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Q: Ok I want my son 2 have a uniqe name that starts with a " M " but that not very known one of a kind I want it cool, uniqe, cute, and maybe even emo a little plz I need help by the way it has 2 a boy name
im going to say im sorry i dont really know any m nams off the top of my head but i know i named my son Tanton (tayton) i made that one up... take something how your feeling or something kinda cute and change it into a name play around with words. Youd be surprised what you get. If that doesnt work look onto www.babynames.com sorry i wasnt much help but i hope iv helped a little bit good luck.

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PS. Id love to hear what you named him write back

Q: If I was 15 and pregnant and my boyfriends was 18 does my mom have say in abortion and adoption?
Actually this might sound weird but yes she does, because by law yoou are not old enough to give concent to ingage in sexual intercourse. Also if you are 15 and he is 18 that is concidered child molestation and your mom can slap the nastiest word on him if she wants. If she wanted to she could call the police and tell them that her daughter waqs raped because by law thats what it was. Rape in the third degree. I know that is bad b but thats what the law is, so i would be very careful i know youd like to hear something totally different but its how it is.
Hope iv helped a little and id love to hear how it all works out so write me back.

Short N Punky

Q: I split with my sons father over 4 yrs ago and he still sees him every saturday and stays the night. When he comes home he is argumentative, stressed, tearful and keeps having little 'accidents' in his pants, never a big pooh, he just pushes a little bit out and then tells me he couldnt get to the loo in time, even tho his room is next to the bathroom. Why do you think he's doing it, is it for attention??? and if so, how do i deal with it???
There could be several reasons why your son is doing this. One could be that he wants attention from you. Another could be that hes mad at you for splitting with his dad and wants you to both back together. Or it also could be that at his fathers house he can act a certain way and his father wont care. But when he gets back to your house he knows he cant act the same way but wants to so he rebels against you. My kids never did this but my cousins rebel alot and kids are very weird when they rebel against something they could do anything from going to the bathroom in there pants to becoming a pyro. It all comes down to something is bothering them and its your job as a parent to figure out what that something is. My advice is to sit him down like after dinner or something by yourself just you and him and ask him what is wrong. If hes mad at you just talk to him and be calm with it he will talk if you are willing to listen. Good luck write me back to tell me how it turned out id love to know.

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Q: when do babies usually start teething? and what do you do to soothe the pain?

thanks
They ussually start teething like around 8 months or so. But to sooth the pain you can rub different things on there gums or get them crackers or teething rings but not always do the rings work. My son when he was going through teething i felt so bad for him because he was always crying but i got animal crackers and he would chew on them and it stopped the pain. I hope iv helped a little good luck and write back id like to know how it turns out. Ps. Something hard to chew on is always the best bet.

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Q: My mommy told me that she used cocoa butter (palmers) wen having me and my bro and that it didn't leave any visible stretch marks and yeah she doesn't have any 4 real.
So I'm FAAT...harsh but tru. So I have these stretch marks on my breast and my stomach. I'm losing the weight...SLOWLY. So I bought the cocoa butter and I used it jus now so I was wondering..do they fade the marks or make them disappear? And how long will it take?
Stretch marks will always fade never disspaear becaus ewhat they are is scars. Once ya get them they wont go away even if they look like there gone there not. But yes cocoa butter works very well but it does fade them and you can hardly tell they are there. And you have to use it ussually every day for a long time for them to fade. Hope iv helped good luck.

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Q: people I need help. Im not a parent but I'm writing a project and I need to make it funny, so what are some weird ways of punishing your children when they've done something really bad, like smoke pot, or something?? And it has to be strict.

Got any ideas?
Thank you.
My kids are still little yet but i tell you what if i caught my kids smoking or playing with fire or something id scare them to death so they wouldnt ever touch it again. Plus my son ussually gets into lots of trouble i just put him in a box and tell him im shipping him to china lol that ussually straightens him out and he stops what ever it was hes doing. lol talk to you later hope iv helped

