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kay well i've asked questions on here before
*previous* http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=418941
* and this is kinda long but plesae and thank you for your time*
well im only 14 and like i've heard people say b4 there is no way you are depressed! well i am! at school i hide it! i smile i laugh i do whatever not to make myself upset!!* my friends have no idea what i go through and have gone through* most of them think im some happy teen whos life is pretty good** anywayssss
the teacher i talk to about this(call him coach)well i no he cares but you know how when you talk to someone about something and you know that there probably gettin annoyed by it! well thats how i feel sometimes when i talk to him! he says he doesnt and that he wants to help! okay well my main question or w.e well just recently i've been thinkin about suiced..I DONT THINK I EVER WOULD but im always upset when im not around people and i used to cut myself! i wanna tell coach but i dont want him thinking im a freak or a loser or i have some serious MENTEL ISSUES! i promise that i would never go as far as killin myself but i think about it alot! i might cut myself again but i dono sooo should i tell him or should i just keep it to myself or what?? (link)
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you should definitly tell him. keeping your feelings locked up inside will only make you feel worse. You may feel like you are telling him too much, but if he is the only one that you can talk to, then you should tell him how you REALLY feel. You don't want to hurt yourself more than you already have. i hope that you choose to talk to SOMEONE, IF ANYONE, so you can live a happier and safer life!
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I hate the way my body looks and I have for-pretty-much-ever. I've tried so many diets, and working out, but nothing has ever worked. the thing is, I'm really not fat. I'm just chubby. I'm 5'3 and weigh 140.
I've had an eating disorder before, and it wasn't really that bad. I was anorexic when I was younger, I finally got over it, and now I'm buimic. Now just trying to eat makes me throw up.
How bad is bulimia? And how do I get over it?
Love,
Arlo (link)
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Bulimia is very harmful to your insides. You are distroying your stomach and probobly your teeth. Whenever you make yourself purge, you are bringing up acid that is eating away at your teeth and insides, causing your oragans to deteriorate. You also have mood swings that change quicily, and I am not kidding when i say that you could die from this. YOu can get help by talking to a nutritionist, therapist, parent, or friend. keeping all of it inside as a secrect could make it worse. whenever you feel like purging call a friend or parent and talk to them, or get a journal and write down how you feel. YOu need to learn to love yourself for who you are. Ask yourself who are you trying to get skinny for? ARe you happy? Who can you go to to get help? I hope that I helped you see the dangers of an eating disorder and I know that i can't make you do anything. YOu have to choose to live a happier and healthir life. Speak up!
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Lately, I have been concerned that I may be depressed. I've looked into it and I seem to have all the symptoms. I feel embarrassed talking to my parents about my concern. I feel weak and dumb. Can anyone suggest anyone that I can talk to about being depressed besides my parents, teachers or guidance councellor? Thanks. (link)
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tlakj to your friends. holding your "depressive" feelings in may make yourself feel worse. when you have someone to talk to you will always feel better. i hope that you get better soon!
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This question has been bothering me for quite sometime now...
If someone is depressed why wouldn't they want to reach out and get help?
Thanks (link)
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When someone is depressed they don't believe that anyone cares about them and so they won't reach out to those whom they know. Usually they smother their cries out for help by hurting themselves. They feel that they can only feel better by hurting themselves first.
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Ive been having like really low self esteme issues for like the past year or so... ive done so much physical harm to myself but i know its not right.. but i keep doing it cuz its like an addiction.. in the past year my best friend killed herself..(over me to try and get me to stop) and ive been in an abusive relationship.. everything has just put me down.. even the smallest things.. and i dont ever seem to be happy anymore.. i dont know what to do anymore.. sometimes i think that life is just like a dream.. is there any way i could help this?? (please dont say a councelor ive tried many and none have helped)... (link)
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wow. It seems like you have been through a lot of hard times. But, you need to know that you can move on from your difficluties. Try thinking of how you used to be before all of this began. Can you remember when you accepted things as "good"? Try steering towards that again. It may sound like there is no one out there to help, but there is always someone that wants to be your frined and have a good time with you. I alraedy want to be your friend. I like hanging around people, like you, that will express their feelings. Hanging around people and joining activities will get your mind off of your hard times, and you will be able to focus on having a good time. I hope I helped and I hope you get better soon!
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I have just got over hexakosioihexekontahexaphobia which is the phobia of the number 666, but now i have just been diagnosed with Ouranophobia which is the fear of heaven. Do you think this is linked? I dont like talking to my phychiatrist. They know to much and that scares me too. Please, i need a normal opinion instead of a long dialog full of words i dont understand. (I dont like asking what words mean) (link)
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the number 666 is a supersticious number. Although it does relate to the devil, most people just think it's bad luck.A fear of heaven is something else. If your not a relgious person, then talking to someone who is about heaven/hell, may help you better understand what you fear. I hope you get through your fears and i hope i helped.
