heyehy i'm ashlee
most people call me ashlee but i personally like ash. i'm 14 and i live in connecticut, i have the most amazing friends ever. i'm not perfect one bit, i have many things about me people don't know, i have anxiety&&depression i was diagnosed with my anxiety when i was about 7 but i had it since 5. my depression was last year and it was so scary, i love to help people with any type of problem they may have. back in 1st grade my best friend and i actually had a fix fight club, when two people were fighting we would help them sort it out haha
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15/f
I have been having these weird symptoms for a LONG time now, like 5 or 6 months:
dizziness, extreme fatigue, headaches, shaking hands, numbness, and weird stuff like that.
anyways, the doctors thought it might be anxiety but i was quick to disagree because i wasn't feeling anxious.
Well lately i have been like obsessing over small stuff and my heart has been having irregular beats.
I was reading the symptoms of anxiety online and i'm pretty sure that could describe the reason for all of my symptoms.
I'm scared to tell my mom though. I don't know how to bring it up and i'm nervous about letting her down or something.
help! (link)
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i have had anxiety since i was 4 or 5. mine was so bad that when it was time for bed, i would scream to my mom "your not going downstairs right?" and she would have to stay upstairs!!! i would throw a fight every day on the like minute drive to school and i wouldnt go to birthday parties or sleepovers. i out grew everything except the sleepovers. that im just getting over now. but im on medicine now and it helps but i have the same symptyoms once in a while...anxiety is all in your head, when those symptyoms come on, you can get yourself out of it. you just need to distract yourself, when you get the symptoms try listening to music or deep breathing anything to get your mind off the weird stuff happening. as for telling your mom, there is absoutly nothing to be scared about. its not life threatning. to bring it up be on the computer, pull up the website you had found and be like heyy mom come here and let her read the screen and be like, thats most of the symptoms! she may want you to try counsiling, its not bad at all! i enjoyed it when i went, i mean its an hour talking about you pretty much talking about anything you wwant. dont just say no off the bat, try it a few times dont tell your friends if your embarassed, i told mine and now i joke about it. i just say oh im leaving early today, im going to see my shrink, and just laugh about it haha. but if you dont go to councling, be careful about depression, anxirty and depression run hand in hand and 2 winters ago i had a bit of depression and we never found out why. i felt weird like i didnt want to do anything, i was just mopin around and the last straw was then there was like a little person in my head making me think about killing myself, like not go do it now or stuff like that, it just made me think about it..... it was so weirdddd. well i knew that wasnt the normal me and i got scared so i told my mom and i went to the shrink again (at the time, i had stopped taking my medicine for aboout a year because i felt i didnt need it) but my point is, be aware of depression and if anything like that happens to you, just find the courage to tell someone like i did..it was one of the hardest things i had to do but i did and was better in a few weeks.
if you need any information or someone to talk to, feel free to email me at xoashhx33@hotmail.com
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i lost my confidence the summer before 7th grade. right now this is the summer before i go into 11th grade. i really want my confidence back. i lost it when a couple of people called me ugly and i really let it get to me because i agreed with it. but before that summer before 7th grade, i had tons of friends and alot of guys liked me. the thing i miss the most is me, the old me when i acted myself in public. now i have to step out of my shell after hiding for so long. im really scared, please help. (link)
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okay im gaining mine now, and im going into 10th.
i went through my "fat stage" kinda late and it was in 6th grade, great huh? so i got a few inches taller and im okay. but now im only 4'11" im really short so i kinda have this fiesty sense about me. i dont let anything bother me, but in truth, what people say really does bother me but i dont show it to them i act like it doesnt bother me. i dont get mad or cry i laugh it off. then if what they said did really bother me, i talk to my best friend. she will always help me shake it off. you need to surround yourself with people who will always help you and listen. if you dont then try finding people, or even just one person you can go to (i know its hard in high school) but you need them to vent to. eventually, with your friends saying something as simple as "you look cute today" or "i like how you did your hair yesterday" it will bring your confidence up sooo much. and it will all come together. just dont let people know it bothers you (act like you have confidence, head high and good posture, makeup and hair looking good, jelwery) all of that shows you care about how you look and will make people see you differently if you dont already do that
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have always been a person who suffers from depression and anxiety i have tried many counsleors , psychologists and nothing seems to help , does anyone know of any natural remedies that might help me? thank you so much (link)
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i suffer from the same problem
i dont know what triggers your anxiety but
i know for me its always been sleepovers, still to this day. when i was little it was movie theaters and buses idk why! but i got over those two. i try breathing. it really works, close your eyes and take deep breaths and count in your head. you can try soothing music, keep a few sounds of the rain or ocean on your ipod. you just need somethiing to keep your mind off whatever is triggering you. ANYTHING to distract you. as for depression, i only suffered for a few months so before i was on my medicine, i would do the same thing as for my anxiety.
if you need anything
my email-xoashhx33@hotmail.com
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I am seeing a therapist soon, so I know I can ask there... but I was just wondering...