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Q: how to help teen daughter not to raise her voice to unacceptable levels when we talk.
When you say something that teens dont like they will get very agressive and dont want to hear it so they will try to not listen and if you keep talking they will raise there voice so you can understand they dont want to hear it. But if you stay calm and tell them in a soft voice why are you yelling im not yelling they will calm down because they see how in the wrong they are for yelling. My son is 4 and he yells at me alot because "he has to do something" and i just tell him bri dont yell and he calms down. But he is just 4 so he doesnt really no any better. My advice is just stay calm no matter what even if its hurting you you must stay calm and liste nto what your teen has to say. Sometimes they do have a point to what they are saying think back to when you were a teenager and put yourself in there shoes when your mother or father told you something you didnt want to hear.
Hope i helped some let me know how it turns out.
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Q: I am only 15 and I already have a kid and pretty much my life is ruined.I hate bein a mom at 15 it really sucks.The father of my child is wonderful though.He helps and supports my child as much as he can although both of our lives are pretty much over.I can't stand gettin up every 2 hours to feed her.I really regret getting in bed with the father.It was the stupidest thing ive ever done.I now hate my life.I have a beautiful baby but a messed up life.I ruined my life to fast.I should have waited till I was older and well now I just don't know what to do.I love my baby very much but im just not so sure that i can handle raising a child along with going to school and working to pay for the expences of my child....Plz someone help me.I really need to know what to do.I don't wanna give it to an adoption center but that might be my only choice.I really need some advice so someone plz help.

Desperate for my life back and confused!!
Well if you dont want to take care of it no more because its to hard giving it to an adoption centre is the only thing you can do. Yes it is hard but if you really love her then there is places you can go to school where you bring your child into the school while your learning. Also just giving up that isnt the way to go though. I have two kids and there both 1 year old and im 17. So i know how your feeling but giving up isnt the answer im not really sure what you should do but i kept both of mine and just let my mom take care of them while i went to work. And brought both mine to school with me and while they slept i slept. But just because you love her doesnt mean that you have to spend every minute with her if you feel like you need to get away. Have a friend or mom or something baby sit her for a while so you can sleep or while you sleep have your boyfriend take care of her then when he sleeps you take care of her. Take sh ifts well thats what i got to say. Hope iv helped Dont be afraid to write back.
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Q: WELL I have sex quite often without protection to my fiance and i think i may be pregnant.....or had a miscarrige!
i have been getting really bad cramps in the morning and diarrea as well....my period is not expected till the 7th of the month(sept) and i got it in august so it would have had to been this month it happened! i went to the bathroom yesterday and i started bleeding i thought it was my period so i acted like it was however i only BLED a little and then it stopped . its only the 23 so thats like 2 weeks early!
could i be pregnant or could the cramps be a misscarrige??
PLEASE HELP THANKS!
Umm the only thing i could tell you is to go to the hospital to get that checked out im not sure if it would be or not. But just to be safe go to the hospital just to make sure you are or arnt pregnant. I hope you didnt have a miscarriage because that is sad. Well im sorry i wasnt the most help but i tried and thats what counts right? lol ok well talk ya later hope iv helped and dont be afraid to write back.
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Q: how old are you?
Im 17 years old

Q: my sister is having a baby and she really loves symbolic and unique names so i was wondering if i could get some suggestions... thnx :-D
Heaven Alyssia Maree, Alyssia Alexandria, Brian Micheal Gohan, Robert Joseph, um i really dont know what names your looking for but nay more questions write me. Hope iv helped.
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Q: hi. i've been with my b/f for about 5 mo. and i'm 14 and he's 16. i REALLY want to have a baby! i don't know why i just ReAlLy do! but also my cuz whos 20 's g/f just had a baby and she was 17(now 18) and they really struggle with financial problems. then his bro was dating a woman last year and just 2 weeks ago found out he was a dad. i really want to have a baby! what should i do?
Wait till your older! if you have a baby now ull ruin your whole life. Trust me i know this stuff just if you havnt beleived anyone beleive me please. I am 16 years old and i have a 2 your old son and daughter there twins. And i ruined my life royally by not listening to my friends and family. My kids wake me up at night crying so the next morning im whiped out for s chool. I had to move in with my boyfriend which he is now my fiance because my parents kicked me out. And just trust me i cant go out and party with my friends now because i have two kids to take care of. And its just harder to have kids at a young age then when your older trust me on this one. I lost my job i have no money and were depending on my fiance for money plz dont be like me! wait till your older.
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Hey, my name is Kelley, a little bit about my life: Im 24 i have a 4 year old daughter, when i was younger i got into alot of trouble because i felt unwanted and picked on alot in school. As i grew up i got into several bad abusive relationships. Now that i have gotten out of my old life im crawling up from the ashes and making a new life. Im a great listener and i love giving advice, if youd like to give me a shot id try my hardest to give the best advice i can give. The reason some people dont like me is because i tell it how it is i dont sugar code anything and im very opinionated. Id love to listen to your problems and help out that best i can.

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