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I have problems focusing.
During class, if I am not talking to the person next to me I fall asleep. I ALWAYS talk, no matter what. All my teachers write in my comments that I talk to much, I just can't help it I get so distracted and bored easily.
Also, I can't focus on one thing at once, if I do I end up frustrated and stop working, or start like flipping out because I don't get it.
I was wondering....do I have ADHD? (link)
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you may have some kind of ADD, but you can try different methods of focusing. When the bell rings and class begins, try to take notes and concentrate with talking to others. If you always talk to the same people, then try sitting somewhere else for a day. If you didn't get the information in class, taking notes may help you later, when there are not some other distractions. Good luck!
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I just wanted to get this off my chest and I wanted to know if it seems as though I'm going through alot for my age...I'm only 13. Here goes.
I did drugs (cocaine, and pills), I was constantly getting in fights, I've been to court 11 times, arrested 3 times, longest was for 7 months, I've been taken away from my family for a little while because I needed "help", I had a boyfriend for three years,then we got into a fight because he was moving, as soon as he left my house after the arguement he got into a fight with these people, got hit in the back of the head and died before I could say sorry about the fight, I never told my parents, they still don't know about it, after that I started to get into cutting, then I tried to kill myself by doing the following : drown myself, hang myself, stab myself in the stomach, from which I now have a scar on my stomach, had to stay in the hospital for that for a couple of months, then got taken away from the family again, then after I got out I tried to shoot myself but accidently left it on that safety thingy and couldn't get the nerve to do it again, I tried to get an ex whom was the boyfriend at rhe time to shoot me and he almost did 'til his mom walked in, I got taken away from the family again after that and was gone for about a year, he got arrested, and then I got heavier into cutting to the point where I would cut everyday even without a reason. That's when I got into the drugs then I got expelled, got sent to rader, my family now does not mention me to friend's, they tell me to my face that I'm an embarrassment, they all tell eachother they love eachother in front of me but have not once said it to me. Then I became bulimic, then anorexic, then after I stopped I found out my mom was over dosing and was bulimic and still is to this day. My brother might die at any moment because he now has heart problems and he's supposed to take medicine to help him but he doesn't take it, my parents are trying to get me sent away to korea or tennessee so I'll be out of their lives but none of my relatives in either places want me with them, I have no clue what's going on in my life anymore, my family insult me constantly, my dad and brother both hit me and I have serious health problems ( I get headaches at a minimum of 4 times a day, I pass out at least once every other week, and i throw up at least twice a week and I have no idea why) and my parents won't take me to the doctor to find out why, they've told me they hate me, and I do not understand myself whatsoever, and my parents told me pretty soon they plan on kicing me out with out a place to go and I'll just have to find out how to take care of myslef, and are trying to get me sent to a "institute" for help. And I was forced into sex because the person threathened me and I don't know if that is considered rape. Am I going through too much for my age?
Sorry it was so long... (link)
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wow you have really been through a lot and i can't make you do anything, but you know that you have to be strong. first, try talking to your mother about it, she is your family afterall, and if she can't be there for you than try talking to your school councelor or call a psychologist. i know some people think that psychologists are a load of garbage, but they are willing to listen to you and help you become well again. you know that somewhere in the future everything is going to be better, but only you can make the decision to do so. good luck.
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ok... im f/14 and weigh 109.. i was anerexice in the summer and in the begining of the school year... and weighed 102... I have been eating and as u can tell i have gained weight.. But yet i still have the thought that im fat in the back of my head... but as im eating i am getting told i look to skinny more often then i have befor.... i got told i look disgostingly skinny...? but i wiegh 109? idk im kinda confused..... (link)
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recoving from anerixia can take a long time (sometimes even a year) and you should probobly talk to a trustworthy friend/family member that can help you recover. whenever someone tells you that you look too skinny tell yourself that you are healthy. remember to eat well, exersize and feel good about yourself. if you can do these things your anerexia will be gone in no time! good luck!
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i dont know what to say or how to explain it really. im just simply, unhappy. i used to be happy, i dont know what happened. everything just feels so useless and people just suck. no one cares about anyone but themselves and i feel like im at a loss and i always find me second guessing myself. whats wrong with me? how can i be happy again? (link)
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there is nothing wrong with you. there is a way people become sad and think that everything is useless. they think that things are this way. next timek when you are feeling sad,angry or careless, try to think of good things about life. if you're bored try joining a group/club. talk to new people, and just have fun! only YOU can change how you feel.