If someone feels depressed for a few weeks, then all the sudden back to happy (seemingly out of nowhere?) is that a symptom of depression? (link)
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yess totally. for me it did at least. im sure its different for everyone.
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Ok...I think I am depressed...and if I am...what is the way to go about it? I don't know how to tell people, my mom will make me go to therapy, and take medicine...and I don't want to! She has severe depression...because of an inbalance in her brain of seritonin (sp)....I just don't know how to tell my mom...or my friends...or a social worker I have befriended, and I trust her very muchh...and I don't want to tell her because if I do, then she will call my parents...and I want to tell them...so any suggestions?
All advice is welcomed (link)
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okay well i have anxiety which goes hand in hand with depression. last winter i was depressed. i had thoughts of killing myself but like i didnt want to i just was thinking about it. it was weird, i knew it wasnt like me to think like that and finally i snapped and i had to tell someone. i told my mom (i dont tell her much of my personal life, just basic stuff so it was hard to tell her) then the next day she called my doctor and we went in and he gave me a perscription for my anxiety pills (i had stopped taking them) and i went to a phychtheripist. i know i was like i dont wanna be there this is stupid... i went every week for about a month then when she saw i was getting better she lowered it to like twice a month then once a month and now i dont go anymore. i really didnt like going but i missed school which wwas good and i made a joke about it with my friends, i called her "the shrink" and when id come back to school my friend and i would make fun of her, one time i actually recorded a few minutes of our session and we laughed about that. so you need to tell your mom or the social worker, she may tell your mom but that might be easier than you having to tell her yourself. depression is not fun at all and can affect you physically. you probably will not need medication unless it gets bad, i wouldnt tell to many of your friends. just when you go to the shrink laugh about it its mean but its fun and makes you feel better about going. if you need anything else
email me -xoashhx33@hotmail.coom
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17/f. I have had an awful year. And I thought the worst was over at the end of the year. (I don't feel like explaining it; it doesn't really have anything to do with this...well sort of but I don't have to explain.) Anyway...I cut myself. And I haven't for say about a week, but I really have been wanting to lately. It drives me crazy; I sit there and my entire mind is focused on that. It drives me crazy when I force myself not to cut. Just like right now. I really want to and it is really hard to just not give in. And I know I should probably talk to someone, but I have a really hard time opening up to people, especially those I don't know. However, there is this teacher that I have talked to before. So, if I told him, then maybe it would be easier to talk to a counselor, or he could help me or convince me to talk to someone or something. I know I can't do it on my own. I don't know what to do anymore. What should I do? And if I do end up talking to a counselor, they don't have to tell my parents, do they? It'll stay confidential? (link)
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okay well at least you know you need to talk to someone, most people dont and then the while suicide thing. which is sooooooo not good. let me just tell you about my story, in a way similar to you. i have anxiety, ive had it since i was 5 and when i was 8 i was put on lexapro. i stopped taking it around age 11 and started middle school fine and i was suprised. then 8th grade, last year my anxiet came back. but this time with what ended up being depression! so every weekend my family would go to vermont friday night and come home late saturday and with my anxiety my mind wanders like crazy and its kinda scary what i was coming up with (like suicide and stuff like that) and one morning in the hotel i was up before my family and my mind wanders off and it scared me and finally i woke my mom up and told her she kinda freaked out but said she was gonna call the doctor the next day. well she did and i went to a psycositheripist. she decided that i was depressed and i went to her a few times and got put on some medicine and im fine now!!!! my point being that you need to tell someone, anyone before it gets any worse because it probably will. tell your mom, tell your teacher (if you decide not to tell your parents for a certin reason, then you shouldnt talk to the counselor because they may call your rents because it involves you possibly needing help. but honestly, tell your teacher but leave your parents open to help. dont be afraid to go to a shrink or anything, (i didnt want to go but i had fun,i recorded our conversations on my phone in my pocket and my friend and i laughed listening to them. then the shrink was REALLY weird so my friends and i would laugh and make fun of her )
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I'm a 15/f and I hate talking on the phone. I get really stressed out when I have to arrange a tutoring date with my tutor (who's an old man) I just CANNOT talk on the phone with ANYONE. I like it better on the computer where I can't see their face nor hear their voice. I get stressed out in social situations such as sleepovers, parties (especially PARTIES...I start to FREAK out) I just dislike them. I get extremely scared. I don't know WHY though. And whenever I have to talk to a teacher about my grade, I'd just rather not and I'd rather just fail a test or something. I CANNOT get over this. I always have a feeling that I'm being watched and that people are making fun of me.
