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I am in my fifties and have been married for 25 years. My husband's family, who all live within 20 miles of us, are very close, except for the relationship between our family and the others. We are frequently excluded, especially by the one brother's wife from get-togethers, celebrations, etc. The other three sisters-in-law go shopping, take short trips together, etc.; in 25 years I've been asked one time. Our children are also basically ignored, but not as badly. My husband does get asked for the guy things, but I am totally left out of the group my mother-in-law calls "the girls." About 15 years ago my husband and I separated for a short time and I was estanged from the family for about a year after that, since it was the separation was at my prompting.
But that was a long time ago and the problems really existed prior to that. I'm at the point now of feeling really, really tired of feeling hurt by it and want to just see my husband's parents occasionally by ourselves, and forget the rest of the family. Is this out of line or should I just keep swallowing my pride and acting like all of this doesn't hurt. One sister-in-law that I'm closer to than the others asked the other two one time if they'd call me for one shopping trip and got as far as, "Well, we'll see if we ever ask her." (link)
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Well, ok. That would be something that anybody would be hurt about. My family goes through pretty much the same thing. My moms side of the family is very open and welcoming and involves as many people as they can. On the other hand, my stepfathers side of the family is just like your hubands, in a way. The adults dont like my mother or me very much, but with the exception of a few. Then there are the kids, they barely, if at all, include my two little brothers. They are 4 almost 5, and 6 almost 7. It doesnt seem fair or anything, but we dont worry about it. There are the ones in that family who care about us and those are the only that we worry about. But my stepfathers parents have passed away, but when they were alive, we tried visist them as much as we could, and they lived with us for awhile. But we did prfer to be alone with a lot of the time and my grandmother had alsimers. But what I would do is just try and sit down and talk to the family and talk about how you feel. If they still dont listen, youll still have your family, like me. If you want to spend time with the parent-in-laws alone, there is no problem with that. Everyone wants to be alone with their parents/in-laws at some point or another. Thats what my parents did too. But my grandfather on my moms side of the family has passed on, so my stepfather doesnt get to spend anymore time with him, but thats OK. But see how that works and get back to me and tell me how everything goes if you can.
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On St. Patrick's Day it is my birthday. My family was planning to go to New York (I live in the Tri-state area so it's pretty close) to see the St. Patrick's Day parade (my brother is marching in it). The only problem is in my science class we will be disecting a heart. Even though it's kinda gross I really wanted to be there for it. So now I have to chose to either go to a parade tomorrow or on my birthday. What should I do? I honestly have no idea. (link)
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Well, what time does your science class start and what time does the parade start?
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i want to go to this party but i'm not sure if my dad will let me. How do i ask if i can go? answer ASAP 2 hrs til the party! will make people favorite columist And give fives!!! (link)
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Well, dont lie to him, but if he does ask, tell him that the last time that you knew, it was being chaperoned and you havent heard anything different. If he trys to tell you that they forgot to tell you or something, tell him that wouldnt forget because your best friend is going and she would let you know if they did have changes and they called her but forgot to call you. Just tell him something that you know is the truth and that he should allow you to go. If he doesnt then just beg, like I do, and see how that goes. That also works for me to and Im 17 years old. My mom just wants me to be able to do what I want to do because she didnt get to do all that much when she was growing up. So you can also that line on him if nothing else works. Get back to me and tell me how evrything goes if you can.
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