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I could probably answer my own advice, but I want someone else's opinion.It started 3 years ago when I was 16. After my boyfriend and I broke up I started downing myself alot. I felt I let the situation go out of control and I had always since my childhood let others get the best of me and control me, I think around the time my boyfriend and I broke up I developed my eating disorder. I have also had other problems like with cutting, trichillomania, anxiety, and depression. I am like a VERY nervous person and it's hard to control my moods and all. Everyday is a struggle to be perfect sometimes i just wish i could cure this disorder and move on and know that being thin isnt everything, but when I see someone thinner than me or someone on tv I am triggered and feel so bad whenever I do eat. I will literally starve for 5 days, then binge the next two days and then starve again then binge and purge and the cycle continues. My question is I feel worthless and like I have lost all hope on getting better, my boyfriend that I broke up with 3 years ago well we are back together and he knows about me being bulimic and anorexic, he yells at me because he hates that I do that to myself and he has even said 'you either choose me or the disorder.' he doesnt understand, i love him so much and i would do anything for him but i cant stop doing this too myself, it is so much in my head to stop. He always says Im too skinny but never really tried to help me, sometimes he even makes negative comments to me even when he knows that makes it worse. What can I say to make him understand? Its so awkward that he knows my biggest secret. (link)
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tell him that you are going to get help from a professional (because you really should) and that you want him to know that you still care about him
if he still doesn't understand than try to just be friends...good luck
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I always feel as though when I talk to people I bore them or like burden them.. I feel as though everyone wishes I wouldnt be here or something.. I mean nobody really cares about me! Sometimes I feel really like i dont even speak the same language or something.. My life isnt going anywhere! I feel as though i am always doing things wrong and whats the point of even trying.. All the hope and wishes (i dont believe in anymore). there isnt any point.. I might be depressed I dont know but.. I cant seem to get this feeling to leave me.. How can I feel better? Is there any solution or anything? (link)
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if you are hanging out with people that make you feel like you don't belong,than you might be hanging out with the wrong group. Try to find some people that you can talk easliy with that you have things in common with....hope i helped.
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I hate myself. Does anyone have any ideas to stop a persons perceptions of things, or path of thinking change? I dont beleive in any kind of religion and i beleive that there is no reason to anything and that life and existance in general is just so pointless. If people live to be happy and content, yet are mainly overcome by other stronger emotions such as pain and anger what is the point of living? there is no afterlife its just nothing. why be afraid of something you wont be aware of. why bother searching for peace of mind which you already know you will never get. each and everyone of us are unique so no one is. no one will remember me when i die because i have had no impact upon anyone. i have achieved nothing and have had nothing able to be achieved because of how many billions of people in the world that are better then me. nothing has meaning me running around in an endless circle compared to going to school and learning are of about the same value. .. should i get help? (link)
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i myself don't know the reason for living......i dont go to church or anything...but i know that your here on this earth for a reason. I dont' think that you can tell me that throughout your whole life you never helped someone, accomplished something, or made someone feel good. you have your own talents and you should be proud of them. nobody has the perfect life...id ont have a boyfriend, my friends are not always there for me, and every once and a while i'll cry because i hate my life, but you should know that none of this means that living is pointless. There is only one of you on this earth and that means that no one else can feel, accomplish, or think the same way you do....that makes you a lot better than who you think you are and you should try to show that person so others can know that you're an amazing person
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I'm sooooo pissed off at the world right now!!! I can't talk to anyone about anything! Nobody knows how I feel... or what I'm going through... Sorry if some of this doesn't make sense, I'm waaaaay too frusturated to think!!!
13/m I'm going through puberty, I know it. Nothing physical yet. I'm still short. My voice is still insanely soprano. I don't have any acne yet. No facial hair. But I'm feeling everything mental. I'm getting smarter, I must be since I've been suddenly getting better at chess. And I'm experiencing every one of these what I like to call "true emotions": from love to infatuation, from rejection to jealousy, I'm feeling it all. I can't even remember everything else, I'm so distraught!
Now, if I had someone to talk with, things might be better. But my friends are only going through physical and not emotional/mental so far, except for those two guys who're obsessed with "is she hot?" right now. So many Advicenators are so obsessed with all that 13-year-olds-can't-love crap that their advice winds up getting me more depressed than it does help me. My parents figure that if I haven't physically changed, I couldn't possibly be mentally changing, and so they just tease me about it. I tried keeping a journal, but I'm not good at that stuff. And I'm way too busy to see a therapist or something.
I'm soooooo pissed off at the world, my life sucks. I shouldn't even bother living or making my regular jokes anymore. I'm nothing anymore... please help me!!!
~~Dakmor
PS Smartasses will be reported!!! (link)
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wow you must be feeling a rolercoaster of emotions. i understand about your friends and how you might not be able to talk to them because they are not going through what you are. Try talking to your parents or a close friend before so you won't be so stressed out. the mental changes that you're going through are real and you should not ignore them....i hope i helped somehow....
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