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very serious anxiety.
I'm a 15/f and I hate talking on the phone. I get really stressed out when I have to arrange a tutoring date with my tutor (who's an old man) I just CANNOT talk on the phone with ANYONE. I like it better on the computer where I can't see their face nor hear their voice. I get stressed out in social situations such as sleepovers, parties (especially PARTIES...I start to FREAK out) I just dislike them. I get extremely scared. I don't know WHY though. And whenever I have to talk to a teacher about my grade, I'd just rather not and I'd rather just fail a test or something. I CANNOT get over this. I always have a feeling that I'm being watched and that people are making fun of me.
What can I do?? D: GAH!!
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i'm the same, 15/f, think i have some of the same issues as you. i hate calling anyone, especially if it's the first time. it's like, i'm afraid of getting a wrong number and tlaking to someone i don't know. and if a wring number calls me, i hang up because i freeze up and can't talk.
this problem has actually lost me money, since i refused to call my former employer about a paycheck i didn't get for the last day of my summer job. that was a few months ago and i never did call.
for me, i try to convince myself that it's not as bad as i'm making it seem. i'm not a shy person, really, but sometimes i freak out like you do. man... i wish i could gove better advice on this, but i guess i'm kinda stuck too. well, if you wanna talk, i'm here, though! no face-to-face required :)
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That is a mental disorder known as Social Anxiety Disorder. I have the same thing & I haven't gone to doctor or anything because i HATE talking to doctors and people that I dont know even though i should because its controlling my life and im sure its controlling urs as well. You should tell ur parents and have them set up an appointment. I'm kind of being hypocritical here, but do as I say not as I do. haha but really there are medications that can be taken to relieve the symptoms and cognitive behavioral therapy to help as well, so there are ways to make it managable if you see a doctor. and if you don't feel comfortable seeing a doctor like me then its best if you just fight past your fears and do things that are out of your comfort zone. that's what im working on right now like ive gone to homecoming which i would have never gone to before and it helps if you have friends who are there and pushing you to do things. Like my friends were like, "we're getting a limo and we're going" and they made me pay so i couldnt back out. All those types of things help as well.
Hope this helped a little bit.
14/f feel free to ask for IM if you need to talk some more about this as theres definately more i can say, but the answer might get too lengthy. lol
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well i cant say i totally relate but in a way i can. i have had anxiety since i was 5 and my neighbor who was my principal at the time said that my mom should take me to the doctor because i would cry every morning going to school which was about 30 seconds away from my house! i didnt want to leave my mom at all! i would actually throw up on the way there. so i went to the doctor(just my regular one) and ge said that i should see a psycologist(or whatever does not give medicine) i just went there and talked to her and we played board games. my problem at the time was going to the movies(no idea why) sleepovers,school,parties, going on the school bus. so one day i was going on a field trip and my mom was going to come chaperone it about an hour after we left (she had to get my bro and sis to pre school) and she never showed up! my teacher called me out of the bui;ding we were in and told me she wasnt coming and my mom said my sister was sick! well i get home and come to find out, my shrink said she shouldnt go and let me get through it! well it worked, i got over all of that except for sleepovers which i am on and off of now still to this day!! but eventually i got put on medicine, lexapro and it has worked very well, i had to try a few new meds before i found one that worked. (i am telling you my story so you know you are not alone and dont feel weird to go to the pychologist! they work so well) i think you should talk to your mom and tell her that you want to go to the psycologist, you can talk to them and maybe you guys can find out why you dont like the phone or parties or anything like that (my reason was because i had been sick in the movies, the bus, a party) now i am fine, so you should really get some help because you cant live your life like this.
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if you have this seriousness of a problem, you should probably go to a psychiatrist, and possibly get an anxiety medicine, they helped wonders for my friend. good luck<3
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