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stress related incontinence
I split with my sons father over 4 yrs ago and he still sees him every saturday and stays the night. When he comes home he is argumentative, stressed, tearful and keeps having little 'accidents' in his pants, never a big pooh, he just pushes a little bit out and then tells me he couldnt get to the loo in time, even tho his room is next to the bathroom. Why do you think he's doing it, is it for attention??? and if so, how do i deal with it???
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my parents are divorced and i acted the same exact way when the ysplit.its normal.just wait a while and he will probably stop.
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You haven't mentioned your son's age but I imagine that he is taking the split quite badly. Obviously, I don't know if he was old enough to really realise that it was happening at the time but I suspect he's probably doing it as a sort of attention-seeking method.
My guess is that it's really confusing to have his Father in the house and staying over one night a week, even though Mummy and Daddy are separated and this is his way of dealing with it.
You might want to try not having the Father over for a few weeks and see if it calms down. Maybe see if he can have him over where he lives that night or take him out during an extra day rather than sleep over. If your son is of a talking age, you could try asking him why he does it (but distract him at the same time with a colouring book or similar activity as kids tend to be more open when distracted).
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There could be several reasons why your son is doing this. One could be that he wants attention from you. Another could be that hes mad at you for splitting with his dad and wants you to both back together. Or it also could be that at his fathers house he can act a certain way and his father wont care. But when he gets back to your house he knows he cant act the same way but wants to so he rebels against you. My kids never did this but my cousins rebel alot and kids are very weird when they rebel against something they could do anything from going to the bathroom in there pants to becoming a pyro. It all comes down to something is bothering them and its your job as a parent to figure out what that something is. My advice is to sit him down like after dinner or something by yourself just you and him and ask him what is wrong. If hes mad at you just talk to him and be calm with it he will talk if you are willing to listen. Good luck write me back to tell me how it turned out id love to know.
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I kind of had the same problem that you have. My kids go to there father's too. When they get home the are very argumentive to me too. The reason for this is that he hates to have his parents apart and he wants you to get back with him. So if he does something he probaby thinks your going to call him and ask him what is wrong with him and to see if he does it at his house too. But tell your son that isn't not good to go in his pants.plus tell him that you'll always love him but you and your father can't be together but he'll always love him. Work real hard with him and spend alot of time with him. He might think it's his fauth that your not together with his father. Hope I helped. Good luck.
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