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Q: I'm 16 and a mother of a little baby. I think he may be teething. What do you think is the best way to relieve the pain? Besides like teething rings.

well try putting the teething ring n the freezer for a while and let he gum on it! or you can get a cold wash cloth or use baby oragel! basically just use anything cold like a pop sickle the cold things really helps the pain alot with babies!
Good Luck
Neka

Q: I am 17 years old i have a 2 month old daughter but i am married and have been for a year to the babys father. Well i have just come across a very serious problem. My husband i have been sleeping together but we used protection but i think i might be pregnant again is that possible. I am very scared. I know if i am everyone is going to say i am a slut and im so worried but wwe both have jobs and stuff but i am scared of what a=our families wil say what do i do.

well the best thing to do is take a pregnancy test and dont worry about what other think! i mena how can u be a slut if your sleeping with the same man i mean what do they think you guys are going to do just look at each other? but if you think your pregnant and your cycle just so happens to come on wait til its off and still go get the test because my mom had her cycle til she was 5 months wit me and my sister had her til she was 4 so you never kno!
good luck!
~neka~

Q: do you kno the song concrete angel? ya well that is me! i am sick of getting thrown around please help me!! i need all the help i can possibly get. am i going to die? i hope not! please this is all that i ask you just give me advice i need it so badly!!i mean i have gotting stiches 7 times cause of my mom and dad! please help!

wow you really need to go tell somebody like the cops or something because thats not right at all! What do they say when u go to the hospital to get stiches? If they ask you what happened dont be afraid just tell them because your parents need serious help! call someone secretly and get help!

Q: i feel that im being abused by words.. is that possibal?

and im 13/f and would i be able to call a abuse line? and get my mom taken away from me?

Its possible to be abused by word! i think they call it verbal abuse when someone doesnt hit you but the hurt you with what they say! I dont think the abuse line would work or getting her taken away from you neither! the most they may do is put you guys in theropy or something but i dont think they would do anything to her!

Q: When I first found out I was pregnant, My boyfriend and I automatically started coming up with girl names. As I got further along, everyone just knew that I was having a baby girl. My boyfriend wanted a boy over a girl because he says that they have more attitudes, but he kept saying girl names. Well, when I went for my ultrasound at the end of my 19th week, the lady that did it seemed crazy. First, when she pulled out the leg part on the table that I was suppose to lay on, she pulled it all the way out and it fell. She started laughing like she was nuts. Anyway, she asked us if we wanted to know the gender and we said yea, then she said it was a boy real fast, and that was that. The thing that made me feel like their could be a big chance that she could had made a mistake is that she found out the sex a little too fast but she acted like she couldn't find my baby's head!!!!! Her excuse was that the baby was moving alot. It took her about 10 to 15 minutes just to get a wierd angle picture of it and give it to us. When I showed my doctor my ultrasound picture, she said "why did she even give you this?" So basically, she really had me confused. So do you think I should believe her completly about my baby's gender when she couldn't even find the head?!!!!!

wow thats crazy! i think you should go get another one by another doctor and make sure the doctor is sain!

Q: I have a bf and we've been going out for 3 months, but i've kept this hidden from my parents the entire time, i'm 13 mind u, and my mom wont let me have a bf she says its already enough that i've had my first kiss and she found me downstairs cuddling with a guy, with my head on his lap sleeping, i really dont see why i cant have a bf i think she's over reacting bc i know kids my age do way more than kiss or cuddle is she over reacting???? i'll rate high for any suggestions, or anyway to see my boyfriend w/o getting caught thanks

In a way she may be over reacting but then again she's not! i mean i think the reason she's like that is because their are so many young young girl out here gettin pregnant because they went behind their parents back you know! Yea its ok to sneak because i still sneak to this day and im 15 but just know what you should do with a guy what you shouldnt! he may be a great guy but take it from me all boys have something in common with another so dont let him trick you or lie to you then you'll be ok with the dating thing!

Q: I am currently 8 months pregnant and the last 2 months i have been addicted to sniffing Tipp Ex and marker Pens, could this have caused any harm to my unborn baby?

well t could be but since you said this startd like 2 months ago and not when u was first pregnant i say you just stop doing it for the babies sake and the baby should be ok

Q: Ok i am 15/f and i just found out i am pregnant a few days ago, and my boyfriend (the baby's father) knows. now we have talked about me possibly getting pregnant before and we were fine with it....but now i am and we are keeping the baby because we both want to. but we havent told our parents yet....but we are this weekend. but the thing is we already know hes mom is going to be abssolutely furious, and we were wondering about if he would ever be able to see the baby. because my parent will be fine with it, like they will support me and all, but his mom we dont know, so does anyone know if there is a law that says if he wants to that he has to see the baby? and this is in michigan, and i have not been able to find anything after long hours of researching on the internet...now please if you answer this dont tell me how much of a bad person i am and that i am only 15..i will have enough of that just please answer my question...

as far as i know it the parents of the baby choose who see's the baby only way she can stop him is if they move or something but she cant stop what you guy choose to do!

Q: My brother is 2 years and he has the flu! I am giving him medicine with my mom from a dripper like thing and he spits it out. How can I get him to drink it...
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well me and my mom had the same problem with my sister but we mixed a cretain amount n with her juice and she never knew the difference but my brother just like acting like it was some type of train or something so try to play with him to get him to drink it or just mix it in!

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Im a 15 year old high school student that loves to be around and help people! Im a outgoing, free spirited, funny, always smiling and very fun to be around person(so i was told). I really enjoy making other people feel good and lifting their spirits! I love to talk on the phone and hang out with my friends! Im a very well rounded person i like all different things and people and they seem to like me back! I do have problem of my own just like a normal person but i can always help others with their problems with no trouble most of the time so dont be shock if you see i have my own questions on here and dont be afraid to give me your honest opinion! Im not a very mean person but i do have a attitude problem but trust me people its under control!!!