What can I do?? D: GAH!! (link)
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well i cant say i totally relate but in a way i can. i have had anxiety since i was 5 and my neighbor who was my principal at the time said that my mom should take me to the doctor because i would cry every morning going to school which was about 30 seconds away from my house! i didnt want to leave my mom at all! i would actually throw up on the way there. so i went to the doctor(just my regular one) and ge said that i should see a psycologist(or whatever does not give medicine) i just went there and talked to her and we played board games. my problem at the time was going to the movies(no idea why) sleepovers,school,parties, going on the school bus. so one day i was going on a field trip and my mom was going to come chaperone it about an hour after we left (she had to get my bro and sis to pre school) and she never showed up! my teacher called me out of the bui;ding we were in and told me she wasnt coming and my mom said my sister was sick! well i get home and come to find out, my shrink said she shouldnt go and let me get through it! well it worked, i got over all of that except for sleepovers which i am on and off of now still to this day!! but eventually i got put on medicine, lexapro and it has worked very well, i had to try a few new meds before i found one that worked. (i am telling you my story so you know you are not alone and dont feel weird to go to the pychologist! they work so well) i think you should talk to your mom and tell her that you want to go to the psycologist, you can talk to them and maybe you guys can find out why you dont like the phone or parties or anything like that (my reason was because i had been sick in the movies, the bus, a party) now i am fine, so you should really get some help because you cant live your life like this.
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Hi I would be greatful if anyone can help with any ideas on how to deal with nerves and shyness. I currently have alot of things in my life where i need to keep control of my nerves.
I am soon taking my driving test, A levels and a new job as a waitress but I am finding my nerves are getting in the way, I start shaking, going bright red and I carnt speak properly. A few times I have failed a few exams because my nerves got the better of me.
I would be greatful for any help. Thank you. (link)
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okay well i have delt with diagnosed anxiety since i was 5 and i can relate to how you feel. its taken me until now to figure out what i needed to do. everyone has something to calm their nerves but they just need to find out what it is, my friend downloaded music and bought a cd of soothing sounds like rain and birds etc... and she listens to that. for me, i need to think of something else, for example, if i am thinking about a big test or something and i hear myself saying oh your gonna fail and do really bad and you will fail the term blah blah blah, i need to like repeat what is being said around me, if im in school and the teachger is talking, i will say whatever she is sayign in my head, i find it helpful for myself. if none of that works try going to a psycologist, i had to go and now im on medicine and it helps a lot.
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(I know this is long, but it's a problem i've dealt with for such a long time and i'm just looking for relief)
For about half my life, about seven years, I've had severe anxiety. Panic attacks, feeling short of breath, paranoia, just feeling very anxious in general and feeling like someone with metal gloves is holding onto my lungs.
I've been on and off zoloft, taken Xanex in emergency situations where I felt like I needed to be taken to the hospital, i've had therapy and go to an alternative school and everything along those lines, but I can't seem to feel better; my anxiety just won't go away.
Now, my Mom's always been pretty 'spiritual' I guess you could say, and she believes in souls, heaven, angels, things like that. Well, i'm a twin, but my mom was supposed to have triplets. She ended up getting a reduction for whatever reason that i've never really been told.
But anyway, my mom always thought that I could tell that the baby was killed, and that I was aware of it, and somehow it's affected me. My Dad's never really been a big believer of that kind of stuff, and he's always just thought I was working myself up too much. Which i'd frankly much rather believe.
But last night when I made the analogy to my Dad of someone grabbing my lungs, he said he thought he knew what was wrong with me.
So today he comes up to me, with my Mom's mindset, and says that he thinks that when the baby was killed, somehow it's soul went into mine, and now it's trying to get out. So he want to take me to some specialist.
I'm not sure what to believe, because i've always thought this stuff was crap. So what i'm asking is:
1) Do you think that could really happen?
2) What else might be done to cure my anxiety?
and 3) Just, what should I do?
