk to him about how you feel about your step-mom. It may upset him but then he will understand your true feelings for your step-mom.
I hope this helped!
X_Amanda_X