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well i have had anxiety sinci i was 5 not as bad as yours but im on lexapro and it works, i was on zoloft but it didnt work. my cousin had a twin that died at birth and my cousin often is depressed and all that kind of stuff. i think it could happen, what your parents say but it could also be that because you were with the twin for 9 monthsyou guys shared a special bond and now that shes not here a part of you is lost without her without you knowing it. try lexapro its pretty good and go to where your parents want you to go, it cant really hurt
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13/f. I think I am depressed and its not helping that everything is overwhelming me and stressing me out. Also I'm going to say before hand that I know most the things on here don't sound like a big deal but keep this in mind; I'm a person who gets stressed out at the most littlest things. So please, please understand that I'm having trouble here.
1. I am super stressed. nervous, and scared about going to high school for the first year. Most my friends are excited but I'm not. I'm rather shy, so its hard to make friends. And I've been working my butt since 7th grade, to get the social life I have now in 8th grade, which is practically no where. I have friends, but only 2 of them we actually make plans with each other and stuff. I am scared that I will not be able to make friends in school next year. I am terrified to the point where I will just start randomly crying from thinking about it.
2. We have to do this thing for our foreign language classes as part of the end of the year exam, where you leave the middle of class to go to your language teacher and you have to have I believe 4 conversations in the language you take with them. Well, you were also supposed to go to a few practice sessions which counted as a grade. I didn't go to any because I just kept putting it off and before I knew it I couldn't. I am pretty good at the forein language class. I went down and she asked why I didn't go to any and I told her the same thing I told you, that I was putting it off. And I apologized and stuff. Lucky for me she was SUPER nice about it. She did not get mad or anything. She just told me to go to a practice session Friday (today) and stay after another day to do the talking thing with her. I wanted to just get the talking thing over with, and I understand 100% that I put myself in this situation and that it's my fault I didn't go to practice things. Well, I was soo stressed about the practice session that I begged my mom not to make me go to school today. She let me stay home.
3. We got back interms and I'm failing a ton of classes. My grandma passed away in late April and I missed a few days of school to go out of state for her funeral and I was so stressed about the work I missed that I failed a test I missed (that I was making up later) and didn't get some assignments she never gave me but I didn't ever know about them. I'm failing 2 classes, not doing so well in 2 other classes, and doing good in the last 2 classes. My mom is not mad at me but she wants me to work harder to raise them up but I'm very stressed out. I do not want to go to summer school which is manatory if you fail at least 2 classes which I am right now so I NEED to get my grades back up.
4. My dance recitals on Sunday and I've been working, so, so, hard to get the dances down. I've got one down but the other there are a few parts I just can't get no matter how many times I practice it and people are explaining it, I forget it within a minute! I'm working SOO hard in dance but I'm so scared to mess up on stage infront of hundreds of people. Also at the parts I can't get, I look at the people around me but it's hard to keep up with them.
5. I have been lazy lately. Not feeling really up to what I usually like to do. And I know thats a sign of depression. I also know loss of appetite or gaining appetite is. I eat a lot of junk when I get home from school. ALOT. And I'm skinny not fat or anything and I think I'm pretty so I dont have NO self-esteem or anything. But I'm scared I'll get fat but I just can't get myself to put the junk down and eat healthier things. I'd never ever let my self go anorexic or bulimic though.
6. My homework is overwhelming. I put little effort into it too. I know its my fault. I don't care how much you say everything going on here is my fault because I know it is, that I'm the one that got myself here and put myself in this situation. I just can't handle it all. Please help me. What should I do, how do I fix it?!
-Confused (link)
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okay well im super stressed about high school also, i think most people are just some put a brave face on better than others, i don't think oyur depressed i just think your stressed out about everything,you need to take a deep breath and organize everything,sit down with a paper and pen and write what you need to do like you foreign language thing, thats top of your list and each time you finish one cross it off and reward yourself like with something you like. you will become less stressed and you will feel a lot better
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Ok well when you're sad they say you should like tell someone and stuff but when i tell my best friends it seems liek it doens't matter much to them or they don't really feel any sympathy or they're not good at like cheering up.
And I can't jsut write all my feelings on this site and stuff you know, what can i do?
I feel so down and not even my best friends know how I'm feeling. And every part of my house is occupied so i can't even try to phone the kids help line thingy that I've always wondered what it's like.
Is there a site where you write all your feelings and people write stuff for you? I dunno I just feel so weak! I always need my spirit to be up and people to cheer me up. I'm sick of it! (link)
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im me whenever you need to talk honest i hate it when my best friend is like that, im me xoashhx33
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